By UDorothy Hayden LCSW 04/28/16
Ukuzonwabisa ngokunyanisekileyo ngokwesondo njengoko uphumelele kumava angaphakathi angafunekiyo.
Ukulandela umzekelo osungulwe ngamanye amathandabuzo anengxaki kunye nemisebenzi (ukugembula, ukuthenga, ukutya, ukusela nokusebenzisa izinto), indawo emitsha yesenzo socwangciso esekelwe kwi-teknoloji ye-Intanethi idale enye inselele kubantu kunye noluntu. Njengazo ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, uninzi lwabantu ababandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yezocansi (i-pornography, i-webcam ye-basturbation, ithumela imibhalo yesondo, i-interactive online sexades, njl) njalo njalo, ukufumana ezi zinto zibe ziphazamiso ezigqithiseleyo ekugqibeleni ayinelisekanga njengokuba uqhagamshelwano olunzulu. Kwabanye, nangona kunjalo, ukukwazi ukubandakanya imisebenzi ye-cybersexual inexpensively kwaye engaziwayo inokulimaza ubomi kunye nokutshabalalisa ulwalamano oluchanekileyo olufana nezinye iindlela zokulutha. UDorothy Hayden usebenze kunye nezigxeke zesondo malunga nangoko ubude bobulili obufanayo buye bujikeleze. Apha, ubonisa isifundo sophando esichazela ezininzi izinto eziphambili zeparadim ... uRichard Juman, PsyD
Xa uSteve efika kwiseshoni yokuqala kunye nam, wayibonakalisiwe engacineki kwaye engaphantsi. Ngentloko egcinwe phantsi, akazange adibanise kunye nam, kwaye, emva kokuba ehleli esihlalweni, wayephakathi kwaye engenakho nto enokuthetha. Ekugqibeleni wagqiba ukuba wayefumene umva emsebenzini wakhe kwaye umfazi wakhe wayenomtshato. Kubonakala sengathi wayexinzeleleke kakhulu kwiilahleko.
USteve uxelele ukuba wayekhe waphila-wayedla ngokusetyenziswa kotywala kunye neziyobisi kodwa ngenxa yengozi enkulu emsebenzini, wayeka ukusebenzisa izinto. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphezu kweenyanga ezizayo, wafumanisa ukuba izibongozo zakhe zokunyula i-masturbate zanda. Wafumanisa ukuba ukuba akazange asebenze kulezi zikhumba, uya kuhlala "ehlutha" yonke imini kwaye akayi kukwazi ukugxila kumsebenzi wakhe okanye ukunyamekela umfazi xa uthetha naye. Wayesoloko exakeke ngeengcinga zakhe zesondo.
USteve wayevakalelwa engenakuphila kwaye engenanto, engenamandla, inzala, okanye amandla okuzonwabisa. Into yodwa eyamnika ingqiqo yokuzibandakanya kwakuyizo zesini. Kwiinyanga emva kokuba umfazi wakhe echaza ukuba uhamba, wafumanisa ukuba iingcamango zakhe zesini kunye nokukhuthaza ukuba ahlaziye i-masturbate ziba nzima ngakumbi. Wayeqonda ukuba ukuba akazange ahlaziye, uya kuhlala 'ehla' yonke imihla, eya kwenza ukuba azive engenasiphelo, ecatshukiswayo kwaye enganeliseki.
Kungekudala, uSteve wafumanisa ukuba iifoto zoononografi ayengenelanga ngokwenza ubulili. Ukusetyenziswa kwakhe kwezixhobo zedijithali ukufezekisa ukunyuswa kwesondo. Wafumanisa ukuba ukuvalelwa kwiingcamango nezithethe ezaphambi kwezesondo ezenzayo zazingathi ziphosakele njengento yesini, mhlawumbi nangakumbi. Ukuphakanyiswa kwakhe okwemvakalelo emoyeni kwakugcinwe ukukhangela kwe-dopamine, ukukhuphela, ukuxoxa, ukuthumela imiyalezo, ukuthumelelana nge-post kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngezesondo. Yonke ividiyo entsha, umfanekiso, umdlalo, okanye umntu okhupha i-dopamine engaphezulu, kumnceda ukuba agcine ixesha elide lovuyo ngalo lonke ukhangeleliso lwakhe, ukukhangela, ukuqikelela kunye nokulindela.
