Ndifumene malunga ne-NoFap ejikeleze i-5 kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, ndandineminyaka eyi-20 ngelo xesha. Ndikwindawo embi kwaye ndikhangela into yokutshintsha ubomi bam bube ngcono. Ndandinomdla malunga neenzuzo ezinokubakho zeNoFap ndiye ndizame iveki kwaye ndaqala ukufumana izibonelelo ezininzi ezithunyelwe ngabantu kule ndawo. Nangona kunjalo i-streak yam ihlala kuphela imihla ye-10 kwaye ngokukhawuleza ndibuyele kwimikhwa yam yakudala. Kwiminyaka yokugqibela ye-5, ngaphandle kwemijelo emifutshane embalwa, bendikhupha i-PMOing phantse yonke imihla. Ndandihlala ndinentloni kwaye ndinomsindo kum kwaye ndazijula phantsi ndiyazi ukuba ukuba bendinokwazi ukohlula lo mkhwa impilo yam ibingcono. Andikaze ndiqhube idrayivu yokuzibophelela ngokupheleleyo.
Ehlotyeni yonke into itshintshile. Ndandihamba ndedwa ndinqumla iYurophu ndihlala ndedwa kwii-Airbnb. Kuba ndindedwa kwaye ndikruqukile ndichitha ixesha lam elininzi I-PMOing (ezinye iintsuku ukuya kumaxesha ama-5 ngosuku). Kwiveki yokugqibela yeholide yam ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndijoyine ihostele "yentlalontle" ngakumbi. Apha kulapho ndadibana khona namantombazana amnandi endakha ndadibana nawo. Kudala ndathandana nentombazana kwaye bendingayeki ukucinga ngale ntombazana ndihlangana nayo nje. Ndilapho iintsuku ezimbalwa kodwa i-Fapping yayiyinto yokugqibela endifuna ukuyenza. Ndandixakeke kakhulu ndenza abahlobo, ndonwaba, ndibona ubomi kwaye ndiyazana nale ntombazana. Akukho kwanto ngelishwa eyaphela yenzekile nentombazana kodwa uthando endinalo kuye lwanditshintsha. Ndiye ndaqonda ukuba emazantsi ndazi ukuba andilunganga ngokwaneleyo ukuba andingoyena mntu ubalaseleyo kum.
Ukubuya kwam ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndifuna ukutshintsha. Kwakukho ngoku okanye zange. Ndibambekile kwinkqubo efanayo kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo kwaye akukho nto ibitshintsha. Andonwabanga kwaye ii-PMOs yayikukubaleka endikusebenzisa ukulibala oko, ukuba imizuzwana embalwa.
Nazi ezinye zezibonelelo endizifumeneyo:
Usuku 1-30
Into yokuqala endiyiqapheleyo kukuba bendiphupha ngakumbi. Oku kuhlala kusenzeka kuyo yonke imifuziselo ebendinayo kodwa ihlala indimangalisa ukuba ukuFoto kunganempembelelo enkulu kangakanani ekuphupheni (andikaze ndiphuphe xa ndenza iFoto).
Ndiqalise ukuba nexesha elininzi lokukhululeka lokufuna ezinye izilangazelelo. Ndiqaphele ukuba lingakanani ixesha endilichitha ndizama ukufumana ividiyo efanelekileyo kwaye ingakanani i-PMO edonsa ubusuku bonke. Bendihlala kwi-PMO qho ebusuku emva komsebenzi kwaye bendihlala ndiziva ngathi andikaze ndibenalo nexesha lesimahla ngaphandle komsebenzi. Konke ngequbuliso ndaziva ngathi ndine-2-3 iiyure ezongeziweyo ixesha losuku ukwenza nantoni na endiyifunayo.
Ndakwazi ukugxila ngakumbi kunye nokuhlehlisa kancinci. Ngokwesiqhelo xa ndinamathele kwingxaki okanye xa ndisebenza kwinto ebonakala inzima kwaye icel'umngeni, ndiza kuthi nje ndicofe uFig. Ngoku ebengekho ndakwazi ukwenza wonke umsebenzi ekufuneka ndiwenzile.
