Kukho umbuzo olula wokuba wonke umqokeleli we-porn oqala kwakhona kufuneka akwazi ukuphendula. Ukucima okanye ukugcina?
Njengomntu omnye wabuza iqonga:
Ngaba nonke nisuse zonke iifoto zoononophala xa uqala kwakhona? Kuyandikhupha, ukunamathela ngokweemvakalelo endinako kuyo: i-hard drive ezaliswe yingqokelela egcinwe ngononophelo; enye iprofayili ye-Intanethi ngokukodwa kwi-surfing ye-porn; mhlawumbi ezinye iifoto ezindala kunye neemovie ezenziwe ngabantu endandithandana nabo. Okokugqibela koyika ngokukhethekileyo ukulahla- akunakubuyiselwa!
Iimpendulo zabanye abantu kumbuzo wokucima:
Ewe, yonke into kufuneka ihambe. Yiyo kuphela kwendlela yokuqiniseka kwaye iyakhulula ngokumangalisayo emva koloyiko olukhulu kunye nokuqina kokungabinayo kuphelile. Sisigqibo esinovakalelo kakhulu kuba masijongane nayo besithembele kwezo vids kwaye zinokusinika "ukusondelelana kwangoko" xa thina ngokwethu sasingenamntu sinokusondelelana naye okanye nje ukuba sinomntu kodwa * sikhetha * iphonografi inkampani. Iphonografi ithimba ubuchopho besini kwaye iyiguqula ibe sisicaka esivumayo.
Elona xesha lilungileyo lokucima i-stash ilungile emva kokuba uphinde, wabuya wanikezela kwi-porn. Unokuba unayo okanye ungakhange uzibambe kodwa inqaku lelo lelona xesha lifanelekileyo lokufuna ukutshintsha kuba likhoboka kwaye kunzima ukubetha, yithi, likhoboka lotywala, ukuba konke ekufuneka sikwenzile kukuya kuthi ikhabethe kwaye ukrazule i-tape tape kwibhokisi egcwele iscotch.
Inye kuphela into onokuyikhetha- yilahle (yonke!) Nantoni na enokubangela ukuba kwixesha elizayo kufuneka ihambe. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuvala ikhompyuter yakho kwi-Intanethi kufuneka. Nje ukuba uchache, uyakujonga emva kwaye ucinge "Kutheni ndifuna ukugcina loo nto?" Ukubambelela kwizinto nangaluphi na uhlobo kubonakala kufana notywala ukugcina i-stash yevodka kwenye indawo.
Amandla afunekayo ukucima
Ndingayitshisa i-hard drive kunye nezinto ezingenakubekwa ndawo kwintombi kwiqela leDVD. Beka ebhokisini encinci. Isongele ngetape ye-tape. Emva koko uyisonge ngephepha elinengxowa emdaka. Yenza iteyiphu kwakhona. Qhubeka usonga umaleko de loo nto ifakwe ngokuhlekisayo. Oko kungathatha iyure okanye ezimbini ukuyivula. Emva koko uyifihle kwenye indawo. Okanye ungcwabe. Mhlawumbi uthile ukubambelela. Okanye uyibeke kwibhokisi yediphozithi yokhuseleko.
Emva koko qhubeka ucime yonke into kwi-hard drive. Iprofayile ye-intanethi kuya kufuneka ihambe. Okanye mhlawumbi ikhona indlela yokuyitshisa nayo. Kodwa nakweyiphi na imeko, uya kuthi "ube" nazo zonke izinto zakho. Awunakuze uzive ngathi uyilahlile yonke loo lonwabo kunye nolonwabo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kude, kodwa iya kuba kumgama okhuselekileyo ngelixa uphilisa ingqondo yakho.
Emva kokuba uqalile kwakhona unokufumana amandla okulahla zonke izinto ngaphandle. Okanye mhlawumbi uza kugcina ipasile engaqhelekanga njengesikhumbuzo sokukugcina "ucocekile."
