I-5 NoFap Iingcebiso kufuneka ndibe nazo.
Molweni nonke, 22M apha. Ndisandula ukwenza yam iposi yokuqala malunga nohambo lwam ukuya kuthi ga njengefapstronaut. Uluhlu lwam oluphezulu ukuza kuthi ga ngoku luyi-19 iintsuku (umyinge ukuya ngoku kwi-7 kunye nokunyuka) kodwa ndivakalelwa kukuba ubomi bam buye buphucula ixesha elide ndihlala kwindlela ye-fapstronaut.
Ukususela kwi-7 / 7 / 13 xa ndivuma ukuba ndinengxaki ye-PMO kwaye ndathatha isifungo sokuzama okusemandleni am ukuyeka, ndifunde izifundo ezibalulekileyo kunye neengcebiso. Ngapha koko, sifunda kuphela kwiimpazamo zethu. Zisisifundo esibalulekileyo sokubumba ikamva lethu. Yiyo loo nto ukuphinda umva kufuneka kujongwe ngokuzivela. Ndinokuninzi endinokwabelana ngako kodwa oku ndiza kukwenza ngesantya esizinzileyo ukuya kwixesha elizayo njengoko ndifunda ngakumbi. Ngoko, ngaphandle kokuqhubeka:
1.) Bhala phantsi kwisiqwenga sephepha ukuba kutheni uyeka kwaye zonke izizathu zokuba kutheni i-PMO (okanye i-MO ukuba kunjalo) ibe yingxaki ebomini bakho. Oku kuya kunceda ukuqinisa amandla kwaye kukuvumela kwixesha elizayo ukuba ujonge izizathu zakho ukuba uyasokola. Ukuba une-SO inokuvumela ukuba unike ingcaciso ngeengcinga zakho kunye nokuqiqa xa ukhetha ukubaxelela ngayo. Kwimeko yam iye yandivumela ukuba ndiqhubeke nohambo kwaye ndinganikezeli. Andifuni ukuba zonke ezi ngxaki ndizibalileyo ziqhubeke, akunjalo? Ixesha lokujongana nazo ngqo.
2.) Gcina idayari. Ndisebenzise i-spreadsheet ebalaseleyo. Ndilandele imihla ndabeka ukuba ndiphinde ndabuyela okanye hayi. Ukuba bendinayo, bendiyifomatha iseli ngokwemiqathango ibe bomvu. Ukuba akunjalo ke iseli ibiluhlaza. Ndichaze iinkcukacha ezibangelayo kunye nento endiza kuyenza ukusabela kwi-trigger kwixesha elizayo. Ndiyicacisile into ebendiyenza ebomini ukuyiphucula kunye nento endiyenzileyo namhlanje ukuba neqhayiya ngayo. Xa ndijonga umva oku kundivumele ukuba ndiqonde ukuba iipatheni zam zokucinga kwiNoFap nakubomi bezisoloko zitshintsha kwaye zandikhumbuza ngazo zonke izinto endizifezileyo, ezinkulu okanye ezincinci, endizigqibileyo ukusukela oko ndaqala. Ndabona ukuba i-avareji yeentsuku zam ezidlulileyo phambi kokuba ndiphinde ndibuyele ziye zanda kwaye ndabona ukuba ithemba lam kunye nolonwabo ngokubanzi nalo lonyukile. Sisixhobo esibalulekileyo sokujonga ukuqhubela phambili kwakho, njengoko unokulibala ukuba ufumene ntoni xa uphinda ubuyela. Ungaziva ngathi ubuyele kwisikwere 1. Jonga ngokukhawuleza idayari yakho kwaye le mvakalelo iyahamba.
3.) Kwabo bangabanini bekhalenda, ukuba uyaphinda beka uphawu ngomhla obonisa ukuba ubuyele kwakhona. Ngaloo nyanga uya kukwazi ukubona imihla oye waphinda wabuyela ngayo kwaye ukwazi ukubona imigca yakho. Kuya kunceda ukukunika inkuthazo, njengoko ufuna ukuthoba loo manqaku enyangeni, kwaye unokubona iipatheni zokubuyela umva ngosuku oluthile (ukuba oku kunjalo cinga ngokuba kutheni). Ndifumanise ukuba ndihlala ndibuyela umva ngolwesithathu xa ndingekho ezifundweni nasekhaya. Emva koko ndaya kwithala leencwadi ngaloo mini ndathatha umsebenzi wam kunye nelaptop kunye nam ndahlala phambi kwefestile enkulu. Andineli nje ukwenza umsebenzi ongcolileyo ngaloo mini, andiphindi ndibuyele.
