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Okokuqala, qwalasela oku kulandelayo; Ufuna ukuyeka ukufakela, kodwa ngandlela-thile uvele 'unikeze' kwaye fap. Amakhoboka otywala afuna ukuyeka ukusela, kanti ngandlel 'ithile' anikezela '. Iziyobisi zifuna ukuyeka ukuthatha iziyobisi, kodwa ngandlela thile 'zinike'. Abantu abangaphumelelanga bafuna ukuphumelela, kodwa baqhubeka besenza izinto 'abazaziyo' ukuba zingabinampumelelo ekufumaneni loo mpumelelo.
Ndigxile kwezi kunye nezinye iimeko ezifanayo ndaye ndazidibanisa nolunye ulwazi olungaqhelekanga olwalujikeleza intloko yam ukuza kwisigqibo esomeleleyo sokuba…
"AYIWO IBHODI YAKHO"
Kulungile, awukho. Ungumkhweli wenqanawa oneenkqubo eziphambili kukufuna 'intuthuzelo ngazo zonke iindleko. Ayinikezi shits ezimbini malunga 'neminqweno yakho ephezulu'. Ukuba awunawo umzimba phantsi kolawulo, uya nANINI ukufezekisa iinjongo onayo entloko yakho. Abaninzi, abaxhamli babulawa yizilwaba zabo nakuba benqwenela ukuyeka.
Ngokwenene uvumele ukuba uhlale kuyo. Awuwona umzimba wakho, ungumgibeli.
Siyazi ukuba oku kunjalo kunyanisekileyo kwimiba yenzululwazi ngenxa yophando olwenziwe kwinqanaba le-brain (indlela yokuphila) ekugqibeleni iyalula iimpendulo zethu.
Nangona kunjalo, njengokudimazeka kunye nokungcungcuthekisa njengale ndaba, inika ithemba eliyinyani nelisebenzayo. Awusileli kuba uqalekisiwe. Awuqhubeki ubuyela umva kuba ubuthathaka. Ulahlekelwa leli dabi, idabi lobomi kuba awulawule inqanawa 'okhwele kuyo'.
Ukuba uke wakhwela ihashe uya kuqonda ukuba ukuba unobumnene kwaye unothubile ngehashe ekuqaleni, uya kuthatha inzuzo uze udle utshani kwaye uphume ngaphandle nangona ufuna ukuba unakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ungumkhwele oqinile, kunye nemigaqo ecacileyo kwaye usebenzise okulungileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo uya kuba nehashe phantsi kolawulo olupheleleyo.
Umzimba womntu ufana neso sikhokelo nje sincinci kancinci. Umzimba okhwelayo ufuna into eyodwa ngokukodwa, ukhuseleko (/ induduzo). Ukuba awukunikezeli ukhuseleko ngokusebenzisa imiyalelo ecacileyo kunye nocwangciso oluqinileyo, uya kuhoywa. Oku kulungile kwiimeko zokuphila, umzimba uzakufumana iindlela zokuzigcina uphila xa kunokwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, uluntu lwangoku luyinkimbinkimbi kunokuba lufuna iimfuno zesiseko. Kufuneka ulungelelaniswe, ulawulwe kwaye uphumelele, ngaphandle koko umgangatho wakho wobomi unokuba lukhulu.
Ukufumana kwakhona ukulawula Ngokucacileyo ayisiyonto ilula njengokucwangcisela nje iintsuku zakho ngcono… ukuba unamakhoboka obukrakra kuya kufuneka uphinde uwakhe umhlaba, ufumane kwakhona ulawulo lwemihla ngemihla. Bendihlala ndingumlutha omkhulu, nantoni na kwaye yonke into yayingumdlalo wam, ngoku ikhutshiwe yaza yamkelwa iziyobisi ezibini, ukufakela kunye nokucofa okungaqhelekanga. Oku kulandelayo yindlela endize ngayo kulo 'mboniso wokugqibela', andifezekanga, nangona kunjalo ndisondele. Nantsi into esebenzayo, ndizamile zonke iincwadi zokuzinceda phantsi kwelanga kwaye ndizilungisile ngokuziqhelanisa kunye namava esi sicwangciso silandelayo sokwenza, ukulungiselela wena.
Isicwangciso senzo:
1) Fumana ukuba iziphi izifiso zakho kuqala. Hlala nje uhlale uphupha, uyenze ngaphambi kokuba ulale xa umzimba uphezulu kakhulu. Sebenzisa irekhodi lomsindo. Yiba njengengcikivo njengoko ufuna ukuyiyo, ubuyinto yindlela enye yokuzibeka phantsi. Ufuna ukuya kwindawo, ulungile. Ufuna ukudala i-MMO enkulu elandelayo, kakuhle. Ufuna ukuba ne-asteroid, ulungile. Ufuna ukuhlala emqolombeni ezintabeni, ulungile. Into enyanisekileyo kuwe, inyanisekileyo kuwe, hamba nayo. Awunamaphupha amancinci, umnqweno wakho wobomi uvela kwiinjongo zakho. Eyona nto inkulu kwaye ihlazo ngakumbi!
