Ke, andizange ndicinge ukuba ndingaze ndibe lapha ndithumela ibali lam eliqinisekileyo lokuchacha. Kodwa ndikho! Ngaphandle kweakhawunti ende kakhulu, ndiyathemba ukuba umntu uyayifumana iluncedo. Okokuqala, imbali ethile. Ukususela kumncinci omncinci mhlawumbi i-9 okanye i-10, mhlawumbi incinci, ndaqala ukuphulula amaphambili. Izulu liyasazi ukuba kutheni kwasebuncinaneni obunje, inokwenzeka into yokufun’ ukwazi, mhlawumbi yinto yokuzithuthuzela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba akuzange kube kudala ngaphambi kokuba ibe ngumkhwa oqhelekileyo.
Ngokomxholo, ndineminyaka engama-46 kwaye andizange ndivezwe nge-porn ngexesha lokufikisa. Ndandikhe ndibe nomntwana endandifunda naye esikolweni ewangawangisa imagazini engamanyala xa esiya esikolweni. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba yayiyiloo nto. Noko ke, oko akuthethi ukuba iingxaki zam bezingekaqalisi. Ukuthanda ukuphulula amalungu esini kwakusele kuqinisiwe kulutsha lwam.
Ukuqala kokulutha kwePorn
At the age of 16ish umkhuluwa wam omdala kancinci wemka. Washiya umthwalo weemagi ze-porn kwi-draw. Hayi njengenceba endinayo kodwa ngaphezulu kokungazi ukuba mandenze ntoni ngabo. Xa ndijonga ngasemva, ndiyabona ukuba mhlawumbi wayesele ethe phithi ngokungekho sempilweni. Okwangqinwa kamva ebomini kodwa lelinye ibali. Ndiyayibona ngoku le nto ibethelela ngakumbi into ekusenokwenzeka ukuba sele ilikhoboka layo. Nangona ngokuqinisekileyo enye ndandingayazi ngelo xesha. Khange ndiyibone indlela esele inefuthe elibi ngayo kubomi bam, kodwa ngakumbi malunga nendlela ekumele ilandele ngayo.
Ngeli nqaku, i-masturbation kunye ne-porn mags yayixhaphake kakhulu. Mhlawumbi yonke imihla, nokuba kabini yonke imihla, kwaye ngexesha lobudlelwane bexesha elide. Xa ndikhangela emva, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ndandiyisebenzisa njengendlela yokuziva ndonwabile. Ndakhuliswa ngendlela eyaphukileyo kwintsapho yam kwaye intsapho yam yayingengomntu obonisa uthando nothando. Xa ndicingisisa ndiyazibuza ukuba kulapho usuka khona lo mkhwa, ndiqinisekile ukuba udlale indima noko.
Inqanaba elilandelayo kumkhwa wam we-porn wawumalunga ne-21yrs ubudala xa ndathenga i-PC yasekhaya kwizifundo. Emva koku, kungekudala ndafumanisa umhlaba weempompo zasimahla kunye neevidiyo zamanyala. Oku kuzise inqanaba elitsha ngokupheleleyo lento endiyibonayo ngoku kukukhobokisa ngokupheleleyo. Ubuncinane yayingumkhwa wasebusuku, ngokufuthi kusasa nasebusuku. Ngaphandle kokuba bendinentombi. Kodwa nangayiphi na imini ndingekho neqabane iphonografi yayibakhona.
Iimpawu zeMiba
Kwakumalunga neli xesha ndaqalisa ukuba nengxaki yokudakumba. Yayingesosihlandlo sokuqala ukuba ndibe neentloni, kodwa ekuqaleni kweminyaka yam ndandidla ngokuba neentloni ngenxa yokuba kukho into ebangela iintloni. Ngoku noko umntu ondijongileyo angandimisa. Kuya kuba njalo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abasetyhini kunye namadoda. Oku kwakukhubaza ngakumbi ukuba ngumntu odlamkileyo eluntwini (nangona wayengumntu oqalayo).
