Makhe ndiqalise oku ngokuthi andikhulelanga naziphi na i-superpowers kwiintsuku zokugqibela ze-100. Andiboni kudonga, andinawo amanye amantombazana andilandela ngeenxa zonke kunokuba ndandiqala (ngokukodwa nje). Ndiyazi kakuhle ukuba le nto ndiyibhalayo izokuvela njengeyona nto iphambili, ukuqhayisa. Kodwa. Ndiziva ngathi ndingumntu owahlukileyo.
Ndiqale ukuzama ukuyeka ukubonwa kwi-porn ye-2 kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, kodwa andakwazi ukuzibophelela. Ndizame izinto ezimbalwa, kubandakanya:
- I-Nan Nan, i-blocker ye-K9, etshintsha ifayile yam yeenginginya, iband turkey
- Ukutshixa ifowuni yam kwiindawo ezingamanyala
Kodwa akukho namnye wayo osebenzayo. Andifumani ndawo. Ukuya kwinqanaba elikhulu ndiyekile ukunikezela kwaye ndayoneliseka yi-1-2 fap / inkqubo yemihla ngemihla. Kodwa emva koko kwenzeka into.
Bendithetha nomzala wam njengoko bendimqhuba ekhaya xa endixelela ukuba ndiyeke iphonografi. Ukunika umxholo koku, umzala wam utsalwa nguH kunye ne-Ice kwaye ungene kwaye uphumile ekuvuseleleni amaxesha ambalwa. Utata wam wayeneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, omnye umzala usweleke kwi-OD ngaphambili.
Ngaphandle kokuthetha, kundibethile. Kunzima nyhani. Ndikhumbula ngokucacileyo imvakalelo yokuntywila yokuya ndinayo xa ndandiqonda ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni.
Nanku umntu endimaziyo ubomi bam bonke, ngokunqwenela ngaphakathi nokuphuma kwi-rehab azame ukuyeka, endixelela ukuba ndihlise phonografi kuba izakundibhanxa. Nanku umfana odinga uncedo ezama ukundinceda ndihlale kude nento acinga ukuba izakundilimaza. Oko akutsho ukuba iziyobisi ezinzima azibi - kukuthi lo mfo, nakwisihogo sakhe, uyandilumkisa ngento xa efuna uncedo.
Ukuba kukho umntu obone ukuba ufuna uncedo olungxamisekileyo uyaqala ukubonelela nina Ingcebiso, awuhlali phantsi kwaye ucinge ngayo okwesibini?
Ngapha koko ifikile kum ngokwenene, ngoko ndiyekile apho emva koko, ngaphambi kokuba ndimlahle.
Iintsuku ze100 ukusukela ngoko, andisenguye umntu ofanayo. Ndibetha owona msongo mde KUYO, ndaye ndagqibela ukutshintsha ubomi bam kakhulu kangangokuba andikholwa.
Umahluko kukuba ngeli xesha bendizinikele ngokupheleleyo, ndizinikele ngokupheleleyo kwisizathu. Khange ndiyinike 99% - ndiyinike yonke into. Khange ndibambe ndawo enye, okanye ndithembele nakweyiphi na into yangaphandle. Ndi… ndithathe isigqibo sokungaphindi ndiyenze, kwaye ndancamathela kuyo. Ndingathetha ngale nto ngeenkcukacha ezininzi ukuba niyathanda (ndingumntu ojolise kwiinkcukacha), kodwa ekugqibeleni kum ukubuyiswa kwam kubandakanya into enye ebalulekileyo: ukuzibandakanya kumxholo wokuziphatha gwenxa.
Kodwa izinto zaqala ukwenzeka ezanditshintsha ngokupheleleyo. I-Pornfree yayisisiqalo nje - yandibonisa ukuba, ngezixhobo ezifanelekileyo, ndingazitshintsha ngabom ngokulunge ngakumbi kancinci ngokusebenzisa into efana nayo r / iXeffect (Ngelizwi lam, endikhe ndathetha ngalo ngaphambili).
Ndiye ndayeka I-porn, emva kweentsuku ze-28 ndayeka ukufota (ndaze ndasilela kaninzi).
Ndaye ndayiyeka isnoozing, ndaqala ukuvuka kusasa. Ukugcwalisa ixesha endiqale ukucamngca ngalo kunye nokwenza ii-tabatas zasekuseni.