Ewe. Yicime.
Ndineqoqo elikhulu lezinto zeVHS / zeDVD. Ndizamile ngonaphakade ukulahla imikhwa yam ngelixa ndigcina ingqokelela. Ayizange isebenze. Ngenye imini ndathatha isando esikhulu, ndafaka yonke into kwingxowa yenkunkuma, ndafaka iigogg ezikhuselekileyo ndaza ndaphula i-f * ck kuyo yonke into eyayikulo bhegi.
Njengoko u-EFS White watsho, ndaziva ndicoca kwangoko. Indincede kakhulu. Esona sizathu siphambili sokungaphumeleli kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva koko kungenxa yokuba ndingazi ukuba ndiza kuzikhusela njani kwi-intanethi.
Kwinyanga ephelileyo, ndibuyele umva kwaye emva koko ndacela umntakwethu ukuba abe liqabane lam lokuphendula kwaye ndafumana Amehlo oMnqophiso kwikhompyuter yam. Umsebenzi wokumisela le fayile / isoftware yokuphendula kwikhompyuter yam indenze ndaziva ndibhetele kwangoko. Ngokukhawuleza ndayikhawulezisa inkqubo yam yokuqalisa kwakhona. Ndiziva ezinye zeziphumo ezilungileyo kwangoko. Ukuzithemba- ukwazi ukuba ndibone indawo ebuthathaka kukhuseleko lwam kwaye ndakhe udonga oluqingqiweyo kuloo ndawo kanye- kundinike ukomelela kwengqondo okukhulu.
Sukuyicinga njengenkcitho yemali- jonga njengedini elincinci lobomi bakho- elixabise ngaphezu kwayo yonke imali esehlabathini. Kwaye ukwenza oku kuya kukugcina ekuhendweni ukuba uchithe imali kwi-porn kwixa elizayo.
Ukubetha kuyanceda
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyonakalisa. Siphila kwixesha apho sityekele ekuthengiseni, ekuthengiseni okanye ekunikeni nantoni na ngayo yonke into. Xa ndandicinga ngokutshabalalisa ingqokelela yam, kwakukho eli lizwi lincinci lisithi, “hee, kutheni ungayiniki omnye umntu”… haha, licebo elingathandekiyo elo. Apha ndinolu qokelelo luyoyikekayo lwemifanekiso endikhuthaza ukuba ndiziphathe gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye ndibangele iingxaki ebomini bam- kwaye ndiza kuyinika omnye umntu? ”
Hayi ndonwabile ndithathe isando ndayohlamba.
Njengokuba ndicebisile komnye umsonto. Yonakalise kwaye emva koko uyokuzithengela isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi ukuze ubhiyozele. Ndicinga ukuba ezinye izinto zifuna umbhiyozo onyanzelekileyo kwaye yenye yazo.
Enye yemizamo yam yokuphumelela ukuqala kwakhona ukuzama ukubandakanyeka ekuthatheni isigqibo sokuyeka i-PMO kwiintsuku ze-90 (nangona bendisoloko ndifaka iiveki ezimbalwa kuba ndingazi ukuba ndingajongana njani nemicimbi yomzimba yokuba ndizele ngamanzi- kwaye kamva ndafunda indlela Ukoyisa ukungonwabi) - into endiyenzileyo ndibekele bucala into entle nexabisa kakhulu ukuba ndiza kuzithengela ukuhlangabezana nomceli mngeni. Kwakunzima futhi- kuba abanye abarhubuluzayo emsebenzini babenemagnus engamanyala kwaye wabashiya kwindawo yokugcina- kwaye xa ndakhangela into ethile ndayifumana ngengozi- kwaye ukuzijonga kwabangela ukuba intliziyo yam ibaleke kwaye i-dopamine iqale ukuhamba . Ndisakwazi ukuhamba ndize ndiyikhuphe engqondweni yam.
