Xa kuziwa kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo zokuthandana kunye nezokwebelana ngesondo, ukujongana nezifo ezingasemzimbeni ziphezulu apho kunye nekhondom yokuphazamiseka kwaye ihamba ngaphandle ngokungalindelekanga. Kodwa unako ukube lubi kakhulu, ngokwenene, ngenxa yokuba kukho imvakalelo enzima kakhulu ehamba kunye ne-SNAFU engokwenyama ebhedini. Ukucaca: Ndiyathetha xa uhamba nomntu olwa ne-erectile disysction okanye u-ejaculation wangaphambi kwesikhathi. (Kukho ezinye iindlela ezininzi ezinokuthi zingasebenzi kakuhle kwiibhedi-kwaye thina bafazi sijamelana nathi mingeni-Kanti apha, sigxile kumadoda.)
I-Erectile i-dysfunction-okanye ukungakwazi ukufumana okanye ukugcina ukulungiswa-kuthinta izigidi zamadoda e-US, kunye nenani elikhulayo kunye nobudala. Kodwa oko akuthethi amadoda awakawaka angayifumani: Ngokutsho kwe IYunivesithi yaseWisconsin School of Medicine kunye neMpilo kaRhulumenteI-ED ithintela ipesenti ze-10 zamadoda kwishumi elishumi lobomi-okuthetha ipesenti ze-20 zamadoda kwi-20 yazo, i-30 ipesenti yamadoda kwi-30s, njalo njalo, nangona siza kuthatha ukuhlaselwa ngexesha elithile. Ngaphandle kolunye uhlangothi, xa umntu engakwazi ukuyeka ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza emva kokungena. Ezinye imithombo qi kelela ukuba i-20 kwi-30 ipesenti yamadoda ingalwa ne-PE ngenye indlela okanye enye (imeko ingafika kwaye ihambe).
Okokutsho konke ukuba inani labasetyhini abalala nomntu ojongene nale yeengxaki zikwaphakama kakhulu. (Ukuba sihamba nje ngeqela lam bahlobo, ngokuqinisekileyo liyinyaniso.) Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unesihawu kangakanani ingxaki, unokuba nesigulane kangakanani, okanye ungabi naluhlazo-y kunye ne-blame-y, kusekhona nje: Ingxaki. Uyazi kwaye uyazi, kodwa umbuzo wokuthi ungathini lungisa ihlala.
Apha ngezantsi, iingcebiso ezintlanu ezikrelekrele ezivela kubanyangi abaphambili ngesondo malunga nokuba baqala phi.
Musa Yenza Ngawe.
Nangona kunokuzama ukukhupha ukungaqiniseki kwinto emfutshane into ethile ihamba kakuhle-ingakumbi xa i-ED-zama nzima ukuba ungayi kugxininisa kuwe, uthi u-sexologist Emily Morse, Ph.D., umkhosi Ukulala noEmily. “Oku akuthethi ukuba akatsaleleki kuwe,” utshilo. “Amadoda abeke isitokhwe esininzi kumapeni abo asebenza ngokufanelekileyo ngenxa yenkcubeko yethu yokucinga ngobudoda. Kodwa ngendlela efanayo nokuba umanzi kangakanani akusoloko kubonisa indlela ojike ngayo, okwenzekayo ngezantsi kwebhanti kuye akusoloko kubonisa ngokuchanekileyo indlela afuna ukuba boning ngayo. ” Thatha umoya omninzi, cwaka loo mazwi angaphakathi, kwaye uxhathise umnqweno wokumbuza ukuba kutheni ungashushu ngokwaneleyo ukuze umenze nzima. Thembela: Nokuba ziziphi izinto ezimbi ozivayo ngaphakathi kwentloko yakho, uzixelela izinto eziphindaphindwe kalishumi.
Gcina iConvo engaqhelekanga.
Ngaphandle kokuphepha ukuthetha ngawe, musa ukuzisa umoya, ukutshabalalisa okanye ukunyaniseka kwintetho xa uthetha kumfana malunga nalo. Kuza kumkhupha ngaphezu kokuba sele ekhona. "Ungenayo ingxoxo kwigumbi lokulala," kusho uMorse. "Zama ukwenza isidlo sakusasa ngosuku olulandelayo. Enye inqaku kukukwenza xa usemotweni okanye uhamba inja-kuyisihloko esichukumisayo, ngoko ke ukubanika ukhetho ukuba kungabikho ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo kunokuba luncedo olukhulu kwaye wenze ingxoxo ihambe ngokulula. "Izwi lakho kunye ne-vibe Imiba engaphezulu koko utshoyo, kodwa umyalezo wakho kufuneka ube yinto elandelwe kwimigca ethi, "Yintoni eyenzekayo ngobusuku bokugqibela ayikho into enkulu! Ndivile abaninzi abafana belikhuphisana nale nto, ngoko mhlawumbi kubalulekile ukuba ugqirha uyihlole. "
Ulawulo Lwezinto Ezibonakalayo.
