Ndikhe ndavula kwaye ndicima i-nofap iminyaka emi-4 okanye emi-5 ngoku. Ndiphumelele izihlandlo ezininzi ze-90+ zeentsuku, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukunika umbono osempilweni wabasetyhini kunye nesondo. Iyakhulula ngenene! [Ngoku, ndiphulukene nobunyulu bam ngo-22] Ngaba ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kunditshintsha? Ndazi njani ukuba ndimfumene umntu ofanelekileyo endinoyenza naye? Kuya kuba njani? Iya kuluchaphazela njani ulwalamano naloo mntu?
Andikuthumeli oku njengebali lempumelelo okanye ukufumana ukuhalalisela. I had a lot of questions about being a virgin, so ngoku andiseyo virgin, i feel forte to share what I realised to those are in the same position ndandikuyo.
Ndikhuliswe ngemilinganiselo yobuKristu kwaye ndandisoloko ndingqubana. Uluntu lundixelela into eyahlukileyo kunento eyenziwa ngabazali. Kwaye kwakhona, umzimba wam wawufuna ukwabelana ngesondo, kodwa ukhuliswe ngemilinganiselo yobuKristu (endiyibulelayo nge-btw), ndandifuna ukuyiqaphela kwaye ndingasayi 'kuyimosha'. Kodwa ndaziva ndiphikisana ngoko ndagqiba ekubeni ndingafuni ukuba uluntu lundixelele ukuba ndiziva njani ngesondo, ndandifuna ukuzazi ngokwam.
Ngo-Agasti, ndadibana nentombazana, (yayimalunga neentsuku ezingama-50 ngelo xesha, ekugqibeleni yafikelela kwi-100) kwaye yaba yintombi yam kule mpelaveki. Uphinde waba ngu kiss wam wokuqala ngo August.
Kwimpelaveki edlulileyo, mna naye sabelana ngesondo (kabini), yayilixesha lethu lokuqala. Into endiyibonileyo kula mava:
Ukwabelana ngesondo akuyi kukutshintsha ngomlingo njengomntu. Kule sub, abantu bathetha ngesondo ngokungathi sisiphelo esipheleleyo senjongo ebomini. Ndingathi, hayi, phumla, kulungile, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ungagxininisi kuba unyulu. Akukho ntloni ngokufika emva kwexesha 'kumdlalo', (ndina-22)! Ngokusuka kumava am, isondo ngumsebenzi wokwenza nomntu, kungekhona utshintsho lobomi. Andiziva ngathi kukho ngaphambi nasemva. Yayingumsebenzi omhle nangona kunjalo! Kodwa eyona nto yayinkulu ngayo kum yayilunxibelelwano phakathi kwam nentombi yam. Ukwazi ukuba undifuna njengokuba nam ndimfuna.
Ke ingcebiso yam kuye nabani na oxakwe yile yokuba usenyulu; Ungakhathazeki kakhulu! Kuya kuza, kuya kuba kuhle! Musa ukuzityela ngento yokuba uziva ulahliwe. Musa ukusukelana nenxila, nenxila; Xa ifika, uya kubona ukuba eyona nto imangalisayo luthando olufumana komnye umntu, hayi iimvakalelo zomzimba. Ukumanga kwam kokuqala (kwiminyaka eyi-21) kwakumangalisa, mhlawumbi kuyamangalisa ngakumbi kunokuba neentlobano zesini okokuqala. Yenza ilungile xa uyenza!
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kunokuba yimibono emihle kwabanye benu. Ukuba kukho nayiphi na imibuzo malunga namava am… AMA!
LINK - ndaphulukana nobuntombi bam! Zintombi zeNofap, mamelani!
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