Ndineminyaka eyi-22, kwaye oko kusenokwenzeka ukuba yayiyi-16, eli qela lalisisikhokelo kum, lindifundisa ngemeko yomzimba kunye ne-neurological ye-intanethi ye-intanethi, kwaye indenza ndizive ndindedwa.
(Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba iziselo ezinxilisayo azichasani notywala, kodwa inkcubeko yethu ayikulungelanga kwaphela ukuthetha ngokuphila ngaphandle kwe-porn ngaphandle kokuba kuvakala ngathi awuchasene ne-porn, okulihlazo.)
Ndifuna ukubelana ngebali lam, kunye nezixhobo ezithile eziye zandinceda.
Ndijongene ne-PIED kwaye ndisiya kuyo, kwaye ndiyazi ngokusuka kumava ukuba inokuhamba kude ukuba i-porn iyanqunyulwa ebomini bakho. ymmv, kodwa yandisebenzela.
Ndixelele i-gf yam ngelo xesha, xa siqala ukuzama ukulala ngesondo, ukuba andikulungelanga, kwaye wayeqonda. Sazama kwakhona inyanga okanye emva koko, emva kokuba ndiye kubanda-turkey kwi-porn, kwaye i-ED yam ihambile.
Ndiyazi nokuba kungabuyela EMVA ukuba ubuyisa i-porn ebomini bakho, oluhlobo olunokonakalisa. Kwangoko kulo nyaka, kwakude kudala emva kobudlelwane bokuqala, ndandinokuma-ubusuku-omnye, kwaye u-ED wam ubuyile. Kwakulihlazo, kodwa nangokucacisa- ndaye ndacebisa ukuba ndingabinakho ukungabinamanyala nangaphandle komntu omnye. Into endinika ithemba kukwazi ukuba i-ED inokuhamba xa ndiyekile.
Ndifuna ukukwazisa nonke ukuba ndenza ngcono kakhulu kunokuba bendinjalo xa bendiqala. Nantsi into endincedileyo apha endleleni:
Ukwamkela okukubangela ukuba ubambe kwaye ubaphephe.
Oku kwathatha iminyaka emininzi kum. Izinto zam zokuqala ezazibangela iifestile ze-incognito kunye neendawo zabantu abadala. Ke ndiyifumene indlela yokukhubaza i-incognito ye-chrome kunye ne-SelfControl esetyenzisiweyo kwezo ndawo zithintela. Kuqala bendicinga, ukuvimba nje izinto ngekhe kundifundise ukuzilawula, akunjalo? Iya kundenza ndixhomekeke! Asiyonyani leyo. Ezi zinto ziyanceda kuba ziyakunyanzela ukuba ukhumbule ukuba kwakunjani ubomi ngaphandle kwezi sayithi ebomini bakho. Bayakunceda ukuba ungabinamdla kubo, ukuze ubadinge kancinci.
Emva kwexesha ndiye ndaqonda ukuba i-youtube ngokwayo yayiyingxaki kum. Andikwazi ukuvimba i-youtube ngokulula, kodwa into endinokuyenza kukungayikhuthazi. Ndisebenzisa le ndawo ibizwa ngokuba yiHabitica.com, umkhwa / uluhlu lokwenza i-RPG, kwaye nangona ndihlala ndingayithandi imidlalo, ndiyayithanda le ndawo ukuba ibit. Ndisebenzise le ndawo iminyaka ngoku. Kutshanje ndifumene ulwandiso lwe-chrome Habitica SitePass ekuhlawulisa ngeHabitica ngegolide ngokundwendwela iisayithi ezivaliweyo kubude bexesha elimiselweyo. Igolide kwiHabitica ingasetyenziselwa ukufumana umvuzo. Ngoku, xa ndichwetheza kwi-youtube, ndifumana into ethi, “Uzama ukufikelela Www.youtube.com! Kuxabisa i-20.00 ukufikelela kwimizuzu engama-20! ” Ungaseta ixabiso kunye nexesha lakho. Kuhle kuba kushiya unyulo kum, ngelixa undikhumbuza ngeenjongo zam eHabitica.
Andisasebenzisi i-SelfControl kakhulu, nangona kunjalo ndinokukhubazeka kwe-incognito.
Funda, ugqithise kudano lwakho!
Nantsi ingcinga yam: ukufunda ngemizabalazo yabanye abantu yokujonga iphonografi, kunye nokufunda ngeentloni kunye nendlela yokoyisa, kubalulekile ukuba ushiye ihlazo lakho kunye nokusetyenziswa kwe-porn. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba iphonografi ayisiyo ngxaki ngokwemvelo, kodwa okusizisayo siyisebenzisa ngokunyanzelekileyo- kum, yayikukuxhalaba, ukugqibelela, uloyiko lokusondelana ngokwenyani. Nazi izinto ezimbini ezifundwayo andinakucebisa ngokwaneleyo:
Amandla okuba semngciphekweni nguBrene Brown.
Ndiyazi ukuba ucinga ntoni, yintoni ihlazo kunye nokuba sesichengeni kokuhambelana nokusetyenziswa kwe-porn? Nangona umsebenzi kaBrown ungashukuxeki ngokucacileyo ekusebenziseni iphonografi, ujongana nento endikholelwa ukuba yingcambu yomcimbi- iintloni, kunye nendlela yokoyisa iintloni ngokuba sesichengeni. Yayitshintsha indlela endibujonga ngayo ubomi. Yinto endikucebisa ngayo nakubani na. Inxalenye enkulu yesizathu sokuba ndenze le post kungenxa yokuba bendifuna ukwabelana ngebali lam ukuze ndigqithe kwihlazo lam. Uneentetho ze-TED ngokuqinisekileyo ekufuneka uzijongile.
Ubudoda nguTerry Crews
Lo mzekelo wobomi ngumzekelo omhle wokusebenzisa ukuba semngciphekweni ukoyisa ihlazo kwaye ube yinguqulelo yesiqu sakho. Crews uchaza eyakhe imizabalazo yokulutha iphonografi, indlela amlimaze ngayo nosapho, kunye nendlela awayisingatha ngayo, waxolelana kunye nenkosikazi yakhe, kunye nokuziphatha okungafunekiyo okuyityhefu. Ubhale le ncwadi phambi kwentshukumo ye-MeToo, kwaye ukuba ulilandile ibali lakhe kutshanje, uxelele elakhe ibali lokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Ungumzekelo kum wobukhalipha, kwaye uyandikhumbuza ukuba kutheni bonke aba bafazi benesibindi sokuthetha.
Okokugqibela, zixoleleni !!!
Ndizibethile ngenxa yemizabalazo yam yokulutha kweziyobisi, kwaye inyani kukuba, kungcono kakhulu ukuyamkela inkqubela yakho. Ndenza ngcono kakhulu ngoku. Ukuba ufunda le nto, sele ukwindawo elungileyo, ukuzifundisa, ukufumana uluntu. Uyakhathala ngokuzenza umntu ongcono, kwaye kuyamangalisa oko. Wenza kakuhle kwaye ungayeki.
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