Namhlanje ndibethe amanqaku eentsuku ezingama-60 kumceli mngeni weNoFap wemowudi enzima. Bendifuna ukwabelana ngebali lam nawe kwaye mhlawumbi ndincede abanye abantu bafumane inkuthazo kwiposti yam. Ndiyindoda eneminyaka eyi-21 ndihlala eYurophu. Ndiye ndazama ukwenza iNoFap ukususela kwiinyanga ze-14; Ndaba nemiphumo emihle ebudeni bezo nyanga: iintsuku ezili-111, iintsuku ezingama-60 neentsuku ezingama-23.
Ndakwazi ukuyilawula de ndafumanisa ukuba uP ndine-14 leminyaka ubudala. Ngokukhawuleza yaba ngumkhwa wokuyenza yonke imihla kwaye ixesha elide kunye nexesha elide. Njengoko iminyaka ihamba, yaba yindlela yokukhulula uxinzelelo lwam, ikhwele, umsindo, ukudandatheka kunye namathandabuzo am. Ukuxhalaba kwam ekuhlaleni kwaba yingxaki enkulu kwaye uninzi lweentsuku zandishiya ndidiniwe kwaye ndaphuka; Ndiya ekhaya, ndidle kunye nosapho lwam, ndibaphephe ukuhlwa kwaye ndilale nje ukuze ndilungise i-PMO yam.
Le yayiyi "style yam yokuphila" iminyaka emininzi, kude kube yihlobo le-2015, ngexesha leeholide, xa ndibetha phantsi. Ndandibuhlungu, ndidangele, ndidiniwe. Ndiza kuchitha iintsuku zam ndingenzi nto, ndilinde ubusuku kwi-PMO. Bendingakwazi ukujonga abantu ngeliso ngeliso, bendiziva ndiyikaka, andikufanelekeli ukuphila, ndilindele ulonwabo oluzayo. Umlutha we-PMO waba namandla kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndandibukela i-porn "nje ngokuzonwabisa" okanye ndivuke phakathi kobusuku ukuya kwi-PMO kwakhona. Ndaqalisa ukuziva ndinetyala yaye ndigula ngalo “mkhwa”.
Ke, ngoNovemba 13th 2015, ndaqala umzamo wam wokuqala wokumisa i-PMO. Ngalomzuzu bendingayazi le yabahlali, ibisigqibo endasithatha ndodwa, anyway ibingazondilimaza nhe ? Khange ndilindele lukhulu kuyo, kodwa noko bendisenza inyathelo eliya kutshintsho. Kwiintsuku ezine emva koko, ndadibana nale forum ... Ndichithe iiyure ndifunda izithuba zakho, ndifunda malunga nengqondo yakho kwi-porn "kwaye" ndilwe neyeza elitsha". Ndabona ukuba isigqibo endasenzayo sinokubutshintsha ubomi bam.
I-streak yam yokuqala yathatha iintsuku ze-111, ndaziva ndonwabile kodwa ndenze impazamo kwi-MO kwaye ngeentsuku ezimbalwa ndibuye ndibukele i-P. Ngoko ndaqala ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ndakwazi ukuya kwiintsuku ze-23, iintsuku ze-60 kwaye ngoku i-60 iintsuku kwakhona.
Ndizuze okuninzi kumdlalo wam wangoku kodwa bendinamaxesha anzima kakhulu. Iiveki ezi-3 zokuqala ndandibuhlungu ngokwenene kwaye ndinomsindo ngenxa yeminqweno enamandla, ndandifuna ukufihla ukukhala okanye ukuphepha ukusebenzisana nabantu. Emva koko ndineveki ezi-4 ezithe cwaka zineentsuku ezimbalwa ezimnandi kunye namaphupha ama-4 amanzi.
Ukususela ngomhla we-49, ndiphinde ndidideke kakhulu kunye nomsindo, ingqondo yam izama ukundikhohlisa kwi-MO kungekhona ngamandla akhohlakeleyo kodwa ngendlela efihlakeleyo. Kulapho ndiye ndawela khona kumkhondo wam wangaphambili. Ndicinga ukuba ndiyawoyisa umqobo kwaye ndiza kuziva ngcono emva koko. Oku kuthethwayo, andiziva kakuhle ngoku kodwa kusengcono kakhulu kunosuku lwam oluqhelekileyo xa ndi-PMOed.
Izibonelelo zomzimba
– Ulusu lwam lucocekile: Bendinengxaki nerhashalala kodwa iya isibangcono
– Amandla amaninzi : Ndilala kancinci kwaye ndisebenza ngakumbi
-Izihlunu ezingakumbi : Andiqinisekanga ngale nto kodwa ndinemvakalelo yokuba izihlunu zam zikhule ngaphandle kokusebenza.
