Namhlanje yimini ye-90 yendlela yam enzima, iNoFap streak. Ndikhe ndahlala kwezi forum iminyaka embalwa, kutsha nje ndingenelele kwingxoxo ethile. Ndifunde okuninzi kwizithuba ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kwaye bendifuna ukwabelana ngamava kunye nokuqonda malunga nokuba bezinjani iintsuku zam ezingama-90. Ukujonga emva, ndinqwenela ukuba bendilubhale olu hambo ukugcina iirekhodi ezichanekileyo zokwenzekileyo kunye nendlela endiziva ngayo ngelixa ndihamba ngayo okwangoku, kodwa kuya kufuneka ndizinze ngokukhumbula ngokubanzi apha.
Uxoliso lwam.
Ndenze imowudi ye-105 yosuku olunzima ngaphambili, kunye ne-caveat kukuba bendikwi-tinder lonke ixesha lolo luhlu. Umahluko phakathi kolu luhlu kunye nale (endiye ndarhoxa kwi-apps yokuthandana malunga neentsuku ezingama-80) phantse ubusuku nemini, nangona oko kunokuba yinto emangalisayo. Kukho umahluko omkhulu kumgangatho wokuqalisa kwakhona, nangona kunjalo, phakathi kwezi zimbini.
Eyona nzuzo inkulu
Ikhono lokufumana ubunzima / ukulahla / ukuzithiya ngokukhawuleza kunangaphambili (iishawa ezibandayo, i-stoicism, i-CBT, kunye nokuqeqeshwa kobunzima ngokutya okucocekileyo konke kuyancomeka ukuba nditsho). Uninzi lwesimo se-DGAF malunga nezimo zabanye abantu kum. Ayinambumbulu kodwa iphuculwe ngokubonakalayo. Nditsho ndinomsindo omkhulu, endiqondayo ngoku, sisipho ekufanele sivunywe, sihlonitshwe, kwaye sihanjiswe. Iinkuni zasekuseni ziye zavela malunga ne-1-2 ngeveki mva nje, oluphuculo.
Hayi, ilungile le nto
Kwakhona ndafumana umsebenzi wam wokuqala phantse kwiinyanga ezili-18 ebudeni bolu hambo. Yayingaveli kumhlobo okanye usapho oluthunyelwayo, ndaqashwa kubanda, ukuba uyathanda. Umphathi ondiqeshileyo wathi kabini ngaphambi kosuku lwam lokuqala, kanye ngexesha lodliwano-ndlebe kwaye kanye kwifowuni elandelayo: "Ndiyakuthanda". Indlela awayethetha ngayo yayiyinyani kwaye isengozini. Andizange ndive umntu okwisikhundla sakhe eqeshe i-peon ethetha loo mazwi ngenene. Ndiye ndamkelwa kwaye ndinconywa ngabanye abafana abambalwa endisebenza nabo. Ndixelelwe ngomdiliya ukuba umphathi ondiqeshileyo wathi ndingoyena mntu umtsha oqeshwayo kule minyaka mi-5 yakhe.
Iintsuku 1-30
Kulula ngokomlinganiselo. Ndicinga ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba kuyo yonke le minyaka imbalwa ndisenza iNoFap, ngeempumelelo ezahlukeneyo, inyanga enye yayingengomceli mngeni ophambeneyo. I-1 (mhlawumbi nje kwiminyaka emi-10 eyadlulayo) kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, yayiya kuvakala ngathi ingunaphakade. Ndafika kwinqanaba elithile apho iveki i-snap of a finger and 5 weeks yayingekho nzima kakhulu. Njengokuba kunjalo, kwaba yinto engokwemvelo ukuya kwiiveki ze-2-1 phakathi kokuyikrazula (andizukuzama nofap ukuba yenzeke.) Oku kuvela kumfana ovuthele umthwalo ngosuku (ngokwe-avareji, okanye inokuba 2 ngosuku?) ukusuka kwiminyaka eyi-2-14 ukuya kwi-porn.
Ndikhumbula ndiziva ndinexhala kwaye ngokungathi wonke umntu wayejonge kum (nangona babengekho) kule nyanga yokuqala xa ndandisiya kwithala leencwadi. Ndandiqala umkhwa omtsha wokuya apho, kodwa loo nto yokuziqonda ayisekho (ngokuphathelele ixhala lethala leencwadi, ngokukodwa).
