Ndingumfana ona 25. Ndifumene le sayithi ngelixa ndikhangela olunye ulwazi. (ENKOSI IZULU ngethamsanqa).
Njengoko ndandifunda, ndafumanisa umfanekiso omkhulu ngakumbi ngendlela izinto ezisebenza ngayo kunokuba ndandilindele. Umfanekiso wenkqubo yomvuzo wengqondo yam kunye nokuba likhoboka. Umfanekiso onokuchaza amava am kunye nezibongozo zam, umnqweno wesini, i-orgasms, kunye ne-hangover emva kwabo. Ndafumana ulwazi olungakumbi malunga nendlela ingqondo yam esebenza ngayo.
Ndiye ndazama ukuyeka (reboot). Kwaye ndoyisakala. Zama emva kokuzama. Ndandikhathazekile kwaye ndinomdla wokuba kwenzeka njani ukuba ndibe likhoboka elinamandla kangangokuba intando yam ayanelanga ukukoyisa.
Ndiyafunda Ubungqina Obuguqula nguNorman Doidge (izicatshulwa apha), kwaye ndaba njalo ma ngaliswangezinto ezifunyaniswe kwi-neuroscience. (Ndandinolwazi oluthile ngengqondo, kodwa hayi malunga namandla e-neuroplasticity.)
Indinika ithemba elikhulu kunye nokuqonda ukuba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha izinto ezininzi ezibaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba bendinokucinga. Ndiyincoma kakhulu le ncwadi kuye wonke umntu. Yayiyeyona nto ibalulekileyo yokufunda ebomini bam bonke. Kwakhona, le sayithi iqulethe ulwazi olubanzi kwaye olunzima kakhulu. Kuluncedo kakhulu ukuyiphonononga.
Into ephambili endingayihoyiyo ngexesha lokungaphumeleli kwam kukunxibelelana phakathi kwe-orgasms-i-masturbation-porn-fantasy.
Ndiyakwazi ukuyeka i-masturbation / orgasms ngenxa yeziphumo zabo kunye nefuthe ebomini bam. Kodwa andizange ndilubone unxibelelwano lobuchopho obunzulu obuvela kwingcinga yam enzulu engqondweni yam, eyayisagcwele iphonografi. Olu nxibelelwano lwalufakwe ngamandla kwingqondo yam ngexesha ndikwi-porn / i-masturbation. Baye benza inethiwekhi enkulu yombutho wokulutha. Ke kwanele ukucinga ngomzimba wabasetyhini onqunu, isenzo sokwabelana ngesondo / ukuphulula amalungu esini, okanye iimvakalelo zesiqabu ezinxulumene ne-orgasm, kwaye kungekudala yonke inethiwekhi / isekethe yokulutha engqondweni yam yasebenza. Kwaye ukuziqinisa ngakumbi ngakumbi!
Xa ndabona ukuba le miba yayinxibelelene, ndakwazi ukubona ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni izibongozo zihlala zisiza. Ngoko, ndaqaphela ukuba yintoni ekhokelela ekubeni yintoni. Qaphela ukusuka apho ukuya khona inkqubo njengoko uvuswa.
Ngoku ndiyayibona loo nto, ndiyayazi yonke inkqubo yokulutha. Ndiyayibona ngokucacileyo imiphumo - kunye nokuqala kokuziphatha kwam / ukucinga. Kulapho kuphela endinokuthi ndikhethe ukutshintsha.
Ke, ndatshintsha indlela endiphatha ngayo yonke into enxulumene nokulutha kwam (ingakumbi iminqweno yam kunye nobukhazikhazi). Ndabona yonke into edibene nayo ngendlela eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye emva kweenyanga ezi-2, iminqweno eqhubekayo yaphela. Nokuba kuthe kwafika umnqweno, akusenagunya kum. Kwaye ndonwabile.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba likhoboka lakho, oko kukuthi, kukho into ekuwe ethathele kuyo indlela oziphatha ngayo, njengentsholongwane yekhompyuter ekwikhompyuter. Yivume. Yijonge nzulu kuyo yonke inkalo, ukusuka kwi-engile nganye, ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ongayihoyanga. Khangela unxulumano olukhuthaza ukuziphatha kwakho. Phonononga. Qwalasela. Musa ukoyika izinto ezintsha ngokupheleleyo ozifumanayo. Zezona zibalulekileyo.
Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukususa ingqondo yakho. Yenza ixesha lenkqubo, ukuze ungene nzulu kuyo. Ayinakungxanyiswa. Ayinakunyanzelwa. Kungcono xa iphuma kumdla wakho onzulu.
Ezinye izinto/imisebenzi ibiluncedo kum:
- Ndaqala ukumamela umculo weFolk kunye neChillout endaweni yeTechno. Ndifumanise ukuba xa amazwi engoma engelothando okanye ephuphile, kwaye ukuba umculo awufani nentsomi, oko kuyandithuthuzela ngokwenene.
- Ndaqala ukuphuma ndihambahamba. Kundinceda ndicoce ingqondo yam okanye ndibone izinto ngenye indlela.
- Emva kokuba ndifundile Ubungqina Obuguqula, Ndabona ukuba naluphi na uhlobo lokulutha, kunye nokucinga okucinezelayo / okungalunganga, yonakalisa ingqondo yam, ngoko ke ndiyekile ukucinga okungalunganga ("andikwazi ukuyenza"), ukudandatheka kunye nomsindo. Umsindo kunye neengcinga ezingalunganga azinakusombulula nantoni na okanye zincede nantoni na. Le yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini bam kwaye ndiyavuya kuba ekugqibeleni ndifikile kuyo.
- Ndicinga ukuba ubuncinci bokuzimisela bubalulekile. Ngaphandle kokuzimisela akunakwenza nto. Kungenjalo, ufana nomatshini olungiselelweyo. Umatshini wenza nje, njengekhoboka, imiyalelo evela kwiprogram engaphantsi kwengqondo. Ngoko awusengomntu. Kwaye ndifuna ukuba ngumntu, hayi nje ikhoboka lenkqubo ethile entlokweni yam.
Andinantombi ngoku. Kodwa ndiyavuma ukuba kunye neqabane kunokuba lula kakhulu ukuchacha kubukhoboka bam. Mhlawumbi nentombazana endithandana nayo ngendiziqaphele ngokukhawuleza izinto endiziqondayo malunga nokulutha kwam. Omnye umntu unokuba yinto enkulu yokuvula amehlo akho. Nam ndiyabona Karezza ngoku njengeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza uthando.
Ndinamandla angakumbi, ixesha elingakumbi, ugqaliselo olungcono, kwaye ngandlel’ ithile ndonwabe ngakumbi ngokubanzi. Nje ukuba uqonde ubume bokwenyani bomlutha wakho, awusoze uyiphose. Ithamsanqa, impilo kunye nobomi obungenamlutha kuni nonke apha.
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