Ngoku sele ziintsuku ze-90 kunye neeyure ezimbalwa okoko ndenze isigqibo sokuyeka ukuchitha ixesha / umgudu ngokuphulula amalungu esini. Ndihambile ndichitha iiyure eziyi-1-3 mihla le ndibukela iphonografi ndisiya ngqo kwi-0, emva kokuchitha iminyaka eyi-8 yobomi bam ndicinga ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuziphatha gwenxa nge-porn (ngaphandle kokuba yenziwe ngokuziphatha kwaye awuthathi zifundo zobomi kuyo). Kwiintsuku ze-90 kamva, ndinomsindo kwiNoFap. Mad ngenxa yokuba iyasebenza.
Molo ngoba ubomi bam ngebubengaphezulu kakhulu kwelona candelo lingcono kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo. Mad ngoba isayensi yayili, okokuqala ebomini bam, ukungabinampendulo kwimpendulo yamava am endikhokelele kuyo.
khangela Apha Okwam kwasekuqaleni, ukuqala kokuqala, ukuba uyakhathala.
Ndikunye noNoFap, ndizinikele ekusebenziseni umthambo rhoqo (ikakhulu i-cardio enesiseko kunye ne-pushups) kwaye nditye "okungcono," nangona ukutya "okungcono" kuluhlobo lokudideka kwezi ntsuku kukutya okuninzi okungafaniyo okungahambelani kwaphela kwiphiramidi yokutya endikhulele phantsi kwayo. Ngokusisiseko, bendikhe ndatya iprotein / amanqatha aphezulu, iziqhamo / imifuno, kunye neecarbs kancinci. Ndiye ndatya kancinci njengoko oku kutya kundigcina ndiziva ndigcwele ixesha elide. Ngapha koko, ndagcina idayari yeenyanga ezi-3 ezidlulileyo, kwaye ke ndiza kubalisa amanqaku abalulekileyo kuye nawuphina umntu omtsha onokuba nomdla.
Iveki ye-1: iimvakalelo ezicacileyo, ukuhlengahlengiswa kweshedyuli yokulala, ingqondo ngokucacileyo.
Iiveki ze-2: ngokuqinisekileyo ukuziva ngakumbi kwezentlalo, ukuzilolonga kuthambisa kunangaphambili. Ishedyuli yokulala eqina kwinto uBen Franklin angayivuma ngayo. Ingqondo icacile, umculo uchulumancisa ngakumbi.
iiveki 4: uqaphele ukuxhomekeka kwimithambo ukuze usebenze ngempumelelo ephezulu; Ngaphandle koko, ndinomsindo kwaye andinakujolisa kuyo yonke imini.
Iiveki ze-5: iphupha lokuqala elimanzi kwi ~ 7 iminyaka. Yenzekile emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zokungazilolongi. Ukurhanelwa ngokuqatha koxinzelelo / kwamandla yinto ebangela. Usuku olulandelayo lwalulungile-ubuthongo obungalunganga kunye nokungabikho kokuzivocavoca kunokuba zombini zizinto nokuba iphupha elimanzi ngokwalo alibangeli ngxaki.
Iiveki ze-6.5 (isiqingatha): Ukudityaniswa okungcono kwiimeko zentlalo (bendihlala ndingenisa, kodwa andinabuntu ngoku), ndizifumana ndihleka kakhulu, ndiyakwazi ukwaba inkathalo yam kwizinto ezifanele ukukhathalelwa kwaye ndihlale ndinemveliso. Kwakhona, ndenza amagqabantshintshi ezesondo kakhulu kunokuba bendikade ndisenza, kwaye ingqondo yam ngokubanzi iphuma kumjelo.
Iiveki ze-11: ejongene nokunyuka komnqweno. Nangona ndiyazi ukuba kunomvuzo omncinci malunga ne-smut endandikade ndiyidlala, ndizifumana ndiyiphosa, kwaye ndoyike kakhulu. Ukuhla ndenyuka ukwenza umsebenzi othile njengoko ndinako ngaphambi kokuba ndiye kwisikolo semigangatho.