Imivuzo iza kamva
Ke emva kweentsuku ezingama-90, ndandonwabile ngesiqu sam- andizange ndizive ndifuna ukuphuma ndiyokuthenga ukutya okubizayo endandikubeke njengebhaso. Kodwa ndazinyanzela ukuba ndiphume ndiyenze kunjalo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bendenze isivumelwano nam. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndaye ndaphinda ndabuya emva koko kuba bendisafunda indlela yokulwa isilingo, kodwa yayilidabi elibalulekileyo emfazweni. Kwaye yile ndlela kufuneka ujonge ngayo. Yimfazwe. Kuya kufuneka ube neziqendu ozijonga emva njengeemfazwe eziphambili ozoyisile- loo madabi ajika indlela emfazweni.
Ukubeka bucala umvuzo wexesha elide yenye yeendlela zokulwa nomnqweno wexesha elifutshane lokubetha okungabizi kakhulu. Enye into ekufuneka uyenzile xa uziva ukuba intshabalalo yokubuyela umva kukuthatha ishawa ebandayo emva koko ubethe umthambo. Isebenza kum ngalo lonke ixesha. Zininzi iindlela zokuzibekela ukuze uphumelele. Kuya kufuneka ulandele nje.
umsonto: I-Sunk Cost Fallacy
Ukubona oku kwi r / Stopgaming kwaye wacinga ukuba kuya kusebenza apha!
Yithi ndithenge amatikiti ekhonsathi kwinyanga enye kwangaphambili, kwaye ayebiza kakhulu. Kodwa ke umhla wekonsathi ufika, kwaye umhla wam uyagula kwaye ndineeyure ezintathu zomsebenzi wesikolo.
Amatikiti ziindleko ezitshisiweyo ngeli nqanaba. Kodwa impazamo kukuthatha oko kubeni ndihlawule ngoku kufuneka ndiye kwikonti. Ngokwenyani ukuya kwikonsathi kuzakusenza mna kunye ne-gf yam ibe lusizi, kwaye singonwaba ngakumbi xa singayi kwaphela.
Yi wachaza kangcono kakhulu apha.
Oku kusebenza njani ku-PMO?
Okokuqala: Cima i-stash yakho. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba lingakanani ixesha kunye nemali engenileyo kuyo, istash yindleko ejulileyo. Into eya kukwenza wonwabe NGOKU kukususa. Imali eyangena kula stash IPHELILE ngoku. Akukho ndawo "yokufumana ixabiso lemali yakho" kuyo, kushiywe lixesha.
Okwesibini: Ukuba unesixhobo osifumene KUPHELA se-PMO, susa ngoku. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba uchithe malini kwinto leyo ayifanele, ithengise. Ukuzama ukubuyisa naliphi na ixabiso elingaphezulu kwexabiso lokuthengisa kwesixhobo kuya kukubangela usizi. (Kuphela ukuba isixhobo sakho sisetyenziselwa i-pmo nangona)
Ukuba uzimisele ukwandisa inkcazo yakho yeendleko zokubandakanya ixesha kunye namathuba, izicelo zeendleko zokunyuka kwelanga zenyuka ngokukhawuleza.
Kulula ukuziqhekeza ngemfesane, ukuba ungene kumathuba alahlekileyo ngenxa ye-PMO. Loo mathuba lixabiso elitshisiweyo ngoku oselichitha ekwakheni indlela yokuphila ebangela ukubandezeleka kwakho. Musa ukuzikhuthaza ukuzama ukubuyisa loo mathuba, njengokuba i-PMO isonga loo mathuba ahambileyo. Zikhuthaze ngesileyiti esicocekileyo sokushiya umthwalo wakho ngasemva!
Funda ngezolo kunjalo, kodwa uphilele namhlanje. Kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba xa usenza into ekufuneka yenziwe ngomso iya kwenzeka.
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