Ngaba unokuba negalelo kwiingxaki zakho kwigumbi lokulala?
10 Jan 2019
Ukuba ufumana isipelingi esomileyo kwigumbi lokulala, awuwedwa. Kwaye, uqagele ntoni? Into ebangela le spell inokuba lula ukuyilungisa. Ukuba awukho "njengovuyo" malunga isini njengokuba wawuqhelekile, ezinye izinto ezinokumangalisa zingase zibe yinto edlalwa ngumonakalo ngobomi bakho bobulili. Ngokudabukisayo, ixesha elingaphantsi nelincinane phakathi kweemakhishithi kunye neqabane lakho ludla lukhokelela ekunciphiseni kweminye yezona zinto zizonwabileyo zokuba nobudlelwane obonwabileyo kunye nobunempilo.
Kukho izizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo zokuba kutheni ufumana "isomiso sesondo," kunjalo ezininzi zezi zizathu zidibaniswa, ngandlela-thile, kwimiba yokuzithemba. Ngamanye amazwi, kukho izinto onokungazi ngayo oko kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okuphantsi, kwaye ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu kwigumbi lokulala..
Xa ungaqali ixesha elaneleyo ngokwesondo okanye "ukuzinyamekela," kunokukhokelela ekudakaleni, inzondo, intukuthelo, ukuxhalabisa, kunye / okanye ukudandatheka - izinto ezinokukukhupha ngaphandle kwemoya yesini.
Iindaba ezilungileyo unako ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi bakho bobulili nje ngokuqaphela oko kubangela ukuba kubanjwe ukungathathi hlangothi.
Oku kusenokuba kutheni ubomi bakho bobulili bubuhlungu:
Ukubukela Ubunono Ngomlingani Wakho
Kuqhelekileyo kubini abashadile, ngokukodwa ixesha elide, ukuba babukele i-porn kunye kunye nethemba lokuba "liya kutyhola" ubomi babo besondo. Kodwa, ngokumangalisa, inokuthi ibe nempembelelo echasene nayo, ingakumbi ukuba awuyikulungele kakuhle ukufakwa kwayo ebomini bakho. Yaye, nangona i-pornos ingaba isisombululo "esipheleleyo" kwizibini ezithile, kwabanye, kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu kunye naphandle kwigumbi lokulala. I-Porn iyakwenza izinto ezingalindelekanga. Kwaye, masithembeke, sibukele iqabane lakho livuswa ngumntu okanye into enokuba nzima - enzima kakhulu.
Ngaphezulu kwelo, ukubukela ubuninzi bezocwangco, nokuba kunye neqabane lakho, kunokukhokelela okanye kukugqithiseleyo ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo njengokwenzululwazi I-erectile dysfunction kunye ne-ejaculation ngaphambi kwexesha. Ngaphezu koko, kunokubangela ukuzithemba nokuzithemba, ukuba ngethuba wena okanye iqabane lakho lindele ukuba "ulinganise" kwinto ayibonayo kwesikrini. Ngenxa yoko, unako ukwandisa umngcipheko wakho wokuphucula ukusebenza okanye ukuxhalaba ekucingeni ukulala ngesondo.
Kwaye, ngelixa abaninzi becinga ukuba iifostile kuphela ibangela iingxaki kubantu, ezingenakude kwi nyaniso. Enyanisweni, ukubukela ubulili kunokukhokelela kwimibandela yesondo kubasetyhini abafana ne-low sex drive, i-orgasmic disorder, okanye ukungakwazi ukuvuswa. Ngoko ke, ukuba unqwenela ukongeza i-pornography ebomini bakho bobulili, qiniseka kwaye ulinganise ixesha elide ulichitha kwilizwe eliyindalo, ngoko unako ukugxininisa kwinyani.
Umlutha woMbane
Oku kunokuza kumangaliswa, kodwa i-electronics yakho ingabangela iingxaki phantsi kweeshicilelo. Ngokukodwa, ii-smartphones, iipilisi, kunye nee-televisions ziye zenza indlela yokulala egumbini lokulala, ezibangela zonke iintlobo zeengxaki. Enyanisweni, kuye kwaba nzima nakakhulu ukuba izibini zibeke phantsi ii-fowuni zazo - nangona xa uzama ukuba nesondlo. Abantu baye baxilisa kakhulu kwi-electronics yabo abathile bajonge nabo ngexesha lokubeka phambili-kwaye ngokukhawuleza emva kwesondo.
Ke, kukho abantu, abangxamela ukulala ngesondo ukuze bakwazi ukubuyela kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, i-sitcom, umdlalo wevidiyo, ukubhala imiyalezo, ukufowuna, indawo ye-porn, kunye / okanye imisebenzi yemithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo ababezenza ngaphambili. Kwabaninzi, ezi "zinto" ziye ibaluleke ngakumbi kunokuthetha nabanye - buqu. Baye babaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba "badibane" neqabane nokuba ngesondo okanye ngokuhlala nje kunye. Siya "kunqanyulwa" omnye komnye. Kwaye, ngenxa yoko, asibenovelwano, isiqu, kwaye siyinyani kwabanye abantu.
