• Intshayelelo. Oku kuya kuba kude, irhamncwa lodonga lombhalo, kodwa andixolisi, ngoko ke hlala okanye uhambe. Malunga nam, 34 M, bendijonga iphonografi ukusukela xa ndineminyaka elishumi, ndakhulela kwixesha lemagazini ekhutshelweyo, emva koko ndafudukela kwi-Intanethi ye-porn njengoko ngokuthe ngcembe yaba sisilo esikhoyo ngoku. Imiba yam yangaphambi kwe-nofap yayiyi, i-PE, ukungabikho kokuzithemba ngokwesondo, ukudakumba, ixhala, kunye ne-misanthropy, phantse yonke i-gamut yemicimbi yentlalo eqhelekileyo kule sub-reddit. Andizange ndisiqonde isizathu sokuba ndibe nale miba, ndingumfana oqhelekileyo. Ndandisazi ukuba kukho isizathu, emva koko ndacofa ngoSeptemba 2012 ukuba i-porn yayidlala ngengqondo yam. Ukukhangela okumbalwa kwi-Intanethi kwandikhokelela kwi-ybop.com kwaye emva koko kwi-nofap. Ndenze isigqibo sokuyeka i-porn okwangoku kwaye ndizimisele ukuzama i-nofap ngo-Okthobha. Ixesha elalandelayo ngokungathandabuzekiyo lelona xesha linzima, elonwabileyo, elinomsindo nelilusizi ebomini bam ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Oku kungenxa yokuba isigaba sam se-nofap sasilungelelaniswe neziganeko ezibini ezibuhlungu.
• I-Nofap kunye nokuxilongwa kwesigulo esibi
Embindini kaNovemba kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndineAortic Abdominal Aneurysm. Oku kunqabile kakhulu kwi-fit, i-34 yo, ukungatshayi, i-BMI enempilo, iintlobo ezibalekayo zokhuphiswano. Kodwa, ndiyifumene ngenxa yokuphazamiseka okungaqhelekanga kwezicubu ezixhumeneyo. Le meko ithetha ukuba ndinokukhula kwi-aorta yam, eya kuqhubeka ikhula de ndibe notyando lwentliziyo oluvulekileyo kwi-x yeminyaka yexesha. Isenokugqabhuka nangaliphi na ixesha, ngelo xesha ndineyure efanelekileyo yokuya esibhedlele, okanye ndiyafa. Nangona kunjalo, umkhabi wokwenyani; ngenxa yendawo ye-AAA utyando lunempembelelo enokubakho yokubangela ukungabi namandla. Yanditya nyani lento, ndandingayikholelwa tu le isenzeka kum, andikayenzi ngamanye amaxesha. Ndikhe ndajongana nowam umntu kunye nokufa ngokwesondo. Ekuqaleni ndaphinda ndabuyela (MO), ekugqibeleni ndafumana intloko yam malunga nayo kwaye ndaqonda ukuba kufuneka ndibe nempilo yesondo kwaye ndifumane isondo esininzi kangangoko ndinako ngaphambi kokuba ndilahlekelwe amandla okwabelana ngesondo, nonke, kwakhona. Ke ekugqibeleni ndiye ndafumana umkhondo wam ngoJanuwari 6 kulo nyaka.
• Nofap kunye nobudlelwane bexesha elide buqhawuka.
Intombi yam kwaye ndagqiba ekubeni ndihlukane malunga noSeptemba 2012, le yayiyi-8 yeminyaka yobudlelwane. Sahlukana ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, siye sabuyela ekubeni 'ngabahlobo' njengoko sasinjalo ekuqaleni. I-PMO isenokuba yinto enegalelo, ngokuqinisekileyo ichaphazele ubomi bethu bokwabelana ngesondo, okanye ukungabikho kwayo. Le ibiyinto enzima ukujongana nayo, ngakumbi ukuqhawula olona nxibelelwano lubalulekileyo ebomini bam ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Nangona kunjalo njengoko bendihamba nge-nofap ngeli xesha ndiziva ngathi ndiyiphethe kakuhle, ndiye ndafumana imvakalelo yokwenyani kodwa ndihambe ngokulula ngokwenkqubo yokulila. Andiqinisekanga ukuba oku bekuya kuba yimeko ukuba ndibe ne-predisposition yokudakumba oye wahamba nam ebomini bam bokufafa. Ngenxa yokuqhekeka kwe-LTR ndiye ndanyanzeleka ukuba ndiseke ubuhlobo obutsha, ndiye ndaba yintlalontle kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha ukucinga ukuba ndedwa kuye kwaphantse kwabuhlungu ngokwasemzimbeni.