Iintsuku 31-49
Umgca weflethi omkhulu. Ukudakumba kunye nokugxeka. Ndikhumbula ngamanye amaxesha ndizibuza, ingaba le yindlela ubomi obuya kuvakalelwa ngayo ukuya phambili? Ngelo xesha, yafunxa, kuba andizange ndibone ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela, kunye ne kuphela into eya kundinika "ukukhanya" iya kuba yi-porn kunye ne-ejaculation. Kunzima ngenene ukufumana isizathu sokukholelwa ukuba akufuneki ulithathe iyeza lakho ngeli xesha.
Ngokuqinisekileyo bekukho iingcinga zokuba "ayizukuba mbi kangako" kwaye "yintoni ingozi kuyo, ufanelwe kukubethwa". Ndikwakhumbula ngeli xesha, ndisithi kum ngokuvakalayo kwigumbi lam lokuhlambela, ngomzuzu wokuqonda okunzulu: “Andiqondi ukuba ndakhe ndadibana nam.” Ibingumzuzu lowo ndisacinga ngawo.
Iintsuku 50-80
Ngokucacileyo ubukhulu becala. Ndandiye ndisondele ekubeni ndiphinde ndibe sekhaya yaye ndingaxakekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha bendiziva ngathi kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuya kwiseshoni, kodwa andizange. Ngeli xesha, ndanconywa ngelizwi lam ngumlindi obhinqileyo kwigumbi lokunxiba ngelixa wayethenga ngenye imini. Andizange ndinconywe ngelizwi lam kwiminyaka yam engama-30 de kube ngelo xesha. Kwakubangel’ umdla ukuva oko.
Iintsuku 81-90
Ndaziva ndililolo ndaza ndabuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Le mihla yokugqibela iye yaba yenye yezona zinto ziyingozi kangangokuba umntu unokuphinda abuyele kwimeko yawo. Ndiye ndacinga ngakumbi kwezi ntsuku zimbalwa zidlulileyo kunalo lonke uhlobo ludityanisiwe.
Ingqondo yam iqaphela i-voyeur njengomgangatho wokuswayipha kwiiprofayili zamantombazana anamandla okudibana kunye nokuwafaka. Oko kudala ukungxamiseka okukhulu kwe-dopamine njengoko ndilele ebhedini yam ngethemba lesandi sesaziso esivela kwifowuni yam ukubona ukuba uphendule ngendlela edlalayo kumdlalo wam wobukrelekrele, wesondo.
Kwazi bani ukuba ndimbambe ngexesha elifanelekileyo mhlawumbi ufuna sidibane ngokuhlwanje siyosela iziselo aphinde ajole? Akukho nto iphosakeleyo apho, kodwa into "engalunganga" zezo ngcinga kukuthambeka okumtyibilizi kum efuna ukubetha idick yam. Okubi nakakhulu, ngoku konke okusengqondweni yam ngabafazi, bayabaxaka, kwaye balindele ukuva umva kubo ngetekisi yonke imini. Ibulala ukucaca kunye nenkululeko i-streak endinika imizuzu emininzi yosuku lwam, kungenjalo. Kulapho ndikhoyo ngoku kwi-streak yam. Ndiyazi ukuba kufuneka ndizicime ezoapps okanye ndidlala ngothando ngokuphinda kuphele, kunokwenzeka.
Ezinye iingcamango
Ndisazama ukuhamba le ntambo iqinile. Andikayiqondi ngokupheleleyo indlela ukuthandana kunye nobudlelwane obusebenza ngayo. Ukuzithemba kwam kuzinzile, kodwa ndinokusebenzisa umsebenzi omninzi. Ndiyaguquguquka ukusuka kwintuthuzelo kunye nokungakhathali (kungekhona kakhulu, kodwa ndiyakwazi ukuvakalelwa) kunye nobukhulu obunzulu kakhulu kwinkcubeko yanamhlanje. Ndine T. I'm general intense. Ndivakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ndizithobe ngandlela-thile ukuze "ndivana" noluntu ukuba ngumsebenzi, ukuhamba, ukuhamba kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, njl. kwaye kwakhona yenza into. Ngaphandle, oko kusenokungabi njalo kakhulu iphawuleka okanye ibonakale kwaphela (ndinzima kum, nangona oko kuye kwabangcono), kodwa ndiyazi ukuba ndibambe umva okuninzi ngenxa yokoyika ukuba abantu bangenziwa bangakhuselekanga ngendlela ukukhanya kwam okuqaqambe ngayo. .
KUNINGI kakhulu endinokubalula ngako kwaye nokuqonda okuninzi kakhulu endingathanda ukukunika kuzo zonke izinto endizifumeneyo kunye namava am kule minyaka idlulileyo. Esi sithuba ngenene yi-TLDR yento endifuna ukuyithetha njengokuphambana njengoko kunokuvakala.
Enkosi ngokufunda.
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