Ndineminyaka elishumi elinesithoba ubudala kwaye ndiye ndazi ngeNoFap ekuqaleni kuka-2017. … Ngale posi ndiza kubonisa izibonelelo endizifumeneyo kunye nento eyandincedayo ukuqhubeka. Ndiyathemba ukuba ndinganikhuthaza bafethu kwaye ndinibuyisele okuthile. Nazi izibonelelo zam ezixabisekileyo endiye ndazifumana:
1) Ubuhle ebantwini: Ndiyakwazi ukubona ubuhle kuhlobo lomntu oko kuthetha ukuba ubuntu babo okanye izakhono zabo zikhanya ngokukhanya okutsha. Kunzima ukukuchaza kodwa umntu ngamnye unokwahluka kwakhe kunye ne-charisma ebenza bakhetheke.
2) I-horizon enzulu emehlweni: Amehlo eemazi okanye amadoda anokukhanya okukhanyayo kwaye anentsingiselo enzulu. Kule mihla amehlo abanye akhanya ngepositivity kunye nenkuthazo yiyo loo nto ndiqale ukujonga ngoncumo ngakumbi kwamanye amehlo ngaphandle koloyiko, kuba bekhangeleka bebahle kwaye ndinomdla kubo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndiwufihle umdla wam wamantombazana, endaweni yoko ndiyakwazi ukuwancumela ndiwajonge emehlweni. Ukongeza apho ubuso bam bunaloo mtsalane esipilini.
3) Amandla ezesondo: Ngaba uyawazi amandla aqukuqela emzimbeni wakho xa ubona intombazana entle, iyakhuthaza kwaye yomelele. Kukunika amandla nokomelela ukuba uqhubeke. Ewe kufuneka ndithethe nabo endaweni yokubajonga nje kwaye ukuba banomdla nokuba yintoni ethetha ngokuchasene noko, baya kuthetha nawe ngovuyo. Kulungile, ndiza kuzama ngamandla kwixesha elizayo.
I-4) Inkululeko engqondweni yakho: Andisekho ikhoboka lalo mkhwa. Akusiyo ilizwi lentliziyo yakho elikuxelela ukuba wenze i-fap, yi-parasyte, eya kuzondla nge-dopamine. Ayisiyiyo le nto uyifunayo, ngoko akunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze le nto akuxelela yona. Ke ndiyakwazi ukunxibelelana ngakumbi nendalo, umculo, iimvakalelo zam. Bonke bangabantu abahle kwaye banentsingiselo enzulu, ubuhle kubo. Ndikhululekile kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuzonwabela ngokupheleleyo. Ingqondo yam iphelile loo manyala abandayo kwaye angenamvakalelo agcwele ubumnyama. Andifuni ukubaleka iimvakalelo zam kodwa endaweni yoko ndizikhathalele.
5) Ubuso bam butshintshile: Xa ndizijonga esipilini, ndibona umntu onomtsalane onamehlo amahle, ibunzi elicace ngakumbi, neenwele ezityebileyo. Ulusu lwam luthambile ngakumbi kunye nemilebe yam nezandla.
6) Isidima neqhayiya lendoda: Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndiyilahle ngenxa yokuchitha ixesha endaweni yoko ndiyakwazi ukunyaniseka kum kwaye ndibe nokuxabiseka kwam ngaphezu koko. Ubomi bethu bufanelwe ngakumbi: Ukwazi intombazana, ulawulo kumandla ethu esondo, ukugcina amaphupha ethu…
7) Ewe umtsalane wabasetyhini: Enkosi kwiNoFap ndicinga ukuba ndinomtsalane ngakumbi emfazini ngaphandle kokumpompa ezi zihlunu, okanye ukuthenga iimpahla ezinexabiso eliphantsi. Kukukhula nje kokuzithemba kwam. Awunayo inkcitho, sebenzisa oko njengenzuzo yokuthetha naye. Ihlekisa kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha iza ngaphandle kophawu.
8) Amaphupha amaninzi kunye namaphupha amanzi: Ndicinga ukuba ndifumene amaphupha amanzi ali-10 kolu luhlu. Iyahlekisa kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha ndifumana u-3 okanye u-4 ngokulandelelana. Ndoda qho kufuneka ndihlambe ipijama zam. Kumnandi ngokwenene ukukwazi ukuphupha kwaye ulale ngcono.
9) Ukuphumla: Ewe kukho amaxesha apho ndiphumle ngokwenene njengomzekelo xa ndibhala uvavanyo lwekhosi. Khona andisenastress ncam ngokunjalo ndiphakuzela.
I-10) Umfanekiso ocacileyo wabasetyhini: Ke xa ndithetha nentombazana, ndibabona bancinci njengento yokwabelana ngesondo endaweni yoko ndifuna ukuzivula kwaye ndibazi. Akukhathaliseki noba akamhle kangaka, isex is more in the background lonto ayithethi ukuba ayisekho engqondweni yam but mna ndigxile ekuthetheni.
