Le 2020 inqaku wenza umsebenzi olungileyo wokuqhekeza ezinye zeentsomi eziqhelekileyo ze-sexologists ezisetyenziselwa ukuxhasa ishishini le-porn. Kufanelekile ukuphinda ufunde.
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Iinyani ezingathandekiyo malunga nomzi mveliso nendlela onxibelelana ngayo nokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana, ukuthengiswa ngokwesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa
Eli nqaku ligubungela ukonzakala ngokuthe ngqo nangokungathanga ngqo kwimifanekiso engamanyala kwindawo yokujonga izinto engeyiyo eyabathengi.
Ubundlobongela obungalinganiswanga kunye nokuzukiswa kodlwengulo, ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana, kunye ne-umbulo ebonakalayo kwimifanekiso engamanyala.
Imifanekiso engamanyala sele ihambe indlela ende ukusukela kwimigca yamaGrikhi kunye playboy iindawo ezisembindini; ukungaziwa, ukufikelela ngokulula kumxholo ogqithisileyo kukhokelele kumthengi ongafunekiyo, nakwimakethi egcweleyo.
Ukuphendula kwimiceli mngeni enjalo, iifoto zoononopopasho zenziwa making ngebhanyabhanya ngokufota abantu, ikakhulu abasetyhini, baphantsi kokuziphatha okuthoba isidima kunye nokwabelana ngesondo okuyingozi. Abasasazi besekondari nabo bayangenelwa ngelixa beyijongile into yokuba uninzi lwevidiyo ezilayishwe kwiqonga labo yayisisiphumo sokugqibela ukumoyikisa, ukumoyikisa, ukumnyanzela, ukumdlwengula, nokumxhaphaza.
Ubundlobongela kwimifanekiso engamanyala
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngeqela (kubandakanya "amaqela emigulukudu", "kabini", kunye "nokuhluza kathathu"), abasetyhini bazivalela kwilungu lobufazi (ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kwinqanaba lokugabha), ukubetha ngempama, ukukrwitshwa, ukuphathwa gadalala ngamazwi kunye nokuchopha ebusweni kumfazi - iqheleke ngokukodwa kuhlobo "lweentlanga" - ngoku zezona zinto ziphambili ezibonisa amanyala. Into eyakhe yabakho kwimiphetho sele ilungile kule khosi; ukugqithisa kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo.
Ubuninzi bezinto ezingalinganiswanga, kunye nobudala okanye imvume eqinisekisiweyo yobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, ukungcungcuthekiswa (ukugqojozwa, ukubekwa emanzini njl. iindlela zokwenza ulonwabo lwakho. Okwangoku, imifanekiso engamanyala malunga neetalente zeshishini elitsha lokuqhelana nesebe lezononophelo olungxamisekileyo.
Nokuba uninzi lwe ethandwayo Imifanekiso engamanyala- ngokwenkcazo yeyona nto iphantsi ixhaphakileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko ubuncinci bokungachaseki - inezobundlobongela obungalinganiswanga kumanqanaba othusayo. (Ukuba ufuna ubundlobongela buchazelwe wena, "yiyo nayiphi na intshukumo enokubangela ukwenzakala emzimbeni nasengqondweni kuye okanye komnye umntu".)
Uhlalutyo lweempawu ezingama-304 Imifanekiso engamanyala ethandwayo ityhila ukuba i-88% ibonakalisa ubundlongondlongo, ubukhulu becala kodwa kungekuphela, ukubetha, ukugxeka, nokubetha ngempama. Ukuba ingcinga yakho yangoku "ibingeyonto imbi" ibonakalisa ukuba ubundlobongela ngokwesondo buye baqheleka njani. Phantse isiqingatha sesigcawu sibandakanya ubundlongondlongo ngamazwi, ikakhulu ukubiza igama njenge "bitch" kunye ne "slut". Ukuqikelela nokuxakekisa, abenzi bobundlobongela ubukhulu becala yayingamadoda, kwaye iithagethi zabo ikakhulu ngabasetyhini (iipesenti ezingama-94).
Okuchasene, McKee (2005) iqukumbele "kuphela" iipesenti ezi-2 zeevidiyo ezidumileyo ezibonisa ubundlobongela emva kokwenza lula ngaphandle ubundlobongela okoko iithagethi zenze ulonwabo Isifundo sabo asiphumelelanga ukuthathela ingqalelo into yokuba umlingisi we-porn elila ngokungxolayo kuyo yonke into eyenziweyo kuye yimfuneko yomsebenzi, into emisela ukuba uya kuba nakho na ukuqokelela imali yokubhatala emva kosuku lokufota ngokudlamkileyo, kwaye aqhubeke nokukhusela umsebenzi wexesha elizayo .
In imifanekiso engamanyala ethandwayo, Iipesenti ezingama-95 zabasetyhini zityatyekwe ngoncumo okanye ukubonakaliswa kokungakhathali ngamatye ukunika umbono wokuba abantu basetyhini bakwibhodi, kwaye baziva bengathathi cala kwaphela malunga, nobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kunye nokuphathwa gadalala.
“Ndibaxelele ukuba bayeke kodwa abayeki de ndiqale ukukhala ndonakalisa imeko." - ikhonkco (Amagqabantshintshi ngomenzi wangaphambili we-porn)
"Lo mfanekiso uvumelanayo wobundlongondlongo uphathelene njengoko siba semngciphekweni wokunikezela ubundlobongela bokwenene kubantu basetyhini abangabonakaliyo" - ikhonkco (intetho yombhali wesifundo)
Enye yezona zinto ziphazamisayo malunga nemifanekiso engamanyala yanamhlanje yindlela ebuncinci ngayo kwaye iqhelanisa ubundlobongela njengohlobo oluthile efuna ulonwabo olubonakalayo lwabathathi-nxaxheba. (Ewe kunjalo, kukwakho ukuthandwa kohlobo lwe- "anal anal pain" okanye "gadalala ebusweni", apho amabhinqa bonakala Ukubandezeleka likhadi lokuzoba.)
Oku kwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuphikisana nabakwishumi elivisayo abangenamava okanye abo bengaqondiyo kangako ngemeko yomntu obhinqileyo okanye isayikholojisti yomntu, okanye bathande “ukudibanisa” amanye amadoda okanye amabhinqa, ukuba ayinyani abafazi abonwabela izenzo zesondo eziyingozi nezithob 'isidima. okanye "iesile emlonyeni" ngesondo lomlomo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, babubonile "ubungqina".
Isicatshulwa esingezantsi, ngokubhekisele kwindlela ubuchopho obugcina ngayo iinkumbulo zeepisodic, sachazwa ngokunxulumene "nokonwatyiswa" ngabantwana kwimifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana, nangona kunjalo kusebenza ngokufanayo ekuphathweni gadalala kwabantu abadala. Ibonisa ubungozi bokuhlaselwa ngumfanekiso wabasetyhini "bonwabela" ukuxhatshazwa:
Umfanekiso sisiganeko, kuba uyawubona. Kwaye xa ubona umfanekiso awungeni njengoluvo, uza unje ngento eyenzekileyo. Kwaye igcinwe kwingqondo yakho apho ugcina khona ezinye izinto ezenzekileyo. Ke awuyiceli mngeni. Awuyikhubazi. Awutsho, 'Ayinyani.' Uyibonile. - Qhagamshela
Qiniseka ukuba, umxholo wephonografi uyalelwa ngumthengi ongafunekiyo, Abalawuli abakhohlakeleyo nabangathandekiyo, kunye nemarike yokhuphiswano apho kunzima ukubonakala, kwaye hayi Abasetyhini abanqwenela ukuphathwa gadalala.