Kumadoda aselula, iingxaki yingxaki eneengcambu zengqondo, utsho ugqirha wezesondo ULaurie Watson, I-LMFT, umkhosi we-podcast I-FOREPLAY: Ulwaphulo loLwazi lwezesondo. "Nantsi indlela yokulawula ukuba yinto yomzimba: Ukuba unokhetho lwakusasa; ukuba unokufumana ulwakhiwo kodwa angakwazi ukulugcina; kwaye unokufumana ukulungiswa yedwa kwaye adle ngaphandle kwengxaki xa ephulula amalungu esini, ingxaki ayisiyomzimba. ” Endaweni yokuba kunokubakho into eyenzekayo ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasengqondweni anokufuna ukuyijonga. Kuxhomekeka ekubeni ubunzulu kangakanani kwaye utyale imali kuye kunye nobudlelwane, yinto onokwazi ukumnceda ngayo.
Jongana neendlela ezithandayo.
Kukho iindlela zokuphila okanye iingqondo ezingamnceda ukuba alungise. Ngokomzekelo, ukusela rhoqo ngaphambi kokulala ngesondo? Oku kunokubulala ibhoner. Ngaba uye wayithatha kwi-pornography? "Iidemon ziqhubeka ziphakamisa ibha yokuvuselela, oku kuthetha ukuba amadoda adinga ukuvuselela okuphezulu kuba yiloo nto abayifumana ngayo," kusho uMorse. "Mxelele-ngokuqinisekileyo-ukuba ukuba uyayeka okanye aphule, kunokukunceda ubomi bakho bobulili." Kwakhona, ukuba ulwa kwezinye iindawo zobomi, kunokuthi uchithe ukulala, utsho uWatson. "Ukuba unomsindo kuni, unokulahlekelwa yimpumelelo yokusebenza ngokufanelekileyo," utshilo. "Abanye abantu abakhohlisa banenkxalabo kuba nzima ngenxa yokuba bazive benetyala kwaye iipenise zabo ziphikisana ngokulala nabafazi ababini kwangoko." Ukuba iimbandezelo, mqinisekise ukuba uyonwaba kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani ngoD-kwaye Unako ukuhlala ujabulisa ngezinye iindlela. Xa sele esicinga ingqondo yakhe, unokufumanisa ukuba uyakwazi ukuyiphakamisa okanye ukulawula ukuba kungekudala uza njani.
Thatha amacebo akho kuye.
Ukuba awukwazi ukufika ekhaya kwizinto ezibangelwa i-PE okanye i-ED, kwaye ugqirha wakhe uthi akusilo ngokomzimba, unokucinga ukuba ubona umgulana wezesondo, uthi uWatson. Hayi, yiyiphi iingcali ezizo! Kodwa ekugqibeleni, nguye kuphela onokufumana uncedo. Uthi: "Amadoda ayesaba ukubona i-therapists kuba besaba ukuba baya kuxelwa ukuba abanako." "Kodwa ukuba uthe wuleza ukufumana uncedo ixesha elide, kunokubonisa ukuba akayena umlingani wesini oza kukulungela ukukhula nokutshintsha ixesha." Yaye yinto epheleleyo yodwa.
Ukuba u-dick malunga nemeko kwaye i-ego yakhe ityumkile kakhulu ukuba isebenze kunye kwaye ifumane isisombululo, nikela ingqalelo kwinto ekuxelela yona ngaye. Ngaba ngumntu ofuna ukuqhubeka ulala naye, ungasathethi ke ngokuthandana? "Ukuba kukho indlela yokulibaziseka, ukuzithethelela, okanye umsindo xa kufikwa kulo mbandela, cinga kabini ngokuhlala kubudlelwane," utshilo uWatson. “Asingombuzo wokungangqinelani ngokwesini, kodwa ukungangqinelani nomntu ongafundanga, ngekhe avuleke, kwaye akazimisele ukutshintsha.”
Funda ngokugqithisileyo: http://stylecaster.com/dating-man-with-erectile-dysfunction/#ixzz4M9GWZ6rB
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