Ngelixesha andikhange ndidibanise isibini nesibini. Njengoko ndandisoloko ndineentloni, ndandicinga ukuba le yinxalenye nje yomntu endinguye. And it's worse bekuphinda kanye bendinguye. Ngokudandatheka njengoko kwakunjalo, kwaye yahluke ngokupheleleyo kwi-masturbation yam kunye nemikhwa ye-porn. Ndikwafanele ndongeze ukususela kwiminyaka yam yokuqala yeshumi elivisayo (kwaye xa ndijonga umva ngokucacileyo sele ndinomkhwa ondele nzulu) nokuba ndihamba ndedwa esitratweni kunokuba yingcungcuthekiso ngokwembono yam. Ndandisele ndinoloyiko olungenangqiqo lokujongwa xa esidlangalaleni njengento engaqhelekanga njengoko kuvakala. Ngelishwa kukho into ejinga phezu kwam ebomini.
Ubudlelwane kunye noTyhutho
Ngamanye amaxesha ngexesha lobudlelwane ukusetyenziswa koonografi kuya kunciphisa kodwa i-masturbation yayihlala ingumsebenzi wemihla ngemihla. Ngamanye amaxesha amaxesha amaninzi ngosuku. Ndikhumbula ndiziva ndindindisholo ngokweemvakalelo emva komdyarho onjalo. Kodwa ndiyabona ngoku bendingazidibanisanga ncam ezi zimbini.
Ke, emva kweminyaka emininzi yokukhawuleza okufanayo ukuya phambili malunga neminyaka emithathu eyadlulayo. Ngaphandle kokuba kubudlelwane ukusebenzisa i-porn yayiyimihla ngemihla. Umlingane wam wayelungile nge-porn ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo (hayi ingcamango yam ngokwenene kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo andizange ndiyichase!) Yayiyinoveli kwaye olu hlobo lwenza ukuba kulungile ukuba ndisebenzise i-porn. Yayingengomnqa le nto ngokuqinisekileyo. Ihlazo elikhankanywe ngaphambilana liye laba libi kakhulu ukutyhubela iminyaka. Kwanokuya kwindawo yokutyela evenkileni kunokubangela uphakuko olungephi kwaye ube neentloni. Ukuthetha neweyitala kwindawo yokutyela kuya kuba buhlungu ngendlela efanayo.
Ihlazo kunye nokuxhalaba kweNtlalo
Ndaye ndaqalisa ukwesaba nayiphi na intetho malunga nesondo okanye impilo yesondo okanye nayiphi na into enjalo. Bendiya kuphakuzela kakhulu. I-Bizarre ndiyayazi, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ibangelwe kukoyika abantu becinga ukuba 'ndingumgqwethi' ngokwesondo. Ndicinga ukuba kulapho ihlazo lokulutha kwe-porn liza kudlala apho abaninzi bakhankanyile ngaphambili. Ngokwenyani ndandineentloni kwaye ndoyika umntu ofumanisa umkhwa wam omdaka.
Ixhala lam lentlalontle lalisele libi kakhulu, lindityhafisa. Ngoku bendiye ndaqala ukuba neengcinga zokuzibulala nangona ndingazange ndivume ukuba ndiza kwenza ntoni. Nangona kunjalo, ndingatsho ukuba ixhala lemihla ngemihla lentlalo lalindenza ndibe lusizi. Ndikwafanele ndongeze ukuba ndinomsebenzi olungileyo, ohlawulwa kakuhle onoxanduva oluninzi oluquka ukulawula iqela kwaye nangona amaxesha amaninzi efihlwe kakuhle (akusoloko kunjalo) uloyiko lwemihla ngemihla kunye nexhala yayikungcungcuthekiso, ngakumbi ukuba neentloni rhoqo.
Nam bendisiya ndisiba nenkungu emandla ebuchotsheni, iconcentration yam ibiyi screwed nayo ibiqala ukuchaphazela amandla am okwenza umsebenzi wam. Inkuthazo nayo yayingekho. Ukuzithemba kwam kwakuhlala kusezantsi. Sekunjalo andizange ndenze naluphi na uxhumano phakathi kwe-porn kunye ne-fapping.
Ukukhangela Iimpendulo
Eneneni andikhumbuli ukuba ndifike phi NoFap kodwa ndicinga ukuba yayikukukhangela kwam ukusombulula ixhala lam loluntu kwaye ndakhubeka kwinto edibanisa ezi zimbini kwi-intanethi. Emva kokufunda okuninzi okulandelwa ziinzame ezininzi zeNoFap ndiye ndaqala ukuqaphela ukuba emva kokuphinda ndizive ndingento yanto ngokwasemoyeni kwaye ndiye ndaqaphela ukuba ixhala lam liya kudlula eluphahleni, ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Oku kwakubonakala kuphawuleka ngakumbi kokukhona ndibuyela kwakhona.
