Ubudala 33 - DE, unxunguphalo lwasentlalweni, ukuzithiya, ukuthanda ubomi

Ndigqibile ukucela umngeni wosuku lwe-90! Ngaba ndifundile ngesiqu sam kwaye ndaba yindoda engcono kula mava? Ewe, kodwa kungengenxa yezizathu endandizicinga. Ndivumele ndicacisa. Ndingu-33, kwaye bendilikhoboka le-PMO ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka.

Njengabaninzi apha, ndikhulele kwi-intanethi, kwaye ndaba "luluhlobo lwe-hacker" bendinomdla kwiindaba zeendaba, iibhodi zangaphantsi zebhbs, i-4Chan (ngaphambi kokuba icocwe), i-TOR kunye nezinye iinkonzo ezingezizo ezona zilula apho umxholo ongalawulwanga khona wawulula yiza. Iindlela zam zokujonga ziye zavela ngakumbi, ukuya kuthi ga ngoku umfazi onqunu engasandivusi - kuthathe ixabiso lothuke kakhulu ukuze ndilahle. Emva kweseshoni ye-PMO ndibuya ezingqondweni zam kwaye ndinesithukuthezi nam. Ndingacinga ukuba "Ngekhe ndifune ukuba nalolu hlobo lwezesondo ebomini bokwenyani, kutheni le nto kufanele ukuba ndiyisebenzise ukuze ndiyeke? Ndonzakele? ”

Ngethuba ndilikhoboka lotywala, ubomi bam babuyibhola yomntu. Ndandihlala ndodwa iminyaka emininzi, ngoko u-PMO wayeqheleke yonke imihla ngaphambi kokulala. Kwakunje "ngokwendalo" njengokuthatha shit - ityala endandiliva ndisemncinci lithathelwa indawo lulwaneliseko oluthile lokuba ndingumntu onesidima onokufumana ubunzima ngokuyalela. Kodwa yonke loo nto yayiyinto yonke, kwaye enyanisweni ndawonakaliswa ngengqondo ukusuka kwiminyaka yam yokujonga imifanekiso ephazamisayo- into endandizimisele ukuyivuma kum okanye kwabanye - nditsho nakwiforum ye-intanethi engaziwayo njengoNoFap. Ndabekwa kude nosapho kunye nabahlobo, ndaziva ngathi ndililizwe kuphela. Bendihlala noxinzelelo, kwaye ukuFota yayikuphela kokulungiswa kwam dopamine.

Ndaziva ndingalifanelanga iqabane elilibhinqa, ndisoyika ngasese ukuba akukho mfazi, nokuba ungamnandi okanye ulungile, angazalisekisa iminqweno yam ephambeneyo. Andifanelanga 'ntombazana ilungileyo' endaweni yoko ndaye ndazimisela ukuba ndihlale ndidlala i-knight emhlophe "esindisa intombazana ekhathazekileyo" - kwaye ndinobudlelwane bexesha elifutshane (elilelileyo) ukubonisa umzamo wam. Iziyobisi zentlungu yengqondo zidla ngokufuna njengenkampani. Mna ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle eluntwini kunye noxinzelelo yayilimaza ubudlelwane ezimbalwa zentlalo endibambelele kuzo. Kulapho ndenza isigqibo sokuba: lo ayinguye endinguye.

Ndidinga ukufumana enye indlela yokuphila ebomini, kwaye njengomsebenzisi onomdla weReddit ndiyazi ngeNoFap kodwa ndicinge ukuba kusisidenge ukuba ukuziyeka i-PMO kungakhokelela kutshintsho lobomi bokwenyani. Nangona kunjalo, ndachonga iingcinga zam ezimbi malunga nokuphuma kum ekusebenziseni i-PMO, ndaye ndagqiba ekubeni ndizame i-NoFap njengenxalenye yenkqubo yokusebenza kum. Inkwenkwe yandothusa…

Xa ndagqiba kwelokuba ndizihlube ngokwenyani kwiintsuku zokuqala esi sisihogo. Iibhola zam zitshiswe ngokoqobo njengoko zikhathaza ukukhululwa. Kwakufuneka ndilele ngomqolo njengoko ukubamba kancinci kwakubuhlungu emzimbeni. Kwakukho umnqweno ongapheliyo kwaye ndandihletyiwe kwiveki yokuqala-into eyandiqinisekisa nangakumbi ukuba oku kwakungumphumo wokuphikiswa kwe dopamine emzimbeni. Ndiyenzile ukuya kwiintsuku ze-32 ngomzamo wam wokuqala. Ngela xesha ndiye ndaqaphela uninzi lwe "superpowers" olukhankanywe ngabantu kwesi siqendwana. Ndiphinde ndabuya amatyeli ambalwa emva koko malunga nophawu lweveki ye1, kodwa ngeli xesha ndiyazidla ngokuzibonakalisa kumcimbi wokubhiyozela usuku lwe-90. Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa zokuqala kuyekwenza lula ukufumana. Inqaku lokuba: ungaze unikezele - ayisiyomiceli mngeni…. Kodwa kufanelekile!

