Ndiye ndahlala ndicanda kwezi ndawo kangangexesha elithile ngoku kwaye ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba namhlanje ibilinyathelo elilungileyo lokuthumela. Sele iiveki ezisi-8 ukuya kumhla ndagqibela ukuphulula amalungu esini, elona khefu lide ebomini bam ukusukela ekufikiseni kwiminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo.
Ndibe nomdla kwi-NoFap xa ndabona intetho ye-TED kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva kwaye ndaqala ukufunda malunga nendlela i-fapping eqhagamshelene ngayo nomlutha. Imuvi ethi "Enkosi ngokwabelana" nayo yakhuthaza ngendlela kwaye ndiyayicebisa kwabo banokuphatha izinto ezixhokonxayo.
Emva kokubona ukufana phakathi kokulutha kweziyobisi kunye neziyobisi ezahlukeneyo zesini, ngokukhawuleza ndangabi namdla wokwenza i-fapping kwaye ngokukhawuleza ndaqala ukunyaniseka kwam. Ndicinga ukuba oku kuyinxalenye enkulu ngenxa yokukucaphukela ngamandla ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kwaye ndiyibuyisele kudidi olufanayo. Kuyamangalisa nangona ndizivumele ukuba ndibe likhoboka lezinye ezininzi, ezingezizo iziyobisi, izinto ezifana nemidlalo yevidiyo, umabonwakude, inkcitho enyanzelekileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo iyafap ngokwayo. Ndikwasilwa naloo madimoni ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo empumelelo okwangoku kodwa ndiyaphuma.
Ngokubhekiselele kwezinye iimpawu, andizange ndibe nomcimbi omninzi nge-ED, nangona kukho apho amaxesha ambalwa kunye ne-ex yam mhlawumbi enxulumene. Ukuthanda kwam iphonografi nako akuzange kufuduke kakhulu kwaye ndiye ndazifumana sele ndisuka kwizinto ezinobundlobongela nezithob' isidima kwakudala. Ndingaphinda ndidlule kumaxesha ngaphandle kwe-porn, ndisebenzisa nje i-fantasy yengqondo kunye nokufunda i-erotica, ngoko ke ndicinga ukuba bendizilungiselela ngokwendalo kwinqanaba elincinci.
Ngokubanzi amava abe mahle. Ndiqaphele utyando ekuqaleni ukuba abantu abaninzi babika kunye ne-flatline emva koko. Ingathi ndiphuma kwi flatline period ngoku since my morning wood is normally there to greet me again. Ndiqaphele ukwanda kwamandla am okunxulumana, njengoko ukudibana nabantu emehlweni kubonakala kulula kwaye ndizimisele ngakumbi ukuzibandakanya nabantu nje. Andinakutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ngale nto, njengoko iyeyona nto bendigxile ekuyiphuculeni.
Ndiye ndaphawula kwakhona umdla ovuselelweyo ebomini ngokubanzi kwaye sele ngenkuthalo ujonge ukudibana nabafazi kwakhona, ubuncinane ngokusebenzisa izixhobo online. Andikayijongi inkxalabo yam yentlalo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndidlule kububi bam obunentloni kunye nendalo engaqhelekanga. Ukuhamba kunye nokungahambi, ndaphinda ndaqala ukuzilolonga rhoqo, ukutya ngcono nokulala ngakumbi, ngoko ndiqinisekile ukuba konke kuye kwanceda.
Ukuya kuthi ga kwi-negatives, ekuphela komcimbi wokwenyani ube nalo naluphi na uhlobo lwempendulo evuselelayo ebangela ukuvuza kwe-seminal kunye nobugxwayiba obubangelayo. Ngaphandle koko, ezinye "ezingalunganga" ndingaqwalasela izinto ezilungileyo. Oku kuquka ukujongana nesithukuthezi sam emva kokwahlukaniswa nowayesakuba ngumyeni kunye nokungatshati kangangeenyanga ezili-18, ukujongana nemiba yam ngexhala lentlalontle, kunye nokujongana nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha eziluthayo endizithathileyo njengendlela yokuzifihla kwinyani.
Ndiyakwazi ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ndicinga ukuba i-fapping ngoku isisigxina kwixesha elidlulileyo kum, njengoko isakhelo esitsha endinaso senza ukuba singathandeki kakhulu. Elo inokuba lelona cebiso lam lilungileyo kuye nabani na osokolayo ukuhlala enqwelweni. Fumana nje indlela yokuyilungisa kwakhona ibe yinto egxothayo kuwe. Oko kuthethiweyo, uya kufuna ukulumka apha, njengoko unokubhadula ngokulula kwezinye iindawo ezimnyama ukuba ukhetha isakhelo sakho esingalunganga.
Enye ingcamango yokugqibela apha kukuba kule nkqubo kungcono ukuba uzame kwaye uzilungise kwaye uziphucule ngaphandle kokugweba. Sonke singabantu kwaye ukuziphucula kunzima ngokwaneleyo ngaphandle kokuba umgxeki wangaphakathi esoloko ekubhuqa, ngoko zive ukhululekile ukubeka iteyiphu yokudibanisa phezu komlomo wempundu. 
Oko kuthethiweyo, khumbula ukuba injongo kukuqhubela phambili, ngoko ke musa ukuzincama.
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyanceda omnye umntu. Ndiyazi ukuba ukuyibhala phantsi kube kuhle kum.
umsonto: 8 Weeks
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