• INofap kunye nendlela endiyigqibezele ngayo i-nofap
• Izichukumisi. Ndichithe iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala ndifunda izinto ezindibangelayo, ndisenza uluhlu lwezi meko kwaye ngokusisiseko ndijongene nazo. Ndiye ndasilela amaxesha amaninzi kodwa ndafunda ukungazithethisi ngenxa yoko, ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngokuzibetha ngokuphinda uqalise ukwenza i-binary vs imbi apho kunokwenzeka ukuba ungaphumeleli kwakhona xa izinto ezibangela ukuba ziphinde zivele.
• Inkxaso. Indlela yesibini yayiyinkxaso kunye nokuphendula kwi-check-in buddy cloakedmagnum. Wavela kwisithuba endasenza ngomhla we-16 kwaye wacebisa ukuba sijonge kunye. Ngekhe ndiyenze le nto ngaphandle kwemeko yenkxaso kunye nokuziphendulela esikwenzileyo omnye komnye, besikhona omnye komnye ngokulungileyo nokubi kwaye ngethemba lokuba siya kuhlala singabahlobo ngaphaya kwe-nofap. Akukho gxininiso lwaneleyo kwinkqubo ye-buddy apha, kodwa sisixhobo esinamandla. Cloakedmagnum, ndiyakuthanda ndoda! • Inkqubo. Ndiyimbaleki, ndineminyaka engaphezulu kwemine ngoko ke ibiyinto engekhoyo kum ukuba oku kuya kuba luncedo kakhulu ngexesha le-nofap. Andizange ndibe namava amaninzi engqondo ethe tyaba kwaye ndibalela oku kwindlela yokusebenza eqhelekileyo. Oku kunokuba yingxabano kodwa imbono yam kukuba i-cardio iluncedo ngakumbi kwi-nofap kunezinye iintlobo zokuzilolonga, inefuthe lokunyusa izinga lentliziyo ixesha elide kwaye oku kunceda ngokwenene ukucima ingqondo kunye nokutshisa amandla. Kwakhona, njengoko kuphawulwa ngokuqhelekileyo, yenza enye into, funda, upheke, udibanise, ungafaki nje!
• Iinzuzo. Nofap kunye nesondo.
Malunga nemini ye-50 ndaye ndasusa ugxininiso kude ne-nofap kwaye ndaya ekuziphuculeni. Oku bekunenjongo yokuba neentlobano zesini ezilungileyo kunye nabasetyhini abahle, andizange ndibe mbi kangako kunye namanenekazi, kodwa ngendenze ngcono kakhulu. Ngoku ndiyazimisela. Ndifunde kwizinto ezininzi ezihendayo, uninzi lwazo endizifumanisa zihlekisa, kwaye ndigqibe kwelokuba yonke loo nto iphumela kwinto yakho ebizwa ngokuba “ngumdlalo wangaphakathi”. I-PMO itshabalalisa umdlalo wakho wangaphakathi ngombono wam, i-nofap ikubuyisela apho ubufanele ukuba khona. Usuku lwe-80 ndandisethekweni kwaye ndatsala ngokulula intombazana eshushu iminyaka elishumi encinci yam, saba nesondo esikhulu kwaye kuyamangalisa ukuva yonke into isebenza ngokuqhelekileyo kwakhona, ukukhumbula kunye nokunandipha i-shit ngaphandle kwesondo. Siye saseka ubudlelwane be-fuck buddy, ngoko ndijonge phambili ekumboneni kwakhona.
• Iinzuzo. Nofap kunye nomsebenzi
Ndifumene umsebenzi omtsha, kudala ndizama ukwenza oku iminyaka emi-4. Andiyibaleli le nofap, ndisebenze iesile ukuze ndifumane lo msebenzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo bendinalo udliwano-ndlebe (iibhodi ezimhlophe, imizobo kunye neshit!) nangona kwaye bekumnandi ukuba nokuzithemba kwentlalo ukwenza oku. [Bona i-http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1arzfi/i_scare_myself_sometimes/]
• Isiphelo
Ndiyindoda eyahlukileyo, indoda ekufanele ndibe yiyo. Eli ibe lelona xesha lingaqhelekanga ebomini bam njengoko uninzi lwayo lutshintshile. Anditshatanga okokuqala kwiminyaka eyi-8, ndinesifo esisongela ubomi, ikhaya elitsha, umsebenzi omtsha, isangqa esitsha sentlalo. Kodwa ndisempilweni ngokwesondo nangokwentlalo okokuqala ebomini bam, ndiyakuthanda ukuba phakathi kwabantu, ndiqinisekile, kwaye ndihlekisayo, ndijonge wonke umntu emehlweni. Kuvutha umlilo omtsha ngaphakathi kwam. Nangona kunjalo, ndifuna ukukhomba nangona kunjalo, ukuba i-nofap ibe yinto ephambili kuyo yonke le nto, ayisiyombumbulu yomlingo, ukuba kukho isifundo esinye endinokusithatha kukuba i-nofap ikubuyisele kwisiseko sakho, kukuwe. indlela owakha ngayo phezu kwayo. Ubomi bufutshane bahlobo bam, philani ikaka!
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