- UGqr Harry Fisch yingcali yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kunye nogqirha weTV
- Incwadi yakhe ethi, The New Naked, ityhila isizathu sokuba ubomi besini bubandezeleke
- Isizathu esiphambili kukuchitha ixesha elininzi ujonge i-porn
- Uthi umlutha we-porn usiba yingxaki eqhelekileyo
Ngoku iphonografi ikumgca wokudubula wengcali yezempilo yezesondo kunye nomntu kamabonakude uGqr Harry Fisch, othi kwincwadi yakhe yamva nje, The New Naked, uthi ukubukela kakhulu kwenza ubomi besondo busokole.
Kule sicatshulwa esikhethekileyo, utyhila ukuba kutheni i-porn ilingana nesondo sokutya okukhawulezayo kwaye ichaza ukuba wenzeni ukuba iqabane lakho liyayithanda kancinane kakhulu.
'Ukubukela i-porn kunye ne-masturbating kukulingana ngokwesondo kokutya okukhawulezayo. Kukwaneliseka kwangoko, kwaye kulungile kanye ngexesha xa unqwenela iifries zesiFrentshi okanye i-nachos efakwe kuloo fake ye-orange cheese goop, kodwa ngenxa yesondlo? Libala ngayo.
Njengezinye izinto ezininzi ezingasilungelanga kakuhle kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo zinokungcamla kamnandi okomzuzwana, iphonografi isenokuqalisa njengento engeyongozi, eyeyona ndlela yokuzonwabisa.
Kodwa kumadoda amaninzi, kunokuba lula ngokumangalisayo ukufunxwa kwi-vortex yomlutha wokwenyani kwi-porn eya kuba yingozi kwimpilo yakhe, ngokomzimba nangokweemvakalelo, ngaphandle kokwazi.
Kungenxa yoko le nto umlutha we-porn ngumba wenombolo enye abajongana nayo ngesondo.
Iingcali ezingenakubalwa zixubushe isixa esothusayo se-pornography esetyenzisiweyo kweli lizwe kodwa nantsi into endingekayiva nayiphi na into ethetha ngayo: Kuba uninzi lwamadoda abukela kakhulu iphonografi, idala iingxaki ezizodwa zezesondo.
Ewe, eyona nto imele ukuba ivuselele kwaye ivuse amadoda (okanye abasetyhini) ngokwesondo ngokwenene inokutshabalalisa i-libido yabo yonke kunye nokusebenza.
Ke kutheni kungekho mntu uthetha ngeMpembelelo kwiSexual Performance-i-ESP-inkalo yephonografi? Baxoxa ukuba kutheni umfana ebukele-kwaye kungekhona into eyenzekayo kwilungu lakhe xa ebukele.
Ndiyakwazi ukuxelela ukuba ingakanani iphonografi ebonwa yindoda ngokukhawuleza nje xa iqala ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo kum malunga naluphi na ukungasebenzi ngokwesondo anako.
Xa indoda ibukela i-porn kwaye ihla kuyo, okanye ibukele i-porn ngezandla zayo ukuze ikwazi ukuhlaziya i-masturbate ngaxeshanye (yinto edla ukwenzeka), ukuvuselela imvakalelo ayifumanayo kwihlabathi elibonakalayo kwenza kube nzima kakhulu. ukuze avuswe, ahlale evukile, kwaye ngovuyo avuswe ngowokwenene, aphile umfazi ebomini bakhe.
Akulunganga: Iphonografi eninzi inokuba nefuthe elibi ekuvukeni kwamadoda ngokukaGqr Fisch
INGABA UTSHATSHE NE-PORN ADDICT? THATHA LO MBUZO UZE UFUMANE:
Wonke umlutha wahlukile kodwa kukho iindlela zokuziphatha ezinokuthi zibonise umlutha we-porn. Ukuba uphendula ewe kuyo nayiphi na kwezi, isenokuba lixesha lokuthethana ngentliziyo.