USteve wabika ukuba unokuchitha ixesha elingapheliyo evakalelwa ngokuvuthayo ngaphandle kokuvuswa okanye ukuza kwi-orgasm. Ukukhangela kwakhe ividyo epheleleyo, umfanekiso okanye iqabane ligcinwe liphazamisekile kwaye liphazamisekile kwizinto eziphambili kwizinto zokuphila, ubudlelwane kunye nezibophelelo zobomi ngokufanelekileyo njenge heroin, i-cocaine, okanye nayiphina into eguquguqukayo. I-Cybersex, ngokwenene, "yakhe yeziyobisi."
Emva konyaka unyango, uSteve wavuma ukuya kwintlanganiso ye-Sex Addicts engaziwa (SAA). Wafumana induduzo apho, eyazi ukuba akayena mntu kuphela ehlabathini owenza izinto ezinjalo zesondo. Waziva exhaswa kwaye exabiswa ngendlela awazange abekho ngaphambili ebomini bakhe. Ngesihlandlo sokuqala, wayeziva ukuba ukhona kwindawo ethile. Waqala ukuziva ukuba unokuthetha nabantu kwaye abantu bangabelana naye. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, waxela, wayefunda indlela yokuzimela kunye nokuzincwina naye kwiimeko zentlalo.
Kakade, oku kwachaphazela unyango lwakhe. Saqala ukwenza uhlalutyo lweendleko / inzuzo yesenzo sakhe sesondo.
Ngeli xesha, uSteve wenza intuthuko enkulu. Ukuphika kwakhe ukuphuka, wabona ngokucacileyo umonakalo ayewenzile kuye nakwabo abasondele kuye. Oku kuquka:
- Ukuxhaswa kwabantwana kunye nosapho / ukunciphisa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nomlingani wakho ozinikeleyo
- Ukholo oluthekile kwiintsebenziswano
- Ukunyuka kwengcinezelo yokuphila ubomi obuninzi
- Ukulahleka kwengeniso ukusuka ekumemeleni emsebenzini kunye nokulahleka komsebenzi
- Amaqabane aphulukana nokuzithemba kunye nokuzixabisa ngokusilela "ukuhlala uphile" kwimifanekiso engamanyala
- Ukunyaniseka ngabantwana
- Ukungasebenzi komzimba ngokwesondo (ukungasebenzi kwe-erectile)
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto ezithandwayo kunye neminye imisebenzi enempilo
- Ukuzihoxisa ngenxa yokungabikho kokulala nokuzivocavoca
Imbali Yobomi
USteve wayengowokuqala kwabantwana abathathu, kunye noodade abancinane ababini. Ngaphambi kokuba azalwe, unina wayenomkhuhlane wesisu kwiinyanga ezihlanu. USteve wachaza umama wakhe ngokuthi "ukhohlisi" -nceda uze umemele umzuzu kwaye ulahle enye. Wadla uSteve. Wayengu-apula iliso lakhe elingenakuyenza into engalunganga. Nangona kunjalo, wayenemigangatho yokukhwela, kwaye xa ehluleka ukudibana nabo wayemxelela ukuba wayeyinto enyanyekayo, enomsindo kunye neqhwaba kwaye amthumele ekamelweni lakhe ixesha elide.
USteve ukhumbule ukuba unina "wayenomdla" ngeendoda kwaye wayehlala ekhononda ukuba "yizilwanyana" -kuvakalayo, inzima kwaye inomdla kuphela kwisini. Wayehlala ephazamise phambi kukaSteve, kwaye wayeya kumnyango wokulala ngaphambi kokuba elele. Xa wayeyika, wayehlala ekhuphuka elala kunye nabazali bakhe. Oku kuqhubekile kude kube yilapho uyise eshiya intsapho xa wayeneminyaka eyi-12 ubudala. Wayekhumbula ukuba wayelele embhedeni kunye naye kwaye wayenxibe isithwathwa sebusuku. USteve wabika ukuba wayesoloko ecinga ngesondo ngoomama wakhe.