2) Qonda ukuba kunjalo IZINTO ZAKHO oko kukuchaza. Kumnandi ukufunda into ekhuthazayo kwaye ube ngathi, "Ngoku ndiza kufezekisa yonke into endiyifunayo!" kuphela kukuzifumana ubuyele kwisikwere 1 ngosuku olulandelayo, ngokuzisola okungakumbi. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba inkuthazo efana ne-porn, okanye iziyobisi ziphezulu. Uziva ulungile xa ufunda into ekhuthazayo / ekhuthazayo kuba ikukhukhula nge-endorphins kunye ne-dopamine. Kulungile ukuba injini iqale kodwa akukho nto iyenye, ngumzimba ophakamileyo. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyazifezekisa iinjongo zakho, kufuneka ube nemikhwa elungileyo eya kukuhambisa apho ngaphandle kweemvakalelo zakho okanye 'imeko' yakho. Oku kunzima, kuthatha ixesha kunye nokuzimisela kodwa imikhwa elungileyo ngumahluko phakathi koosozigidi nokusilela. Ilula njengoko kunjalo.
3) SUSA YONKE IMIQOPHISO! Ngokukrakra! Le yeyona inkulu, yiyo loo nto kufuneka ucime lonke iphonografi, ubeke i-k9 blocker yokhuseleko, uqiniseke ukuba uhlala ngaphandle kwendawo yakho ye-fap njlnjl. Umzimba sisidalwa semikhwa, ukuba indawo yangoku ikhuthaza imikhwa ethile kufuneka uguqule utshintsho kuloo ndawo ukuze uzinike ithuba lokuba ungaweli kwimikhwa yakudala. Umzekelo, khange ndisele kwiminyaka emibini. Bendiqhele ukuba likhoboka lotywala neziyobisi ndingenamida, ngoku wonke umntu odibana nam uyothuka kuba ndiyakwazi ukungaseli kwaye ndimncinci kangaka, ndifumana ukunconywa rhoqo kwaye 'ndinqwenela ukuba njengam' lonke ixesha. Yintoni imfihlo yam? Ndinguthixo wamandla athile. Hayi! Ndivele ndahlala ndiphumile kuyo nayiphi na imeko apho ndinokuhendeka ukuba ndisele okanye ndikhuthazwe ukuba ndisele de ndomelele ngokwaneleyo kum azi Andiyi kusela. Nokuba umzimba wam awusangxombeli kangako, ufikile ekuqondeni ukuba awuseli. Nangona kunjalo, ndiyazingca ngobunono bam, isihogo hayi, ndiyazi ukuba zanele izinto ezingalunganga ezibangele ngexesha elingalunganga kwi indawo engafanelekanga kwaye ndingazama ukusela kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, ndilawula zonke izinto zangaphandle ukuqinisekisa ukuba akuze kwenzeke!
4) Mamela umzimba wakho! Kuya kufuneka ube yinkosi ekuqondeni imiqondiso, iimfuno kunye neepateni zomzimba wakho. Ndihlala ndinemigca emininzi yeentsuku, emva koko yonke into iyawa njengendlu yamakhadi. Xa ndicinga nzulu koku kungenxa yokuba ndiyeke islip 'esinye', xa ndafumana ithuba lokuyilungisa. Olunye uguquko oluncinci luqale ifomathi eyonakalise yonke into. Ngoku kunzima ngokumangalisayo ukuba ngaphezulu kwento nganye eyahlukileyo nangona unexesha, kwaye unokukhetha. Beka umsebenzi wemihla ngemihla wokuzisa ulwazi lwakho kuso sonke isicelo esincinci esiza engqondweni yakho AYINYE INGXENYE YEMPILO YAKHO EPHAKATHI kwaye ubhale ezi 'kwiimfuno zomzimba'. Umzekelo, andifuni ukulala phakathi evekini, ke xa ndivuka ekuseni ndize ndithi kum, "urghhh, vuka kakubi ngenye imizuzu eli-15" Ndiyazi kwangoko ukuba umzimba ulawule. Ukulala ayisiyam ngeke ukanti ndibonakala ndiyenza. Kwakhona, oku kungenxa yokuba iimfuno zakho kunye nezinto ezifunwa ngumzimba zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ziyaphikisana. Kuqala funda umahluko, emva koko qiniseka ukuba wakha ubomi bakho ekufezekiseni iminqweno yakho ephezulu.