- Ngaba ucela isondo esirhabaxa okanye izikhundla ezingaqhelekanga?
- Ngaba kukho naziphi na iingxaki zokuphuma kwe-ejaculation?
- Ngaba ubaluleke ngakumbi ngomzimba wakho, ngakumbi ubungakanani bebele lakho?
- Ngaba ucela ukuba wenze naluphi na utshintsho emzimbeni wakho, njengokufumana i-wax yaseBrazil, ongayithandiyo?
- Ngaba kukho izinto ezithile azithandayo athanda ukuzibukela rhoqo?
- Ngaba uyacaphuka xa ungafuni ukubukela naye?
- Ngaba uyayibamba ngesondo xa umxelela ukuba awufuni ukubukela?
- Ngaba ufuna ukulinganisa iimeko ezahlukeneyo anokuthi wazibona, nokuba wenza kucace ukuba awufuni?
- Ngaba unazo iisayithi eziyimfihlo okanye ezikhuselweyo kwi-intanethi?
- Ngaba ukhe wabukela iphonografi kwindawo engafanelekanga yoluntu (njengenqwelomoya)?
- Ngaba unayo enye iakhawunti yefowuni ephathwayo okanye ikhadi letyala?
- Ngaba uya kulurhoxisa unxibelelwano loluntu kuba ekhetha ukubukela iphonografi?
- Ngaba abahlobo bakhe bakunika iingcebiso malunga nephonografi ayibukeleyo?
- Ngaba uyaphepha okanye uyakhusela xa umbuza malunga ne-porn?
- Ngaba ukhetha iphonografi endaweni yokufuna ukulala nawe?
Ngamanye amagama, ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokuphindaphindiweyo kukhokelela kukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo kunye neqabane. Ukuba unokuba ne-orgasm kuphela xa ebukele i-porn, kwaye ukuba ujwayele ukuba ne-orgasms kuphela ngendlela ethile okanye xa ebukele into ethile, usengxakini kwaye nawe unjalo.
Kukho ne-flip side: Abanye abakhotyoki be-porn bafuna ukwabelana ngesondo ngokwemiqathango yabo, ukuze bafezekise nayiphi na ingcamango "ephefumlelwe" yinto abaye bayibukela.
Iphonografi kunye nokuphulula amaphambili kunempembelelo eyahlukileyo ekusebenzeni kwakhe xa esabelana ngesondo-kubizwa ngokuba yi-retarded ejaculation.
Ukuhlala kwakhe 'ixesha elide kakhulu' kuchasene noko amadoda amaninzi adibana nawo xa ebukela i-pornography eninzi-ayikwazi ukuhlala kwaphela.
Nangona kuvakala ngathi inokuba yinto entle, ukuhlala ixesha elide kunokuba yingxaki kubudlelwane njengaxa egqibile ngokukhawuleza: ukuziva ebuhlungu, ekruqukile, okanye ediniwe, ezibuza ukuba uza kuwenza nini na umsebenzi. Singasathethi ke ukuba ukukhuhlana rhoqo kunokuba buhlungu emva kwexeshana.
Eyona nto indityhafisayo kukuba abantu abaninzi endithetha nabo abakaqondi ukuba kukho undonakele ekubukeleni amanyala.
Ukungafezeki: Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nekhompyuter kunokukhokelela kubomi bokwabelana ngesondo obunzima kumacala omabini esi sibini.
Hayi ekuqaleni. Ndingumntu wokuqala ukukuxelela ukuba iphonografi encinci inokuba yonwabisa kakhulu-kwaye ukuba indoda ethanda ukubukela kanye ngexesha elithile ayifuni ukuba likhoboka lephonografi.
Kodwa abantu banokukhula ngokulula ukukhotyokiswa kuko bengakhange baqonde nokuba ngumkhwa olula wokuzibandakanya kuwo.