Uyise kaSteve wayengumntu onobubele, onobubele kunye noxineke xa wayekhathazekile, kodwa xa wayesela, wayevakala kwaye enobudlova. Ngethuba uSteve wayeneminyaka emithathu ubudala, uyise wayenqabile. Ukongezelela, wayexhaphaza lonke intsapho xa esela, kodwa wayemxhaphaza kakhulu uSteve. Ngexesha elide, wayeza kuthetha ukuba ukuzalwa kukaSteve kwakungekho kucetywayo okanye akufunanga. USteve waphawula ukuba uyise "wayedla ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ndiyazi ukuba i-asshole yintoni."
Utata kaSteve walushiya usapho xa uSteve wayeneminyaka esithoba ubudala. USteve waziva elahliwe kwaye esoyika ukuba utata wakhe akangekhe abuye, kodwa kwangaxeshanye woyika nokuba uza kubuya abadubule bonke. Wayeziva enoxanduva lokwahlukana komtshato wabazali bakhe.
Inkqubo yeCliniki
I-expérience ye-Steve yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ihlazo elibonakalayo apho ubulili banika khona ukukhululeka kwakhe kuphela. Wayehlulekile ukuphila ngokuvumelana nabazali bakhe abakulindelayo kwaye akazange akwazi ukuziphilisa. Ukuhlala kwintsapho apho yayingenakunyulwa okanye ihlaziye, ihlazo layo lalisetyenziselwa ngaphakathi, oko kukuthi, into ebalulekileyo yesazisi.
Wayenentloni eyinhloko ekuhlala kunye nentsapho yakhe kunye neentloni zesibini kwi-addiction. Njalo xa wayenomdla, washiya ihlazo kunye nokuzonda. Kuhlazo ukuba singakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha komntu nangona umzamo ongcono kakhulu.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kukaSteve kunye nokuzithemba kwakhe ngokungathandekiyo, kuthathwe ngokuyinxenye kwingqondo yokuba utata wakhe akafuni okanye akamxabisanga, ngokuyinxenye ekuphenduleni kukanina ngokungagungqiyo kunye nokuziphendulela kuye kwaye ngokuyinxenye kukwahlukana kwakhe kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uluvo lwesazisi. Umama kaHarold wayewenza nzima umsebenzi kaSteve wokuphuhlisa isazisi sendoda ngokuzithoba kuyise, egxeka uSteve xa wayesenza njengoyise kwaye ethoba amadoda ngokubanzi.
Amava akhe kunye neprogram ye-12-Step yanceda ukunciphisa ihlazo, kunye novelwano kunye nokuqonda endimnikeleyo kwanceda ukunciphisa ihlazo lakhe.
Unyango lwahlula ngo "myalelo wokuqala" kwaye utshintsho "lwesibini umyalelo". Utshintsho lokuqala "luyilungiselelwe ukuzinzisa ukuziphatha kwakhe. Wathunyelwa ukuhlolwa kweengqondo ukulawula ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki yokugula ngengqondo. Ugqirha wambeka kwi-dose ephantsi yeprozac, kungekhona ngenxa yesifo sengqondo, kodwa ukumnceda ukulawula izifiso zakhe zesondo.
Emva koko saqala ulawulo lweCognitive-Behavioral ukuseka inkqubo yokuLungisa ukuBamba. Wabhala uchungechunge lwezinto "ezibangele" -iziganeko zangaphandle nangaphandle zangaphambi kokuziphatha kwakhe ngokwesondo. Wafunda ukuhlala kude neemeko ezinobungozi. Ezinye izicwangciso zokujamelana neendlela zaza zaqulunqwa kwinqanaba ngalinye. Izindlela zokulawula iiminqweno kunye nokucebisa zaxutyushwa ngazo. Wabona iiminqweno kunye neengcamango njengempawu zoxinzelelo lwangaphakathi. Unokuzibona ngokulula kwaye aphikise amazwi akhe angaphakathi, kunokuba aphendule nje ngezenzo zenyama. Ukongeza, sixoxe ngeendlela ezazisingatha ngayo i-lapses kunye nokubuyela kwakhona.