Ayikukhuthazi kuphela ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, kwiimeko ezininzi is ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo. Iphonografi ayinabungozi, kwaye ayiyongcamango ngeendlela ezibalulekileyo. Ubundlobongela buyinto yokwenyani - ekuphela kwento emnandi yokujonga iphonografi kukuba abantu basetyhini, "akukho mthethweni ngokusemthethweni" okanye abafikisayo nabantwana uthando akukho nto ingcono kunokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, ukuthotywa isidima, kunye nokuzithoba ngokwesini rhoqo.
Ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kwabantwana kwimifanekiso engamanyala
Phakathi kweevidiyo ezaziwayo ngo-2005, zazintandathu iividiyo ezikhuthaza ezokwabelana ngesondo kwabantwana (ezibizwa ngokuba zii "Teen Fuck Hole") kwaye babonisa (ngethemba) abalingisi abadala njengabangaphantsi kweepropu ezinje ngeyunifomu yamantombazana, iihagu kunye nebrace. Incoko yayidla ngokugxininisa ukuba olu lutsha lwalungaphantsi kweminyaka yobudala.
I-Pornhub zazingekho ngo-2005, nangona kunjalo okokoko “unyaka wokubuyekezwa” uqale “ulutsha” ibiphakathi kwamagama ali-10 aphezulu akhangelwe eqongeni iminyaka emithandathu ibaleka, kunye neqela kuwo. Kwi-2019, "ulutsha" lwalukhona ngokugqamile engekhoyo ukusuka kwi-10 ephezulu, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba umxholo onje usasazeke kakhulu akufuneki ukuba ufune. (Ewe kunjalo, "ulutsha" akunjalo olona khangelo luphazamisayo eyakhe yahamba rhoqo kwiindawo ezingamanyala.)
E-US, izithintelo ekubonakaliseni amantombazana ajongeka emncinci aguqulwa ngo-2002, kuququzelelwa iphonografi ekwabelana ngesondo nabantwana ukuba bonwabele abantu abadala. Ukusukela ngo-2018, abasasazi abasekondari okt ukusingathwa kweendawo zikhululwe kuxanduva lokugcina iirekhodi zeminyaka yabadlali. Ukukhuselwa kwabantwana kwathathwa njenge "nzima" imfuneko, kunye nokungeniswa okungaphantsi kakhulu kunenzuzo yomzi mveliso.
Isakhono sokufumana iphonografi kwiinkampani zemveliso enexabiso eliphantsi ezisekwe phesheya kolwandle, ezinamantombazana amancinci kakhulu akhangeleka engenabungqina beminyaka ngaphandle kohlwaywa Ngokuqinisekileyo loloyiso kwabo banqwenela ukwenza inzuzo ngokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo.
Ukudlwengula kunye ne-pornography
Imifanekiso engamanyala ebamba iisayithi iphonononga ngokwaneleyo ukuba 'ukudlwengulwa' njengegama lokukhangela akuvelisi ziphumo, nangona kunjalo umxholo ubonakala nje phantsi 'kokunyanzelwa', 'ukungenelela', 'ukungafunwa', 'ukubanjwa', 'ukunceda' kunye 'nentlungu'.
Abahlukumezi bahlala besebenzisa iphonografi ukulungiselela amaxhoba abo amancinci, ukubafundisa, kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwabo abakunyamezelayo kuyinto "eqhelekileyo". Imifanekiso engamanyala kwi-incest ibonakala ilungele lo msebenzi.
Kutheni le nto ezinye zezi ndlela zonzakalisayo zithathwa njengezifanelekile njengokonwaba kuthathelwa ingqalelo ubomi obude obuviwa ngamaxhoba?
Imvume ayilula kangako, ingagungqi okanye ibumbene ukuba inokuthengwa, kwaye iphonografi ayisoloko ivumelana
Ukuba uyakholelwa ubabalo olusindisayo lwephonografi kukuba abanye abantu bayavuma ukuvela, ndingathanda ukwazi: ngaba iphonografi oyibukeleyo konke-nokuba kungoku nje-ngokuvumelana, kwaye uya kuba nakho ukuxelela ukuba '?
Kuzo naziphi na indawo ezingamanyala, unokufumana izinto ezithandwa nguwe "ulutsha oludlulileyo", "ulutsha luyatshabalaliswa", "ulila ulutsha kwaye uyabethwa ngempama" - isiseko sodidi "lolutsha" oludumileyo, icandelo "lolutsha olungenakunceda". Ukuba uyayivuyela le mifanekiso yamanyala kuba lowo uthatha inxaxheba uneminyaka eli-18 ubudala kwaye ubhatelwe ngokwezemali, yazi ukuba ezo yayizizihloko kanye ezazisetyenziselwa ukufotwa Ukuxhatshazwa kwexhoba lodlwengulo elineminyaka eli-14 ubudala.
Xa iphonografi ephambili kunye nezinto zokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana zingenakucaciswa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho ingxaki yangaphambili? Xa uchwetheza "umntwana wesikolo ohlaselwe ngokwesondo ebusini" kwisikhangeli sakho sewebhu kwaye isiqingatha seekhonkco zizinto zeendaba kwaye esinye isiqingatha sazo kwimifanekiso engamanyala kuyacaca ukuba izinto zihambe kakhulu.
Iividiyo zikaRose Kalemba zathathwa kuphela emva kokuba ethunyelwe nge-imeyile I-Pornhub Ukusuka kwiakhawunti yakhe "yegqwetha", kwisithuba seeyure ezingama-48, endaweni yeenyanga ezintandathu zokubongoza ezawela ezindlebeni. Kwakungamelanga ukuba afumane ubulungisa, nangona ukudlwengulwa ngokukhohlakeleyo, okufotiweyo komntwana ongekho zingqondweni "kuyavumelana" kwabanye abantu. Kudala ukuba amaxhoba odlwengulo kufuneka abonakalise ukwenzakala komzimba, ngoku ukuba ayonelanga.
“Izigidi zamadoda zabukela iividiyo ezintandathu zokuhlaselwa kwam. […] Umzi mveliso we-porn wenze ukuba udlwengulo lwam lungapheleli nje kobo busuku boyikekayo, kwaye uloyiko lwam lwalungeyiyo loo nto - bakhawuleza baba yinyani. Ngenxa yeshishini le-porn, ndaye ndahlukunyezwa, ndagxothwa, ndasongelwa, nokunye okuninzi kangangeminyaka kunye neminyaka emva kohlaselo lwam. Ndalandelwa amatyeli amaninzi xa ndihambahamba, nditshica, ndithambatha, ndachukumisa ngokuchasene nentando yam - ngabantu endingabaziyo ngokupheleleyo kunye namanye amakhwenkwe namadoda amadala endibaziyo. ” - ikhonkco
Ezi vidiyo, kunye nezinye ezininzi ezifana nayo, zazisingathwe ngu I-Pornhub engafuni ubudala, imvume, okanye ukuqinisekiswa kwesazisi usebenzisa uchazo lokwenyani lweefoto. Ikwafuna ukuqinisekiswa kobudala kubabukeli-bafumane besebancinci kubonakala ngathi yimotto yabo.