Kwaye kunjalo. Ngethemba, oku kuyakuphendula eminye imibuzo kuni nonke nina ningekabinamava oku. Kukho umahluko omninzi owubonayo kwiiveki zokuqala ezimbalwa, kodwa emva koko kuya kufuneka ucinge ngobomi bakho obudala ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele ukuba usenza inkqubela phambili. Ngoku ndisesikolweni se-grad, andifakwanga kwiintsuku ze-90, kwaye khange ndibenalo iphupha elimanzi ngaphezulu kwenyanga-ndihlala ndivuka ngaphambi kokuba ndingabuyi. Ndiziva ndilungile malunga nomntu endikuyo ngoku kunye nendlela endilichitha ngayo ixesha lam, kodwa ndiyoyika ukuba ngekhe ndize ndivale inyani ngombono weNoFap de isayensi ifumane isenzo sayo kwaye ichaze zonke izinto, kunokuba ubonise izibonelelo ezifanelekileyo okanye undixelele ukuba "zezendalo." Nangona kunjalo, okwangoku ndiza kudibanisa amava am emiceli mngeni yeentsuku ezingama-90 ngento endinokuyithetha ngokuqinisekileyo.
TL; DR: Ukutshiza. Akukho mntu unalo ixesha fo dat.
LINK - Iintsuku ze90. Umsebenzi: Impumelelo!
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Kufunyenwe malunga noluntu oluvela kwi "The Great Porn Experiment" iTedxTalk, lwenza uphando kuba "uFapstronaut" lelona gama libalaseleyo, kwaye ngoku ndiqala umceli mngeni weentsuku ezingama-90, ngalo myalezo usebenza ukuzikhumbuza Kwinto endiyenzayo kunye nophawu lokulinganisa xa ndigqiba. Ngokobuchwephesha, ndiqale ngqo kwiveki e-1 edluleyo, ke oku kuya kusebenza njengeakhawunti yam yeziphumo zexesha elifutshane kakhulu.
Imvelaphi Andikaze ndiyithathele ingqalelo imikhwa yam ye-PMO njengengxaki okanye ndinazo naziphi na iingxaki ezigqithileyo zokunxulumana nazo - amabakala esikolo sam ebesoloko ebalasele (ndiphumelele nje kwikholeji), ndiyakholelwa ngokwam ukuba ndithandwa kakhulu ngabo bandaziyo, kwaye ndizikhathalele kakuhle malunga nokutya / ukuzilolonga / ucoceko. Kufanelekile ukuthi andikhange ndiphumelele ekufumaneni uthando, kodwa ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ndibeke oko kwezinye izinto, ikakhulu kukuswela inyathelo lokwenza indlela ethe ngqo (sijonge phambili ekuboneni ukuba ngaba lo mngeni unefuthe kulonto ). Ndaqala inxalenye ye-MO malunga nonyaka wam wokuqala wesikolo esiphakamileyo, nangona ndandinomdla wokujonga nje unyaka ngaphambi kokuba ndiqaliswe kwiimifanekiso engamanyala. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile ukutsho, nangona, ukuba imikhwa yam ibimodareyithwa ngaphambi kokuba ndifumane ikhompyuter kunye nokufikelela kwi-intanethi. Kukho amaxesha amabini obomi bam ngaphambi kwangoku xa ndiyekile. Eyokuqala (kunye neyona inde) sisiqingatha sokuqala sonyaka wam wesibini wamabanga aphakamileyo: usapho lwam lusandula ukufuduka, bendisazi mntu kwidolophu entsha, kwaye nangona bendamkelwa luluntu olutsha, bendisoloko ndibuhlungu kwaye ndidandathekile ngenxa yokuphulukana nendala ubomi, kwaye ndingenayo i-libido njengesiphumo. Ixesha lesibini lalilixesha leenyanga ezi-3 zomsebenzi onzima kwihlobo elilandelayo, iintsuku ezinde kunye nobumfihlo obunqongopheleyo obundishiye ndingenamzamo / mnqweno wokulandela (kwaye ngokundincedayo ndatshintsha ubomi bam kuxinzelelo lwangonyaka odlulileyo) . Ukuqheleka phakathi kwezi zimbini onokuziqaphela kukuba andikaze ndiyeke ngaphandle kwento eyenye ethatha ngqo ubomi bam.