Ukuguquka okulula kokuziphatha kwafakwa. Watshintsha i-smartphone yakhe kwiselula. Ikhompyutheni yafakwa kwigumbi lentsapho. Uluhlu olusususa izinto ezikhuselekileyo lubekwe kwikhompyutha. Ufake isekhontrakthi yesevisi ye-Intanethi. Xa kwakufuneka asebenzise ikhompyutha, wayezicwangcisa kumaxesha athile xa ehlola ii-imeyile zakhe kunye.
USteve kwaye mna ndathetha ngokude ubuhlobo bakhe nemvakalelo yakhe, kuba iimvakalelo ezimbi zihlala zisetyenziswa njengefuthe lokwenza izinto. Ulwaphulo lujolise ekufundeni ukunyamezela iimvakalelo ezimbi ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isondo ukuze ukhululeke. Ukwazi indlela yokuhlangabezana ngokufanelekileyo nemvakalelo enamandla kubalulekile ekuziphatheni ngokwesondo. Ukujongana nomba wokuxhaswa kwangoku kwaxutyushwa.
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yeCwangciso soLungiso lokuBamba ukuLwela ukuSebenza isebenza ekuqapheliseni nasekuphikiseni ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunento ephazamisayo yokuqonda, malunga nabasetyhini kunye ngesondo. Ndacelwa uSteve ukuba abhale phantsi oko wayecinga ukuba wayekho kwaye emva koko abhale phantsi kwabo ngenye indlela, becinga ukuba ufanele afunde amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki.
Ngenxa yokuba uSteve wayedlulile ixesha elide, sasebenza kwizakhono zoqhagamshelwano ezisisiseko kwaye wavuma ukuthatha ikhosi ekuqinisekiseni. Yomibini yale mi sebenzi yenza ukuba azive ekhululekile kwihlabathi nabantu.
Ukwabelana ngcebiso
Enye yezinto ezenza ukuba uSteve enze unyango wayengumngcipheko wakhe wokuqhawula umtshato. Nangona ulwalamano lwabo lwaluhlala emva kweeminyaka zokuziphatha kwakhe okuluthayo, wayemthanda kwaye wayemfuna kakhulu ukuba abe ebomini bakhe. USara, ngenxa yesahlulo sakhe, wayeseqwengqulwe yiSteve. Ukuchitha kwakhe ixesha elininzi kwisiseko esenza "ukungahambi" kwindlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kwenza ukuba azizwe enesizungu, enganyanzelwanga, engabalulekanga kwaye engahoywa. Ukuzithemba kwakhe, eyazi ukuba umyeni wakhe wakhetha ukuchitha ixesha lakhe phambi kwesikrini sekhompyuter kwinkampani yomntu ongeyinto engenakho ukukhuphisana nayo.
Waziva ehlazekile ngenxa yezinto ezenzekayo kwintsapho, ephakanyiswe kukuba wayenqikaza ukuthetha nabani na malunga nemeko okanye iimvakalelo zakhe malunga naloo nto ngenxa yokuba wayefuna ukukhusela uSteve ekuhlazulweni kwimeko.
Ukudibaniswa kwemonakalo, intlungu, ukungahambi kunye nokulahlekelwa ukuzithemba kubeka isigaba sokuba uSara aqale ukuba nomnye nomnye umntu. Iinjongo zakhe zazinqabisa ukuzithemba ngokwesondo kunye nokuguqula uSteve ngokumkhaphela. USara akazange aqhubeke nokuhlala ixesha elide, nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba wayeziva ezinikele kuSteve.
Ukusabela kukaSteve kwakubangelona bubi kwizinto zesini zobomi zesini. USara, evakalelwa kukuba "akayifani" nababhinqa bakhe abancinci, basebenze ukuze bazikhethele ngokukhethekileyo kwaye baqalisa ukuthanda uthando ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Wayenxibe iimpahla ezimhlophe ezinokuba wayecinga ukuba uSteve angathanda. Ngezinye izihlandlo, uSara wenza izenzo zesondo ezazifumana zihlazo kuba wayecinga ukuba kuya kumkholisa. Wenza konke akwaziyo ukumkholisa ukuba "akadingi" ukujonga abo "nabanye abafazi."