I-Pornhub, ephethwe kwaye iqhutywa MindGeek ekwanayo neyayo Umkhence obomvu kwaye YouPorn, wayevuya nokuqhubeka nokubamba umxholo ukusuka AmantombazanaDoPorn ngelixa babekho kwityala lokurhweba ngabantu ngokungekho mthethweni. Makungabikho nto ingena endleleni yenzuzo ngokucacileyo yenye into. (Akukho ndlela ndiyakholelwa ukuba ezinye iisayithi ze-porn azithathi indlela efanayo yokuziphatha ekonyuseni ixabiso labanini zabelo; ndijolise kwinkampani enegunya elilodwa.
xa NgeCawa yamaxesha kuphandwe, bafumene inqwaba yevidiyo zokudlwengulwa kwabantwana I-Pornhub ngemizuzu nje embalwa. Imifanekiso engamanyala ayaneli nje ukunyanzelisa ukurhweba ngabantu kunye nezinto zokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana, iyaziqhayisa ngokuxhaphaza ngokwesondo; phantse isiqingatha samaxhoba kurhwebo lwamakhoboka ezesondo ingxelo yokufotwa. Ucinga ukuba ezi vidiyo zilayishwa phi ukuba azikho kumaqonga abonelela ngentlawulo endaweni yokufumana ingeniso eyandisiweyo yentengiso?
Ubume obunqabileyo bemvume kwi-porn
Nangona abanye abantu basetyhini bevuma ukuvela kwimifanekiso engamanyala, kuyinyani ukuba uninzi, ngakumbi abo banjalo ngokupheleleyo uthathe umhlala-phantsi, uthethe ngokuchasene nomzi mveliso. Abadlali bexesha elidlulileyo babalisa ngeziganeko apho badlwengulwa ngexesha elinye, ukurhoxisa imvume ngenxa yesenzo esophula umthetho ngesondo okanye inqanaba elingalindelekanga lenkohlakalo, kuphela ukungahoywa ngabo banqwenela ukwenza inzuzo kwaye bafumane ulonwabo ekuphathweni gadalala.
Cinga ngabafazi "abavumayo" ngezantsi; Abanye banyanzelwa kwishishini, abanye bavuma kuphela kwizenzo zesondo ababephantsi kwazo, ngelixa abanye banyamezele inkohlakalo engazange ibonwe ukuze baqhubeke nokusebenza ngaphandle kokuphulukana nolunye ubhukisho okanye umvuzo wosuku:
“Ndinezikrwelo ezingapheliyo phezulu nasezantsi kwamathanga am. Zizo zonke izinto endazivumeleyo, kodwa andizange ndibazi ubundlongondlongo bezinto ezaziza kwenzeka kum de ndibe ndikuloo nto. ” - ikhonkco
Uthi: "Kwakungcolileyo kwaye kuyinto elizothe." “Ndivele ndathi ewe ndakugqiba. . . . Ndaziva ngathi ndingunongogo opheleleyo. ” Wayeqhubeka esenza oko, ngaphandle kosulelo lwesinyi, usulelo lwegwele, kunye nokuphulukana nolawulo lwamathumbu. - ikhonkco
“Ndandibethwa ndikrwitshwa. Bendikhathazeke nyani kwaye abayekanga. Baqhubeka nokufota. ” - ikhonkco
“[Umlingisi oyindoda] unentiyo yendalo kwabasetyhini, ngendlela yokuba ebesoloko esaziwa njengoyinkohlakalo ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Ndavuma ukwenza lo mbono, ndicinga ukuba awubethwa kancinci ngaphandle kwenqindi entloko. Ukuba uye waqaphela, [wayenxibe iringi yakhe eqinileyo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye eqhubeka nokundibetha ngayo. ” - ikhonkco
"Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa ndiye ndaya e-NY ndaya" kwindawo enzima. " Umenzeli wam khange acacise gca kwi-hardcore, ugxininise nje ukuba yimali. Ndabethwa, ndanikwa iliso elimnyama, ndaza ndenziwa isodom ngebhola ye-baseball. Bendingavumelekanga ukuba ndiwuphele umcimbi ngaphandle kokuba ndifuna umvuzo. ” - ikhonkco
"Uye wayamkela into yokuba ndifuna ukukhupha umlomo wam ukuze ndikwazi ukuphefumla, kuba bekunganyamezeleki okwangoku, kuba… ngoku, ndiyazinyanzela [ndigabhe]." - ikhonkco (emva kokunyanzelwa kwisikhundla sokuba umlingisi axelele umlawuli angenakwenza, wasala enenyembezi yelungu lobufazi kunye nomlomo wesibeleko).
“Iarhente endinayo imele kuphela amantombazana angama-25 ngexesha, ke bafuna ukuba onke amantombazana abo enze yonke into… asivumelekanga ukuba singabikho kuluhlu. - ikhonkco
"Undixelele ukuba ndiyenzile kwaye ukuba andikwazi, uyakundibiza kwaye ndiza kuphulukana nolunye ugcino ebendinalo kuba ndizakwenza ukuba iarhente yakhe ibonakale imbi." - ikhonkco
Imingcipheko yokubonelela ngenkuthazo yemali yokwenzakala okanye yokuzenzakalisa iyacaca kwaye ayiqondakali. Nokuba ividiyo enobundlobongela okanye ethoba isidima sisiphumo sokugqibela Ukunyanzelwa kwanamhlanje okanye imeko yesiqhelo yobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo ngenxa yokuzilungisa / ukuxhatshazwa njengomntwana, okanye ngokupheleleyo Ukuvumelana - ngaba kusesikweni?
Ukuba umntu uzimisele ukuthengisa izintso ngenxa yokuba efuna imali, ngaba ishishini lokutyeba ngokukhawuleza elityebileyo kufuneka likwazi ukwenza inzuzo kukusilela koluntu ukukhusela abasesichengeni, amaxhoba endlala? Ngaba ishishini kufuneka likwazi ukwenza inzuzo kukuhlukunyezwa kwabasetyhini, njengoko kunjalo ngoku, ukuba nje bayayibetha ilebheli ye-BDSM kuyo?
Ngaba ukuvuma ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwemali dissonance yolwazi ngokugqibeleleyo? Cinga ngoku kulandelayo:
“Awufuni abantu bacinge ukuba ubuthathaka xa ubukela iphonografi; Ufuna ukwenza ngathi uyayithanda kwaye uyathanda izinto ezirhabaxa, kwaye uyakuthanda ukuphulwa, kwaye ubizwe ngamagama athob 'isidima. Konke kuyipakethi nje yobuxoki. Abantu benza amanyala kuba bafuna imali, kwaye uninzi lwabo alunazo ezinye iindlela okanye imfundo. ”
- UShelley Lubben (owayesakuba ngumlingisi we-porn)
Baninzi abantu abaphelelwe lithemba kweli lizwe. Ukuba imvume yiyo yonke into, phelisa konke, ukumisela ukuba ingaba ikhondo lesenzo lisemthethweni na, ngaba abantu basetyhini banokubulawa ngokungenalusini endaweni yokufumana imali, ukuba amadoda angayonwabela loo nto? Logama evuma kwaye kukho ikhamera eqengqelekayo? Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba utsho ukuba iyahlekisa, jonga ukuba kukho abantu abakulungeleyo ukuphuma baye ezindleleni ukuze iintsapho zabo zifumane intlawulo yeinshurensi.