Indoda ingazixelela ukuba ayenzakalisi mntu okanye 'iyaqhatha'. Usenokuba uqalise ukubukela njengendlela yokunonga ubomi bakhe bobulili okanye ngenxa yokuba kwakumnandi-kodwa imikhwa yokubukela inokukhula ngokukhawuleza, ngokuyinxenye kuba kulula kakhulu ukusasaza i-porn 24/7.
Unokuhlala efumana into yokubukela xa ekwimo, nokuba uphi na okanye lixesha elingakanani, nokuba.
Umntu ufumana njani umlutha we-porn? Akukho lula kodwa kuyenzeka. Cela iqabane lakho lizame la manyathelo kuqala:
Uphuculo: NgokukaGqr Fisch, umlutha wephonografi unokoyiswa kwaye ubomi besondo bubuyiselwe kumkhondo
Iphumile ngoku: I-New Naked: I-Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-ups iyafumaneka eAmazon
• Phumla ngoko nangoko—kuzo zonke iintlobano zesini nokuphulula amaphambili, kungekhona nje amanyala. Xa indoda ingachami kangangeentsuku ezininzi, iya kuba ne-ejaculate kakhulu (kunye ne-hornier kakhulu!), kwaye iya kuba lula ukuba ifikelele kuvuthondaba kwixesha eliqhelekileyo lexesha.
• Zama ukucwangcisa into enomdla ngexesha adla ngokulichitha ebukele iphonografi. Ukuba unokuthatha uhambo olufutshane, kuhle (ungavuleli nje iTV, njengoko kukho iphonografi efumaneka kumagumbi ehotele ukuba kulapho uhlala khona). Okanye umcele ukuba enze imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo ejikeleze indlu (njengokucoca igaraji, ukupeyinta, okanye ukulima, umzekelo-into ebonakalayo kwaye eyenza kube nzima ukuyenza ngelixa kukho naziphi na izixhobo zombane).
• Zama ukwenza umdlalo wakho wangaphambili ube ngumdlalo omninzi. Mbuze ukuba yintoni athanda ukuyenza xa ebukele iphonografi, kwaye ubeke izandla zakhe endaweni yezakho. Xa umchukumisa apho athanda ukuzibamba khona, uya kufunda kwakhona indlela yokufumana loo mvakalelo xa eyedwa nawe. Yenzani oku kunye-ungamqhathi kwaye ubuyele ku-porn!—kwaye ndiyathembisa ukuba awusayi kuphinda ufune imizuzu engamashumi amathathu kwi-orgasm.
Kubalulekile ukuba nithethe nobabini malunga nokuba nithandana kangakanani, kwaye nizixabise kangakanani iimeko zovakalelo kubudlelwane benu bezesondo ukuze niphinde nijonge kwiimpawu zeqabane lakho ebenitsaleleka kuzo kuqala. Yenza ngendlela owawusenza ngayo xa wawuqala ukuthandana-ndiya kubheja ukuba iphonografi yayingeyonxalenye yenxaki ngoko. Ngale ndlela, umnqweno wakho uya kwakha ngokwemvelo ukwenzela ukuba nobabini ninokonwabela ulonwabo lwesondo lokwenyani, kwaye nishiye isini senyani kwiirobhothi.
• Ukuba oku akusebenzi kuba iqabane lakho likhoboka lokwenene kwaye/okanye alifuni kuthetha nawe ngalo mba, kufuneka udibane noncedo lweengcali. Jonga i-sex therapist enamava kunye nokulutha kwe-porn kunye nokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo. Zilungiselele ukuba umlutha ube nexesha elinzima. Ukuba umlutha bekulula ukukhaba, bekungayi kubakho makhoboka.
Kanye njengokuba abantu abatshayayo kufuneka bafumane into yokwenza ngezandla zabo xa beyeka—ukusela ikofu, ukuhlafuna itshungama, okanye ukutya (ngeso sizathu le nto abo babekade betshaya bedla ngokutyeba), ngoko kufuneka ufumane into enokuthabathel’ indawo ebhetele. Ngethamsanqa, sele unenye elele ecaleni kwakho rhoqo ebusuku.
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