Into uSara ayengayiqondi kukuba akukho mntu ongaswelekayo ohlala ephila "kwi-haze" -i-dopamine-eyongeziweyo, ephakanyisiwe kakhulu ukuba isilonda sobulili singene xa esenza ngokungekho nto encinane yokwenza ngesondo nomfazi wangempela. Umntu wobomi bokwenene akanakuze akwazi ukuncintisana nefantasy. Kwakhona akazange aqonde ukuba wayengenalo xanduva kulo mqathango, ukuba imeko kaSteve yayiphumelele ekubandezelekeni komntwana kwaye wayithwala amanxeba emvakalelo naye ngaphambi kokuba amhlangabeze.
Ngonyango, uSara wadlulisela ukuba kwakungeyona indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo eyamkhathaza ngokungakumbi njengamanga kunye neemfihlelo ezijikeleze ukuziphatha. Yiloo nto ayengazi ukuba unokuxolela. Wayebuza ukuba unokuphinde amthembe.
Kwaphela iminyaka, uSteve wayemxelela ukuba "udibana" xa ecinga into ethile. Kwakudingeka avume ukuba akazange abangele ingxaki kwaye ayikwazi ukuyilawula.
Kwiminyaka emininzi, uSara, njengabesifazane abaninzi ngaphambi kwakhe, waba neengxaki malunga 'nokuhlola' kwiqabane lakhe; ukujonga ngokuphindaphindiweyo iikhomputha ezinzima zekhompyutha, ii-smartphones, izicatshulwa, iividiyo, ii-webcams, ii-imeyile, njl. ukubona ukuba usebenza. Uthe waziva ehlenga xa wenza oku, kodwa waqhubeka ezama ukufumana ukulawula ngaphezulu kwimeko apho wayenamandla.
USara uvumelekile ukuba aqale ukuya kwi-S-anon, inkqubo ye-12-nyathelo yabalingani bezilonda zesini apho wadibana nabasetyhini ababekwazi ukumnika inkxaso kunye novelwano. Ngelo xesha, waqala unyango kunye nomgqirha ndimthumele kuye, ngoxa bobabini baqhubeka unyango lwezitshato.
Psychodynamics
Ngenye inyanga emva kokuba unyango luqale, uSteve wamxelela ukuba wayephelisa unyango. Ndamkhuthaza ukuba akhulume ngezinto ezamkhokelela kule sigqibo. Ukuhlola kwethu kwambonakalisa imbali yakhe yokuba ndiya kumhlwaya kwaye ndimhlazise ngenxa yokuba "ndihlulekile" emva kokuziqinisekisa. Umsebenzi ogqityiweyo wabonisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwalo mbono kunye neentloni zikaSteve malunga nokuwa kwakhe kwintando kunye nesidingo sakhe sokuncedisa, umona wakhe kunye nentukuthelo yam, kunye nolwazi oluninzi lwabazali bakhe. Ukukwazi kukaSteve ukuxubusha ezi zinto kwindawo ephephile kwenza ukuba ndibone ngaphantsi nje ngokuba ngumxhaphazi kunye nokunye njengomcebisi ozinzileyo nozinzileyo onokukwazi ukumnceda ebudeni obunokuthi wayesazi ukuba ubomi bakhe bangaphakathi.
Iziphumo zonyango
Njengoko unyango luqhubekile, uSteve waqala ukuqonda ukuba le ngxaki yokuxhatshazwa kwezocansi zangasemva kwakungeyona into ayifunayo ngokwenene, kuba ayengeke amyanelise okanye ahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe zokuxhamla.
Unyango emva koko lwathatha ithuba lokujongana nomonakalo owenzekileyo kubudlelwane bakhe nabazali bakhe. Sijonge ngqo kwimiyalezo ayifaka ngaphakathi njengomntwana echaphazela intlalontle yakhe njengomntu omdala. Ezinye zazo zezi:
- Wayengenakulungele, engathandekiyo kwaye wayengenayo
- Waba neengongelo zokulahlelwa, ukungahoywa kunye nokuphazamiseka
- Abazali bafezekisa
Emva kokuba sifumane imilayezo ebaluleke kakhulu ebonelele, wahamba nenkqubo yokulila ebomini bakhe obangelwa yimilayezo. Njengomntu omdala, wayeyicinga ngokukhawuleza imilayezo ngemiyalezo emitsha eyayibonakalisa ukuba iyayixabisa. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ubuyisele "ihlazo layo." Bobabini abazali bakhe babenemiphefumlo enobungozi ngokuzithoba kwabo kunye neentloni ezazinikela kuSteve. USteve wenza isigqibo sokuba intloni ayengayakhe; yayingabantwana bakhe kwaye wabuyisela apho bekuyiyo-kubazali bakhe.
