Sele ngaphezulu konyaka ukusukela oko ndaya kumava, ke lixesha lokuba uthethe ngokuvakalayo. I-porn kufuneka iphathwe njengaso nasiphi na isiyobisi. Kulungile ngexabiso elincinci, kodwa ukuba iphuma ngaphandle kolawulo (kulula nge-intanethi ekhawulezayo) kwaye iba ngumkhwa, kukho ingxaki, ngakumbi ukuba sithetha ngabakwishumi elivisayo abasakwinkqubo yokuphuhlisa isini sabo. Imvakalelo yesini yinto enamandla kwaye sinayo ngesizathu esihle. Ungayisebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo, njengesiqhelo sokukunceda ukuba wenze ubomi bakho bube ngcono, okanye ungatsiba kwiscreen sekhompyuter ukwenza ukuba imke. Ndikhethe ukwenza okwangaphambili.
Ukukunika umxholo malunga necala lam: bendihlala ndiyazi kakuhle into yokuba ukubukela iphonografi yindlela ebubudenge yokuchitha ixesha lakho, kodwa ndiyenzile (phantse) yonke imihla nokuba kunjalo, ndingazi ngemiphumo eyingozi. Kunyaka ophelileyo, ukuba yi-23 kwaye usondela phakathi kwe-20s ngaphandle kokufumana umzuzu osondeleyo kunye nentombazana- nokuba ndanga, ndingasathethi ke ngesondo- ndiye ndabona ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ukuba ndiyaqhubeka nokwenza lento bendisenza (kwaye andiyenzi) ngalo lonke elixesha, izakuhlala injalo kwaye unyaka nonyaka ogqithileyo, ndiza kubanomsindo ngakumbi, ndicaphuke ndinomsindo. Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ndikhethe into enye endiyicaphukela kakhulu ebomini, inokuba ngabantu abakrakra nabanenzondo abangazikhathazi ngokwenza nantoni na ukulungisa izinto ezibenza babe lusizi, bebeka ityala kwabanye endaweni yoko (uyazi, abantu bathanda ii-incels ). Ndiyakwenza nantoni na ukuba ndingabi ngomnye wabo.
Ndenze njalo. Ndifumene i-PMO-free ukuqala kwehlobo i-2017 kwaye ndathembisa ukuba Ngexesha elizayo ndine-orgasm, iya kuba kunye nomfazi. Eyona nto yenzekileyo emva kweenyanga ezine kunye nentombazana yasemzini endadibana nayo ngaphezulu kweTinder. Wayengakholelwa ukuba ndiyintombi enyulu kwaye kwangoko ndathi ndiyaxoka… Khange ndiyikhathalele isityholo, nangona kunjalo: Andizange ndikholelwe ukuba ndingabonwa ndinomtsalane kuye nabani na, ke ukungqinwa ukuba ndiyiposile ngale ndlela ndaziva ndilungile.
Kubo nabaphi na abafana nam: kholelwe kuwe kwaye unganikezeli. Kunomvuzo. Iiveki zokuqala ezintathu zazinzima kum, izibongozo zazomelele kwaye ziphazamisa, kodwa ungaboyisa ngokuzigcina uxakekile. Emva koko iba ngcono, uya kuba nomxholo ngakumbi ngesini sakho. Ukuthinta ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nentombazana ayiziva ingonwabanga kwaye ingonwabanga, kuvakala kulungile, ngokungathi wenza into elungileyo. Izibongozo zisekhona, kodwa ngoku zijolise kubafazi bokwenyani, hayi kwi-PMO. Ukuba unengxaki yokuhlangana namantombazana kwaye uzive uxhalabile ngokusondela kuwo, oku kunokuba yinto oyifunayo. Ngokwam andikaze ndibone flatline, bendothukile kuyo yonke inkqubo.
I-NoFap ayilulo unyango olungummangaliso kuzo zonke iingxaki zobomi bakho, nangona kunjalo. Ukuphuhlisa imikhwa emitsha, esempilweni, ukufumana uxinzelelo lwentlalo, ukuphucula izakhono zentlalo kunye "nomdlalo" - konke oku kuhamba ngendlela ende, iNoFap sesinye sezixhobo ezininzi onokuzisebenzisa ukuze ufike apho ufuna ukuba khona ebomini. Kum (njengabanye abaninzi), injongo yayiba yimpumelelo ngakumbi kumantombazana (kunye nokuphulukana nobuntombi bam). Olona hlobo kuphela lokwenza oko kukuba ngenene phuma uye kubakhawulela - I-NoFap inokukunika i-Push, kodwa yinto engacacanga; kufuneka uthabathe inyathelo lokuqala. Thatha UMSEBENZI, IZIKHOKELO. Ubomi bakho abuzukubangcono ngaphandle kokuba uphume kwindlela yakho yokutshintsha.
Kukho izinto kunye nezixhobo ezinokukunceda apha endleleni. Ndingacebisa i-RSDMax, uValentino Kohen kunye noTodd Valentine - amajelo kwiYouTube, bafumana itshizi ngokwenene ngamanye amaxesha ngesimo sabo sokucofa kwaye bahlala bezama ukuthengisa iinkqubo zabo (awuzidingi), kodwa phakathi kwayo yonke loo nto, ungafunda into okanye ezimbini kwaye ufumane umbono ohlukileyo ekunxibelelaneni namantombazana ngendlela yesondo. I-Tinder inokukunceda ukuba unengxaki yokusondela kumantombazana njengoko ikuvumela ukuba usitsibe eso sigaba, kodwa ungaxhomekeki kuso. Ukudibana namantombazana kubomi bokwenene kumnandi ngakumbi wakuba uqhele kwaye kukuqhubela phambili.
Dibanisa imikhwa emitsha yempilo. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba le yinyani ibaluleke ngakumbi kwaye iluncedo kunokuba ungabinayo i-PMO-free. Oku kubandakanya ukuvuka ngexesha elifanelekileyo (umthetho wam kukungaze uvuke emva kwe-9 am, nokuba ndinokhetho lokulala ebhedini imini yonke-ayisiyonto iphambili, kodwa ndinamathela kuloo mthetho), Ukuzivocavoca rhoqo (nokuba kube kanye ngeveki kulungile), zibophelele kwizinto ozithandayo kwaye uzenze rhoqo. Abantu, kubandakanya amantombazana, bayatsaleleka ngokwemvelo kubantu abazithembileyo nabaziva bonwabile ngeziqu zabo. Ukuzithemba ngokwenyani kunye nokonwaba kunokuza kuphela ngaphakathi, ngokwoneliseka yile nto uyiyo kunye nento oyenzayo ebomini - ke ngoko beka ubomi bakho ngendlela leyo eyenza ukuba ibe bubomi obufanelekileyo! Nokuba kwenzeka ukuba ungatshati okwangoku.
Inqaku lokugqibela: Ndophule umgaqo wam kaninzi kulo nyaka uphelileyo, ndicinga ukuba "ngoku ndide ndayifezekisa injongo yam, ndingenza nantoni na endiyithandayo" - nto leyo engumbono osisidenge kwaye ingekho enye into ngaphandle kwesizathu sokubuyela kwindlela endizamile ngayo Kunzima ukubaleka. Ngoku ndizimisele ukuhlala kude ne-porn ubomi bam bonke-ingca iluhlaza kweli cala locingo.
Musa ukunikezela, kuya kuba kufanelekile ekugqibeleni!
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