Olona tshintsho lukhulu yayilamandla. Ikaka engcwele!! Kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala ndiqala ukuba nala magagasi amandla ombane. Andikwazi nokuwalawula. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ndiphume ndiye ngaphandle ndiqale ukogqiza ngelixa ndiqhushumba umculo ongxolayo ezindlebeni zam kuba bendingazi ukuba ndenzeni ngawo wonke loo mandla. Ndaziva ndikhuthazekile ukuba ndizityhale kwaye ndisebenze nzima kwiinjongo zam. Kwakungathi ukuba onke amandla am ezesondo endikhe ndanikezela ngawo kwiminyaka yokugqibela ye-10 + ekugqibeleni ayephuma. Zonke izithuba malunga nokwanda kwamandla ekugqibeleni zinengqiqo.
Ngeli xesha ndandiqala ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye ndonwabile. Ngeentsuku ezithile bendihamba nje kwaye ndizive ndonwabile malunga nam kunye nomhlaba. Njengamandla, zazikhona iintsuku apho ndandiye ndizive la amaza olonwabo olukhulu ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Usuku 30-60
Okuzayo kufuneka ekugqibeleni kwehle. Imihla yonke 32-35 bendineengozi ezinkulu. Kwiveki eqinileyo ndaziva ndingafakwanga kwaye ndidandathekile. Amandla kunye nenkuthazo zazisekho kodwa ngenxa yombulelo kuluntu endilaziyo ukuba ndifuna nje ukutyhala ngeli xesha.
Emva kweveki okanye engaphaya ndandiye ndiqalise ukuziva ngcono kwakhona. Amandla kunye nenkuthazo zabuya. Ayindim nzulu kwaye ayizinzanga njengangaphambili, endaweni yoko Yaziva ngathi yayisiqala ukuba yinxalenye yoba ndingubani.
Ngeli xesha ndiye ndaqala nokuziva ndinomdla ongaphantsi. Ndaqala ekugqibeleni ndaziva ngathi iNoFap yayiba ngumkhwa wokwenyani. Ndisafuna ukuza kwiNoFap phantse yonke imihla ukuze ndiqiniseke ukuba andizukuphinda ndibuyele kodwa iNoFap yayiqala ukuziva njengesiqhelo.
Usuku 60-90
Ndiqale ukulibala malunga ne-NoFap, izibonelelo, i-PMO njl njl. Ndiqale ukuziva ngoluhlobo ukuba ndingubani. Ndiqale ukuzithemba ngakumbi, ndonwaba ngakumbi kwaye ndinomdla. Bendiqala ukuziva kamnandi. Ndandiva ubunzima bokwexeshana kodwa bendinokwazi ukuchitha imini yonke ekhaya kwaye ndizive ndikhuthaza i-0 (apho kwixesha elidlulileyo bendiya kuba ndidibane namaxesha e-3). Ndavakalelwa ngathi ndiyaqala ukuba yinguqulelo yam endandifuna ukuba yiyo. Ndaziva ndinekratshi ngam.
Ukujonga ngokunyanisekileyo emva hayi kakhulu ebomini bam kutshintshile. Andinayo intombi endiyithandayo, andilihambi ihlabathi, andinayo inkampani yam kwaye andiphumelelanga kwezinye iinjongo zobomi. Kodwa indlela endibujonga ngayo ubomi kunye nendlela endiziva ngayo ngam itshintshe ngokupheleleyo. Ndonwabile, ndithembele ngakumbi kwaye ndikhuthazeka ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili. I-NoFap ayisiyo pilisi yomlingo eya kutshintsha ubomi bakho, sisixhobo onokuyisebenzisa ukuzitshintsha.
LINK - Emva kweminyaka eyi-5 yokuzama ekugqibeleni ndaye ndenza kwiintsuku ze-90 !!!
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