Iposti yokuqala apha, ndiyazi ukuba abanye abaninzi baneempawu ezimbi kakhulu kodwa mhlawumbi kubantu abangama-400k apha omnye okanye ababini banokuziva le nto ndiyivayo apha kutheni ungavele uyithumele le nto. Kwakhona ngokwenene uxolo ngeposi elide.
Ndineempawu ze-Porn Addiction, njengokuya kwi-kinkier engaphezulu okanye egqithisileyo okanye i-niche ye-porn ukwanelisa iimfuno zam kunye nokungakwazi ukukhupha ngaphandle kwe-porn ...... Kude kube namhlanje.
Andiyibukeli i-porn yonke imihla kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuhamba ngeentsuku ezimbalwa ngaphandle kwayo, ngaphandle kokuba akukho zibongozo zivelayo ziyinyani logama nje ndixakeke yinto ethile. Ngoko ke andinayo iAddiction per se, kodwa xa ndifumana umnqweno, kuba nzima kakhulu kum ukulawula umnqweno, kuya kufuneka ndiyikhulule kungenjalo iya kuhlala isentloko yam. Ke, yingxaki enkulu yokuziqeqesha kunye namandla okuzimisela.
Oku kwaqhubeka oko ndandineminyaka eyi-12. Ndineminyaka eyi-19 ngoku kunye nentombi entle eneenyanga ezili-10. Ndandiyintombi engena kobu budlelwane kwaye naye wayenjalo, nangona kunjalo umehluko omkhulu akazange abukele i-porn ngelixa ndandizibhaka kuyo ngaphambi kokuba ndidibane naye. Ukuqala kwethu ukwenza, andizange ndikwazi ukukhupha. Oku kubangele ukuba ndibe nexhala lokusebenza kwiinyanga ezizayo ze-5 ngenxa yoko, ndaphela ndisebenzisa i-porn ngaphandle kokuba ndibe neqabane elihle. Uninzi luyayibuza, kodwa wayinyamezela, kwaye ke yaphela sele iyinto ejikelezayo kokukhona ndibukela iphonografi ndibona ndinomdla onganeno kwezesondo zokwenyani, kwaye ngenxa yokuba ndingenayo i-sex drive ngalo lonke ixesha siyenza, andinakuze. khupha ubudoda. Waqalisa ukuzibeka ityala ngokungakwazi ukwanelisa iimfuno zam endiye ndafumanisa ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo xa amadoda ethwaxwa zizinto ezifana nePIED kunye neDelayed Ejaculation.
Yiyo ke loo nto yaqala uhambo lwam olufutshane kodwa oluneziqhamo kakhulu akukho fap. Ndiyayazi le subreddit okwethutyana kodwa andizange ndingene kuyo. Ndithe xa ndiyijonga kwakhona, ndaqonda ukuba kutheni ndingazami? Bendijonge imowudi ye-hardcore inyanga enye. Kwiiveki ezi-1 zokuqala, kwenzeka izinto ezimbalwa:
- Ndaziva ndithandwa ngakumbi kwaye ndinomtsalane ngakumbi kwintombi yam
- Ndandivuya ngakumbi
- Indenze ndajonga phambili kwinto (hayi iphonografi, ukwaneliseka kokoyisa iminqweno yam)
Emva koko ngomhla woku-1 weveki yesi-3, ndaphinda ndabuyela. Ukungangeni kuxinzelelo apha, hayi kuba ndingafuni kodwa kuba bendingekho. Ukuphoxeka kukodwa kwakwanele ukundikhuthaza ukuba ndenze ngcono. Kanye emva kokuba ndiyenzile, ndaye ndafikelela kuyo kwaye ndathetha ngaphakathi ndisithi: "Kulungile, ugqibile ukwenza ngcono". Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yayiluphuculo endiluvileyo kwezi veki zi-2. Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kamva qikelela ntoni? Ndalala naye, ndaza ndakwazi ukuyikhupha emva kwexesha elisengqiqweni. Ndonwabile, oku kwaphantse kwayiphelisa ixhala lam lokusebenza. Bendiphumile kwi spiral.
Ngoku ndiza kuqhubeka nohambo lwam lwe-no-fap ngemodi eqhelekileyo kwinyanga ezayo. Ukuzivumela ukuba ndikhululeke kuphela ngumntu wokwenyani, umntu endimxabisayo kwaye ndimxabisile, hayi umfanekiso ongenamvakalelo kwi-intanethi.
Umgca osezantsi kukuba, ngelixa unokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela oyisebenzisa ngayo iphonografi. Khumbula, sukujonga phambili kakhulu, musa ukugcina ikhawunta etyatyekwe kwiscreen sakho, ikhona kuphela ekukukhuthazeni, ingabi ngumthombo wexhala. Ukuba iiveki ze-2 ze-hardcore akukho fap ye-wimp engenamandla njengam indinike zonke ezi zibonelelo. Ukuhamba nje usuku olu-1 ngexesha sele kukhulu. Ngoko thatha ixesha lakho kwaye uhlale kuyo!
I-TLDR; Umhla kwiinyanga ze-10, wayeyintombi kwaye wayengakwazi ukukhupha ngaphandle kwe-porn emva kokulahlekelwa bunyulu. Yahamba kwimodi enzima kwiiveki ze-2, ikwazile ukubona izibonelelo, kwaye iphelile ukulawula ukukhupha iintsuku ezimbalwa kamva. Ukuba iiveki ezi-2 zizodwa zindinike ezi zibonelelo, usuku nje olu-1 kufuneka lube sele luphucule impilo yakho. Khumbula nje: usuku olu-1 ngexesha kwaye ungajongi phambili thatha usuku olu-1 ngexesha.
LINK - Andikwazanga ukukhupha ngaphandle kwe-porn.. kude kube namhlanje
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