Umntu oye waphawula ngokugqithiseleyo unonophelo loononophala kwiminyaka emashumi asibhozo ubudala ngumlutha womntu (iMetro UK)

Njengomfana omncinci, u-JK Emezi waye eneneni kwiincwadi ezihlekisayo xa wakhubeka ngengozi kwi-nanny ye-graphic yenoveli yakhe endala. Ukucinga ukuba kuya kufana neencwadi zentshukumo ezithandayo, uJK, waseKansas, e-US, wothuswa kukubona imifanekiso eyi-X. Emva kokufumana isondo eliphakamileyo ngokwesondo, wayeqhubeka ewafunda kwaye eneminyaka eyi-14, emva kokuba efumanisile ubuchwephesha ngokuphulula amalungu esini, uJK waba likhoboka lesini. Kodwa ukusukela ekufumaneni uncedo kwi-14 yakhe yonyaka, i-JK iye yahlula ukuxhomekeka kwayo kuyo kwaye yavula ishishini elijolise ekubuyiseleni kulo mkhwa.

'Nje ukuba ndifumanise ukuba ndingenza okuninzi ngemifanekiso yezesondo nokuba kukhutshwe iikhemikhali ezininzi ezonwabisayo xa ndinamava e-orgasm, ndatsalwa,' utshilo. 'Ezona mpembelelo zintathu zibaluleke kakhulu ezi ebezinazo ebomini bam yayilihlazo, ixhala ekuhlaleni kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi. Nganye kwezi zinto zandothusa ukukhula kwam njengomntwana osempilweni. 'Ukulutha kwamanyala okungamanyala kuye kukhokelela ekubeni ndedwa esikolweni. Ndandihlala ndicinga ngabafundisi-ntsapho kunye nabanye abafundi endifunda nabo- ndibabeka endaweni yam ngengcamango yam kunye neenkwenkwezi ze-porn endizibukele. 'Le nto yenze ukuba kube ngumngeni ukunxibelelana nabo ngokobuqu njengoko ndiziva ndinetyala ngento endiyenzileyo. Ndandihlala ndibabelana ngesondo kwaye ndiziva ngathi bazakundibamba nge-ogling kubo endaweni yokujonga umsebenzi wesikolo. 'Kwiminyaka ye-17 ndaphuhlisa i-Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) apho ndinakho kuphela ukuphulula amalungu esini kunye ne-orgasm kwi-pornography.'

U-JK uvumile ukuba i-porn yayinefuthe elibi kulwalamano lwayo kunye nabasetyhini, ukumnika ukukhathazeka kwintlalo. Xa wajika i-22, wayecwangcise ukudibana nomntu kwiwebhusayithi engaziwa ngesondo kodwa xa wayeqhuba esiya endlwini, ecaleni kwakhe kwifestile yemoto wabethwa ngumntu. Esoyika into eyayinokwenzeka, u-JK wagqiba kwelokuba acime zonke i-porn ezigcinwe kwikhompyuter yakhe, efunga ukuba uza kwenza okuthile ngesiyobisi sakhe. 'Ndandixakeke kukusebenza kwaye endaweni yokuchitha ubusuku ndedwa ekhaya, ndiza kuya ejimini ndiyokusebenza kude ndide ndidinwe. I endorphin ezivela ekusebenzeni kwam zindenze ndaziva bhetele kwaye ukusebenzisa kwakunyanzelekile ukuba nditye ukutya okunempilo.

'Ndiqalile ukuzama ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zam kwakhona. Rhoqo kusasa bendiqala usuku ngokubhala iimvakalelo zam kwijenali. 'Ndifumanise ukuba iminyaka yokusebenzisa i-porn yayitshabalalisile uvelwano lwam. Oku kuluncedo kakhulu ngoba kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezalandelayo njengoko iimvakalelo zam ziye zathothisa ndaqala ukubona abafazi ngakumbi ukuba ngabantu kwaye bangaphantsi njengezinto ezizonwabisa zam zesondo. 'Ndikhululekile kwi-PIED kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphandle kokuzisa imiboniso bhanyabhanya. Ndiphilile engqondweni nasemzimbeni. Ndiyazithemba ngakumbi kunangaphambili. '

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