Uthini umahluko phakathi kokufuna ukuyeka ukufuna ukuyeka? Iingcamango zam emva kweentsuku ze-45.
Kutheni kubonakala ngathi abanye abantu baphumelele kakhulu kwi-fap kwixesha elide ngelixa abanye bezabalaza ngokuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunye nokusetha kwakhona? Lo mbuzo ubundikhathaza mva nje. Ubunyani obubandayo akukho manani efap kunye nawo onke amabali alusizi okuphinda ndiye ndanoloyiko lokuba mna ngokwam andinakuze ndikwazi ukuphila ngempumelelo i-PMO simahla. Ekugqibeleni yandibetha okombane.... Zininzi iiFapstronauts apha ezifuna ngokunyanisekileyo nangenyani ukophula umlutha we-PMO. Kodwa ndiyazi ngayo yonke imicu yobuntu bam ukuba KUFUNEKA ndophule obam. Loo mahluko ubaluleke kakhulu; umahluko ochuliweyo phakathi koKUFUNA ukufeza into ethile ngokuchasene nokuKUFUNA ukufeza okuthile kudala kugqalwa njengothunywashe ophambili ekufikeleleni usukelo lobuqu.
Ukuba ufumene ubunzima obukhulu bokulwa neminqweno yokuphinda ubuyele okanye ukuba ubuyele kwakhona elinye okanye ngaphezulu kwaye ukhula udimazekile, ke ndiyakubongoza ukuba ufunde ukuhambisa umahluko wamandla omangalisayo phakathi kwe-WANT kunye ne-NEED. Makhe ndicace, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ekuziseni apha ekuqaleni ukuba akukho fap kwindawo yokuqala, ungasebenzisa amandla engqondo yakho ukuphuhlisa i-NEED yobuqu yokuyeka i-PMO. Isidingo esivuthayo sokumisa i-PMO siya kusebenza ngakumbi kunokuba "umnqweno" nje wokufezekisa usuku lwakho lwe-90 (okanye nantoni na) injongo (umnqweno sisithethantonye se-WANT).
Sonke siye sakuva ngomqeqeshi weqela lezemidlalo elilahlekileyo othe kwinkqubo yodliwano-ndlebe lomdlalo wachaza iqela eliphumelelayo NJENGOKUBA UFUNA ngakumbi ngaloo mini "Babeyifuna ngaphezu kwethu". Nangona kunjalo, uphando lwezemidlalo luye lwabonisa ukuba xa iqela linemiqolo eludongeni kugqatso lwe-playoff okanye imeko eqinile apho KUFUNA ukuphumelela, ngokuphindaphindiweyo amaxesha amaninzi, iqela eline-NEED elivuthayo elivuthayo liya kuvela njengoloyiso. Abaqeqeshi abaphumeleleyo kunye neenkokeli bafunda ukuvuselela ngokwahlukileyo lo mahluko uphambili ukubanceda ukuba bafezekise iinjongo zabo.