Ngeli xesha amanqanaba angemva okuxhalaba kwezentlalo awazange ancitshiswe yiNoFap kodwa i-spikes yayindenza ndiqonde ukuba kukho ikhonkco nangona ndandingaqinisekanga ukuba iNoFap yayiza kuzicombulula iingxaki zam. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku bendifumana ukuya kuthi ga kwi-15-20 imihla ngemihla rhoqo kwaye iintsuku ze-30 ziya kuba yimpumelelo ephawulekayo kum. Ndazabalaza nangona ndingazange ndigqibe kwelokuba, kwakamsinya okanye kamva kwakhokelela ekubuyeleni kwakhona ngokupheleleyo kodwa ndandihlala ndiziva ndoyikeka kakhulu- inkungu yengqondo, ithambile ngokweemvakalelo, ndidandathekile ngoko ke bendihlala ndikhuthazwa ukuba ndiphinde ndizame kwangoko, ndikhuthazekile ngakumbi kunoko. kwilixa elidlule.
Iphonografi kunye nexhala
Emva kokuhamba ngebhayisekile ngale ndlela malunga neminyaka emibini ndiye ndaqala ukubona ipateni kunye noqhagamshelo. Kwaya kucaca ngakumbi ukuba i-fapping kunye ne-porn yayinempembelelo enkulu kuxinzelelo lwam lwentlalo kunye nokuhlazeka.
Ngendlela i-NoFap yayiyenza ibe mandundu, ukuphinda kubuyele umva kuya kudala i-spike endiya kuba semngciphekweni wokuhlaselwa kukothuka okugcweleyo ngamaxesha amaninzi ngalo naluphi na usuku. Andikwazi ukuyigxininisa indlela eyayimanyumnyezi ngayo le nto, kodwa ngandlel’ ithile ndinombulelo kuba oko kwandikhanyisela ngemiphumo yomkhwa wam.
Ndaye ndaqalisa ukufezekisa imiva emide umz. Iintsuku ezingama-60 kwaye ndaqala ukuziva izibonelelo zokwenyani kuxhala lwam kodwa ukuzithemba okungeyonyani kwakhokelela ekubuyeleni kwakhona okulandelwa ziindlela ezimbalwa ezimfutshane kunye nokubuyela umva okukhawulezayo kwiintsuku ezidlulileyo zoxinzelelo olukhulu. Oku kwakhokelela ekhaya ikhonkco phakathi koxinzelelo lwentlalo kunye ne-porn. Ngenkuthazo evela kwinto yokuba ndakwazi ukuya rhoqo kwiintsuku ze-40 nangaphezulu kwaye emva kokuphinda ndiphinde ndibuyele kwiintsuku ze-60 (ndandiyi-edging, ndisathatha i-porn) Ndathi ngokwaneleyo kwakwanele kwaye ndayeka i-99.9% yokuhlela kunye zero porn (kwaye nangoku nanamhla). Kwakuyienyanga ezimbalwa ezedlulileyo kwaye nangona i-fap enye (nje i-fap, kungekhona i-porn nangona) iintsuku ze-55 ezedlulileyo kufuneka nditsho ukuba utshintsho aluzange lube yinto emangalisa.
Zisa iiNzuzo
Izibonelelo zibe nkulu kwaye iveki nganye ibonakala izisa uphuculo olongezelelweyo. Andizibaxi naziphi na izinto xa ndisithi izibonelelo ziye zamangalisa. Ezinye zezi zilandelayo.
-emva kweminyaka engaphezulu kwama-30 yokubandezeleka kwam ngokwasentlalweni ngoku iphantse yaphela. Ndiziva ndizolile xa ndiphakathi kweemeko endingazikhumbuli ndiziva ndiziva ndinjalo. Ndiyakwazi ukuthetha ngokuzithemba ezintlanganisweni ( bendisandula ukuthetha kakhulu kwintlanganiso kunye neeVP ezininzi kwaye kuphela ixhala eliphantsi kakhulu, ukuba kunjalo).