Ndisebenzise ixesha lam elitsha elisimahla kunye namandla (ukusuka ekungafayini okanye ekubukeni i-porn) ngokuhlwa ukuze ndifunde kwaye ndilungiselele umsebenzi endandiwufuna ukusukela ngoJanuwari 2017 (kodwa ekuqaleni wawungafunwa). Ndisebenzise le ntembelo intsha (kwakhona, kungeyiyo iphonografi, kodwa ngenxa yokufumana amandla am ukuba ndingaqhelanga ukuba likhoboka) ukufikelela ebantwini kunye nokuqalisa uthungelwano.
Ndayeka ukutya ukutya okune-junk, kunye noshukela, kwaye ndaqala ukucwangcisa iintsuku zam ukuzama nokuphucula isazela sam ekuhambeni kwexesha (enkosi uJohn Peterson).
Ndafumana imithwalo eyaliwe. Ngaphaya ngaphaya. Kodwa bekungabinamsebenzi- kuba ndiye ndasilela kuyo yonke imikhwa (ngaphandle koononophala) ubuncinci kabini, kwaye ndaqonda ukuba leyo yayiyinxalenye yenkqubo. Ndabamba ikhephu kwaye ndaphucula amandla am kude kumabonwakude ukuze ndiqhubeke ndiziphakamisa.
Ngapha koko, ibali elifutshane elifutshane- Ndifumene isithembiso izolo. Isivumelwano endisityikityayo sibeka i $ 27k ukusuka apho ndandikhona ngeli xesha kunyaka ophelileyo, kwaye ndandisele ndihlawulwe ngokufanelekileyo (Big 4).
TLDR:
Ukuyeka iphonografi kwabutshintsha ubomi bam - kodwa hayi kwaphela kuba oko kwakundoyikisa ngamandla.
Undibonise into endinokwazi ukuyenza, kwaye undinike nje okuncinanana kwicala elifanelekileyo, endiye ndaliqhela likhephu ndaya kwimisebenzi emikhulu nemikhulu. Ekugqibeleni ndikumkhondo ndiyazingcayo ngawo, kwaye ngekhe ndikwenze ngaphandle kwakho.
Ndonwabile ukukunceda nina bantu kuyo nayiphi na into endizilungiselele yona- umthambo, isondlo, ukuvuka kwangoko, ukucamngca, ukunxibelelana nabantu, ukwenza udliwanondlebe, akukho fap, kunye noononophala. Ndonwabile ukuthetha ngale nto ndiyicebayo kwikamva, okanye yeyiphi imikhwa endiyibona ilunge kakhulu!
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Ke indlela endibona ngayo, ekugqibeleni ikho i-equation yokuba ingaba uqhubeka uphinda ubuyekeyeke, othi, xa uphinda ubuyela, ujongeka unje:
Amandla <(ukukhuthaza ukubukela - izithintelo zoononophala)
Uphi na umsebenzi we: ((wefffsusa intshukumisa) x (umda oshiyekileyo)
Ndidlulele kwizigaba ezimbini eziphambili ekubuyiselweni kwam kwimeko. Isishwankathelo:
- Ukunyusa imiqobo kwi-porn
- Yongeza 'amandla aseleyo' kunye 'neentshukumo zamanyala'
Ndizakucacisa ukuba ndithetha ukuthini:
Iimpawu zam zokuqala zaziza kuphakamisa izithintelo zoononophala phezulu njengoko ndandinako, ngethemba lokuba iya kuphelisa umnqweno wam wokubukela iphonografi kangangokuba ingqondo yam iyakwazi ukukhaba kwaye iyongamele. Ndicinga ukuba le yindlela eqhelekileyo yabantu abaninzi-Oko kukuthi, sika i-porn ngokumisela iibhlokhi ezininzi kangangoko unakho, kwaye uligqibe ikamva lakho lokunxanelwa ikamva kangangokuba 'uvuke' ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke nantoni na embi .
Oku kusebenze kakuhle (ndifumene malunga neentsuku ze-20ish), kodwa ekugqibeleni akuphumelelanga kuba iibhlokhi bebengasebenzi kakuhle kwaye bendizokufumana indlela ebangqongileyo.
Enye ingxaki endinayo ngale ndlela kukuba ngokubeka izithintelo awukhuthazi naluphi na utshintsho ngaphakathi. Nangona uza kuba nakho ukudlulisa umothuko wokuqala wokurhoxa, ekugqibeleni isimilo sakho sisafana, yiyo loo nto ekugqibeleni siza kubangelwa yindlela. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, uyakuxhomekeka kubhlokhi njenge-crutch kwaye ungaze ube 'ngcono'.