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5) Icandelo lokugqibela lejigsaw. Le ngongoma ndiyigcinile ukuba ndiyigcine, kuba inzima kwaye ayisekelwanga kwisayensi eqinileyo kodwa kwinto endiyiqondayo kwezininzi, iincwadi ezininzi endizifundileyo malunga nokulutha, amandla, impumelelo njlnjlona lelona candelo libalulekileyo kodwa kunzima ulingano lomntu.
Umzimba wakho unokuziphakamisa.
I-Dopamine, isitha sakho esona sibi kakhulu! Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yendlela yethu yokuphila kodwa iphezulu-phambili kwilizwe lanamhlanje. Ngokukodwa nge-pornography. Makhe ndabhale izinto ezimbalwa ezenza ukuba i-dopamine ibe yinto endibeka ngayo umzimba ngokusisigxina kwisihlalo sokuqhuba, nangona zonke izichaso zam. I-Nicotine, iCaffeine, ukutya okuNgcilisayo, iShukela, intshayelelo, ubulili, ukuxhamla.
Xa umzimba wakho ufumana i-dopamine, njengokuba kuboniswe kumalinge amaninzi, kuya kuqhutyelwa kwi-dopamine ekugqibeleni uze ulale, uphazanyiswe okanye kufuneka uphule umjikelezo ngenxa yomsebenzi njl Iifos, kule rats yokulinga yayinee-electrode ezixubileyo kwi-dopamine receptors. Ezi iiphunga zazikhethe. Ukubetha i-lever eyobangela ukuba i-dopamine receptors okanye ifake i-lever ezobanika ukutya. Kwakunjalo / okanye ukuzama. Isiphumo, amaninzi eenkwenkwezi ezilambileyo. Ezi iiphunga zaziza kutshitshisa le nqanawa kunokuba zidle, ukuya kwindawo apho ziya kugcina zizibulala ngokwazo. Cinga ngombolo yezilutha ezenza into enje kodwa kodwa kumgangatho wabantu.
Ngoku phantsi kweemeko eziqhelekileyo oku akuyona ingxaki enkulu. Ungaphila ubomi obunesidima kunye neziyobisi ze-dopamine. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukhetha ukwenza into ekhethekileyo ngobomi bakho kuya kufuneka ubeke iplagi enkulu kuyo nayiphi na into ebangela ukuba i-dopamine ibangele ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulwa nomzimba. Oku kuthetha ukuzikhwebula ngokupheleleyo kubo ngalo lonke ixesha. Ndiyayifaka xa umzimba wam uphezulu kwi-dopamine, ndiyazi xa iphezulu kwi-dopamine kuba izizathu ziza kwisigidi ngomzuzu 'oh, ukujonga nje'. 'Siza kuphela nje imizuzu emihlanu'. Njl .. Xa ndingaphezulu kokucamngca kwam kwaye ndingakhange ndibangele kakhulu i-dopamine yam ngosuku olumiselweyo, ukufakela akuyona ingxaki, izibongozo azikhathazi nokuba ziyandikhathaza. Nangona kunjalo ukuba ndenze into, njengokuselwa kakhulu ikofu okanye ukudlala ngothando nomntu wasemzini andenzi nto inemveliso kwiiyure ezimbalwa ezizayo. Ingqondo yam ifuna ukubetha okulandelayo kwe-dopamine. Kuxhomekeke kum ngelo xesha ukuphinda ulawule kwaye uzolise umzimba ubuyele kwindawo egxile kuyo, egxile kuyo.
Kuye kuwe ukuthintela ukuba usondele kufuphi nolu hlobo lweengqondo ngokuthintela ngamaxesha onke iimpawu zokuziphatha kunye nezizathu ze-dopamine spikes.
Ngulo xanduva lwakho.
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Ngokusemthethweni ndenze i-'NoFap Challenge '… kundithathe iminyaka emi-2 yokusilela rhoqo kunye nokudana okungapheliyo kodwa ukuzingisa ekugqibeleni kuye kwahlawulwa kwaye ndingatsho ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba ndongeze kumlinganiswa wam ndiziva ngathi' ndiyindoda enkulu '- yiya kum.