"Ezona zibalaseleyo" ndizibonele ngokwam:

  • Uxinzelelo lwentlalo luhambile-Ngaphambi kwe-NoFap ndandikumngcipheko wokufumana i-Xanax okanye amanye amayeza okundinceda ukuba ndibenoluntu ngakumbi. Ndizakufihla ekhaya phakathi evekini ngee-PMO. Xa ndizophuma ndaziva ngathi wonke umntu uyazi imfihlo yam kwaye ngasese ndifuna ukuba yedwa. Ngoku? Ndibuyele kwiindlela zam zakudala zentlalo-ndenza ihlaya kwaye ndibeka uhambo olwandle / iimuvi / ukudanisa / njl njl nabahlobo-ukujika kwe180 ukusuka kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo.
  • Ukuzithemba ngakumbi- Phambi kokuba ndiphephe ukunika uluvo lwam xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ikhubekise umntu ngengozi. Bendingathethi nyani kunxibelelwano lwam nabantu njengoko bendihlala ndivumelana nabo ukuze babenze bathande mna. Ngoku? Ndizithemba ngokuzithemba iindawo, ukunxibelelana ngamehlo namadoda nabasetyhini, ilizwi elinzulu kunye nokukhululeka kwizenzo zam zemihla ngemihla. Ngoku ndiziva ngathi uluvo lwam kunye nezenzo zam zibalulekile / zibalulekile (okanye ngaphezulu) kunaye nabani na umntu-ukuzithemba kwam kum akufani nakoko bekuyiminyaka.
  • Ubudlelwane obunempilo-Ndiyindoda elungileyo ekhangelekayo kwaye ndenza imali entle, kodwa bendingahlala ndiphela kubudlelwane obungeyongozi apho bendiyi-beta enjalo. Ndide ndalugqala uhenyuzo ukuze ndifumane ulwaneliseko lomzimba ngaphandle kwako konke ukudibana kobuhlobo (endaziva ndingekafaneleki ukuba nawo). Ngoku? Emva malunga ne-3 iinyanga ze-NoFap (ndaphinda ndaphinda amaxesha ambalwa kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala) ndadibana nentombazana kwi-After-party. Ukudibana kwam nebheji yam yayimini ye-2 - kodwa ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba kufanelekile ukuzama kwam ukwahlukana nalo mkhwa ungakhubeki. Ixesha endiya kulichitha ndihlala ndikhangela i-porn emva koko u-PMO endaweni yoko bendidla ngokuthandana nale ntombazana. Ngoku iintsuku ze-90 kamva uhlala nam kwaye sithetha ngomtshato / ngabantwana.
  • Isondo amandla-Ukusukela kwiminyaka ye-PMO bendikade ndingazihluthisi ngokungazi iminqweno yesini yendalo evumela ukuba i-orgasm eqhelekileyo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Ndingade ndibenobunzima kodwa ndinayo i-DE (ilibazisile imichiza) ukuya kuthi ga apho ndandineentloni ukuba neentlobano zesini njengoko ndingazokwazi ukubamba umfazi. Ngoku? Yayilukhuni olunzima ukuba nentombazana eqinileyo, kodwa yayindithanda kwaye inomonde kum - into endingenguye. I-DE yam ilunge ngakumbi, kwaye iindlela zokulibazisa ngoku zisetyenziselwa ukumenza amaxesha ngamaxesha. Umnqweno wam wokwabelana ngesondo ngoku unendawo ephumileyo kwaye uziva soooooo kulungile ukuba ibe sisidalwa esabelana ngesondo esazalwa ndingenazimvakalelo zokuziva ndinetyala emva koko.
  • Iingcinga ezisempilweni- ndiya kuzithiya. Ndingazijongela phantsi ndicinga. Ndacinga ngokuzibulala. Ndinqwenela ukuba ndilale ngonaphakade. Ngoku? Ndiyabuthanda ubomi. Bubomi obufanayo (umsebenzi ofanayo, inqwelo efanayo, iingxaki ezifanayo) ukanti abantu ebomini bam kunye neseti entsha yeemeko indenza ndonwabe. Uxinzelelo yinto eyoyikekayo kwaye ingqondo yakho iyayakha inyani. Ingqondo esempilweni = impilo esempilweni. Ingqondo engenampilo = Ubomi obungenampilo.