Inyaniso yokuba abantu bayavumelana nayo [iphonografi] kwaye bahlawulwa, imalunga nokuqiniseka njengoko kufanelekile ukuba sithande ama-sweatshops e-China, apho abantu basetyhini bevaleleke kumzi-mveliso basebenze iiyure ezilishumi elinesihlanu ngosuku, emva koko umzi-mveliso iyatsha ize isweleke yonke. Ewe bahlawulwe kwaye bavuma, kodwa ayindenzi ukuba ndixhase, ke loo ngxabano asinakuthetha ngayo.
- Isilwimi, isazinzulu sokuqonda kunye nefilosofi Noam Chomsky
Amadoda athe andise iphonografi abamba ukungalingani kunye nokuziphatha okubi ngakumbi kwabasetyhini
Ukwanda kokusebenzisa iphonografi okudlulileyo waxela kwangaphambili iimeko zokulingana, kunye nokuziphatha okubi ngokwesini ngokuchasene nabasetyhini, phakathi kwamadoda. Isifundo esifanayo sikwafumanisa ukuvezwa kovavanyo engenabundlobongela Iphonografi ikhokelela ekuziphatheni okubi ngokwesini phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi abaphantsi kokuvumeleka.
Nokuba iphonografi engenabundlobongela ichaphazela ukwamkeleka kodlwengulo kunye nobundlobongela kwabasetyhini
Isifundo elebhu ukuveza amadoda phantse iiyure ezintlanu zoononografi ngexesha leeveki ezi-5 (emva koko kuthathelwa ingqalelo njengesixa "esikhulu") kubakhokelela ekubeni babenomdla kubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo. Amadoda abonakaliswe kwimifanekiso engamanyala axhasa isimo sengqondo sokunciphisa okanye sokuthethelela ukudlwengulwa ngamazinga aphezulu kakhulu kuneqela lolawulo.
Olu vavanyo lusebenzisa iphonografi engenabundlobongela, isenokwenzeka ukubuyela kwii-1980s, kufana nokufumana iqela elilawulayo labafana abancinci. Nokuba unobundlobongela okanye awunabundlobongela, iphonografi iyabachasa kwaye ihlazisa abantu basetyhini ukuya kuthi ga apho amadoda angenakho ukuvelana nabo njengabantu, bebajonga kuphela njengezixhobo zokuzanelisa ngokwesondo.
Ngokufanayo, Olu hlalutyo lweemeta ifumene ikhonkco phakathi kokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwamadoda iphonografi- ngakumbi iphonografi enobundlobongela, kodwa nayo ayinabundlobongela- kunye nezimo zengqondo ezixhasa ubundlobongela kwabasetyhini.
Ukudlwengula kwandile ukusukela inkululeko yenkululeko yemithetho yamanyala
Kule minyaka ilishumi emva kwenkululeko yemithetho yamanyala, iingxelo zokudlwengulwa zinyuke nge-139% e-US, iipesenti ezingama-94 eNgilane, i-160% e-Australia, kunye ne-107% eNew Zealand. Kwangelo xesha linye, amazwe apho amanyala ahlala engqongqo, ukwanda kweengxelo zokudlwengulwa kwakukuncinci kakhulu okanye kwehlile.
"I-Porn Up, Ukudlwengula" yi-crutch ye-pro-porn advocate, uvakalelo olubonakaliswe ngu UD'Amato (2006) ngokwesiseko sedatha ka-1973-2003. Nangona kunjalo, emva ukulungisa ukubala okungaphantsi imeko eyahlukileyo iyaqatshelwa: amazinga okudlwengula eMelika enyukile ngeli xesha.
Ukwehla kwaba bubugcisa obumalunga neepesenti ezingama-22 zamasebe asebupoliseni angabalwa kakhulu ncinane, ukudlwengulwa ngokunyanzelwa kwelungu lobufazi ngenxa yomxube weendlela zokuchasa amaxhoba odlwengulo kunye nomnqweno wokukhangeleka uphumelele kumlo wokulwa ulwaphulo-mthetho. Kananjalo, iingxelo zokudlwengulwa ezixeliweyo zagxothwa 'njengezingenasiseko' ngaphandle kophando, zahlelwa ngokutsha, okanye azabhalwa phantsi.
Ngokungafaniyo nokubulala, ukubetha, ukuqhekeza, ubusela nokubiwa kwemoto- ngaba u-D'Amato wayecinga ukuba ukubethwa kwamantombazana oononophala kwakusisindisa nakubo? - udlwengulo aluzange lwehle ukusukela kwii-1990s zakuqala, kwaye kungekho lonyuko lonyukayo ukusukela ngo-2010 (itshathi ngasekhohlo). Endaweni yoko, kwabakho ukonyuka okukhawulezileyo kudlwengulo oluchaziweyo emva kwenkululeko yemithetho yamanyala ngo-1964 (itshathi ekunene, jonga imigca eqinileyo).
Ayilulo kuphela udlwengulo olwandileyo, kodwa njengoko kubonisiwe e-Australia, iphonografi iye utshintshe isimilo sokonangakumbi ukwanda kokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kunye nokudlwengulwa kwamantombazana amancinci aneminyaka eli-13 neli-14.
Eli lelona xesha lokukhumbula into ebalulekileyo: uninzi lodlwengulo aluxelwa emapoliseni, njengoko kubonisiwe kwipiramidi engezantsi. Ingxelo yakho yokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo (kubandakanya udlwengulo: iipesenti ezingama-36) ngaphezulu kokuphindwe kabini phakathi kuka-2017 no-2018 e-United States. Kwangelo xesha, ukunika ingxelo emapoliseni kwehlile ukusuka kuma-40% ukuya kuma-25%.
Imifanekiso engamanyala yenye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo ngokudlwengula kunye nokunyanzelisa isondo
Uphononongo olude lwamva nje Ulutsha lwaseMelika lufumanise ukuba emva kokulawula ezinye izinto ezinempembelelo, ukubonakaliswa kokuxhatshazwa kwabazali kunye nokuchaphazeleka kwabo kwimifanekiso engamanyala enogonyamelo- bobabini basebenza njengezikripthi zobundlobongela phakathi kwabantu -zizezona zibini zinamandla okuxela ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, kubandakanya isondo lokunyanzelwa kunye nokudlwengulwa. Ukucacisa, uyilo lokufunda luthetha ukuba ubundlobongela benzekile emva Sebenzisa iphonografi.
A Uhlalutyo lweemeta lwezifundo ezingama-22 ezivela kumazwe ahlukeneyo e-7 ifumanise ukuba ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweefografi kunxulunyaniswa nobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, kokubini ngamazwi (umz. Ukucinezela isondo ngengxoxo okanye isoyikiso sokuphelisa ubudlelwane) kunye nokwenyama (ukusetyenziswa kwamandla).
Ubunzima bobungqina
Kukho izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-100 ezibonisa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwephonografi kuhambelana kunye kwaye kungunobangela (kubonisiwe kwizifundo zovavanyo) kuluhlu olubanzi lokuziphatha gwenxa. Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-50 zibonisa unxibelelwano olomeleleyo phakathi kwamanyala kunye nobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo. Iziphumo ziyafana kulungelelwaniso, amacandelo anqamlezileyo, uvavanyo, kunye nezifundo ezide: ukusetyenziswa kwamanyala kunye nezenzo zobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo zidibene ngokuthe ngqo. - ikhonkco
Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba wonke umntu obukela iphonografi uqinisekisiwe ukuba uzakudlwengulwa? Hayi, kodwa kananjalo asiyisebenzisi into yokuba ayinguye wonke umntu otshaya oya kuba nomhlaza wemiphunga njengokuchaswa kweziphumo eziyingozi zomsi wecuba.
