Izibonelelo ziboniswa ngoonobumba abangqindilili ngezantsi ukuba ufuna ukutsiba ibali.
IBALI: Imo yemonki.
Ndineminyaka eyi-17, umSilamsi (akukho nto yenkolo iya kufakwa kwesi sithuba), kuMbindi Mpuma, ndifumene i-masturbation malunga nonyaka we-12, kodwa andizange ndibe likhoboka de kube yi-13, xa kungekudala emva koko, ndafumanisa iphonografi kwaye ndaba likhoboka ngoko nangoko. kuyo.
Kwiminyaka yam emfutshane ye-17 edlulileyo, eyona nto imbi kakhulu, kwaye eyona nto imbi kakhulu ebomini bam yayiyi-PMO.
Kodwa ngaphambi kwayo yonke loo nto, ndandiphila ubomi obuzolileyo kwaye ubuntwana bam babuqhelekile, ixesha lokuqala endakha ndaliphulula amalungu esini kwakunyaka wam we-12, ndandihlamba kwaye ndihlamba umzimba wam ngeshampu, ndachukumisa i-dong yam (? ), ndaye ndayithanda ke le feeling ndimane ndizibamba ndade ndachama, bendisoyika ndixakiwe ukuba kwenzeke ntoni, ndaphantse ndatyibilika ndawa ngenxa yokushukuma kwayo yonke le nto bendiqala ukuyibona ebomini bam. khange siphume isidoda kuba kaloku bendisengumntwana, noba kunjani bendingayithandi lonto kwaye ibingathi ayimnandanga, bendisoyika nokubuza ebazalini bam kuba bendizicingela ukuba ndizomoshakele kakhulu, kwaye bekuxakile. Nam ndandingazi ukuba oku kungxama kwe dopamine emzimbeni wam kwakubangelwa kukuzibamba kwam.
Leyo yayikuphela kwexesha lokuba ndiphulule i-masturbated kunyaka wam we-12 kwaye ndandifuna ukulibala ngayo yonke into.
Ndibe nengqondo eqaqambileyo kuyo yonke indawo endihamba kuyo, ndihlala ndibonisa inani elibalaseleyo lezakhono kuyo yonke into, ubugcisa, izinto zekhompyutha (kwiminyaka yam), ezemidlalo, kwaye ndingoyena ugqwesileyo kwisikolo sam iminyaka emi-3 ngokulandelelana, kodwa nini? Oko kwaba (unyaka we-13) ngaphambi kokuba ndibe likhoboka le-PMO.
Andazi nyani ukuba ndibuyele njani kumlutha wokuphulula amalungu esini nangona ndandiyithiyile kuba yayingeyiyo indlela endandiziva ngayo emva koko (emva kokuba ndilikhoboka layo).
Ngandlela zonke ndabuyela ekuphululeni amalungu esini kwakhona kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ndifike ebutsheni bam, kodwa ndandingekabikho likhoboka (andizange ndibe namaphupha amanzi phambi kweNofap), kwaye uyazi, ngazo zonke ezo zinto zingalindelekanga ezenzeka kuwe xa ufikisa, isimo sengqondo esibi kunye noxinzelelo kunye nokucaphuka ngaphezu koxinzelelo lwesikolo njl njl njl., Oku kwandenza ndanqwenela ukwenza i-masturbate ngakumbi, kunye ne-boom, ndafumana umlutha.
Ndiwamoshele amabanga am, ndaba ngumntu ongenamdla, ndinexhala eligqithileyo lokuba ndingakwazi ukujonga ngqo emehlweni kamama ( wow, ihlazo emehlweni am ndingafuni mntu ukuba abone), abantu baqala ukundixelela ukuba ndiba. ubuvila kunye nomdla omncinci kuyo yonke into, kwaye ndandineminyaka eyi-13-14 kuphela, ngelo xesha, andizange ndidibanise ukudakumba kwi-masturbation, kwaye andizange ndiyidibanise nayo ngokwenkolo.
Ootitshala bam bandibuza ukuba ndifuna uncedo kuyo nayiphi na into okanye ndijongene nemiba nosapho lwam, kwaye andizange ndibe nayo, ndithetha ukuba, ndandidandathekile ngo-24/7, ndandingazi nokuba kutheni okanye yintoni. kwakuqhubeka, kwaye olu nxunguphalo lunzima lwandinyanzela ukuba ndithembele kwezinye izinto ukuze ndizive ndikhululekile, ndaba likhoboka lemidlalo yevidiyo, i-snacks kunye nokutya okungenamsoco, kodwa ndandingonwabanga, kwaye ndaye ndanyusa inani eliqhelekileyo lokuphulula amalungu esini I-1-2 ngosuku ukuya kwi-4-5, yaqala ukuziva ngakumbi, kwaye amabakala am ehla.