4.) Seta i-matrix yokukhusela i-intanethi apho ungayazi igama eliyimfihlo! Ndiye ndaqhubeka nokubuyela umva xa ndivala nje ukhuseleko lwam lwewebhu lwe-k9 kwaye ndazixelela ukuba "imifanekiso embalwa ayizukwenzakala". Ndikhe ndaphinda ndaphinda ndaphinda ndaqala ngale ndlela, kwaye iye yanda. Ukuba andizange ndijonge i-porn, andizange ndibuyele, ngoko ukuze ndoyise lo mqobo kwafuneka ndenze ukuba kungenzeki ukubukela i-porn. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo ndiye ndatshintsha igama lam eliyimfihlo le-k9 lokukhusela iwebhu kuluhlu lwamanani angaqhelekanga kunye noonobumba. Ndaye ndafaka i-password ephepheni nakwidrowa esezantsi yewadilophu yam eyayiza kuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukufika kuyo. Nangeyona minqweno inamandla: ngelixa ndiphakama esihlalweni kwaye ndacinga ngokufumana i-password, bendisele ndiphumile kwisimo sengqondo sayo. Bendimane ndihlamba ebandayo, ndenze iipushups, nantoni na ezosusa ingqondo yam kulamzi bendinawo. Yahamba ngokukhawuleza. Ndiphinde ndabuyela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo kwimifanekiso ye-softcore ndiye ndasebenzisa oku kuluncedo ikhonkco. Ngaphandle kokwazi igama eliyimfihlo ungavala iiwebhusayithi ezinokuthi zibangele. Kwixesha elizayo naziphi iiwebhusayithi ezinezichukumiso ziya kuvalelwa ngoko nangoko. Kutshanje, iphonografi ndibone ubungqina befowuni yam ye-android ukuze kwiposti yam elandelayo ndiza kuchaza ukuba njani.
5.) Zama ukufumana into entsha yokuzonwabisa kwaye ugcwalise ixesha lakho lasimahla ngemisebenzi ekude ne-intanethi. Ndajoyina ibutho leyunivesithi yaye ndifunda ulwimi ndaza ndafumana neqabane lam lasekhaya ukuba lindifundise amagubu. Ixesha elininzi endilichitha kwigama lokwenyani, kokukhona idijithali iba nomtsalane kwaye ndifumana amathuba amancinci e-PMOing. Njengokwandiswa koku zama ukunciphisa ixesha olichitha ungenangqondo kuFacebook (google Facebook Facebook Depression) okanye ezinye iiwebhusayithi ngaphandle kwesizathu ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha. Ukuba umnqweno uyaziveza xa uku-intanethi kuya kuba nzima ukuxhathisa! Phuma kwi-intanethi uze ufunde incwadi, ufunde ulwimi, isixhobo, mamela umculo, uchithe ixesha kunye nosapho lwakho, fowunela umhlobo kwaye ulungiselele intlanganiso, thatha inja uhambe njl njl. Fumana ukukhululwa kwakho kwe-dopamine kwimisebenzi yendalo ngaphezu kwesikrini. Thelekisa indlela oziva ngayo ngokuphuma ngaphandle uhambo lwemizuzu eli-15 kunokuba ungqengqe esofeni ubukele imizuzu engama-30 kwi-telly. Yiyiphi eya kukuvuyisa ngakumbi? Yiyiphi eyona nto ingcono kumzimba nengqondo? Ngokombono wam ndiziva ndingcono kakhulu emva kokuhamba. Zifumane kwaye uzame ukuphila kwihlabathi lokwenyani. Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo! 🙂 Yibeke ngolu hlobo ... ukuba bekufuneka ubhale i-CV kwaye ube ne-100% enyanisekileyo malunga nento oyenzayo ngexesha lakho lokukhulula: ngaba abaqeshi baya kuchukumiseka okanye akunjalo? Kwiinyanga ezi-5 ezidlulileyo zonke bekuya kufuneka ndizibeke ndachitha ixesha elininzi lokukhulula kwigumbi lam kwi-xbox okanye ndibukele i-porn. Yintoni ongathanda ukuba nayo iCV yakho enyanisekileyo? Zeziphi iimpumelelo zehlabathi zokwenyani ofuna ukuzenza apho? Sebenza kuzo kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha iya kufika. Khawucinge nje indlela oziva ulunge ngayo xa uyifezile!
Ecaleni lam kuhambo, Johnny
"Akulona ubungakanani benja ekulweni, bubungakanani bemfazwe enja."
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