Le "ukukhishwa" kuye kwaqala ukuphazamisa ubomi bethu besondo kunye nothando ulwalamano. Indlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela i-elektronomi ekungeniseni kwaye ibangela iingxaki kwigumbi lokulala kufuneka zisuse kuwo-ngakumbi ngexesha lezesondo kunye nemisebenzi yezocansi. Beka ixesha lokusebenzisa i-elektroniki uze uwabeke kude kube ngumhla olandelayo. Sebenzisa eli xesha ukuze ufunde kwakhona - ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwezesondo, sebenzisa ixesha kunye kunye nokudala izikhumbuzo ezinaphakade.
Iindawo zokutshintsha
Oku mhlawumbi akuzange kwenzeke ingqondo yakho, kodwa ukutshintsha indawo ngexesha lesondo kunokubangela iingxaki zobomi bakho bobulili. Ezinye izibini zikholelwa ukuba ukuba "zitshintshile" kunye neqabane eliqhelekileyo elithatha inxaxheba ekuthobeleni, kwaye iqabane elithobelayo lithatha indima ephezulu; Kuya kulawulo lomlilo kwimpilo yabo yesondo. Kwaye, kwabanye kuya kuba, kodwa kwabanye, akuyi kuba. Enyanisweni, kunokubangela iingxaki okanye ezibi ngakumbi kwigumbi lokulala. Njani? Ewe, ngokwenza elinye iqabane live likhuselekile okanye liqiniseke ngexesha lesini.
Ukuba usetyenziselwa ukuba ube ngumlingani ophezulu kulwalamano, kodwa ngokukhethekileyo ngexesha lesini, kunokukwenza ukuba uzive "ngaphandle kwendawo" okanye ungakhathazeki, oku kunokuchaphazela kakubi ubomi bakho bobulili. Kwakhona, oku kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheni ngokwazo nokuzithemba-ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba utshintshe "iindima" odlalayo ngexesha phambili okanye ngesondo; qinisekisa ukuba bobabini ebhodini nayo. Kwaye, ukuba iqabane elinye libonakala lingahambi kakuhle ngcamango okanye umsebenzi - yima kwaye uyibuyisele kwikamva. Gcinani engqondweni, bobabini abalingani kufuneka bazive bekhululekile kwaye bathemba ngezenzo zesondo, ukuba oko akunjalo, ekugqibeleni kuya kubangela ukucaphuka kunye nesondo esincinci kakhulu.
Ekugqibeleni, enye yezona zinto ezinokubangela ukuba iingxaki kwigumbi lokulala zizithembeke. Njengoko kuchaziwe ngasentla, iindawo zonke ziqala okanye zikhokelela ekuzihloneleni. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba xa unesidima esincinci, ngokubanzi, kuya kuluhluza kubomi bakho bobulili nobudlelwane, ukuba awuyikujongisa.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba awuyivuyo ngokubonakala kwakho, imeko yezemali, ukusebenza komsebenzi, okanye ulwalamano, kunokungena ebomini bakho kwezinye iindawo, ezifana nobomi bakho bobulili. Ngokukodwa, inokuchaphazela ubukhulu kunye nomgangatho wesini oyenayo ngokwenza uzive ungaphephile kwaye ungaqiniseki kule ndawo. Kwiphepha le-flip, i-low-drive drive ingakhokelela ekukhathazeni, kunye neemvakalelo zokungafaneleki nokuzithemba.
Ukuba ezi mvakalelo zenzeka rhoqo ngokwaneleyo, kunokukhokelela kukuzithemba okuphantsi kwigumbi lokulala. Isiphumo sokugqibela? Iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu, imiba yobudlelwane kunye nokuhla kwesondo. Ke, ukuba awuziva ngathi "ulinganisile," sebenzela ekwandiseni ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye wamkele ukuba iqabane lakho ngekhe libe nawe ukuba ubungekho!
Isishwankathelo…
Inyaniso sonke senza izinto ezinokuthi zonakalise impilo yethu yesondo. Ezinye zezinto zibonakala kwaye ezinye zazo azibonakali. Ezinye zilawulwa kwaye ezinye azilawulwa kakhulu. Kwaye, ezinye ziyamangalisa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba unokuphucula oko kwenzekayo kwigumbi lokulala. Isinyathelo sokuqala sibheka kanzima kubomi bakho bobulili. Ngaba unengxaki kwaye ukuba kunjalo, yintoni ebenokubangela? Ukunyaniseka wena kunye neqabane lakho kubalulekile ekuphuculeni isondo - kunye nolwalamano lwakho. Emva kokuba uqaphela ngokupheleleyo into ebangela ingxaki, unokuyilungisa. Kwaye, ngoncedo nenkxaso, ubomi bakho bobulili buya kuba bhetele kunaphambili!
UDkt. RY Langham ubamba i-Master of Science kumtshato kunye nonyango lwentsapho kunye ne-Ph.D. kwintsapho yengqondo. Ukhonza njengomcebisi weengcali Phakathi Klinikhi Yethu, ehlinzeka ngeenkqubo zoxhatshazo ngezocansi kwi-intanethi yamadoda kunye nezibini ezithatha i-ejaculation ngaphambi kokuqala.
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