Umfundisi-ntsapho owayesazi kakuhle ukuba kukho into eqhubekayo ngam, wathetha nam ngasese kwaye umbuzo wakhe wokuqala wawusithi: "Ngaba uphulula amaphambili?", Ngokuqinisekileyo ndandifana ne-heck heck uyazi njani? Ndaye ndaphendula ngo “No..?”, waphinda wandibuza, nam ndaphendula kwangokunjalo, wandibuza okwesithathu nam ndaphendula kwaso, ndandisoyika kakhulu ndinexhala lokuba angakwazi na ukuba ndiyaxoka. (ngokucacileyo wayesazi), wandibuza ukuba ndiyayazi na into yokuphulula amalungu esini, ndathi: “Ewe, ndiyazi”, emva koko wafuna ukwazi ukuba ndazi njani ngayo, ngokuqinisekileyo ndaxoka ndathi ndiyazi malunga nayo. abantu eklasini yam kodwa bayifumanisa imbi kwaye bendingafuni ukuyenza.
Incoko yaqhubeka ixesha elithile kwaye wandibuza umbuzo wokugqibela: "Ngaba wakha waphulula amaphambili?" Ndathi hayi noko ubuso bakhe bebubonakala ukuba akandikholelwa ngoba bendingoyena mfundi amthandayo ndavele ndanyoshozela, amava akhe ebemazi kakuhle ukuba unobangela wayo yonke lento yenzeka kum kuba bendiziphulula amaphambili.
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku phakathi kwe-14's, ndandisazi malunga ne-porn kunye nendlela yokufikelela kuyo (iindawo ze-porn zivaliwe kwiindawo ezininzi zoMbindi Mpuma, kodwa i-VPN yayisisisombululo), kodwa andizange ndifune ukutyelela iisayithi ze-porn kuba ndivakalelwa kukuba ayilunganga. kwaye kwakubi ngokwenkcubeko, ngokwenkolo nangokuziphatha, ngoko ke ndandijongisisa izinto ezifana neevidiyo zomculo ezivuselela inkanuko, amabali kunye nemifanekiso evuselelayo kwi-intanethi, kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba ukuziphulula amalungu esini kwezo zinto kuvakala ngcono.
Ngexesha elithile (khumbula ukuba ndiphulula i-4-5 ngamaxesha ngosuku), kwakunganelanga, ndagqiba ekubeni ndifuna ukwazi, ukutyelela indawo ye-porn, kwaye ndawela kulo mngxuma onzulu kakhulu.
Yonke into ebomini bam yaba yi x10 worse, ndandichitha iiyure imini yonke ndilila ndikhangela iyeza lokunyanga ukudakumba kwam.
Andizange ndiqaphele ukuba i-PMO yayibangela yonke le ntlungu yengqondo kunye nomzimba kum, ngoko ke ndahlala ndisandisa ukuqina kwayo ukuze ndifumane i-dopamine eninzi.
Ndahlala ndinje de ndafikelela kunyaka wam we-16, apho ndagqiba ekubeni ndizibethe kakhulu kwaye ndiyeke ngokupheleleyo iphonografi (kodwa, ndayenza ngenxa yezizathu zonqulo kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ndicinga ukuba yingozi), ndacinga ukuba ndibe ngumntu onokholo ngakumbi. , ubomi bam babuya kuba lula kwaye buyancipha ukudandatheka.
Kodwa ke ndandiziphulula amaphambili kangangezihlandlo ezi-4-5 ngemini kuba ndandicinga ukuba akukho mbi ukuziva ndonwabile, ndithetha ukuba ndandifumana uyolo ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya kubudlelwane obunxamnye neemfundiso zokholo lwam.
