Ndiya kuba nesibindi ngobu busuku kwaye ndiza kwabelana nawe ngebali lam ngentliziyo yam yonke. Ndiza kukuxelela ukuba ndiyifumene njani i-nofap, into endiyenzileyo eyandinceda ukuba ndigqibezele umceli mngeni kunye neziphumo endizibonileyo.
Ngo-Okthobha i-2013, ubomi buzilungiselele ngendlela yokuba andizange ndikwazi ukwenza iiveki ze-4. Emva koko, xa ndikwazi ukuphinda ndifake kwakhona, ndaqonda ukuba ndiye ndayeka into eninzi endiyenzayo ebomini bam (eyona nto ingcono kakhulu kwiiveki ze-2-3), kwaye ndandifuna ukuthatha olu vavanyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ekugqibeleni ndiye ndafikelela kumanqaku eeveki ezi-6. Ayinamsebenzi, ndenze into endivumele ukuba ndihambe ixesha elide ngaphandle kwe-MO kwaye bendifuna ukuqhubela phambili. Ngelo xesha ndifumene, ngengozi emsulwa, malunga ne-nofap.
Ndenze njengaye nabani na. Ndaqala ijenali kwaye ndafumana iqabane lokuphendula. Umzamo wam wokuqala wathatha iintsuku ezingama-21. Yayingandikhathazi kakhulu. Elo yayilixesha lokuqala nelokuphela kwam ukuphinda ndibuyele. Isizathu yayikukuba iqhume. Ndathi ndakufunda ngayo andizange ndiphinde ndiyenze loo mpazamo.
Emva kokuphinda ndibuyele emva ndandiqinisekile kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba ndiya kuhamba yonke indlela yam kwimizamo yam elandelayo. Ndibe nale ngqiniseko emva kokuba ndifunde okwenzeka engqondweni, ngakumbi malunga ne-dopamine kunye neziko lomvuzo. Ndifunde kwaye ndazifundisa malunga nokuba lo mlutha ubuyele njani ebomini, into efunekayo ukuze uqhubeke, kwaye emva kokuba ndiqonde indlela ebuchotsheni ndaba nempendulo kwinto ekufuneka ndiyenzile ukuze ndiyeke lo mlutha. Kum, izithuba zikaWilliam kule forum zandinceda kakhulu, kwaye ndincoma kakhulu. Intanda-bulumko yakhe yonke “funda. fumana izixhobo. funda ukuthanda ukuziyeka” kwenza umahluko kum.
Olunye uncedo lwavela kwincwadi ethi "Ukuphatha umlutha wephonografi" nguKevin Skinner. (Kubantu abanomdla, inkqubo ye-Skinner kukuphunyezwa nje kwe-Prochaska's Trans Theoretical Model). Andikwazi ukucebisa ngokwaneleyo kubantu abazimisele ngokuyeka umlutha wephonografi.
Okwesithathu, esinye isixhobo endingenako ukusenza ngaphandle kwaso yayiyisoftware yolawulo lwabazali K9. Ekugqibeleni, nayiphi na isoftware yolawulo lwabazali ilungile, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yi-K9, kodwa yile ndiyifumene eyona ilungileyo. Ukucacisa ngcono ukuba luncedo ndiya kusebenzisa isikweko. Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wenxila elifuna ukuyeka utywala lize ligcine ibhotile, masithi eofisini yalo, limkhumbuze ukuba ulwa umlo omhle. Kungekudala okanye kamva, kwaye ngaphandle kokukhetha, uya kuqala ukusela. Xa womelele unokukuphepha, kodwa xa athe wabuthathaka, uya kuphethukela kwinto ayaziyo. Akukho mandla kunye nokuzilawula kuya kukwazi ukuhlala phakathi kwakhe kunye naloo bhotile. Ikhoboka le-porn elilulamayo kufuneka libeke ibhloko phakathi kwakhe kunye nento yokuba likhoboka layo, kwaye oku kuyinyani kuyo nayiphi na into yokuba likhoboka.
Into yokugqibela eyandincedayo yayikukuba neqabane lokuphendula. Nangona i-AP yenyani yayilungile, eyona nkxaso ndiyifumeneyo yayivela kwintombi yam, eyaba yi-AP yam. Ndingacebisa ukuba ufumane iqabane lokwenene ukuba unako. Ayinakuthelekiswa.
Andinakuligqiba ibali ndingatshongo ukuba zeziphi iinzuzo. Ukuqala kwam ndabaneengxaki zokulibazisa ukukhupha isidoda, nangona ndandingayiqondi. Ndiyavuya ukuthi isonjululwe ngoku. I-sensitivity yabuya kwaye ndiyakwazi ukukhupha rhoqo. Ndaye ndaqala ukuba noqhaqho oluzenzekelayo, endingazange ndibe nalo ukusukela xa ndandineminyaka eli-16 ubudala. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzithemba kwam kuye kwanda kakhulu, ukuya kufikelela kumanqanaba endingazange ndibenawo ngaphambili. Ngoku ndiyakwazi ukujonga emehlweni ayo nayiphi na intombazana ixesha elide njengoko ndinqwenela, nto leyo endandifanele ndibe neentloni ukuyenza ngaphambili. Kwaye thixo uyavuma, kumnandi ukuvakalisa umnqweno wesini kwintombazana ngaphambi kokuba ukhuphe igama elinye. Nyani ndachola intombazana estratweni kuba ndiyijonge emehlweni "ngaloo ndlela".
Ekugqibeleni ndingatsho ukuba kum i-nofap yaba yi-noporn. Andinangxaki ngokuphulula amalungu esini. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo kwaye ndiza kuyiqhelisela kwixesha elizayo. Ingxaki yokwenene ivela xa i-masturbation ihamba kunye ne-porn, kuba i-porn ingasigcina sivuya Kaninzi kunokuba siqhele ukuba njalo. Umntu unokuziphulula amaphambili amaxesha ambalwa ngosuku ngaphandle kwe-porn, kodwa nge-porn uya kuyenza ngokugqithisileyo. Kwaye ndiye ndafumana ubuninzi obugqithisileyo kangangokuba ndigqibe iintsuku ezi-3 ezipheleleyo ezilandelelanayo, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba apho ndafumana isiva esingazange saphola. Eso siva siya kuba sisikhumbuzo rhoqo seziphumo eziyingozi kakhulu zephonografi ezinokuba nazo emntwini.
Ndifuna ukubulela uWilliam, uMark, kunye ne-AP FinMechanica yam, ngayo yonke inkxaso yabo, ukuqonda kunye nenkuthazo. Bendingenoyenza ngaphandle kwenu madoda. 
PS: ukuba unomdla wokufunda uhambo lwam ungalufumana apha http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthrea…th-to-recovery
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