Indlela yam yesibini yasebenza ngcono. Ndaye ndabona ukuba iibhlokers ekugqibeleni ziyindlela ebuthathaka yokusondela kwingxaki, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba nditshintshe icala lasekhohlo lenxaki ngasentla. Ukwenza oko ndenze izinto ezimbini, endiza kuthetha ngazo ngokwahlukeneyo: ukunqande ezo 'ziphantsi zamandla', kwaye ndonyuse 'izizathu zamanyala'.
Ndaye ndaziqonda kakuhle iingxaki zam zoononophala ixesha elide, kwaye ke ndaqala ukubona iipateni zokuba ndinganikezela ngokulula kwisilingo. Umzekelo woku kukukhangela ebusuku, okanye ukuhambahamba kwiwebhu ngosuku olungaphezulu kweyure okanye ezimbini. Nangona bendingazukuchukunyiswa * yiyo nantoni na, ekugqibeleni ndinikezele kwisibongozo esincinci kuba bendiphelelwa sisizathu sokwenza nantoni na.
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ungawonyusa amandla akho ngokuhamba kwexesha ngokucamngca kunye nokusebenza kwisazela sakho, esiya kuthi sandise eli xabiso, kodwa ndiqale ngokunciphisa ukubonwa kwam kwiimeko apho bendisazi ukuba ndiza kuba namandla aphantsi (kwiintsuku zokuqala ezingama-28, kunjalo ). Ngaba iyavakala loo nto? Umahluko ocekeceke kukuba ngelixa unokunyusa amandla ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuqala kungcono ukuphepha iimeko apho uyazi ukuba uya kuba buthathaka kwindawo yokuqala.
Ndicinga ukuba kulapho ipushups kunye nemvula ebandayo inokuthi iwele kancinci. Sele uphantsi ngamandla, ukanti uyayonwabisa ngombono wokungena kwisitya esibandayo okanye wothuse umzimba wakho ngokwenza umthambo- ngaba yinto onokuthi uyenze kwimeko ephantsi yokuqina? Andicingi njalo.
Ngapha koko, bendihlala ndicwangcisa, ndixhoma kunye nabahlobo, kwaye ndilala kwangoko ukunqanda ezo ndawo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha ndiye ndonyusa ukubonakaliswa kwam kwiimeko 'ezinamandla aphantsi' kodwa ndikwazi ukuzilawula njengoko ndinamava amancinci okuba yimifanekiso engamanyala.
Isikhonkwane sokugqibela ebhokisini sasinyusa 'inkuthazo yamanyala'. Oku ibizezandla ezantsi umahluko omkhulu phakathi kweli xesha nelokugqibela. Esi sisizathu onaso ngokukhethekileyo kulo msebenzi; kukuthatha inxaxheba ebendithetha ngako kwiposti yam yoqobo.
Khawufane ucinge oku njengegesi yokugqibela onayo kwitanki, kodwa kuphela kokuya kwi-porn yasimahla. Kukutshintsha kwengqondo okuphindaphindiweyo kuwo onke amandla oshiyekileyo, kwaye kukwenza womelele ngakumbi xa uzibophelele.
Ndicinga ukuba esi sesona sizathu sokuba abanye abantu babenakho ukwenza le mikhwa ibandayo ikhankanywe ngasentla ngelixa abanye bengekho. Ngelixa wena nomntu x ninokuba namandla alinganayo aseleyo, ukuzinikela kwakho kwisizathu kuthetha ukuba uyakwazi ukucofa ngaphezulu kwiyunithi nganye yamandla oshiyekileyo. Akakwazi ukuhlamba ishawa kuba akazinikelanga, unako kuba uyaqonda apho iwela khona.
Ngapha koko, ngenxa yale nto ndenze izinto ezimbalwa: Ndifunde r / i-pornography mihla le. Ndifunde, ndaxoxa, i-YBOP kunye 'ne-Shows'. Ndichithe ixesha elininzi ku r / iXeffect, kwaye ngokwenene, i-metabolised ngokuqinisekileyo imiphumo emibi ye-porn. Le yayiyeyona nto inkulu kum.
Ndiqinisekile izihlobo ezimbalwa ezisondeleyo, ndaqinisekisa intombi yam (Okwexeshana), iiyadi zonke ze-9-ndandingumntu ocaphukisayo ukuba ndibenokubakho ubuncinci iveki okanye ezimbini ngelixa bendiza kuza nayo yonke into.
Kwaye into icinyiwe: ayisiyiyo into endiyilindeleyo emdala ukuba ndiyenze. Ukuba ndifuna ukuphumelela ... kufuneka ndiyeke. Yayiyiyo leyo.