Nanku omnye umzekelo wale nto ndithetha ngayo. Kuqikelelwa ukuba izigidi ezingamashumi asixhenxe anesihlanu abantu baseMelika bathi BAFUNA ukunciphisa umzimba. Ukulahlekelwa kwesisindo eMelika kuye kwaba yi-dollar yezigidi ezingamashumi amathandathu ngonyaka kwaye iqhubekile ikhula nangona uqoqosho luphantsi. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nto wayezibize ngoMNQWENO wokwehlisa umzimba, thina njengelizwe ngoku sityebile kunangaphambili. Kutheni kunje? Ngenxa yokuba UKUFUNA kunye NOMNQWENO (umnqweno sisithethantonye sokufuna) kunqabile ukuba kuguqulelwe ekufikeleleni kwinjongo yexesha elide eyimpumelelo. Sisenokuba siye sagqiba ekubeni sitye kuba SIFUNA ukuphulukana neekhilogram ezimbalwa ngaphambi kweholide yehlobo okanye ngenxa yokuba SIFUNA ukungena ngcono kwiimpahla zethu njl.njl. ukanti sihlala sibuyela ngqo kwi-fudge sundae eshushu okanye kwipizza enkulu kunye nepizza. ibhiya kuba kusekho inxalenye yethu “ethanda” oko kutya kunamafutha okanye “ethanda” loo mvakalelo yokwaneliseka yesisu esizeleyo (efana nesinye isithethantonye segama elithi UFUNA). Silwa ne-inertia yethu kunye neminqweno yangaphakathi ephikisanayo. Nangona kunjalo, izifundo ezininzi malunga nempumelelo yokunciphisa umzimba ziye zangqina ukuba abo baqala ukutya ngokukhawuleza emva kokuxelelwa ngugqirha okanye omnye umntu onegunya elihloniphekileyo ukuba BAFUNA ukunciphisa umzimba baphumelele ngamaxesha amaninzi. Umahluko kuphela yaba ngabathathi-nxaxheba bophononongo abanesakhelo sengqondo sokubhekisela ekuqaleni kokutya. Babecinga ukuba ngenene KUFUNEKA balahlekelwe okanye kuya kuba neziphumo ezibi, ngoko ke babekhuthazeka kakhulu ukuba baphumelele ke abo baqala nge-WANT okanye i-DESIRE bodwa.
Ke, ukuba ulapha ngenxa yokuba akukho fap ibonakala ngathi lilingo elinomdla lokuzama ke nceda ungadangali ukuba uyaphinda kwaye uqhubeke nokuzabalaza amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uphikiswe kwaye ucele umngeni ukuba i-UNTANDO yakho yangoku kunye ne- DESIRE to no fap ayikabi yi-NEED engxamisekileyo. Kodwa ukuba uyazi ngokwenyani ukuba KUFUNEKA uyeke i-PMO ukuba UFUNA ukuphumelela ngokwenene, ke unokufunda ukukhulisa loo mvakalelo yangaphakathi, wenze eso sidingo sitshisayo sokuyeka kwaye ungaze uphinde ufefe kude kube isilingo sokuphinda siphinde sidlule ixesha ngalinye. iyenzeka.
Ungasebenzisa ngokulula amandla amakhulu engqondo yakho ukuguqula i-WANT engaqhelekanga okanye i-DESIRE ibe yiMFUNO evuthayo ukuze ukwandise amathuba okuba kungabikho mpumelelo ye-fap. Enye indlela elula yokuphumeza oku kukuhambisa amandla amangalisayo oloyiko (nokuba yenziwe ngobuchule) ukukunceda. Yiya kwithala leencwadi kwaye ubambe ikopi yaMandla oBuqu nguTony Robbins okanye iincwadi zokuzinceda ezifanayo njengeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokwenza oku ngokweenkcukacha.
Nanku umzekelo osisiseko, yenza ngathi okwangoku usokola kakubi ngemiba yokuphinda ubuyele, iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo. Kodwa njengabantu abaninzi, mhlawumbi woyika ukubanjwa kwesona senzo se-PMO ngabahlobo, usapho, okanye abantu ongabaziyo. Ke unokulusebenzisa olo loyiko ngenzuzo yakho ngokuhambisa ikhompyuter yakho kwigumbi likawonke-wonke, ufake isihluzi esinje nge-k9 kunye neqabane lakho okanye abazali ababambe izitshixo zelogi, sebenzisa kuphela igumbi lakho lokuhlambela okanye indawo yeshawari enocango lokuhlambela luvuliwe, lala ucango lwakho lwegumbi lokulala luvuliwe kwaye izithunzi zakho zefestile zivulekile njalo njalo. Ngokuyila, kwanomntu onoMNQWENO nje okanye UFUNA ukugqiba akukho fap unokuphuhla kwaye asebenzise i-mental Burrming IMFUNO yokuphumelela eqinisekisa impumelelo ekugqibeleni!
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