Ndade ndagqiba kwelokuba ndihlale ndedwa egumbini lam, ndaza ndazibuza: “kwenzeka ntoni ngobomi bam? kutheni ndibuhlungu kangaka? kutheni ndimbi kangaka? yini na ukuba ndifune ukufa, ndingenasizathu sakucela ukufa? Kwaye imibuzo emininzi efana nale, ndakhangela izinto zokunceda kwi-intanethi, kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba into enye enokunceda nge-mood kukuzama ukucwangcisa ixesha lam, ngoko ndagqiba ekubeni ndilwe ngokwam kunye nengqondo yam e-addicted kwaye ndiyeke i-masturbation malunga ne-1- Iinyanga ezi-2.5, kodwa ndagcina iingcamango kunye neengcamango.
Izinto ekugqibeleni zaqala ukuba ngcono kube kanye, ndaba nenkuthazo yokufunda nokuphucula, ndaqala ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo kancinci, kwaye ndaqala ukutya ngcono kancinci, kwaye ndaba nephupha lam lokuqala elimanzi, kwaye yayimangalisa, ingcono kunoko. Ukuziva kwamaxesha e-5 ngokuphulula amalungu esini ngosuku olunye, ndaziva ndonwabile kakhulu xa ndivuka, kwaye kwangoko ndazi ukuba isizathu sokuba ndidandatheke kakhulu kukuphulula amaphambili, kodwa kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva koko, kwaye ngenxa yesiphumo sokusukelana, ndawa. kwakhona kwaye kwakunzima ukuyeka phezu kwazo nje zonke ezo zithembiso zaphulwayo zokuba andisayi kuze ndibuye.
Ubuncinci bendinemizila emininzi ukusuka kwi-4 ukuya kwiintsuku ze-20 ngaphandle kwe-pmo.
Lilonke, izinto bezihamba kakuhle kakhulu kwaye nonxibelelwano lwasentlalweni nangona lwalungeluhle kakhulu, lwalungekho mbi kakhulu nalo.
Kodwa ngenxa yeengcamango (lol zikhumbule? Ezo zinto ezimbi zindinyanzele ukuba ndibuyele), ndabuyela kwiividiyo ze-YouTube ezithintekayo kunye nezinto ezifanayo, kwaye emva kwe-orgasm yam yokugqibela ebangelwa i-masturbation (ndandikwi-+25 iintsuku streak), ndafapha kwaye ngoko nangoko ndavele ndamelwa yimvakalelo ndaqhawuka ndakhala ndakhala kakhulu ndasuke ndafuna ukuzibulala ndafuna ukuphelisa intlungu zam zahamba iiyure emva kokuba ndizipholele ndanikezela ngesivumelwano sobomi endingasokuze ndiphulule amalungu entsapho okanye ndibukele. i-porn kwakhona, kuba ngelo xesha, ndandiqinisekile nge-100% ukuba yonke into endiyiva ngayo yayingenxa ye-PMO.
Ndizamile ukukhangela iindlela zokuyeka iphonografi kwaye ndadibana nale nxalenye, ndafunda amabali kwaye ndagqiba ekubeni ndiqhubeke nomceli mngeni, eso sigqibo ndisithathileyo kwiintsuku ze-90 ezidlulileyo, enkosi NoFap, yeyona nto ilungileyo endinayo. wakha wabonwa.
Ngokubanzi, ndadlala i-masturbated kwaye ndabukela i-porns amaxesha amaninzi, ndandicinezelekile kakhulu kwiminyaka yam emva koko, iminyaka eyi-4 kodwa yayibi kakhulu.
Ngendibe lilitye eliqaqambileyo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo ukuba andizange ndifike kwi-PMO. Ubuncinci ndibuyisele umfanekiso wam owaziwayo wokuba ngumfundi ogqwesileyo, ngoku ndiyaziwa, ndithandwa ngumntu wonke, ndajika ndangumntu othandabuzayo, ndayeka ukutya ukutya okungenampilo, ndayeka imidlalo yevidiyo, ndaqala ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, kwaye uluhlu lude. .
Masikhuphe izinto zenkolo okomzuzwana apha, ndingaze ndibuyele kwi-PMO? UNGAZE UNGAZE KWAYE AKUMVA EMVA KWE-90 YEARS.
Ngoku, ubomi bumnandi .., kwaye ndabuza abantakwethu ababedla ngokundibiza ngokuba livila elityebileyo: "Ngaba ndimhle?" Baphendule bonke ngo ewe, bebesoloko benyanisekile ngam so ndizoyithatha, abantu abandibona qho ngeveki okanye ngenyanga khange baqaphele utshintsho oluninzi kuba niyayazi, ukuziphucula kwam ( bendine mini streaks of abstinence so it ) qhubeleka kancinci.