Njani amanyala uwonyusa umngcipheko wokudlwengulwa
Esinye isazi ngezentlalo, emva kokushwankathela idatha efumanekayo, sithetha oku malunga nokunxibelelana phakathi kwamanyala kunye nokudlwengulwa: “Iphonografi (a) ibeka amanye amadoda kwinqanaba lokufuna ukudlwengula abasetyhini kwaye iqinisa utyekelo lwamanye amadoda esele enoluvo; (b) ujongela phantsi uthintelo lwangaphakathi lwamadoda ekuchaseni iminqweno yabo yokudlwengula; (c) kujongela phantsi ukuthintelwa kwamadoda ekuhlaleni ngokuchasene nokwenza iminqweno yabo yokudlwengula - ikhonkco
Imifanekiso engamanyala ikhokelela kwi-desensitisation kunye nokufuna umxholo ogqithileyo
Iphonografi yindlela yokuziphatha eyandayo; yiyo umlutha ke zikhona ukunciphisa ukubuya kunye nokusetyenziswa kwayo okwandisiweyo. Oku kunyanzela abathengi ukuba bafune ukugqwesa ngakumbi kunye nokujolisa kumxholo ukuze phinda into yokuqala 'ephezulu', kwaye nomzi mveliso ngokuqinisekileyo igcinwe isantya.
“Sifumene into efanayo kumantombazana nakumakhwenkwe. Inkqubo yokungafuni ukungaziphathi ngokuhamba kwexesha inokubonisa inkqubo yesiqhelo, ngengqondo yokuba okukhona umntu esiba sesichengeni sokubonana nezinto ezibonisa isini kwi-intanethi, kokukhona esiba buthathaka kwimixholo enjalo. ” - Isixhumanisi sokufunda
I-Orgasm yomeleza ngamandla indlela yokuziphatha ngokukhutshwa kwe dopamine; Nasiphi na isikhuthazo esinxulumene nokukhululwa ngokwesondo ngokwayo iba inqweneleka ngakumbi. Uninzi lwabantu alunamtsalane kubundlobongela, okanye ngokwesini ebantwaneni, nangona iphonografi inokuphinda ubutshintshe ubuni babo ukuze babe njalo.
Awukhuselekanga kwimeko yesiqhelo, ayisiyombambano yamandla okuziphatha okanye isimilo. Unokuziqeqesha izinja ukuba ziginye amathe xa zikhala ngeentsimbi, iigundane ukuze zikhethe ukunuka kokufa, amadoda afune iibhutsi kunye nezithende eziphakamileyo ngombutho- kutheni ukuphulula amaphambili kulutsha okanye umxholo onogonyamelo njengoko kwenza uninzi lwephonografi kungayiyo le nto ?
Zonke iindlela zikhokelela eRoma, okanye kule meko ukuya ngokugqithisileyo zoonografi. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuphulula amalungu esini kumxholo onje owonyusa umnqweno wayo, yona inika umbono ukuba izenzo zesondo eziyingozi nezithobayo zixhaphakile kwaye zamkelekile.
Imifanekiso engamanyala ayigcini nje ngokuvuselela ubuchopho kodwa ibhala kwakhona iscript esenzakalisayo esonakalisa amantombazana nabafazi
"Ukunxibelelana komnqweno wolawulo / ukuthobela ngumzekelo womfanekiso wesini esahlukileyo kubudlelwane bamadoda nabasetyhini, omnye othethelela iphonografi. Abasetyhini bafanele ukuba bathande ukuphathwa gadalala. Oku kukwangumzekelo wokuthetheleleka kwabo bonke ubudlelwane bengcinezelo - ukuba lowo uphantsi "owahlukileyo" unandipha isikhundla esisezantsi " - U-Audrey Lorde
Eyona iphonografi umntu ayisebenzisayo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayisebenzise ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, acinge ngayo ngesondo, acele izinto ezingamanyala zomlingane wakhe, kwaye kuncinci ukuba angakonwabela ukwabelana ngesondo neqabane.
Kwimifanekiso engamanyala, ubundlongondlongo bendoda kunye nokuzonwabisa ziphambili; nangona ubukhulu becala bubonakala, i-orgasms yabasetyhini ibonakala kuphela I-18% ukuya kumadoda angama-78% exesha. Iminqweno yamakhwenkwe neyamadoda ngoku ijikeleza kwiskripthi sesondo esimiselwe ngoononophala (ubundlobongela obuqhelekileyo bendoda kunye nokuzonwabisa okugxininisiweyo kwabasetyhini), kwaye abafazi namantombazana bayasokola ngenxa yayo.
"Imifanekiso engamanyala inika umyalezo kumantombazana ukuba kufuneka uzithobe kwinqanaba eliphezulu lobundlobongela, kwaye ubunyamezele ubundlobongela kunye nokuzithoba. Bakujonga njengokwabelana ngesondo ngokuchasene nobundlobongela, njengokuvuma ngokuchasene nokunyanzelwa, ukugrogriswa, ukuphathwa gadalala, okanye okubi ngakumbi. ”
-U-Taina Bien-Aime (UMlawuli oLawulayo we-Coalition Against Against Traffick in Women)
Phantse ikota yabasetyhini abadala baxela ukuba baziva uloyiko ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ichaza iimeko ezoyikisayo njengokukrwitshwa ngokungalindelekanga. E-US, ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha samantombazana aneminyaka eli-15-19 ubudala axelwe ukuba anjalo Ukunyanzelwa kwizenzo zesondo.
ENgilani, iipesenti ezingama-40 zamantombazana aneminyaka eli-13-17 ubudala Ukunyanzelwa kwimisebenzi yesondo (kubandakanya ukulala ngesinyanzelo) liqabane, elinama-22% axela ukuphathwa gadalala emzimbeni weqabane labo. Uninzi lwamakhwenkwe kuvavanywa rhoqo ukuba abukele iphonografi, kunye ne-1 kwaba-5 bagcina isimo sengqondo esibi kakhulu kubafazi.
"Ngaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba yintombazana engathandaniyo nomntu ongathandani naye kodwa ungafuni ukulala namadoda uyibone iyenyanyeka, ithoba isidima kwaye inobundlobongela? Andinayo nayiphi na ingxaki yokwabelana ngesondo, andikho kunqulo kwaye isondo alizange libe yinto yam kum ”- Anonymous Reddit isikhundla
Ugqirha, masimbize ngokuba nguSue, uthe: "Ndiyoyika ukuba izinto zimbi kakhulu kunokuba abantu bekrokrela." Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, uSue wanyanga inani elandayo lamantombazana akwishumi elivisayo elinokwenzakala kwangaphakathi okubangelwa kukulala ngesondo ezimpundwini rhoqo; hayi, njengoko uSue wafumanisayo, kuba babefuna, okanye ngenxa yokuba bonwabile, kodwa kuba inkwenkwana yayilindele njalo kubo. ” [ngokungakwazi ukuzibamba kumantombazana amancinci - ikhonkco]
Amalungelo akho aphela apho ndiqala khona owam
Awunalo ilungelo elingenakuphikiswa lokuhlambalaza, okanye uzuze kulo. Kuqoqosho lwentengiso yasimahla kunye noluntu olunentetho yasimahla, iikhemikhali eziyityhefu zivaliwe, imifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana iyathintelwa, iifilimu zesinem ziyavalwa- kutheni ukuxhaphaza abantu abadala kwahlukile?