USteve ulwa nomxholo wokuxolela intsapho yakhe. Wabona ukuxolelwa njengento ayenzela yena ngokwakhe ngenxa yokuba ubomi bomsindo bubuhlungu kakhulu. Oku kuboniswa xa wayeya kubatyelela. Ukutyelela kwakufutshane kwaye ukusebenzisana nabo kwakuhlaziye kwaye kungabi nomsindo. Wayewamkele njengabantu abangenakwenzekayo abenza konke okusemandleni abo ukuba bamzalile.
Emva kweminyaka emithathu emva kokuba unyango luqale, uSteve wayenze utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakhe. Waqhubeka nokuza kunyango kwaye wayesebenzayo inkqubo esebenzayo kwi-Sex Addicts engaziwa. Wayenomnatha womncedisi osondayo waza wenza izinto ezithandwayo zokuzonwabisa. Wayisebenzisa rhoqo. Yena noSara benza kakuhle. Babambelela kwi "khontrakthi yokubambisana" eyayiqulethwe uluhlu lweendlela aziphathe ngayo. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, wambonisa ukuba uya kuphinda athembeke.
USteve wayesenomdla, kodwa wayefumene izakhono zokuhlangabezana nazo. Ngezihlandlo ezimbalwa, waphelelwa. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yomsebenzi wokuthintela ngokuphindaphindiweyo esiye senzile, akazange abuyele ekugqibeleni ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye waqonda ukuba ukuphulukana kuthetha ukuba kufuneka enze utshintsho oluthile kwisicwangciso sakhe sokubuyisela kwakhona.
Ukuzithemba kwakhe kwenyuka. Wayengasekho ixhoba lokuzihlambalaza kunye neentloni. Wayekhululekile ebusweni bakhe. Ngokubandakanyeka kwakhe kwiprogram ye-12-nyathelo, wayeneliseko lokuba lilungu loluntu olhathalelayo kunye nokunceda abanye.
Ngoncedo lweyeza, umbono wakhe ngobomi ushintshile. Wayefuduka ekubeni ngumntwana omdala, umntu onomlando onokubheka abanye njengento "eyanelisayo." Ukubaxabisa njengabantu ngabanye abaneemfuno, iingcamango neemvakalelo zabo. Wafunda ukuba ngumphulaphuli omhle kwaye abe novelwano. Ngenxa yoko, waba nolwaneliseko lokuba nenethwekhi yabalingani abasondeleyo, abaxhasayo, kuquka kunye nomfazi wakhe.
Ngezibini ezinikwa iingcebiso, inzondo kunye nomsindo ebekwe emva kwabo kwaye, ngokusebenzisa zabo iindlela zokwelapha ezihlukeneyo, bafunda ukuba "abambisene" kunyango. Bonke babethi ukuba baye bahamba nobudlelwane babo, babenandipha ubuhlobo obunzulu, obucebileyo kunye nolwabelana ngesondo.
isiphelo
Uthando kunye nolwabelana ngesondo luyingxenye yesimo somntu kwaye, ngoko kunjalo, yimiba yenkxalabo kuluntu lwaseklinikhi. Kubangela ukuba abo bethu basebenzisana nabantu baseklinikhi, ngakumbi abantu abaselula, ukuba baqhelane nemiphumo ye-teknoloji yezobugcisa.
UDorothy Hayden, i-LCSW, isifo se-psychotherapy kwimisebenzi yabucala eManhattan. Kwiminyaka eyi-20 uye wayiphatha ngokunyanzeliswa ngokwesondo kunye namaqabane abo. Ubhale amanqaku e-40 malunga nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo (www.sextreatment.com) kwaye ubhalile incwadi ethi "Iyonke yokuThengiswa koMlingo woTywala-Isikhokelo soTywala". UNksz Hayden udliwano-ndlebe noHBO, "20 / 20" kunye noAnderson "360" malunga nefuthe le-cybersex kuluntu.
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