10) Ukusondela kwintombazana: Kwakukho amaxesha apho ndandingakhathali ukuba kuya kuphumelela okanye akunjalo, ndandifuna nje ukuthetha nayo ukuze ndibone umphumo. Kakade ke, ngamanye amaxesha kwakungaphumeleli kangako, kodwa amava ayenze yafaneleka. Ndide ndamxelela nomzala ukuba mhle akathetha. Whats wrong ekuncomeni, yinto entle leyo. Ndazikhumbula ukuba namhlanje ndinalo ithuba kwaye ndikhululekile ukwenza into endifuna ukuyenza. Ndiyathemba ukuba ikamva liya kunika amathuba amaninzi.
11) Ndaye ndazazi ngcono: Kwakukho amaxesha apho ndandingakhathali ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni ngam yiyo loo nto ndandiye ndikhululeke ngakumbi ukuze ndizibonakalise. Nangona kunjalo, ndiye ndazithanda ngakumbi, ndiyazingca ngokuba ndiyenza le nto kum.
Hlela: Baya kuba liwaka leenzuzo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo bayifanele.
Yintoni eyandincedayo kolu hambo?
1) Cima i-Facebook, i-Twitter…: Bagcwele izinto ezibangela kunye nokuchitha ixesha. Kukho amantombazana ashushu, amakhonkco kwiindawo zamanyala… Uya kuba nobomi obulula ngaphandle kwayo.
2) Ukucamngca konke okwaziwayo: Ukucamngca yinto entle ukuvumela iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho zikhululeke. Inokubiza isibindi kodwa emva kokucamngca uya kuziva uzalwa ngokutsha kwaye zonke ezi ngcinga zesondo zihambile. Ekugqibeleni ungajonga phambili.
3) Iividiyo ezinovakalelo, ezikhuthazayo, ezikhuthazayo kunye nomculo: Ziya kukubuyisela kumkhondo weyona nto ufuna ukuyenza kwaye zithathe indawo yeminqweno ngeemvakalelo zosizi namandla.
4) Dlala umdlalo weqhinga nomntu okanye uchithe ixesha kunye naloo mntu: Ndidlale i-Go rhoqo xa ndifumana umnqweno, apho kufuneka ndigxininise kumdlalo kwaye andinakuphinda ndibuyele phambi kwaloo mntu. Emva komdlalo, ezi ngcinga ziphelile.
I-5) Zikhumbule ngezizathu zakho kunye nayo yonke into eyenziwe nguNoFap kuwe: Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina loo nto engqondweni, kungenjalo uya kukhulula umkhondo kwaye ube lixhoba elikhuselekileyo lemikhwa yakho yakudala. Kufuneka uzibhale phantsi!
6) Fumana imisebenzi eyakhayo nenempilo xa ukruqukile: Kubaluleke kakhulu kuba kungenjalo kunokukhokelela ekudikeni. Ke ndingathi, chitha elo xesha ngokuzonwabisa kunye nemveliso. Mamela umculo, thatha uhambo..
7) Usuku ngalunye ukuziqeqesha: Suku ngalunye kufuneka unakekele ukulala kwakho, ukutya kwakho kunye nemisebenzi yakho. Ukuba unesiseko esithe gqolo, uyakwazi ukufumana izinto ezibangela ukuba zincinci kwaye uzive ungcono
8) Zama ukunqanda zonke izinto ezibangela: Njengomzekelo, qaphela ixesha lakho le-Intanethi kunye ne-Intanethi kunokuba yingozi ngokwenene. Ke andizukucebisa ukuba ube kwi-Intanethi xa udandathekile, ulilolo..
9) Kuya kuba lula imihla ngemihla: Ndimele ndivume ukuba inyanga yokuqala yayinzima kuneyesibini neyesithathu. Namhlanje ngokwenene ndiziva ndincinci iminqweno kwaye nokuba ayinayo impembelelo enkulu ngenxa yokuba i-porn ayisekho entlokweni yam kubandakanya ezi foto zigqwethekileyo… Nje ukuba uphule inyanga enye okanye ezimbini, uya kukhwela kuyo.
Kwakhona: Kukho amawaka eengcebiso eziluncedo, ezinokukunika olu luntu.
Ndoda kushushu nyani kwaye ndidiniwe. Esi sithuba sithathe iiyure ezimbini. Ndiyathemba ukuba unokuqonda yonke into kuba ndingumJamani. Ndibheje, kukho into endiyilibeleyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba ndinganceda nokuba ngumntu omnye. Lilonke I am wistfullf elinde yakho 7/30 .. ingxelo iintsuku.
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