Ndisanda kuphuma kwi-sesh yokuphakamisa kwaye ndacinga ukuba ndingafuna ukwabelana ngebali lam ekudala lidlule apha ngethemba lokukhuthaza abanye ukuba bafikelele amandla abo. Le subreddit itshintshe ubomi bam ngendlela endingazange ndiyicinge kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba eli bali lifutshane (kodwa lide) liqala uhambo lwam lokulihlawula phambili.
Iminyaka eyi-4 edlulileyo ndandingumbutho wentlalontle kunyaka wakhe wokuqala kwiyunivesithi yasempuma-mpuma eyayinamabhongo ka-Elon Musk, kodwa izakhono zokunxibelelana zofudo olubi. Ndandiyi-fapper evuthayo ukususela esikolweni esiphakathi kwaye ndandifakela i-porn ubuncinane kanye yonke imihla. Ndandisazi ngeNoFap ngelo xesha ngenxa yemikhwa yam yeReddit kodwa ndayichitha njengenzululwazi ye-bro-science engasekelwanga kuyo nayiphi na imithombo yokwenyani.
Emva kokugqiba unyaka wam omtsha ndiziva ndikhathazekile ngokwesondo ngobuntombi bam, ndaye ndagqiba ekubeni ndenze utshintsho kwaye ndizame iNoFap. Iiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala zezona zinzima kakhulu kuba andizange ndizive ndinomsindo ngaphambili ebomini bam. Bendiya kutsala amehlo phantse yonke intombazana enomtsalane endadlula kuyo ngexesha lonyaka wesibini. Ukufundela kwithala leencwadi kwakunzima ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, ukunyuswa kwe testosterone entsha kuyinyani, kunye nazo zonke iiflatlines ezichazwe kwi-subreddit. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ufunda ukulawula iminqweno yakho yesondo ngcono kwaye ekugqibeleni ufunda ukugxila kuyo yonke into oyenzayo, njengokufunda. Ngethuba leminyaka elandelayo ye-3 ukuba ndifungele ukunyaniseka kwam kwi-NoFap Hardmode, ndakwazi ukufumana amanqaku aphezulu kwi-120-day streak.
Ndinemiba ye-PE kunye ne-ED ngaphambi kokuba ndiqalise kwakhona. Bahambile ngoku nangona bebulela kwiNoFap.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwenzeka izinto ezintle:
• Izakhono zam zokuhlalisana zaphucuka kakhulu. Ayikhange ikhawuleze kodwa into yangaphambili nasemva kwayo ibonakala lula. Ndandinobukho obungakumbi malunga nabahlobo bam kunye namantombazana. Sithetha ngamantombazana..
• Ndiphulukene nobuntombi bam. Kwaye waqhubeka nokuba nemihla kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kunye neqela lamantombazana ngokunjalo. Ingakumbi amantombazana angamageza. Ixhala lam ekuhlaleni yayiyi-shrimp xa ithelekiswa nenyoka ye testosterone endikhuthaza ukuba ndithathe amanyathelo ngaphandle kwendawo yam yokuthuthuzela.
• Wenze iinzuzo ezinkulu ejimini.
• Fumana amanqaku amaninzi okhuphiswano lwe-scholarship.
• Ndifunde phesheya.
• Ekugqibeleni ndakhaba-esileni kumdlalo wokhuphiswano/ukuzonwabisa endiwuthandayo (iLeague of Legends). Kwabo bafana baqhelene nomdlalo, ndiye ndakwazi ukusuka kwiSilver 4 ukuya kwiPlat 3; ngaphambi kwe-hardmode kwaye ngoku, ngokulandelanayo.
Okona kubalulekileyo, umsebenzi wam watshintsha. Ndiye ndasuka ekubeni ne-sub-3.0 GPA encinci kwi-Accounting ukuya kuluhlu lwe-dean kwii-semesters ezilandelelanayo. Ndabandakanyeka kakhulu kwimibutho yabafundi ndada ndaba ngumongameli wombutho wezoshishino esikolweni sam. Incopho yempumelelo ye-NoFap yeza xa ndikwazile ukufaka amanqaku kwi-internship, kunye nokunikezelwa komsebenzi ekugqibeleni, kwishishini elidumileyo le-Big 4 accounting eSilicon Valley. Oku kwakusemva kokukhatywa malunga ne-16 yezinye iifemu zeshishini kwilizwe liphela, kubandakanywa nezinye ezi-3 zeefemu ezinkulu ezi-4. Njengomfundi wekholeji kumzantsi-mpuma we-US, Andizange ndicinge ukuba oku kunokwenzeka. Kodwa ndakwazi ukuyenza loo nto, nangona kukho iingxaki kunye nokhuphiswano. Kwaye ndinebhongo ukuthi i-99% yayo ibingumbulelo kwisigqibo sam sokulandela iNoFap. Ewe, ukwenza iNoFap kukodwa akuyi kwenza ubuqhophololo ukuba uthi nje ngaphakathi endlwini yakho imini yonke udlala iLeague of Legends. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usebenzisa amandla akho amatsha ukuphuma ngaphandle yonke imihla kwaye uchithe uninzi lwemini yakho yamandla ukujongana neenjongo zakho zobomi, uya kubona inkqubela. Inkqubela phambili eninzi kakhulu ukuba uya kubanjiswa. Inkqubela phezu kwemfezeko.
Ndingathanda ukungena kwiinkcukacha zeendlela kunye nezicwangciso endizithathileyo ukuze ndifikelele kwi-NoFap streaks, kodwa esi sithuba sithatha ixesha elide. Nceda uphawule okanye u-pm me ukuba ungathanda ukufunda ngakumbi.
Hlala uqinile Fapstronauts.
Ndina 22 ngoku.
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