Okokuqala, intshayelelo yam yobuqu.
Ndingu-24 yo, ndivela eRashiya kwaye ngoku ndigqibezela isidanga sam sobuchwephesha, kwaye anditshatanga Kudala ndizama ukuhlala kude nokubukela i-P ukusukela nge-2015. Ndineziphumo ezahlukileyo ngaphambili, ke eyona ndlela yam inde yayiyeyona ibalaseleyo kwiinyanga ezimbini kwi-2016. Eyona ngxaki yam iphambili kunye nesizathu sokuba ndiqale ukwenza iNoFap kukutsiba amathuba okonwaba ebomini, kuba ukwenza amaphupha am azaliseke, nayo yonke into edibene nayo. Ngokubanzi, bendingonwabanga, bendineengcinga ezimbi ngam kwaye bendineengcinga zokuzibulala, bendiziva ndililolo nokuba bendisoloko ndinabahlobo endinokuthetha nabo.
Ndifuna ukuya ngqo kwizibonelelo endizibonayo ngoku.
- Ukuzithemba kwam kunye nokuzithemba kwam kwenyuka ngokuhlanya
- Ndiqale ukunxibelelana nabantu, endibaxabisileyo kakhulu. Ndade ndadibanisa itheko lokuzalwa nabahlobo bam, into endingazange ndayenza ngaphambili ngenjongo.
- Andifuni ukukudimaza, bafana, kodwa andikaze ndibone ukonyusa okukhulu okanye ukunciphisa ubuvila, andikhange ndibenamantombazana, andinyukanga intaba, KODWA endikufumene ngokwenene kwaye yintoni Ndiyaziqhenya ngokwenene kukuba ndiba nobukrelekrele kwaye ndilumke, nangona ingandincedanga kumabanga am, kodwa ndaye ndaqala ukubona ukuba imikhwa yam yangaphambili yayisisidenge kwaye ingenantsingiselo. Umzekelo, ndizifaka ukutya. Ndiqaphele ukuba isiqingatha samaxesha endisondela kuwo efrijini yayikukuze ndizifihle kwintlungu yeemvakalelo, hayi ukulungiselela iimfuno zomzimba. Enye into endiyiqapheleyo, ngamanye amaxesha ndandiba nomsindo ngaphandle kwesizathu.
- Ezinye izibonelelo endizifumanayo kukuba ndaqala ukuzamkela njengomntu, ukuba ndinobuthathaka kunye namandla am.
- Isibonelelo sokugqibela kukuba ndiye ndaqala ukubulela ngayo yonke into eyenzekayo kunye neyenzekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, ndiyabulela ngazo zonke iinzame ezibekwe ngabazali bam zokundikhulisa.
Ngeli thuba lokwahlulahlula khange ndibone kakuhle njengoko kunokuba njalo, ke bekukho iingxaki endijongene nazo.
- Ekuqaleni kwale streak ndidlule kumaxesha anzima, bendinxanelwe kakhulu, ndaye ndafowunela umama ukuba ahlise iintlungu zam. Ndandisazi ukuba ekugqibeleni iyokuma, ndiye ndaqhubeka.
- Enye ingxaki endandinayo yayikukuba kwisithuba seenyanga ezimbini ndiqalise ukuhlelwa nguP. Ngethamsanqa, iqabane lam elinika ingxelo liye laqiniseka ukuba isangqa esikhohlakeleyo kwaye kufuneka ndiyeke ukuyenza.
- Ingxaki yokugqibela endandinayo, eneneni yayikho namhlanje, bendizicaphukisa kwaye ndigqiba ukucinga ndide ndiqalise ukukhangela i-P, kodwa ndaphinda ndazinqanda ndicinga ukuba ndiyazi ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni kwaye nokuba ndonakele kangakanani emva koko.
Umxholo ophambili wokuziqhelanisa.
Ndayifunda kunyaka odlulileyo incwadi ebizwa ngokuba yiPower of Habit. Enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo endikhe ndaphuma kuzo ngumbono weendlela eziphambili, ukuba ngokuzitshintsha kuya kubakho impendulo yetyathanga, ngakumbi, ukuba eminye imikhwa iyakutshintsha nayo, kodwa kukho izinto ezimbini ezisezantsi; Okokuqala - kunzima ukufumanisa owona mkhwa uphambili, okwesibini- ukuba sitshintsha umkhuba ophambili kwicala elibi, eminye imikhwa iyakutshintsha kwicala elinye, ke kufuneka silumke. Ndiqondile ngokuhlalutya ubomi bam ukuba eyona nto iphambili kum ngu-P kunye no-M. Ndihlala ndisebenza gwenxa xa ndibaleka kwaye bendiqhuba kakuhle xa ndiyekile kuwo. Ndiyakulumkisa: ayinakuba yimeko yakho, ukuba eyona nto uyithandayo ayifani neyam.
