Kungekudala, ubomi bam buguquke ngokupheleleyo kwinto eyayiyidlulileyo kwinyanga edlulileyo. Kwandithatha ukulala nentombi yam iinyanga kwaye ukufumanisa malunga nayo ukuze ndifike ekugqibeleni ndilahle umgca wam omde kunabo bonke (kwaye usenamandla!) Nantsi imvelaphi encinci: Ndiyindoda eyi-18y / o kwaye ndibhaliswe ngoku kwiyunivesithi yaseburhulumenteni. Ndafumanisa i-P kunye ne-MO ngexesha lokugqibela, iminyaka eyi-13, kwaye ndakhawuleza ndayiwela.
Ndikhumbula ngoko nangoko ukuya kwigumbi lam emva kokufika ekhaya ukusuka esikolweni ukuya kuzonwabisa. Ndiqhubekile ukuya kwi-PMO 1-3 amaxesha ngosuku de ndiye kwi-17. Kulapho ndafumanisa ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Bendinengxaki yokuma namantombazana (kwezona meko zinzima). Kulapho ndafumanisa i-NoFap.
Emva kokukhubeka kwiNoFap, kwi-YourBrainonPorn, kunye nezinye izibonelelo ndafika kwisigqibo: I-PMO yayinoxanduva lokuziphatha kwam ngokwesondo. Ndiqale i-strak yam yokuqala ngasekupheleni kukaJanuwari 2016 kwaye kulapho ndadibana khona nentombazana yam yangoku. Sayibetha kwangoko. Uyintombazana emangalisayo kwaye andikwazi ukuphatha ukubeka iimvakalelo zam kuye ngesixa esifanelekileyo samagama ngale ntambo.
Ndikwazile ukuyenza iiveki ezimbalwa kwaye konke kulungile. Emva koko ndaphinda ndabuya. Kwaye ndaqhubeka ke, de ngenye imini ndingakwazi ukuvuswa ngumsindo kuye kwafuneka ndichaze ukuba kutheni. Waziva engcatshiwe ngokupheleleyo, kodwa wayezimisele ukundinceda ngohambo lwam lweNoFap. Ke, ndaqala enye i-streak kwaye ndaphinda ndabuya. Ndaye ndaqhubeka nokuxoka kuye ngayo yonke iinyanga ezimbalwa emva koko inyani yabonakala ngokubuya kwe-PIED yam. Ngeli xesha wayesaphazanyiswe kukubi. Andizange ndenze nje ngasemva kwakhe ndikhangela ezinye iindlela zolonwabo, kodwa ndophula ukuthembela kwakhe kumzamo wokukhusela umfanekiso wakhe ngam. Ube lusizi kwaye sidlule kwixesha elinzima, kodwa iyeyona nto yayiyinkuthazo endandiyifuna ukugqiba iintsuku ze-45 !!!!
Ngokwenyani, le ngaphezulu kwenyanga ezimbini engakhange azive kangako. Mhlawumbi iqhutywa yityala lam ngento endiyenzileyo kwintombazana endiyithandayo, kodwa nangona kunjalo ndiyenzile ukuya kuthi ga kwiintsuku ze-90 (injongo yam). Ukuba ungumntu onobunzima bokufumana ukuhamba kakuhle okanye ucinga ukuzama iNoFap, ndikucebisa ngokuqinileyo ukuba ufumane okhuthazayo ukuze unyamezele. Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu sokusebenzisa kwakho i-PMO asifanelekanga. Uya kuyifumana le mizuzwana yolwaneliseko olungelulo olwanto xa ithelekiswa nolwaneliseko lokuzeyisa. Uya kuziva uhlaziyekile kwaye unomdla wobomi ongazange ubekho ngaphambili. Kwaye ukuba uyazibuza ukuba uza kuwubona na umahluko ocacileyo kuwe wokuba wonke umntu okwi-NoFap ubanga, ewe uyafuna. Kuyamangalisa into enokutshintsha ngexesha elifutshane kangaka xa ungonakalisi ingqondo yakho.
Izibonelelo kunye notshintsho endiye ndalufumana ngeli xesha lifutshane landothusa kakhulu. Ukubuya kweemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zakho yeyona nto kufanelekileyo. Xa ingqondo yakho ingahlali inyanzelwa nge-dopamine ephezulu iyinika ithuba lokwamkela ezinye iimvakalelo. Ndikhale kwaye ndiye ndagqabhuka yimvakalelo (hayi enye ngokukodwa) kwaye ikwenza uzive uphila. Ndinamandla ngakumbi. Ndiye ndaqhutywa kwaye unxibelelwano lwam nolunye olubalulekileyo lomelele ngakumbi kunokuba bendicinga ukuba kunokwenzeka. Ewe, ilungu lakho liya kubuyela kubungakanani bayo ngokupheleleyo. Ndivuswa kunye nentombazana yam ngoku ngoku kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba ndigxile okanye ndenze nzima ukuhlala nzima okanye ukugqiba ngaphantsi kwe-20 min. Ndingahlala nje phantsi ndizonwabele.
Ukuba ungulo mntu uthetha kakuhle, kodwa uqhubeke nje ukhubeka kuzo zonke iiyadi ezimbalwa. Ungabuya kwakhona kwaye uqhubeke nokubaleka kwakho, kodwa uya kuwa kwakhona. Kuya kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokubopha izihlangu zakho ngaphambi kokuba uhambe. Into endiyithethayo yile yile, awunakuyiqala le nto ngaphandle kwenkuthazo okanye injongo. Funda amanye amabali empumelelo apha ukuze ufumane inkuthazo. Fumana iqabane elinika ingxelo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na, awunakulindela nje ukuba uzuze ngaphandle kokufumana inkuthazo yokugcina uqhubeka xa izinto zibanzima (kuba baya kuthi). Kodwa wakube uzibekele impumelelo kunye nokufezekisa ngekhe uphinde ufune ukubuyela kuleyo ndlela yokuphila kwakhona. Nje ukuba ugqibe kwimiqobo embalwa yokuqala, awunakuzivumela utyibilike. Nokuba ungafika kude kangakanani uyakuhlala ulingwa, kodwa ungumntu, uyazi, ungumntu wakho, kwaye unokumelana nesilingo.
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