-Ukubanda okuncinci: Ndiyakwazi ukumelana nokubanda, bendidla ngokungcangcazela njengegqabi ebusika kodwa hayi ngoku.
-Indlela yokuma engcono : Ndinendawo engasemva engcono xa ndihamba okanye ndihleli
– Ilizwi elinzulu: Ndandidla ngokuba nelizwi elincinane elidla ngokuphuka. Ilizwi lam ngoku linzulu kwaye lizolile.
Izibonelelo zengqondo
-Ukulibazisa okuncinci: bendihlala ndilibazisa ilooot, ngoku izinto ezikhawulezayo zenziwa ngcono. Ndaqonda ukuba xa ndizibekela amangomso izinto, ndandisoloko ndinelizwi elincinane elithi “ungalibali ukwenza leya naleya njalo njalo” yaye ndisoloko ndisengxakini kuba ndilibele ukwenza okuthile. Ngoku ndenza izinto kwaye ndihlala ndihamba. Ndiyakwazi ukuphila ngalo mzuzu ngaphandle kokukhumbula yonke into encinci ekufuneka ndiyenzile.
-Incinci inkungu yengqondo: Yinto ongenakuyiqonda nyani de ube neentsuku ngaphandle kwayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ndaziva ndinqanyuliwe kwizinto eziyinyani, njengokungathi ndiphakamileyo, ndaziva ndisithukuthezi kwaye ndisisidenge, ndingakwazi ukusebenzisana nabani na okanye nantoni na kwaye ndiqhutywa luloyiko. Ngoku ekubeni inkungu yobuchopho ibuthathaka, ndiziva ndikwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zam nendlela endisabela ngayo. Ndikwanobuntununtunu kwaye ndiyazi kuyo yonke into endingqongileyo, abantu okanye izinto. Ndisenazo iintsuku uloyiko lwam kunye nestress zithatha nje ukulawula ingqondo yam, kodwa ngoku ndiyayiqonda kwaye kulula ukuzola.
– Iinjongo: Ndineenjongo zokwenyani ekufuneka ndizifezekise, ubomi bam bunendlela. Andiphuphi imini yonke ngeemeko ezicingelwayo ezingasoze zenzeke, ngakumbi malunga no-P. Ndisebenza kwizinto zokwenyani ukuze ndenze ikaka … sinobomi obunye kuphela kwaye andifuni kumosha ngokuphupha.
– Ukuxhalaba okuncinci: Ndizolile. Ndiba nestres xa ndithetha nomntu endingamaziyo, kodwa ndiyakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zam kwaye ndilawule ilizwi kunye nomzimba wam. Ndiyakwazi ukugcina unxibelelwano lwamehlo ngokulula kwaye nabantu abaninzi.
Amantombazana: Ndibona amantombazana amaninzi endijongile kwaye ndiziva ndingakhululekanga ukuthetha nawo kodwa kusekuninzi ekufuneka ndisebenze kuko.
-Ulonwabo lulonke: Ndiyazingca kwaye ndonwabile ngokwenza iNoFap kwaye ndibona utshintsho, ngamanye amaxesha ndincuma ngaphandle kwesizathu ... inokubonakala ingaqhelekanga kodwa yinto endingazange ndiyive ixesha elide.
Ndineentsuku ezingama-60 kuphela, ngoko ke kuninzi ekufuneka ndikwenzile, kodwa ndiyaqala ngokucotha ukuqaphela nokuziva zonke izibonelelo endinokuzifumana kula mava. Kunyaka ophelileyo, nokuba ndibuyele kaninzi, yayahluke kakhulu: Ndaqalisa ukuphumeza amanye amaphupha am kwaye kuyandivuyisa ukucinga ngohambo kunye namava endikhe ndawaphila. I-NoFap ngokwenene itshintshile ubomi, ayiyi kukwenzela yonke into kodwa iya kukunceda ukuba uqaphele ukuba ulawula ubomi bakho, ukuba unokukhetha oko ufuna ukukwenza.
Ndaye ndabona into ebaluleke kakhulu: akukho nto ilula ebomini, kuya kufuneka usebenze nzima kuyo yonke into kwaye uthathe inyathelo elinye emva kwamanye ... ulwaneliseko olufumana kwi-PMO. Ulonwabo aluyonjongo, yindlela.
Enkosi kakhulu kuye wonke umntu, ngekhe ndihambe kude kangaka ngaphandle kokuba uqalise kwakhona kunye namabali okuphumelela, ibiyinkxaso enkulu kakhulu kuyo yonke indlela kwaye andisoze ndikubulele ngokwaneleyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba ibali lam linokunceda abanye abantu, hlala womelele!
“Ukuba uhamba esihogweni, qhubeka”
- Winston Churchill
LINK - Iintsuku ezingama-60 : Indlela endiziva ngayo
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