Ngoku into etshintshileyo kum, ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama, ndingatsho ngokuthe ngqo nguNofap.
Ke ndicela undive, ndifunde kakhulu malunga nokugcinwa kwesidoda kunye ne-nofap kwaye ndazama ukuzifunda, ngelixa ndivuma ukuba izinto ezininzi zibonakala zingenakwenzeka kwingcinga yokuqala, ziyinyani kwaye ziyinyani, kwaye abantu bahlukile, unokuthatha ixesha elide ukufumana olo tshintsho.
kwaye ukuba uswele kakhulu ukufumana izibonelelo ngoko unokuphoxeka.
Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na oye wafumana uncedo olunjalo ukuba bathi yi-placebo, kwaye ngokubanzi, akuqinisekisi ukuthetha ukuba ngelixa amawaka abantu abavela kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo kunye neenkcubeko baxela izibonelelo, kwaye abahlawulwa okanye bavuzwa okanye nantoni na ngokuthetha. ukuba, banyanisekile nje.
usenokuthi ziyi-placebo kuba awuzange ube nazo.
IINZUZO ZOKUGCINA I-NOFAP/AMADODA: Banguwe kuphela kwimeko yakho enkulu.
-Akusekho ukudakumba: ngokucacileyo.
-Isizathu: kwaye ndayibona xa ndiqala ukunciphisa i-PMO ngaphambi kokwazi i-nofap.
-Ukuzithemba kunye nokunxibelelana kwamehlo: le yifavourite yam, eye contact yam yayiyeyona imbi kakhulu, ndandingakwazi ukujonga abantu abasenyongweni ebomini bam, umama notata, kwakunzima ukuphila ixesha elide kangaka ndingawajonganga mehlo abo mahle, ndandisoloko ndizama. kuphephe ukudibana kwamehlo, kuba ndandizicaphukela, kwaye ndandivakalelwa kukuba wonke umntu uza kwenza okufanayo kum, ngoku ndithembele kakhulu, ndibolisa abantu kunye nabantu endingabaziyo apho ndihamba khona.
-Ukuzithemba okukhulu: Ndinokuba yi-cocky, kodwa ngoku, ndizibona ndingcono kunabantu abaninzi endibabonayo, ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama, kwaye ndizibona ndingaphezu kwabo bonke abantu abakwiminyaka yam ukususela ekubeni abaninzi abaselula banamathele kumkhwa we-PMO, bacinezelekile. Andikho, bayazonda ngokwabo, andizenzi, kwaye njl., Ndijonge isibuko kwaye ndincume kwaye nditsho ukuba ndibukeka kakuhle kangakanani, ngokuchasene nendlela endandiyi-pmo, ubuso obutyebileyo obungathandekiyo.
-Amehlo aqaqambileyo: ngoku oku kuyinyani, amehlo am akhanya ngakumbi kunangaphambili, kwaye ndiyabona ukukhanya okukhanyayo ngabo, umbala womelele kwaye ubonakala ucace kakhulu.
-ulusu olungcono: Umthunzi oqaqambileyo, akukho buso obunamafutha, akusekho i-acne.
-Amandla angakumbi: Andikwazi kuthetha kakhulu kuba iyazichaza, kodwa ngoku ndibona kulula ukwenza izenzo ezithatha amandla okufezekisa ngokudinwa okuncinci, ngamanye amaxesha ndide ndidinwe.
-Intlonipho kumntu wonke: Oko ndaye ndanentlalontle kwaye blah blah, ndaqonda ukuba amadoda amadala kunam andihlonipha kakhulu, ngathi ndiyintanga yabo, abaninzi bayayincoma indlela endiziphethe ngayo kunye nentlonipho endiyibonisayo kwaye ndiyayifumana. .
-Izakhono ezingcono zentlalo: akukho nto ingako enokuthethwa ngayo.