Kulungile TLDR:
Iphonografi iphinda ibuye i-equation yile: (amandla) <(khuthaza ukubukela- izithintelo kwi-porn)
Izithintelo kwizenzo azincedi ekuhambeni kwexesha kuba aziqinisekisi utshintsho lomlinganiswa. Endaweni yoko, jolisa ekunciphiseni isikali ngokwenza izinto ezintathu:
- Ziphephe iimeko ezinomda ophantsi
- Phucula amandla akho ekuhambeni kwexesha
- Yongeza ukubandakanyeka kwakho kuluntu lwe-pornfree ukuze uzibophelele kuyo yonke into ekuzaziseni. Le i imkhuba wamazinyo.
Uxolo ukuba oku kukubi - kudlulile ezinzulwini zobusuku apha, kodwa bendifuna ukuthumela into kuwe ngaphambi kokuba ndilale.
UJP uthetha malunga nesazela (CS) esineenxalenye ezimbini: ucwangco kunye nokukhuthala. Ndiyakujongela phantsi oku, kodwa ucwangco lwe-IIRC, umzekelo, kukukwazi kwakho ukwenza kunye nokuvelisa izicwangciso; kwaye ukusebenza ngenkuthalo kukukwazi kwakho ukunamathela kwizicwangciso zokugqitywa.
I-JP ikhankanya ukuba i-IQ kunye ne-CS zezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekumiseleni impumelelo yakho kamva ebomini. Ngelixa i-IQ ngokungenakuphikiswa ingenakutshintshwa, i-CS inakho (ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba).
Ke ukhankanya ukudala ishedyuli eqhelekileyo njengendlela yokuphucula i-CS-oku kukuziqeqesha ngokwenene ngokulandelelana kwexesha. Ndifumanise ukuba ukuseta ishedyuli yonke imihla kundincedile ndangenisa u-odolo ngakumbi ebomini bam, kodwa ndikwakrola namaxesha okwenza imisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu (inqaku likaGoogle Cal Newport kwiXesha lokuVimba). Ngokwenza oku ndiye ndabona ukuba izicwangciso ezibuthathaka zijongeka kanjani, njengoko ndinokuthelekisa ukuba yayiyintoni na ishedyuli yam kunye noko ndandigqiba ukugqibezela.
Ukusebenzela ukukhuthala, kufuneka uphucule amandla akho 'okuthetha into emva koko uyenze'. r / iXeffect yindlela emnandi yokwenza oko, njengamanyala asimahla. Ukujonga kwamehlo kweentaka eziliwaka kukuba uthi uza kuyenza xyz, emva koko uyenze. Ubunono bayo kukuba uyaqonda ukuba ungawuphula njani umsebenzi ube ziinqununu ezilawulwayo kwaye emva koko uwugqibe- Oko kukuthi, uyaqonda ukuba umsebenzi kufuneka ube mncinci kangakanani (kuwe buqu) awubeki mngcipheko wezinto ukugqibezela loo ntshukumo.
Ndiza kukunika umzekelo: emehlweni am, umntu ongasebenziyo uthi, "Ndiya ejimini yonke imihla iiyure ezimbini". Umntu okhutheleyo uyayaphula kwaye athi, “Ndiya ejimini kwaye ndenza imizuzu emi-2 kwi-elliptical. Yiyo leyo".
Ngelixa umntu u-A ekugqibeleni asilele kwaye ephukile, umntu u-B ubeka ibha ephantsi ngokwaneleyo ukuba umngcipheko wakhe wokusilela uphantsi. Usazicel 'umngeni yena, kodwa ukwenjenjalo kwinqanaba elithe chu kancinci (xa kuthelekiswa nelungelo lakhe lokuphumelela) ukuba angaze asilele, kwaye akhe amandla ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ukuba ufuna ukuphucula i-CS yakho kufuneka wenze zombini. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba wenza njani izicwangciso ezomeleleyo (okanye ezinokubangela umdla), kwaye ungayaphula njani le misebenzi ibaluleke kakhulu ukuze usebenze kwinqanaba lakho (lwangoku) lokukhuthala.
Haha enkosi ndoda-sele sinayo [intombi], sele senze ubukrwada ngoko ayongxaki that's
Oku kungaphezulu kwesondo nje-ukuba kukho nantoni na, kukungena okuhle ekuhlengahlengiseni indlela oziphatha ngayo kunye nokuzilungelelanisa ukuba ungubani na. Ayisiyo malunga ne-porn kakhulu njengoko ikukusebenzisa amandla akho ngendlela yokuba uzenzele utshintsho oluhlala luhleli, olunokulinganiswa kuwe.
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