-Ukuzithemba kwam njengomphathi omkhulu kuye kwagcwala ikhephu. Andisakhathazwa sisifo sengqondo esihlala sihleli.
-akukho inkungu yengqondo kunye nenkuthazo eyandisiweyo
-Ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lam bubuyele kwindlela obuyiyo xa sasiqala ukudibana. Andiziva ndinqanyulwe kuye njengoko ndandihlala ndisenza xa ndifafaza. Iyadlala kwakhona.
Ukuziva uQhagamshelwe
- Ndiziva ndixhumeke ebomini, umnqweno wokuba yinxalenye yehlabathi kunokuba ndifune ukuzifihla kuyo
– Andisaziva ngathi ndiphumelele isilingi kumsebenzi wam, iimvakalelo ebendinazo kangangexesha elithile nangona bendiphumelele. Kwezi veki zimbalwa zidlulileyo ndiziva ndikulungele ukuthatha amanyathelo asiya kwinqanaba lomlawuli endicinga nje ngalo ngaphambili bekuya kundinika uloyiko olukhawulezileyo ngenxa yokwanda konxibelelwano loluntu, iqela elikhulu njl.njl.
– Ndihamba esidlangalaleni ndiphakamise intloko yam ndingoyiki ukudibana namehlo. Ngaphambi kokuba ndibe noloyiko olukhawulezayo ukuba ndibanjwe ngempazamo ndinxibelelana ngakumbi kumbhobho
– uloyiko lokujongwa luncitshiswe kakhulu
-Ndibe namava kwenye iveki apho bendikwintlanganiso nomntu oxambulisanayo kwaye bendinomnqweno wokujongana ngqo namehlo. Ngenene ndandibava becutheka phantsi kobunzulu. Bekundonelisa kodwa nam ndivume ukuba ngenene ndaziva ndinetyala. Ngaphambili bendijolisa emilonyeni yabantu xa ndithetha nabo ukuze ndiphephe ukudibana kwamehlo. Ukubamba nje kancinci kwamehlo kunokundenza ndibe neentloni. Ngoku ndihlala ndijongana nomntu emehlweni kwaye ndihlala ndikhululekile ngaphakathi
Isebe Lelizwi Lokuxhalaba Azisekho Mdodobala
-Ngamanye amaxesha ndiye ndifumane ixhala lokuqala lokukhathazeka ngelo xesha ngaphambili olu yayiluhambo oluya kubuso becherry kodwa ngokumangalisayo imvakalelo ngoku ithi shwaka emva komzuzwana okanye emibini kunokuba yehle kuphakuko. Xa ndisithi blush iyancipha kwaye ewe mhlawumbi andikakhululeki ndiyachacha kuyo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ndamkele ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo oku kwenzeka kancinci nangaphantsi
-Okukhona ndiqhelana noloyiko oluncitshisiweyo lokudakumba kokuya kungena entlokweni yam.
– Bendidla ngokungcangcazela emzimbeni ngamaxesha anzima onxibelelwano olufana neentlanganiso neenkokeli okanye abantu endingabazi kakuhle. Oku kubonakala kunciphe kakhulu kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo. Sekulithuba ndingayiqaphelanga yiza ukuyicinga.
– Andisekho kwimeko yokubhabha okanye ukulwa.
– Ndiyaqala ngokwenene ukulangazelela iminyhadala
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Jonga ukuzila ukutya kunye nokusika i-carbs kunye nengqolowa. Ndicinga ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba oku kuye kwanceda ngexesha lokubuyela umva ngakumbi xa kukhokelela kwiimpawu ezingenakuthintelwa zexhala elibukhali. Ukuba namanqanaba e-insulin alungeleleneyo ngakumbi (ngenxa yokuzila ukutya kunye nokunciphisa i-carbs) kubonakala ngathi kuluncedo kwi-spikes yam kwixhala lentlalontle emva kokubuyela umva, ngelixa ngenye indlela ngendinyamezele ixesha le-3-4 leentsuku zokuziva ndiphantsi kwaye ndihlala ndihleli elunxwemeni. ukuhlaselwa koloyiko kwiimeko zentlalo. Kananjalo ukuzila ukutya kweentsuku ezimbini kunika inaliti enkulu yokucaca kwengqondo kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokweemvakalelo (kanye ukutyeba kuhlengahlengiswe) Jonga iividiyo zikadr pradip, ezinokuqonda ngokumangalisayo kwaye ziyakhuthaza.