*TL / DR: I-NoFap itshintshe indlela endizijonga ngayo. Indinike into yokuba ndizingca ngayo. Indifundise ukuzeyisa. Undenze bhetele kunangaphambili. *

Ndiyabulela nonke ngezithuba zenu kule sub-reddit, kuyavuya ukwazi ukuba andindedwa. Ubomi buba bhetele ngaphandle kwe-PMO, kwaye ngolunye usuku uya kuqonda / ukholelwe ukuba kutheni ndisithi (nokuba awuziva ngale ndlela okwangoku). Ndiyathemba ukuba ndingakhuthaza umntu omnye ubuncinci ukuba anamathele kumceli mngeni kwaye atshintshe ubomi babo - ngendlela efanayo endakhuthazeka ngayo xa ndandikulungele ukutshintsha.

Iintsuku ze-90 kubomi obungcono! Ibali lam lomzabalazo kunye noloyiso malunga neshumi leminyaka lokuzenzakalisa kwe-PMO 

by Isidima iintsuku 90

UPHANTSI 180 USUKU

Molweni bahlobo endihamba nabo, bendifuna ukunika uhlaziyo kwi "into yesiqhelo" yam kunye namagama ambalwa enkuthazo kwabo bakolu hambo lokuziphucula. Namhlanje ngumhla wam we-180th wokuphepha i-PMO. Ndiyiminyaka eyi-33 ubudala kwaye xa ndijonga emva kwendlela yam yangaphambili yoononophala ndineentloni malunga nexesha elingakanani endichithe ngalo<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“></p><p>PMO was a habit for me, one where I would spend 2 to 4 hours a night searching for “just the right video” that was bizarre or degrading enough for my mind to feel satisfied. Like any habit the amount and intensity of the required material escalated to unhealthy levels. I was a slave to my mind. I rationalized away my self-destructive behavior, excusing myself again and again, all while feeling weak to my own urges. I viewed women as sexual beings only, and secretly hated myself and felt unworthy of love. If this is also your story fellow Fapstronaught… take heed: there is hope.</p><p>After finding out about NoFap (from 4chan of all places) I read up and watched the Your Brain On Porn videos. I then understood that part of my problem was willpower… the other part was addiction. When I understood my behavior as an addiction like any other (to cigarettes, drugs, etc) I resolved to take control of my life and wrestle my mind free from its addicted state.</p><p>It was not easy at first. I had physical pains and withdrawal symptoms in the fist week. There was a literal burning sensation in my groin that wanted release. I stuck with it. I relapsed a few times but now, after relapsing I understood that it was like a smoker wanting for “one more cigarette” – and I forgave myself. I saw my body as acting separate from my true desire and made peace with myself that although the flesh is week, my spirit was willing. I did not give up, and neither should you.</p><p>I started on “hard mode” (no gf) but after a few weeks I met this new and amazing girl who will become my wife in a few months (we are engaged!). It was difficult to transition into a relationship as years of self abuse using porn had desensitized me sexually with DE as well as mentally. There was a period of resetting to my “new normal” which is what I now live everyday. Here are some things I now enjoy that I did not before:</p><ul><li>Improved mental clarity – there is a mental fog that used to follow me around blurring and dulling my sight and other senses. I feel more alert and sensitive to the world now.</li><li>More productive time – I used to have a routine of coming home from work, eating food then spending the rest of the night torrenting porn or searching for the “right video” to get me off. Now, I have my fiancee with me in the evenings to talk to, to cook together, to play with the dog, to enjoy our time instead of waste it.</li><li>Self esteem – I used to avoid social situations and even going out with friends as my anxiety worsened. This social anxiety was rooted in feelings of unworthiness. I did not feel I had anything useful to contribute to conversations and my presence was a burden to others. Not anymore. I speak from my heart and am bold in my actions – I have re-discovered the man I was years ago.</li><li>More in control of emotions and life – Before I would feel like I had little control of my daily life and that my insular routine was keeping me “safe” – in fact my sheltered existence was wasting my life away in a daily grind that only served to fulfill my base animal desires (eat, sex, sleep). I have broken that cycle and you can too. Through meditation I now have more control over how I think and feel and use that control to choose positive things to dwell on. You are your own worst critic… learn to forgive yourself. Learn to love yourself… weaknesses and all.</li></ul><p>I hope others in this sub reddit stay on course and benefit themselves the way I did. I used NoFap as a starting point to bettering myself and my life. I have leaned that no one is a lost cause and we are all able to be better people. NoFap gives you a sense of self-pride which will carry over into other aspects of your daily life. Other people will notice a difference in your posture, attitude, mood and energy level.</p><p>My “success story” is just one of many. This 90 day challenge is a beneficial teaching tool – it teaches you about yourself. Learn your body. Learn your mind. When you do, you will figure out how to “hack your brain” and divert your negative energy into something more useful. Do it for yourself. Do it for others that are important in your life. You are worth it.</p><p>Peace.</p><p><strong>LINK – <a href=Iintsuku ezingama-90 ziphindwe kabini = iintsuku ezingama-180 zokuphila ubomi obutsha (ngokwakho.NoFap)

by Isidima