Njengoko olu luntu luyeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwimpumelelo yam ndiza kuzama ukubuyisela 'isosi yam eyimfihlo' kuluntu ngethemba lokunceda abanye. Ndingabhala iposti ende ndicacisa zonke iingcebiso zam kunye namacebo kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo ndizive ngathi ndidlala ngexesha lam nakwelakho, ke ndizakushiya nomgaqo okhokelela kwimpumelelo yam…
PHUHLISA UKUQHUBEKA KWENKQUBO
Ndithetha ukuthini ngale nto? Ewe, kukho inxenye yakho efuna ukuyeka ukufota, ngesiqhelo kuye wonke umntu oza apha 'oyinyani' okanye 'oyena mntu ulungileyo'… ngokukodwa inguhlobo lwakho olungafaki iqhina lakho kwiikawusi ... I-badass, ukuzilawula ngokwakho, ukuzilawula, inqanaba eliphezulu lokuqonda ukuba ayisiyiyo nje inkawu engenazinwele isuti. Inguqulelo yakho ofuna ukuba yiyo.
Okwangoku, awusoloko ukwazi ukuba yile badass kwinqanaba elilandelayo uyazi ukuba-ngoba?
Ngokusisiseko, kum kunye nakwinani eliphezulu labantu abahluphekayo ngenxa yeendlela zokuziphatha ezichasayo (uhlala usenza ngobuntwana bakho) ibilise phantsi ukuze ingabinako ukuzithemba. Oko kuthetha ukuba xa umzimba wam ungadibana nokungonwabi ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye uphakamise ukuba isisombululo andizokwazi ukukhumbula ngokucacileyo nangokweemvakalelo (UKUHLAWULA) kutheni ndigqibe kwelokuba ndingaphinde ndiphinde ndibuye. Oku kunqongophala kokuqina malunga nokuba 'Ndingubani' kukhokelele kwizizathu ezininzi ezisuka engqondweni yam ezakhokelela ekubeni umzimba wam ufumane indlela yawo, amaxesha ngamaxesha (iminyaka emi-2 yokuzama i-nofap, yonke imihla, ukuphoxeka yayingunyana wokwenyani).
Ndakwazi ukuphulukana nokuhlaziywa okungapheliyo ngokukhawuleza ukuqhubeka ngokuphulaphula inqaku elifutshane elivakalayo malunga nam xabiso am, ukufunwa kwam, ukwesaba nokubaluleke kakhulu ndizixabise… Inqaku elilalelwayo lalilungiselelwe ukukhulisa nokwakha ifayile ye khumbula imvakalelo Ngubani endifuna ukuba… Ekugqibeleni njengoko ndikulungele ngokwaneleyo ekwakheni inkumbulo yeemvakalelo malunga nokuba kutheni ndizibophelela kwi-nofap xa umzimba wam ucebisa ukuba ungene njengeyona ndlela yokujongana noxinzelelo ndiza kuba nakho ukukhumbula ngokucacileyo ukuba kwakutheni ' umbono '… Esona sitshixo kukuba nememori yeemvakalelo enamandla kangangokuba ingakhwela ngaphezulu kwawo nawuphina umzimba ovelise imvakalelo' yokufuna '- oku kuthatha ixesha kunye nomzamo kunye nokucokiswa okungapheliyo, akukho mntu uya kukwenzela oku.
("Imemori yeemvakalelo iyaba nzulu kakhulu kwaye sesona sizathu sokuba ndingafuni ukuya 'kwiingcebiso zam kunye namacebo' njengoko sonke sahluke ngokupheleleyo ekuchazeni le nkcukacha ukunceda ityala lakho eliza kuthatha malunga neencwadi ezi-3 kwaye ikhosi ye-udemy, engeyiyo eya kuba luncedo kuwe njengokuhlala phantsi nephedi kunye nepeni kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba kutheni uzakuba ngcono kunaye wonke umntu omaziyo… Ngokuyintloko ungumlingisi we 'Space Ship You' kunye neyakho uxanduva lokufumanisa incwadi yemiyalelo ngokusebenzisa ubunjineli obuguquliweyo kwiindlela oziphethe ngayo. Kungathatha ixesha elide kodwa xa uthe wafunda ukubhabha unqabile. ”)
Ndisenohambo olude phambi kwam kodwa ndizifumanele inkwenkwezi eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngelixa ndingenantsingiselo kwabanye, kumncinci kum oza kuhlala afunde le ndawo engenathemba emva kokubuyela umva, emva kokuhlela iiyure ze-4-5 ( Ibali eliyinyani, amabali ayinyani) into yokuba ndiyifezekisile into ebendikade ndicinga ukuba ayinakwenzeka yongeze isimilo sam, yongeza imitya emitsha kwisaphetha sam… kuvakala ngokungathi ndikhulile, inkwenkwana yam eblue ibonisa ukuba nam… oku Indawo yokuzingca, yokuzixabisa endinamava kuyo ngoku kufanelekile ukuhlala usokola nokudana. Wena KUFUNEKA ukudibanisa nam apha, ukutshintshwa akuyikho nto kwaye ngaphantsi kwanoma yimuphi umntu omkhulu ongenakuchitha ixesha lakho kunye nalo.
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