Inkqubo yam (endandihlala ndiyenza xa ndinomnqweno).
- Ukuba bendinaso isibongozo bendizakusebenzisa i-panic pan or surf kule webhusayithi,
- Emva kokuba umnqweno wam kube lula ukutshintsha imisebenzi yam, okanye indawo, ngenxa yoko ngekhe ndibuyele ekuhleleni.
- Inqanaba lokugqibela, ndiza kuhlalutya imeko ukuba sasiyintoni isizathu esibonisa ukuba ndaqala ukubuyela kumkhwa wam wakudala. Inokuba kukuhlehlisa okanye ukuziva ndicinezelekile malunga nokhetho olubalulekileyo okanye umsebenzi endifuna ukuwenza.
Ezinye iingcinga.
Ukuhlala ndixakekile kwaye ndilawula iingcinga zam kwandinceda kakhulu. Kananjalo ndifuna ukwaba nawe ukuba i-NoFap njengokuba iyitshintshile ubomi bam, kodwa yabeka ecaleni inkqubo yokuhluma kunye nokuphucula okuqhubekayo. Ngoku ngokuthe ngcembe ndiye ndaqala ukongeza imikhwa emitsha, njengokucamngca, ukuphonononga kunye nokucokisa iinjongo zam kunye namaphupha, indlela endiziphethe ngayo kunye nezenzo zam, ukuthetha nezalamane zam (ngaphambili ebomini bam andikutyeshelanga oku kubalulekile) Ukubeka imikhwa eyahlukileyo.
Imibuzo evela kumaqabane am anika ingxelo.
- Ngaba uziva ngathi uwajongela phantsi abafazi?
Andikwazi ukunika impendulo ngqo, coz khange ndizame ukubabetha kwisiqingatha sokugqibela sonyaka.
- Ngaba awunazintloni kwaye ukhathazekile?
Hayi, ndisenentloni kwaye ndingenantlonelo, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ndizive ndingalunganga ngayo, kodwa ngoku ndiyile ndlela ndiyiyo. Mhlawumbi andiziva ndineentloni kakhulu xa ndisenza into. Umzekelo, kwakubakho amaxesha apho umntu endandihlala naye ngequbuliso wangena kwigumbi lethu kwaye ngelixa ndibukele uP, ndiye ndabanjwa. Ewe ndiyivalile i-tab, kodwa ndaziva ndineentloni ngayo. Intliziyo yam ibibetha kakhulu
- Ngaba uziva ngathi awuzihluthisi kakhulu, kwaye uziva uluncedo kwabanye? (Ndiyazi ukuba uthethile ngemfundiso yakho)
Ngokupheleleyo, ewe! Ndikhankanyile ngaphambili ukuba andizukutya, nangona ndikuthanda ukutya. Inqaku alindincedi kuphela ukugcina imali, kodwa nokuba ndiphaphile kwaye ndijolise. Ndiye ndabona nje xa ndisitya kakhulu ngexesha losuku ndiziva ndiluvila kwaye ndingakhuthazeki. Kuba sineendawo ezininzi ezisingqongileyo oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sikuginye ngokufanayo P kunye nokuthandana, baninzi abadlali bezinto ezingamanyala kunye namantombazana obomi bokwenyani phaya, kodwa akufuneki sizame konke kubo. Inani leencwadi, iividiyo ezintsha, umxholo we-intanethi iyakhula ngokucacileyo, kodwa akufuneki sibukele yonke into.
Ukuqukumbela, ndingatsho ukuba iNoFap ixabiseke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ukuba ubiyele ngocingo malunga nokuba kulungile kuwe okanye akunjalo - yiya nje uzijonge wedwa. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba zonke izibonelelo endinazo ngoku kule streak sisiphumo samanyathelo alandelelanayo ukusuka kwimigca yangaphambili ngokunjalo. Iziphumo azivelanga ngobusuku. Ukukukhuthaza, bafana, ndingathi: ukuba uphinde wabuya okanye watyibilika kube kanye-yazi ukuba usenza inkqubela phambili kwaye ekugqibeleni ikamva lakho liyakubulela ngale nto uyenzayo ngoku!
Izinto ezandincedayo ndihlala kumkhondo:
- I-pornFree yerediyo podcast.
- Ukuthetha phandle malunga neengxaki zam nokufuna uncedo kuluntu (amaNqaku oGcino-zincwadi) kunye nezinto ezingqongileyo.
- Iqhosha le-emergency emergency pan (ulwandiso kwi-Chrome)
- Ukufunda kunye nokufunda incwadi ye-7 imikhwa yaBantu abaphumeleleyo ngoStephen Covey, ucinga ukuba akukho nto ngeNoFap.
- Kufundwa intambo apha.
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