Wamkelekile ebomini kuluntu oluphucukileyo, inkululeko yakho ihlala inyhashwa ukuze usindise abantu kwiziphumo zomnqweno wentliziyo yakho yonke.
Ukuthetha ngenkululeko namalungelo:
"Kuyamangalisa ukuba ishishini elikhulu njenge-porn liyaqhubeka nokubaleka eyona migaqo isisiseko exhasa inkululeko yabantu njengoko kuchaziwe nguMbutho weHlabathi wezeMpilo yezeSondo uXwebhu lwamaLungelo ezeSondo (# 5): Ilungelo lokukhululeka kuzo zonke iintlobo ubundlobongela nokunyanzelisa. ” -Liz Walker (uMseki, iProjekthi yokuPhila noLutsha)
Ukongeza koku kungasentla, Inqaku lesi-3 loMthetho wamaLungelo oLuntu uqinisekisa inkululeko ekuhlukunyezweni (ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni) nangokuphathwa gadalala okanye ukohlwaywa. Faka isicelo kubenzi bephonografi- ngaba ukhathalele ngamalungelo abo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo yokusebenza?
Inkululeko yamazwi
Indawo yokubhengeza iphonografi izibonakalisile Ulungelelaniso lweNtetho yeNtetho. Okokugqibela ndijongile, intetho yasimahla 'lilungelo lokuvakalisa naziphi na izimvo ngaphandle kothintelo okanye uthintelo'. Into emnandi - yokuba abantu basetyhini bayathanda ukuphathwa gadalala- ngokuqinisekileyo banokuhlelwa njengentetho ephembelela ubundlobongela, kodwa ubundlobongela obungalinganiswanga kunye nokuthotywa isidima kudlula ngaphaya 'kwentetho', nokuba kubonisa umbono 'wobugcisa' womlawuli.
Ukuzithemba emva kwesibhengezo senkululeko yokuthetha okanye yamalungelo akunakuvuma. Oku kumalunga 'nelungelo' kunye 'nenkululeko' yokufumana inzuzo kukuxhaphaza nakukungalingani kwezentlalo nezoqoqosho, ayikho enye into.
Umqondiso olusizi wamaxesha
Amadoda amaninzi abahlukumezayo awakrwitshile amaxhoba abo ababhinqileyo, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba ama-34-68% abantu basetyhini abachaze ubundlobongela kumaqabane abo baxela ukukrwitshwa. Ukukrwitshwa okungabulali yinto ebalulekileyo yomngcipheko ekubulaweni komfazi liqabane elisenyongweni.
Abafazi ngokuphindwe kasixhenxe ukubulawa okanye ukwenzakaliswa kakubi emva kokukhawulwa xa kuthelekiswa nokubethwa okanye ukusongelwa. Ngenxa yoku, ukuthandwa yenye yeendlela eziyingozi kakhulu zokuhlaselwa kwabasetyhini njengokutya kwe-masturbation kuyaphazamisa.
“… Inkxalabo yam ikukuziphatha okuhle kokubonisa eyona ndlela iphambili yokungcungcuthekisa abantu ngokwesini kunye noloyiko njengomdlalo wesini” - ikhonkco
Luhlobo loxhatshazo oludla ngokungashiyi mkhondo wobungqina obuphathekayo, ukantiiziphumo zomzimba Ingabandakanya ukubanjwa kwentliziyo, ukubetha, ukuphuphuma kwesisu, ukungakwazi ukuzibamba, ukuphazamiseka ekuthetheni, ukuxhuzula, ukukhubazeka, kunye nokunye ukulimala kwengqondo ixesha elide ” Oko kukuthi, ukuba ixhoba liyasinda.
Amadoda, isoka kunye nemihla yeTinder inayo abafazi abakrwitshwayo bafe emva koko batyhola "ngesini esibi" ngokungahambi kakuhle ukuba ityala labo lokubulala lithotywe. Amadoda amaninzi anjalo afumana izivakalisi ezimbalwa, akhululwa emva kweminyaka embalwa ngokuziphatha kakuhle (akukho bafazi abanokukhubekisa entolongweni, emva koko).
Naliphi na inani lobundlobongela basekhaya kunye nezesondo, nkqu ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, ngoku banokugxothwa "njengemvumelwano" kuba amadoda anokwalatha kwizenzo ezifanayo kwi-porno yabo abayithandayo kunye nababukeli babo abancumayo okanye abangaxakekanga.
Ukuphuma kwegazi kwilungu lobufazi, ukoyikeka kwamehlo, amanxeba ebusweni, kunye nomothuko onamandla unganyanzeliswa ukuba ube "yimidlalo" yesondo kuphela yamadoda angcungcuthekisa abasetyhini de bafe. Sasisithi "uyayicela" ngokudlwengula, ngoku siyenza ngokubulala. (I-UK, ubuncinci, ithathe amanyathelo ngokuchasene "nokhuselo").
Intombazana eneminyaka eli-16 ubudala iya kuyidinga ibhegi yecostostomy bonke ubomi bakhe ngenxa yesondo leqela elibi, kwaye ezinye iindawo zeendaba zinokubhala kuphela apha ukulinganisa iphonografi, "yokuzenzakalisa". Ilizwi elingavumi. Abasetyhini bayadlwengulwa, benzakaliswe kabuhlungu, kwaye babulawa-ngubani? Ngubani isahlulo esithuleyo nesikhuselweyo salo mlinganiso? Kuphi ukukhankanywa kwamakhwenkwe kunye / okanye amadoda awonzakeleyo?
Sifikelela kwinqanaba apho isini kunye nokudlwengulwa, isondo kunye nenkohlakalo kwabasetyhini ziye zadilika zangumbono omnye. Imifanekiso engamanyala ngoku iyindlela yokuqinisa kunye nokukhuthaza ukungaziphathi kakuhle ngokuyifota, ayisiyonto imfutshane ukubhiyozela ukudlwengulwa kwabasetyhini, ukuphathwa gadalala kunye nokuthotywa ezandleni zamadoda.
Ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kunye nohanahaniso
"Iminyaka yabantwana iya isiba ncinane ngokuncipha, kwaye kuya kusanda ukuba abantu banganeli nje ukuba nemifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana, kodwa babe nemifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana enemixholo enobundlobongela." - ikhonkco
Uluntu oluzibophelele ekupheliseni ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana alunokwabelana ngesondo nangaluphi na uhlobo losasazo, okanye lwenze ukuba kusasazwe iphonografi yabantwana njengokungabikho kokuhlolwa okanye ukuqinisekiswa.
Asinakho ukuzibophelela ekulinganeni, kumalungelo, okanye nakwimbeko esisiseko, kwabasetyhini abanayo nantoni na ngaphandle kokunikela ngomlomo, ukuba sihlala sinyamezele ekwenzeni amadoda akhuthaze ukuzonwabisa ekuphathweni gadalala nasekuhlazisweni kwabantu basetyhini. Akukho mlo uhlaselwayo ngokwesondo, udlwengulo, okanye ubundlobongela basekhaya kwindawo enjalo- kuya kufana nokufunxa iAtlantic ngepuni.
"… Ingaba inesimilo kwaye ihloniphekile" "ukudlala" kunye nokukhuthaza amandla okuthotywa kunye nobundlobongela oboyikisayo, obenzakalisayo, kunye nokubulala abasetyhini yonke imihla? " - ikhonkco
Xa uhlobo lokuzonwabisa oluqhelekileyo ngesiqhelo ibonisa ukuthandwa kombulo, ukuthimba, (ngamanye amaxesha) udlwengulo olulinganisiweyo, udlwengulo olunobundlobongela, kunye nobundlobongela obungalinganiswanga kunye nokuphathwa gadalala kuthumela umyalezo ongalunganga. Njengamabali ahlaselayo abasetyhini abachasayo kwaye babonakale ngathi bayakonwabela ukudlwengulwa.