-Umtsalane wabasetyhini: ngoku yeyona nto ibalaseleyo endakhe ndadibana nayo, kwaye eyona nto ididayo kakhulu, kuba ifana nephupha, andizange ndifumane namava kuyo ngaphambi kweNofap, kwaye yinto engazinzanga, kwaye ingaphezulu kokuzithemba, kuba ngamanye amaxesha ndifumana umtsalane kakhulu ovela kwabasetyhini, ngamanye amaxesha ndiziva ndingabonakali kubo, kodwa ayibalulekanga kangako, kodwa ipholile, ndinokuqinisekisa ukuba yi-10000% yokwenene, kuba njengoko uyazi, ndihlala kuMbindi Mpuma. apho abantu ubukhulu becala bebambelele kwaye benkolo, kwaye nokuba indoda itsaleleka emfazini (okanye ngokuchaseneyo), ayizukuyibonisa loo nto, iya kujonga kude xa ibona ibhinqa elihle [kwiimeko ezininzi ubuncinci] (kwaye ngokuchaseneyo), ke ndiqinisekisa phi umtsalane wam obhinqileyo?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abafazi bandijonga ixesha elide kakhulu (ukuya kwinqanaba elingathandekiyo), kwaye kanye, (khumbula ukuba ndikwingingqi ekhuselekileyo) amantombazana ama-2 aqala ukundilandela kwaye ayegigitheka emva kwam, phambi kwam. amanye amadoda nabafazi apho bekuxakeke kakhulu ndenza ngathi andiwaboni la mantombazana ndahamba ngokukhawuleza. Awunakuze ube nesiganeko esinje kwindawo yonqulo, nokuba unomtsalane, awuzukujongwa ngale ndlela, ndithetha ukuba baya kukuqaphela kodwa baneentloni zokubonisa umdla, kodwa kwiNoFap, imeko yam ibiyiyo. ngokugqithisileyo, abafazi babengenazintloni bandijonge de ndinyamalale emva kwe-horizon (i-epic quote lol), kwaye ndizibona ndiphakathi kwe-5-7 / 10, kwaye kukho amabali amaninzi malunga nomtsalane wabasetyhini (APHO AKUKHO NTO EYENZEKA NGAPHAMBI KWE-NOFAP) kwaye nawe utsho ukuzithemba? Ukuzithemba kwam kwandisa umzuzu ngamnye kunye nemihla ngemihla, kwaye kunjalo, umtsalane uyanyamalala ngamanye amaxesha.
-Ezinye iingenelo ezingenayo indawo yokuzichaza:
Esi sithuba sibe side ngokwaneleyo.
Ekugqibeleni, yonke into endifuna ukuyithetha, olu tshintsho alunakuze lube yinyani ngaphandle kwe-nofap.
UMYALEZO WABANTU ABAQHUBEKA BEBUYA
Uyiqaphele, mhlawumbi.
Ayincami, bendinemizila emininzi kwiminyaka eyi-16-17, ibihlala isiba lula yonke imihla kunye nayo yonke into entsha, ke ingcebiso yam kukuba uyigcine, nokuba ujongana nantoni na, ungayeki, Inkqubela yinkqubela nokuba yintoni na.
Andizikhathalelanga izinto ezifana nomhlaza wedlala lobudoda nokunye, andiphindi ndiphinde ndibuyele, ndiba manzi amaphupha qho emva kwexesha elithile, kwaye oko kwanele ukukhupha i-ejaculation ngenyanga, kwaye andikholelwa ukuba akunampilo ukuhamba. ixesha elide ngaphandle kwe-ejaculation, abantu benkolo ngeba basweleka kudala.
Umhlaza ubangelwa zizinto ezininzi kwaye esona sizathu siphambili asikaziwa ngamayeza.
Bopha ibhanti lakho kwaye uthathe uhambo.
KUTSHANJE i-NOFAP KUNYE NOMSEKI WAYO bebesoloko behlaselwa yi-PORN NABAHLOBO BAYO, NGABANGO ABANGABUHLUNGU NJENGOKUBA ABAMHLOPHE ABANGABAMHLOPHE, ALT RIGHT, ANTI GAY, ANTI WOMEN, ANTI SEMITIC, APHO NDIYAQINISEKILEYO ISISULUM. Izihlunu kuluntu lwe-alt right, indlela ehlekisa ngayo), IMPUMA EPHAKATHI ITHETHA NGAPHEZU KWE-75% YEGAZI LAM YI-SEMITIC, KUNYE NE-ANTI GAY? ABANTU ABANINZI AMADODA APHA, KUNYE NABANTU ABA-ANTI? Ndiyathemba ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba ababhinqileyo bayangqina ukuba AYILUNGILEYO.
WONKE UMNIKELWE KWI-NOFAP, KULONKE UHLANGA, INKOLO NENKCUBEKO.
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