Kuphantse phantse unyaka ukusukela oko ndaqala iNoFap. Kube nzima kakhulu, kwaye ekuqaleni bendingenakucinga nokuyenza iveki, kodwa ndilapha! Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ndingathanda ukwabelana ngazo. Ndiyathemba ukuba ndingabuyisela into kolu luntu lumangalisayo ngale ndlela. Ndiyihlule kubini: 'izibonelelo' kunye 'noncedo.'
inzuzo:
Ukukhula; Ndivakalelwa kukuba ekugqibeleni ndiyakhula; Bendihlala ndizimela kwihlabathi, njengomntwana omncinci ofihle ngasemva koonina. Ngoku andisazifihli, hayi ngasemva kwe-PMO okanye enye into. Andizifihli kum, kwiminqweno yam okanye kwabanye abantu.
Ndikwangelo xesha ndikhululekile ngakumbi kwaye ndinamandla amaninzi. Ndicinga ukuba oku kuyindalo, kuba ngoku ndiyimoto eqhuba ecaleni kwendlela enkulu kwitanki egcweleyo yegesi, endaweni yokutshiza kumaconsi okugqibela. Ndiyaziqonda ngcono ngoku, uxinzelelo lwasentlalweni lumkile, kuba ndiziva ndiphelele kwaye andisadingi kwamkelwa mntu. Andiziva ndisoyika okanye ndinoloyiko lokuya phaya ndenze izinto; Ndakha iqela, ndabuza intombazana, ndaziva ndivakalelwa, ndenza izinto. Ubomi bam buyekile ukwahlukana, kwaye ngoku ndiqala ukwakha ikamva lam. Ekugqibeleni ndibuyile kwivili, emva kweminyaka esithoba ndingabikho.
Uncedo:
I-NoFap ngokwayo sele isenamandla ngokwenene, kodwa ezi zinto zandinceda ukuba ndivune ngaphezulu kwezibonelelo:
- Ukucamngca (khangela: I-Givemesomeheadspace)
- Ukuhlaziya ngokukhawuleza (khangela: I-Command-Z)
- Izilwanyana ezinobumba
- Iincwadi ezimanyelwayo 'nguJed McKenna'
- Ezi ncwadi zimbini zandinceda ukuba ndiziqonde kakuhle: I-Introvert Advantage kunye noMntu oPhezulu kakhulu.
- Ndaqaphela ukuba ndifumana unqwenela ukugqithisa okanye ukucinga, kodwa xhathisa, ndifumana amandla amaninzi, inzondelelo kunye nomnqweno wokuba ndinokwenza iseshya ibe yinto ethile yokudala.
Ndiya kugqiba kule nqaku: INAFAP YOBUPHILA!
LINK - Ingxelo yosuku lwe-90-Ekugqibeleni ikhula
UPDATE
yayiyiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo. Ewe, isekhona kwi-Intanethi! https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1l3zyu/90_day_report_finally_growing_up/
Ndiphinde ndadibana nale forum kwaye ndacinga ukuba ndiza kunibhalela into. 24 ngoku. Uqale ukufakela nge-11-12 ndicinga ukuba, iphonografi yangena kule minyaka imbalwa izayo. Ukugcina imbewu yakho kuya kukukhuthaza ngakumbi ukuba ufumane izinto ebomini, kubandakanya amantombazana. Kwaye into emangalisayo kukuba unawo onke amantombazana ngokwakho, kuba uninzi lwabafana luhamba lujijekile, lungakhuthazwanga konke konke ukuba lusondele kumantombazana. Amantombazana ayayixabisa ngokwenene ukuba uhamba nje uye kubo kwaye ungathetha nabo njengomntu oqhelekileyo.
I-Nofap yayingesiyo isiphelo. Yandenza ndaqonda ukuba ndilikhoboka lezinto ezingakumbi. Phantse yonke into kubomi bale mihla ijolise ekwenzeni i-ego yakho encinci ukuba intofontofo. Bukela imovie engama-300, iKlabhu yokulwa, iGorha elinoXolo. Uya kuqala ukwazi konke ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwakho. Ewe ukuzamkela kubalulekile. Kodwa ukuba uzamkele ngokwenyani ngekhe ufune naziphi na iziyobisi, ndingathi.
Emva kokubangela, kuhlala kukho ukhetho. Khumbula oku. Ukuba umntu othile ukukunika ikeyiki, ungakhetha ukuthatha iqhekeza okanye uthi 'enkosi.' Xa ingqondo yakho ikhoboka ikunika iseshini yokufota, ungatsho ngokulula ukuthi 'hayi, kodwa enkosi!' Awuyongqondo yakho, yinja yakho yasekhaya, umntakwenu omncinci. Inemincili kakhulu ngobomi kodwa ayiyazi into ebulungeleyo okwangoku. Kungenxa yokuba ikhulele kuluntu oluzele ngabazalwana bangaphambi kolutsha kunye neenja ezilahlekileyo. Jonga ngeenxa zonke kuwe, phantse wonke umntu kudala elibele iminyaka elishumi elinambini, ebotshelelwe kukukhetha kwakhe, nokuba kukutshaya, ukutshaya, ukutya, ukungcakaza, ukugxeka, ukungqinisisa, intanethi, iindaba, okanye yonke loo nto kanye.
YIBA NGUMNTU OMDALA KUMGUMBI. Yithi "fuck, ndiyagula yile shit, ndiza kuphila ubomi obumnandi kwaye ndinike abona bantu balishumi elinambini ubudala ukuba bajonge kubo!" IHedonism isekwe kwisiseko sobuxoki, indawo yokunqongophala. Ukufakela akuyi kukonwabisa, ukuba neentlobano zesini kunye ne-supermodel akuyi kukonwabisa. Isihogo, ukuphumelela kwi-lottery ye-fucking akuyi kukonwabisa. Onke amachiza, ubutyebi, ubuhle, udumo kunye nempumelelo azinakukuonwabisa… KUPHELA WENZA. Ukuba awukwazi ukonwaba uhleli uzolile kwigumbi elingenanto, ngekhe wonwabe.
Ulonwabo yimeko yangaphakathi efunyenwe nzima, ekhuliswa ngokucamngca, ukuziqeqesha kunye nokuthembeka kwiinjongo zakho. Nayiphi na impumelelo yehlabathi elandela emva koku ngumqondiso nje kuwe. Impumelelo yokwenene ilele kukuzilawula, sukuvumela uluntu lukuxelele ngenye indlela. Kwaye konke kuqala ngokwazisa, ukuqonda ukuba unawo onke amandla owadingayo ngaphakathi kwakho. Amandla okwenza ukhetho olulula oluza kutshintsha yonke into, naphakade. Sukufaka abazalwana bam, ungazikhanyeleli nantoni na, kodwa uzinike isipho sokuzilawula; esona sipho sinyani sikhona.
LINK - INYANISO elula (okanye 'ube ngumntu omdala egumbini')
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