Unokukhetha
Imifanekiso engamanyala kukuthotywa isidima kwabantu basetyhini. Yinto ehlazo leyo. Andifuni kudibaniswa nayo. Jonga nje imifanekiso. Ndiyathetha, abasetyhini bathotyiwe njengezinto ezingcolileyo zesini. Ayisiyiyo le nto ngabantu. Andiboni kwanto ukuba ndixoxe ngayo. - Noam Chomsky
Ukuba ufundile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, uye wasebenzisa gwenxa umbono wokuba iphonografi ibonisa kuphela ubudala, abenzi bokuzithandela. Usenokuthathela ingqalelo ukuba ngaba isigunyaziso sokwenzakaliswa kunye nokuhlaziswa sanele ngokwaneleyo ukulithethelela naliphi na inqanaba lokwenzakala ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo.
Ndingaqiniseka ukuba ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo iphonografi ayipheleliselwanga kubadlali, kwaye nokuba ukujonga into engamanyala kubeka abantu basetyhini esichengeni. Ukukhanya koku, unokukhetha. Unga:
Yenza ngathi umxholo wamanyala uyalelwa ngabafazi abathanda ukuphathwa gadalala kunamadoda athanda ukubukela abantu basetyhini ukuba Ukuphathwa gadalala. Khusela umnqweno wakho wokutya umxholo ojolise kuko okanye ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kunye nokuthotywa isidima phantsi kwesitayile sokuba yintshatsheli yamalungelo abasetyhini kunye nenkululeko yokuthetha.
Ukubambelela kwimbono yokuba imvume yemali yenza naliphi na inani lenkohlakalo kunye nokuthotywa kuvunyelwe ukuba kuthoba isazela sakho. Gxotha ecaleni imigaqo yokuziphatha yokufota gadalala njengolonwabo. Ngaphezu kwako konke, usilele ukucinga ngokunzulu okanye ngokuziphatha.
Zisongele ekulahlekisweni okuthuthuzelayo ukuba ukhetho lwenziwe kwindawo engenanto, ukuba iimbali zobuqu zokuphathwa gadalala, kunye nezentlalo, inkcubeko kunye nezoqoqosho ezithi zibabeke emngciphekweni abantu basetyhini azinasizathu sokuba kutheni umntu othile "enokuzivolontiya" ukuba asele ejaculate kuye usana lwakho. (Ukungcatsha isiqu sakho ngokuzithoba "ngokuzithoba" ngenxa yeengxaki ezininzi ezinzima kunye noxinzelelo kutheni ukuthotywa "Ineziphumo ezihlala ixesha elide neziyingozi emphefumlweni nasengqondweni ... kunokuba kunjalo ngokuhlukumezeka ngokwasemzimbeni".)
Ukunyanzelisa izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi (ngokufuthi njengendlela yokuhamba kwindawo ebonakalayo), kunye nokwenzakala okuxhaphakileyo kolu shishino akunanto yakwenza- ngubani okhathalayo ukuba 'inkwenkwezi' yefilimu "ephindwe kabini" yabethwa okanye yaphulukana; ngubani okhathalayo ukuba a indoda eyenzileyo Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwamachiza e-erectile dysfunction kunokukhokelela kubunzulu bokubaluleka?
Ziqinisekise ukuba impatho-gadalala oyibukeleyo “ayiyonto imbi” kuba inenekazi ekwindibano yodliwanondlebe ekuphumileyo likuxelele indlela ekumnandi ngayo ukuqokelela irholo, ukugcina umsebenzi walo, ukunqanda ukuxhatshazwa nokugculelwa ngabalandeli kunye neenkwenkwezi kolu shishino. Awuzange umbone ephinda-phinda ngaphandle kokungahoywa ohleliweyo ividiyo, yonke into eyenzekileyo isetiwe kumele ziye zenziwa ngokugqibeleleyo.
Sijonge kwinto yokuba awunandlela yokwahlula kuhlawulwa ngebhetri yesondo yomntu omdala onxibe njengomntwana, ukusuka kudlwengulo lwentombazana ethinjiweyo. Ziqinisekise ukuba uyawubona umahluko phakathi kwevidiyo yomntu onokuthi, ngokwasemzimbeni ukuba akayimali, awushiye umsebenzi wakhe kumfazi okanye intombazana ethengisiweyo engakwaziyo. Gumba izithende zakho, gxininisa ukuba ividiyo ye-amateur ethunyelwe ngu 'Ongaziwayo' yayikhona nakanjani ilayishwe ngemvume yomabini, kwaye yayi nakanjani Ukuvumelana.
Ungayihoyi into yokuba iividiyo “zolutsha” kunye “neentlobano zesini” zisetyenziswa ngabaxhaphazi ukuzilolonga okanye ukuyalela amaxhoba. Ungayihoyi ngabom into yokuba ishishini libotshelelwe ukuthwalwa kwabantu, uyondla ngemfuno yayo, emva koko ubambe ividiyo erekhodiweyo ngenzuzo.
Yenza ngathi ulungile ngokubukela abadlali bezinto ezingamanyala akuyi kuba yinto "efanayo" kwimifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana. ujonga nabantu abadala amanyala.
Ukugxininisa ukuba amajelo osasazo awanampembelelo kwizimo zengqondo, kwaye izimo zengqondo kunye neenkolelo azichaphazeli isimilo. Yenza ngathi i-orgasm ayinamandla okuqinisa indlela yokuziphatha, ekwazi ukuphinda isebenzise ingqondo kunye ne-warp ukuthanda izinto zesondo.
Ungabuhoyi ubunzima bobungqina. Qiniseka ukuba abo bafundayo, bajongana nabo, okanye eneneni ngabaphuli-mthetho ngokwesondo abazi ukuba bathetha ngantoni xa bethetha ngonxibelelwano phakathi kwamadoda ophulula amalungu esini yenene ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kunye nokufuna ngempela bathathe inxaxheba kuyo ngokwabo.
Kwaye okokugqibela, unokukhetha ukuxhasa ishishini elingenabuntu elinemveliso yalo kukuxhatshazwa okwenziwa esikrinini, ukuxhaphaza, inkcaso kunye nokuziphatha gwenxa kwabanye abantu.
Okanye, ungabeka ipremiyamu ephezulu kwintlalontle kunye nesidima sabanye kunendlela enye yokuhla. Yiloo zonke Kuya kufuneka unikezele, hayi indawo yokuhlala, ingekuko ukutya, hayi unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, ukungazenzi ngokwakho, hayi isini, nokuba iphambili. Andikwazi ukugxininisa indalo engamanyani ngokwaneleyo.
Utshintsho lunokwenzeka: ukumiselwa kunye nokuthintela
Uxanduva lomntu buhamba kakuhle kwaye bulungile, kodwa lincinci kakhulu. Sinegunya elingaphezulu koko. Singakwazi, kwaye silawule kwaye sithintele amashishini onke alandela le patheni: umsebenzisi ufumana ukukhawuleziswa kweekhemikhali zeemvakalelo ngokubeka impilo yabo kunye nokuba sempilweni kwabanye.