Imeko ngoku Ndiziva ndonwabile okwangoku. Ngaphandle kokukwazi kwam ukwenza imvula njengesikolo, andikhange ndiqhubeke kakuhle njengoko bendilindelwe kuvavanyo kwaye emva koko ndifumana ukungena / ukubhalisela ukugqiba isikolo (I kuphela ndiyenzile into endiyithathele ingqalelo "njengesikolo sam sokhuseleko," kodwa iseyinkqubo ehlonitshwayo. Wow, loo nto yavakala ngathi ayilunganga. Inzulu; Ndiyathembisa andizikhukhumezi). Ngenxa yokubuyela umva, kunye nokufumba kwemali mboleko yomfundi endijonge kuyo ukongeza kwimfumba yam esele ikhona yemali mboleko yomfundi, ndiqala ukuba namathandabuzo malunga nokuqhubeka nendlela yam yangoku yomsebenzi. Ndiziva ndinomnqweno omkhulu wokunciphisa ilahleko zam kwaye ndizame ukuthatha umsebenzi oya kuthi ubuncinci undinike umvuzo ozinzileyo / owaneleyo wokuhlawula ityala lam langoku kunokuba ndibeke emngciphekweni wamatyala amaninzi nangaphezulu ngaphambi kokugqibela nomsebenzi ofanayo, ukwenza ubomi obuqeshwe ngokufanelekileyo kube nzima kakhulu ukujongana nabo. Ukuphendula koku kungazithembi, ndenza utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila, ubukhulu becala ngenjongo yokuzibonakalisa ukuba ndisakwazi ukufeza izinto (ngaphandle kweGPA elungileyo), kubandakanya: * NoFap * Umthambo oqhelekileyo nowahlukeneyo * I "Scottish Shower" (qala ukufudumala, ukuphela kubanda) * Ukutya kancinci, ukuhambisa amanzi ngaphezulu (bendinengxaki ye-GERD, kodwa i-hydration elungileyo ilungile) * Ukugcina isicwangciso esibhaliweyo sokulandela ubomi bam / iinjongo zam, kunye nezinto ezininzi ezingxamisekileyo (simahla ukuhlela, kodwa ukuyigcina ibhaliwe phofu)
ISicwangciso Ngoku ndiphila ubomi bokuhlala ndedwa kwisidanga sekholeji esihlala nabazali bakhe, kodwa yiza phakathi kuJuni ndiza kuya kwinkampu ethathe inyanga yonke, kwaye ngo-Agasti ndiza kufuduka ukuze ndiqale isikolo. Umceli mngeni weentsuku ezingama-90 uza kuphelelwa lixesha xa kuqala isikolo, kodwa ngoku ndigcina ingqondo yokuba ndiza kuyigcina iqengqeleka kwanangoko. Ndijonge phambili ekuboneni ukuba loluphi uphuhliso endinokuludibanisa neNoFap yam yokuqala yokuzikhethela. Yenzululwazi. Ngokwakho.
Iveki Njengoko benditshilo, ndibhalela le veki i-1 ngoku. Okwangoku andikaze ndibone nakanye; Ndiyakholelwa ukuba (ndingaqondanga) ndawunciphisa umnqweno wam we-PMO ngamava amva nje apho ndingakhange "ndisingathe ngononophelo," oko kukhokelela kukutsha okuvuthayo okugcwele ukuqiniswa okungalunganga. Kodwa ke, sele ndiqaphele ukuba iimvakalelo zam zihlala ziphakanyisiwe ukusuka kwiveki ephelileyo. Ndiye ndaya kumboniso bhanyabhanya, kwaye bekukho le mboniso bhanyabhanya malunga nebali lebhola ekhuthazayo. Ndiyayicaphukela ibhola. Kwaye okwangoku, ndiphantse ndakhala kwisibheno esingokweemvakalelo sokujonga kwangaphambili. Oko, kwaye iindlebe zam zibuhlungu kuba ivolumu yeqonga yayinyuselwe i-11. Ndikwanalo nexesha elilula lokuphuma ebhedini kwasekuseni, kodwa okwangoku ishedyuli yam yokulala ikwisiphithiphithi kwaye ndisahleli Inkungu, ngengqondo.
Isibhalo esithunyelweyo Kulabo bakwazile ukufunda yonke into (okanye batsiba nje ngethemba lokufumana i-TL; i-DR), ndifuna ukuyigqiba le ngxelo engeyiyo egazethi. Olu luntu luyamangalisa, kwaye uyamangalisa. Ndiqhele ukuba lilurker kwi-intanethi (nokuba ndibhala inoveli okanye akukho nto, kwaye ndinexesha elininzi kuphela leenoveli), kodwa ukuzithemba ngokubanzi kunye nokuswela kwamalungisa endikubonile apha kundenze ndaqiniseka ukuba ndibhalise igama lomsebenzisi kwaye Ewe, bhala inoveli. Ndinebhongo ngokujoyina amanqanaba eeFapstronauts. Mhlawumbi umceli mngeni wam olandelayo uza kuba ubhala ngokufutshane.
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