Okokuqala andinguye unombombiya wakho ozixilongayo ngokwasekuhlaleni. Ndikhe ndaya kugqirha wezigulo zengqondo, kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndinexhala eliphakathi ukuya kwelamandla lentlalo-ntle kwaye ndafakwa amayeza. Ndiyayazi into ojongene nayo. Ndiyazi malunga nokungxama kweadrenaline okufumanayo xa umntu ongamaziyo esondela kuwe, phantse ukuhlaselwa yintliziyo ozivayo xa uzama ukuthetha ngexesha leklasi okanye intlanganiso (ngokungathi ukhe wenjenjalo), uhambo olude wedwa oluthathayo ungajongani nalo. abasemzini, ihlazo elingenasihlahla xa ujonge omnye umntu emehlweni, udonga olukhulu olubeka phakathi kwabasemzini.
Ukubila, ukungcangcazela, ukuphakuzela, ukuzithiya, ukufuna ukuzibulala; Ndidlule kuyo yonke into.
Kudala ndizama iNoFap iminyaka emibini ngoku kwaye le yeyona inde kakhulu endiye ndayiyeka. Kuvakala ngathi lixesha elide ukuba ndiyeke ukuziphulula amalungu esini kodwa andiyiboni imizamo yam yangaphambili njengentsilelo. Bandinceda ngokwenene, bandenza ndaqonda ukuba ndinokutshintsha.
Andisenayo “intuthumbo” endiyichaze ngasentla. Hayi andingomntu omtsha, hayi ibhabhathane lentlalontle. Ndisendim kodwa ndikhululwe kumakhamandela esiwabiza ngokuba yi social phobia. Kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo ndenze unxibelelwano oluninzi, ndabetha abafazi abaninzi, ndenza abahlobo abaninzi kunokuba ndenza kwiminyaka yam yokuqala engama-25. Ndiziva ndanelisekile kwaye ndikhululekile kulusu lwam kwaye udonga endilubeke phakathi kwam nabanye abantu beludilikile.
Isihloko sichukumisa kakhulu kwaye umntu ongenathemba kuwe uyakutsiba athi akukho zipilisi zomlingo ebomini kwaye i-social phobia ayinyangeki. Nangona kunjalo andikwazi ukubiza i-NoFap nantoni na ngaphandle kwepilisi yomlingo-nangona ikrakra kakhulu- kwaye isihogo sisebenze kum. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into endiyenzileyo, kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo:
- Ndiye ndavuma kusapho lwam kunye nabahlobo ukuba ndine-social phobia kwaye ngokuchasene namaphupha am amabi kakhulu abazange bandijongele phantsi ngenxa yoko.
- Ndafuna uncedo kwingcali.
- Ndasebenza rhoqo.
- Ndifunde iincwadi ezininzi ezithetha ngokuzinceda, ukudakumba, unyango lwengqondo, ixhala loluntu.
Nangona kunjalo i-catalizing factor yayiyeka ukuchitha ixesha lam nge-porn kunye ne-masturbation. Ukuba unexhala loluntu / i-phobia, nceda uzame nje. Ungandikholelwa. Cinga ukuba ndilixoki, ndiyabaxa, ndenza yonke into ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa khawuzibuze nje; yintoni ekufuneka ulahlekelwe ngayo ukuba uyekile ukuphulula amalungu esini kangangeentsuku ezingama-90?
Akukho nto unokuphulukana nayo ngaphandle kokuzuza ubomi bonke. Isilumkiso esinye esibalulekileyo nangona: INoFap ayilohambo olugudileyo. Imeko yakho ayizukuphucula ngokuthe ngcembe, kukho amahla ndinyuka. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kukwenza ube mandundu ukudakumba kwakho kunye nexhala. Kodwa namathela kuyo kwaye uya kubona ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela.
tl; dr: I-NoFap incede kakhulu ngoxinzelelo lwam lwentlalontle / phobia, yizame ngenxa ye-fucks.
LINK - Kubantu abanengxaki yokuxhalaba/yokoyika ekuhlaleni: Ewe, iNofap yipilisi yomlingo
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