E-Australia, iibhedi zokulungisa isikhumba zaqala zalawulwa ukunciphisa ubungozi, emva koko zathintelwa ngokuthe ngqo xa umngcipheko kwimpilo yabantu wawucingelwa ungacacanga umbono ongeyonyani wokhuseleko kunye nokuvuma).
Kwenzeka ntoni kubaqhubi beebhedi zokushuka? Bafumene omnye umsebenzi, ngelixa abanini be-solarium befumene amanye amashishini. Abadlali ababhinqileyo ababhinqileyo banemisebenzi engaphaya kweenyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-18, uninzi luyeka emva komdlalo wokuqala. Lushishino oluhlafuna abantu luze lubaphalaze, kwaye luqhubeke nokuzuza inzuzo ngokuxhaphaza kwabo ngokuqhubekayo.
Kwangokunjalo, iisigare zenziwe zangabizi kakhulu kwaye zahonjiswa ngemiyalezo yezempilo. Iinkampani zecuba zazingavunyelwanga kwintengiso, nokuba ngasese, ebantwaneni, ngelixa abathengisi abathengisela abantwana ngaphandle kokujonga ifoto yesazisi bohlwaywa kakhulu. Ukutshaya kwakungavumelekanga kwiindawo zokutyela, kwiindawo zentselo nakwiindawo zokuzonwabisa zasebusuku. Bambalwa kakhulu abantu namhlanje abathathela ingqalelo ukutshaya njengobumnandi okanye obungenabungozi, kwaye ngenxa yoko, bambalwa abantu abatshayayo.
Umahluko kwindlela yokuhlangana wawungenanto yakwenza nenqanaba lokonzakala, kunye nokunye okunxulumene negunya lokucela amandla kwezi mveliso zimbini. Imifanekiso engamanyala kuqikelelwa ukuba iyi- $ 6-15 yezigidigidi kumzi-mveliso, ngelixa ukuthengisa ngesondo kucingelwa ukuba kunenzuzo enkulu. Ukuthintela, okanye nokuzama ukulawula ngokufanelekileyo ukhuseleko kushishino lweenzuzo zalo ezinkulu ayisiyonto ilula, nangona kunjalo, ayisiyonto ingoyisayo.
Kuyavunywa, ngamanye amaxesha kubakho iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga kwizithintelo, ezinje ngabantu ababhenela ekuseleni utywala bemizi-mveliso kwaye bengaboni. Nangona kunjalo, andicingi ukuba ukuthelekisa noThintelo kufanelekile; Pha sele Kukho uthungelwano olukhulu lolwaphulo-mthetho oluchazwe kumadoda (ahlala ephefumlelwa zi-porn) ukuthanda ukutya ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kunye nokuthotywa isidima. Ngaba yeyiphi enye into enokubonelela ukugcina imfuno?
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Ezinye izisombululo
Ukuba oononopopayi babhalisa amashishini abo kunye nemimandla yewebhusayithi kumazwe abekezelela ukwenzakala kwabasetyhini, ke iifilitha zoononografi zingasetyenziselwa- ubuncinci, izihluzo zobudala.
I-US, eneefilimu ezikwisabelo esikhulu samanyala, zinokwamkela ukuthintela isetyenziswa ngamanye amazwe apho izenzo zesondo ezibeka emngciphekweni impilo yomenzi kwaye ezinokuthi zenzakale akukho semthethweni, nokuba kugunyazisiwe na. Oku akuphelisi ukuxhaphaza ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kunciphisa ubungakanani bengozi.
Ngokufanayo, ukusetyenziswa kwekhondomu kunokwenziwa kunyanzeleke. Ukuba oko kungakhokelela ekonzakaleni kwabadlali ababhinqileyo amahlumelo anokuncitshiswa ukubuyekeza. Ewe, nokuba olo luqwalaselo lusisiseko lwabasebenzi luya kunciphisa inzuzo yenkampani yokuvelisa.
Iinkampani zemveliso zinokulawulwa okanye zivale ngokupheleleyo ukophulwa kwamalungelo oluntu. Iinkampani zokubamba ividiyo nazo zinokuvalwa; iinkampani ezinkulu zamakhadi etyala zinokucinezelwa ukuba zitsale inkxaso yazo (njenge PayPal uyenzile). Ngabalandeli kuphela, leyo ivumela ngokulula abantwana ukufaka imifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana kwiqonga labo, banokuphendula. I-Pornhub unokubekwa uxanduva. Inyaniso, Nalu uxwebhu lwezikhalazo onokulusayina.
"Xa inkampani isenza izigidi ngokuqhutywa kunye nokusasazwa kwamanyala abantwana, iividiyo zokudlwengula kunye nokuxhaphaza okufakwe kwiifilimu, isisombululo asinakucaca ngakumbi. Lixesha lokuba ivale i-Pornhub kwaye ibaphendule ngomonakalo owenzekileyo ”
-U-Lauren Hersh (UMlawuli weSizwe, uMhlaba ngaphandle kokuSebenzisa)
Umntu akunyanzelekanga ukuba ahlawulise izinto ezincinci ezifana no "kufunda nge-porn" kumagumbi okufundela ngokungathi umthengi omdala ebengenaxhala. Ukulahlekisa abantwana ukuba "iphonografi ayisiyonyani" ayenzi nto ukujongana neemeko ezimbi zabasebenzi be-porn, iyayifihla.
Imbali iyaziphinda, oko kuthetha ukuba likho ithemba
Ngendlela efanayo neenkampani zecuba ezisebenzisa amanqanaba e-nicotine ukugcina umlutha kwimveliso yazo, oononopopayi benza umxholo ogqithiseleyo.
Ukutya okukhawulezayo kuxhasa iimbaleki zabantwana, I-Pornhub Banokujika iinzame zabo zokunceda, ukulunga-ukubonisa Kwintando yokurhweba ngabantu ukucoca umfanekiso wayo- okanye ngaba iya kuba sempumlweni?
Ekugqibeleni, umnikelo wokuqala woxolo uya kuza, ngohlobo lweendlela zokuziphatha ezibuthathaka ngokuzithandela. Mhlawumbi i-porn-free-free-free okanye "feminist" iya kuba yinto yabo yecigarette ephantsi?
Ukuba ucinga amalungelo oluntu ayizukuqhutywa njengenzuzo, isondelwe ngamadoda, kwaye ixhaphaze njengalo lonke ushishino lokuzonwabisa lwabantu abadala olungenangqondo kuwe. Xa ubuzwa ukuba imifanekiso engamanyala ingaphuculwa njani, Noam Chomsky uthelekise lo mbuzo nobuyatha “bokuphucula” kunokuphelisa ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana.
Ukuba yenziwe ngokungummangaliso, iphonografi engenabundlobongela, ubudala kunye nemvume eqinisekisiweyo iya kuba luphuculo, kodwa kuya kude kube nini ukuba oononopopayi batyhalele imvulophu, babambe ii-lobbyist, kwaye sibuyele apho siqale khona? Khumbula, kwakhona, ukuba into engamanyala kodwa engenabundlobongela nayo ikhuthaza ilungelo kwimizimba yabasetyhini, kwaye ngenxa yoko ibangela ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo.
Inye into eqinisekileyo, sinokuba nayo kwindawo yokutshaya ye-1950s kunye UJoe Camel ukuvuthela umsi ebusweni bethu. (Uyazi, ngaphambi kokuba athathe umhlala phantsi kwaye ethetha ngokuchasene nomzi mveliso.)
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