Yiba nokholo kwinkqubo
Yiba nokholo kuhambo. Ixesha elide kunokubonakala ngathi nangona kukho uphuculo oluthile oluvela kwi-nofap alukho kangako njengoko unethemba. Qhubeka nayo, kungathatha amaxesha amaninzi ukufumana ukubaleka okude okwaneleyo ukuze uqale ukwenza utshintsho kwingqondo.
Yeka ukusela ukuba loo nto okanye i-hangover isisisiqalo-yayisoloko ingumthombo wokundilangazelela kodwa ndayeka ukusela ngaphambi kokuba ndihambe nohambo lwe-nofap kodwa ndicinga ukuba yindawo esemngciphekweni kwabaninziEcacileyo kodwa hlala uxakekile, waphule ikhonkco xa amaxesha okukruquka akhokelela ekubeni unqwenele loo ncopho incinane okanye ungqameko. Idlala ngomlilo kwaye yonke into elahlekileyo inokuba sisiphumo somnqweno omncinci wokuya emphethweni okomzuzwana othi unyukele kwiminqweno engalawulekiyo yokubuyela ngokupheleleyo.e.
Yenza uluhlu lwezibonelelo ze-nofap kwaye uzifunde ngamaxesha obuthathaka okanye ufunde nje rhoqo ukuze bahlale bephambi kwengqondo. Oku kuncede nangona ukunqwenela okuvunyiweyo kunokomelela ngamanye amaxesha uyalibala nokuba unoluhlu.
Ixesha lam leenzuzo
Kum izinto ezithandekayo zihlala ziqala ukwenzeka kwiintsuku ze-17-20 ukuya kuluhlu kwaye ke ukutsiba okulandelayo kwizibonelelo kuya kuba malunga neentsuku ezingama-30.
Nangona kunjalo, kum iintsuku ezingama-60 zizise izibonelelo ezilungileyo ngokwenene malunga nokunciphisa ixhala loluntu. Nangona kunjalo ayilomdlalo wangoku odlalwayo apha – kum amaxesha amade alandelelanayo adityanisiweyo azise utshintsho olunzulu umz. Iintsuku ezingama-40+50days+20 iintsuku+67 iintsuku, izibonelelo ezibalulekileyo zaqala ukubonakala xa ezi ntambo zinde zazidityaniswa. Ndimele ndongeze ukuba oku kuxa kwiimeko ezininzi ndiqhekeze ukujonga isiqwenga se-porn kwaye ukuphelelwa lixesha kwakuhamba kuphela. Ngoku ndikwi-55 yosuku lwe-nofap streak (nangona kungekho manyala kangangexesha elithile ngoku) kwaye ndiziva njengomntu owahlukileyo, akukho kubaxa.
Ukuba uqala ukujika kwaye uzive ngathi uza kuphelelwa okanye uyigqibe kwaye uyenze ngokukhawuleza ukuze ungatshisi ingqondo ukuya kuma-receptors okanye ukuba unako kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ukhetho olungcono vuka wenze enye into. . Nangona kunjalo, kunqande ukuguqula ixesha elide njengoko ndicinga ukuba yeyona nto inefuthe elibi kwingqondo kwaye iphumela kwiziphumo ezibi kakhulu ezisuka ekubuyeleni kwakhona.
Naxa i-edging ngoku ndiva ingcebiso yeziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezingalunganga kusuku olulandelayo okanye ezimbini kodwa zincitshiswe kakhulu.
Yithemba inkqubo
Okay sendigqibile ngoku. Uxolo ukuba i-waffly encinci kwaye inde kakhulu kodwa isemva kwexesha kwaye endaweni yoko ndichitha ixesha elininzi ndiyihlela phantsi kufuneka ndilale! Phofu ndiyathemba ukuba oku kungasentla kuyamnceda umntu. Naphi na kuhambo lwakho yiba nokholo endleleni, yiba nomonde kwaye uqonde ukuba ukusilela akunakuphepheka kodwa kum kundinika ukufunda okufunekayo ukuze ndikhuthazeke ukuba ndenze ngcono kwixesha elizayo. Ndinqwenelela wonke umntu ithamsanqa!
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