Ndaye ndaqonda ukuba sele kudlule iinyanga ze-5 oko ndaqala i-NoFap kwaye itshintshe ngokwenene ubomi bam ngoko ndaziva ngathi kufuneka ndibuyisele. Ngoko nali ibali lam: Ndaqala ukudibanisa xa ndandiyi-8 okanye i-9 kwaye ndiyeka kulo nyaka - kwiminyaka eyi-26.
Ubuncinci iminyaka eyi-17 yokufafaza, iphindwe kabini ixesha endilichithileyo ndingafaki ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale njengomntwana. Andizange ndiyicinge njengomlutha nangona ndiyenza phantse yonke imihla - ithathwa njengento "eqhelekileyo" ukuyenza namhlanje, akunjalo?
Ndandinobudlelwane bexesha elide (iminyaka emininzi kakhulu) kunye nentombazana eyeka ngokupheleleyo ukukhathalela ubomi bethu bobulili ngexesha ndagqiba ekubeni ndiqalise iNoFap. Sasilala ngesondo kanye ngenyanga kwaye kulapho wayefuna. Ubudlelwane bethu bathatha ixesha elide kangangokuba ndamvumela ukuba abone utshintsho kum - ngelo xesha ndandimthanda, 'ndandiyinkwenkwe embi', ethandwa ngabantu basetyhini kodwa ndineenjongo ezi-0 ebomini bam.
Kule minyaka idlulileyo ubomi buye bazama ukundityumza amaxesha ambalwa kwaye ndihlala ndaya kuye, ndicinga ukuba kufuneka abe "yinkxaso" yam. Ndazitshintsha ndaba ngumfana onoxanduva… kwaye ndenza eyona mpazamo inkulu ebomini bam, ndazivumela ukuba:
- beka yena kuqala phambi kwam
- bonisa iimvakalelo zam kwaye ndikhale ngokuvakalayo njengenjakazi encinane phambi kwakhe ("amadoda okwenene abonisa iimvakalelo zabo" - ewe kulungile, enkosi yobufazi)
- wamthengela ikaka elindele isondo
- wenza ikaka kunye/ngokulindela imbuyekezo yesondo
- Ndizikhohlise ukuba i-fapping ingcono kunesondo ngelixa ndingafumani isondo xa ndifuna
- Njl
funda Akukho Mnu Nice Guy nguRobert Glover kwaye uya kufumana inqaku (ngakumbi ukuba ubunobudlelwane obubi / obungekhoyo notata wakho nangona bonke abafana kufuneka bayifunde le ncwadi nokuba ayihambelani nepateni kuba ukubona abafana abayenzayo kuya kuba mnandi, ngakumbi xa unokunceda umntu ngaphandle). Akwaba bendinomntu ondixelele ngale ncwadi ngaphambili, izinto bezingenakuze zibe mbi kangako kwasekuqaleni.
Okwangoku, ndifake yonke imihla (ngelixa ndisebudlelwaneni) endaweni yokujongana ne-shit njengendoda kwaye kunokuqala iNoFap; Andizange ndiyazi nokuba kubizwa ngokuba yiNoFap, ndiyeka iphonografi ngonaphakade emva kokubona Umfuniselo omkhulu wephonografi Intetho yeTED; ndisuse zonke iphonografi kwikhompyuter yam, ndavala zonke iiwebhusayithi kwiifayile zenginginya kwaye ndathi kum "ok andisayenzi loo nto". Ndiye ndajonga le sub, ndabhalisela 'challenge' kwaye ndilapha.
- ~ Usuku loku-1 ndifuna ukwenza ifap, ndifuna ukwenza ifap. Ndisisidenge, ndiyekile ukwenza loo nto!
- ~ Usuku lwe-2 kufuneka ndizigcine ndiphazamisekile kwi-fapping, ndenza i-random shit, ndifuna i-fap, ndifuna i-fap, andinakuyenza, ndiyekile ukwenza oko! njl.
- ~ Iintsuku ezisi-7 Ilizwi lam linzulu, ndithetha nabantu ngokukhululekileyo, izinto ezincinci endingazange zindonwabise ziqala ukundenza ndonwabe kwakhona. Ndiziva ndingumntwana kwakhona, ndinexesha elininzi lokwenza ikaka, ndihlala ndilibekel’ amangomso, ubomi bunomdla kwakhona.
- ~Iintsuku ezili-15 Wabelana ngesondo nentombi (ngoku owayesakuba yintombi). Ukusebenza okuqhwalela ngokwenene, ndahlala imizuzu emi-2 okanye into, khange ndinike i-fuck malunga nendlela aziva ngayo emva koko okokuqala ebomini bam. Uzive ngokumangalisayo.
- ~ Iintsuku ezingama-30 e Waya eBerlin kangangeeveki ezi-2 ukutyelela umhlobo kunye nentombi yakhe, waqonda ukuba andikhangeli kubudlelwane kwaphela (ukuqwalasela nje i-2 kubo). I was still going through a “Ndisalahlekile” isigaba.
- ~ Iintsuku ze-60 ndaye ndaqonda ukuba ndizikhohlise ukuba ndikholelwe ukuba i-fapping ithatha indawo yesondo. Uqhawule ubudlelwane bam bexesha elide. Uzive shitty. Waziva njengomphathi emva koko. Ndisaziva njengomphathi.
- ~Iintsuku ezingama-90 Ngokwenyani ndaba ngumphathi emsebenzini wam. Ukuzithemba kwam kubuyile nge-100%, ndiziva njengam kwakhona. Yonke into emva koku ibiyimpumelelo kwaye isenjalo.
- Usuku 152 Andizange ndiyive le nto iphila ebomini bam. Ndigcine ngaphezulu kunokuba bendicinga ukuba kunokwenzeka kwaye ndisazibala. Ndihlala ndiziphucula ngandlela zonke - ndiyafunda Okuninzi Ezingeyonyani, andikakabi nayo intombi kwaye andizimiselanga ukuyenza – ndigcina amantombazana ambalwa e-DTF ashushu, ndiyasebenza, ndihlala ndedwa, ndenza nantoni na endifuna ukuyenza ngexesha lam.
Njengoko ndandihamba kwinqanaba leemfuno, ndandingazi nto ingako kubanda okanye nayiphi na enye indlela 'yokukhulula'. Amanzi ashushu yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo endaqala ukuzenza ebomini bam. Kungoku nje umzuzwana xa uza kuzitshiza ngamanzi angumkhenkce, zikhumbuze endodeni.
Hlala uzikhumbuza oku kwaye uya kuba indoda kwiinyanga ezimbalwa. Okanye unyaka okanye emibini. Akukhathaliseki nokuba kukuthatha ixesha elingakanani. Bubomi bakho. Unokukhetha ukuba uya kuphila okanye uyafa. Zibeke kwindawo yokuqala kwaye uzigcine apho. Kwaye ndoda yitya.
LINK - Iintsuku ze-152 - Indoda i-fuck up.
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