Ukuphuma ekubuyeleni kwamva nje, ndiye ndaziva ndifuna izixhobo ezitsha zokuqhubeka nokwenza inkqubela kwaye ndiqinisekise ukuba andibuyi kwakhona.
Nazi iimbono ezimbalwa endize nazo ezibonakala zisebenza kakhulu. Ndicela uxolo ukuba ezi zikhe zacetyiswa ngaphambili ngabanye-andizami ukuthatha imbeko ngezimvo zabo kodwa khange ndizibone zikhankanywe ngaphambili. Ndiyathemba ukuba ezi ziluncedo kwabanye benu.
**Ukulwa nezinto ezidanyazayo/imifanekiso engamanyala–>
Ngexesha leeveki ezintandathu ukuya kwezisixhenxe zokuqalisa kwam kwakhona, ndasebenzisa indlela ethi "Red X" ngempumelelo ethile. Kulabo abangaqhelanga, ingcamango kukuba xa umfanekiso we-porn okanye umboniso ubonakala ungafuni engqondweni yakho, uyawuvala ngomfanekiso we-X enkulu ebomvu. kwaye ilungile) njengenye indlela yoku. Kutshanje, oku khange kusebenze ngokwenene. Isicwangciso sam esitsha kukusebenzisa into entsokothileyo kunye neneenkcukacha: isivakalisi okanye umhlathi kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwesicatshulwa ... ngokuba ngcono. Oku kusebenze ngokwenene. Xa kuvela umfanekiso, ngoko nangoko ndiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wombhalo ngokwawo, ndize ke ndizame konke okusemandleni am ukuwufunda ngokupheleleyo kangangoko ndinokuvumela inkumbulo yam. Le nkqubo ithatha ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo kwaye ifuna ukugxininiswa okwaneleyo ukuba ikhuphe ingqondo "ye-pop-up" yangaphambili. Umfanekiso olula we-Red X wawulula kakhulu kwaye ukhawuleza kwaye wawudla ngokugutyungelwa yimifanekiso eyongezelelweyo yamanyala. Kwakhona kunokunceda ukuba isicatshulwa sinento yokwenza nokubuyisela / umlutha, yithi ngokomzekelo, enye ye-YBOP yevidiyo ye-YBOP ye-Gary, endizisa kwisicwangciso sam esilandelayo.
**Ukuqinisa izizathu zokuphinda uqalise/ukuyeka/ukufumana kwakhona–>
Kum, bendizimisele ngokwenene xa ndiqala ukuqalisa kwam, kwaye ndiye ndayenza yonke into ngendlela ecwangciswe kakhulu kwaye ibalwe. Kutshanje, esi simo sengqondo kunye nesigqibo sehlile. Ndicinge ukuba kunokuba luncedo ukwenza kwakhona ezinye zezinto endizenzileyo ekuqaleni. Ngoko, NDABUKELA kwakhona iividiyo zikaGary zeYBOP. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ibiyeyona nto ibangela ukuba ndiqale kule ndlela yokubuyela kwimeko yokuchacha, kwaye emva kokuba ndibajongile bebonke kwakhona, ndinokuqinisekisa ukuba zizixhobo ezixabiseke kakhulu kwaye kufanele ukuba zijongwe kanye okanye kabini ngenyanga, njengoqinisekiso olusempilweni. Ngenene benza imimangaliso.
** Ukufumana imithombo enempilo ye-dopamine->
Kuyamkelwa ngokubanzi ukuba umthambo kuyinzuzo enkulu xa kufikwa ekuchacheni. Ukuzivocavoca kunceda ukwandisa i-dopamine kunye namanqanaba e-serotonin kwaye kukunika "uphezulu" onokunceda ukunqanda ukunqwenela "ezinye" izinto. Ewe kunjalo, awunakuvele wenze umthambo ngomzuzu ngamnye wemihla ngemihla, ngoko ke kuyanceda ukuba nezinye iindlela. Ngokucacileyo, izinto ozonwabisa ngazo, imisebenzi, kunye nokuhlalisana yeminye imithombo ye-dopamine kunye nolonwabo, kwaye njengoko umvuzo wakho wokujikeleza ulinganisa, uya kufumana uyolo olungakumbi kunye nemincili kwezi zinto-ezi zezona ndawo ziphambili. Ukufumana i-dopamine kule mithombo kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba njengoko i-dopamine yakho iyancipha ngexesha lokurhoxa, uya kuba lula ukuba ungene kwaye uzintyintye. Kutshanje ndiye ndakhubeka kumthombo omtsha, omncinci kodwa osebenzayo.
Xa ndandiyekile kwi-PMO ngaphezulu kweentsuku ze-50, andizange ndizive ndingcono. Ngoku, ukuba i-dopamine "yi-neurochemical elindelekileyo," ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ukuba ndizifundisa ukuba ndizive ndonwabile ngokubuyela kweso simo esonwabileyo, ngelo xesha xa ndiziva ndilungile, kwaye ukuba ndibone ngokucacileyo zonke iindlela endiziphucule kwaye ndaqala ngazo. Ukukhula konwabele ukubuyela apho, bendiziva ngokoqobo impendulo ye-dopamine.
Njengomzekelo, kwenye yeeposti zam zangaphambili zebhlog ndibhale malunga nendlela endidibane ngayo namehlo noweyitara saza sancumelana…andikhange ndive kamnandi kangaka ngoncumo olulula ngeminyaka. Ngale ntsasa, ndaphinda ndakhumbula loo mava entlokweni yam, emva koko ndaqalisa ukuba nezinto ezilindelekileyo kunye nemincili kwisiganeko esinje senzeka kwakhona, kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba sandinika ulwaneliseko kunye nolonwabo kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, inkuthazo. Ke, thatha imvakalelo eyonwabileyo kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye uyenze ibe yinyani kwiliso lengqondo yakho. Qonda ukuba awuyi kuba nemvakalelo eyonwabileyo ukuba ubuchopho bakho bukhuselwa yi-porn, kodwa zifundise ukulindela ukubuya kwezo mvakalelo njengoko uhamba kwinkqubo yokuphilisa. Oko kuya kunceda ukutshintsha imithombo yakho ye-dopamine ukusuka kwiindawo ezingalunganga ukuya kwezo zilungileyo.
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