"NgoJove, ngumgcini wesiphaluka!"
Ilungu elizinikeleyo kwiklabhu "kulowo nalowo ngokwakhe" iklabhu, yonke inkululeko yokuthetha. Nangona kunjalo, iwebhusayithi yam yenzeka ukuxoxa ukuphakama kunye nokunyuka kwesondo ngokokuphakama kunye nokuhla komjikelo wokulutha oqhelekileyo. Ndothuke (kwaye eyabo, ndiqinisekile), amadoda avela kwihlabathi liphela aboniswe my Iqonga lesiza likhalaza ukuba likhoboka le-porn / le-masturbation.
Ekuqaleni kwakubuhlungu ukufunda amabali abo. Aba bantu babehlala bexhatshazwa-ngenxa yamaninzi amaninzi abo abaneengqondo zabo ezibonakalayo njengamathuba omzimba. Nqakraza nje, enye inoveli "iqabane" ukuqaqanjelwa ukuze kunikezelwe iinkonzo-kwaye iindwendwe zam 'ezingacacanga, inkqubo yamandulo yokuzimisela yayizimisele ukushiya nokuba ibe nye ingabekwanga. Ngapha koko, xa bezama ukuyeka, bajongana neeveki ezinamandla, eziguqukayo zeempawu zokurhoxa:
Umntu wokuqala: Usuku lonke ndiye ndigubha kunye namajitter afana neendlela ozive ngayo xa ndiyeka ukutshaya.
Umntu wesibini: Iimpawu zam zokurhoxa? Ukuqhuma komsindo okukhokelela kubunzima bokuziphatha, isimilo esinoburharha, uxinezeleko ngokulula (andinamava okujongana nehlabathi ngaphandle kwesuphu ye-post-orgasmic sedation), umbono wokuzibulala, uxinzelelo olukhulu, amaphupha anobundlobongela (ndikonwabele kakhulu oku, kodwa abanye banako ziqwalasele njengamaphupha amabi), ukungalali, ukubona izinto ezingekhoyo (ndiphume ebhedini ndikhwaza kuba ndisiva "ubukho"), "izinambuzane" zirhubuluza kum ebhedini, zingcangcazela, imania (amandla angaphaya kwamandla am okuwasebenzisa ngendlela eyakhayo), kunye nokungakwazi ukugxila.
Umntu wesithathu: Ndidikwe? Ukuphulula amalungu esini. Ngaba unomsindo? Ukuphulula amalungu esini. Ukukhazeka? Ukuphulula amalungu esini. Uxinezelekile? Ukuphulula amalungu esini. Ndisuke ekubeni ngowokuqala kwiklasi yam ndaya ezantsi, de ndayeka ukuphuma kakuhle. Ndifumene umsebenzi weWebhu, ndisenza imali entle nge-porn yam cofa kude. Obu yayibubomi bam, kwaye andikhange ndiqonde ukuba ndinomlutha ndade ndenziwa utyando kunye nokuhambisa amalungu esini ngaphandle kokukhetha iintsuku ezilishumi elinesihlanu. Ngosuku lwesithathu, ndandingcangcazela ngokoqobo, kwaye ndaqala ukudibanisa amachaphaza. Ezinye iimpawu: ukucaphuka, ukungakwazi ukugxila ("ukujonga iindonga zesifo"), ukutshintsha kwemozulu, iintloko (ngamanye amaxesha zomelele), uxinzelelo kumalungu esini sam, ukubuyela umva, paranoia, ukucinga ngokuzibulala, ukudakumba, ukungabi nathemba, kunye noloyiko lokuba Andisoze ndilale ngesondo kuba andifundanga zakhono kwezentlalo okoko ndangena kwi-porn kwiminyaka esibhozo eyadlulayo xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo.
Ndivile nokuba: “Nokuba zininzi kangakanani i-orgasms, andiziva ndonelisekile; Ndidiniwe ndidiniwe, kwaye ndiqala kwakhona ngosuku olulandelayo. ” Ukuhla, ndifuna izinto ezigabadeleyo ukuze ze ngekhe wajonga ngaphambili. ” Ndixhalabile ngakumbi okanye ndidandathekile, kwaye ndinomnqweno onamandla wokungafuni ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu. ” “Xa ndizama ukulala nomntu endithandana naye, mna Andikwazi ukufumana ulwakhiwo. "
Uninzi lwalungenayo imvelaphi yenkolo, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ndaye ndabona ukuba iingxoxo malunga nokuziva unetyala, isimilo, uxinzelelo ngokwesondo, ukuxhaphaza, kunye nenkululeko yokuthetha ubukhulu becala zibaluleke kakhulu. Kulula kakhulu, aba bantu baphosa i-chemistry yabo yobuchopho ngaphandle. Inokwenzeka nakubani na-kwaye ngekhe yenzeke kum ukuba bendiyindoda. Ngaphandle koko, abasetyhini babuthathaka ubunzima bomlenze, naye.
Imisebenzi yamadoda yayiqondakala ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa iinguqu kwimijikelezo yomvuzo wobuchopho babo zaziphanga inkululeko yabo yokuzikhethela. Baye baxhamla.
NjengoBurnham noPhelan bachaza I-Genealogical Mean: Ukususela kwiSondo ukuya kwiMali yokuTya, ukuTyhila kwiiNkqubo zethu eziPhambili, imeko-bume yethu itshintshile, ishiya umvuzo wethu wokuqala, ongathandabuzekiyo wesekethe sesichengeni. Isebenza kwimfuza yethu phambi kwethu, ke xa ibona "amaqabane amatsha" ejikeleze, ingasikhuthaza ukuba singayinaki intlalo-ntle yethu… kwaye siqhubeke nokuchumisa. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba asizibandakanyi ngokwaneleyo kwimbuyekezo ethe xhaxhe ebomini: unxibelelwano oluhle kunye nomnxeba wothando.
Ukuvuselela okugqithisileyo kwesekethe yokuvuza kuyingozi. Ingozi asizizo iintende ezinoboya okanye ukungaboni. Kuphela kwisantya esiphakamileyo sokunyathela, ukuzama ukuhlala ngaphambi kweempawu zokurhoxa. Ukuzonwabisa okuqhelekileyo-izinto ezilula iingqondo zethu zikhula kakuhle-ngokuthe ngcembe ziphulukana namandla abo okonwaba. Ibhayoloji URobert Sapolsky wathi:
Ukungaqhubeki ngokungaqhelekanga kwamava kunye nolwaphulo kunye nokuzonwabisa kwenza ama-degrees aqinisekisiwe aqhelekileyo. Le miphumo emibili. Njengokuqala, ngokukhawuleza asiyi kuphinda siphinde siqaphele ukukhawuleza kwezinto ezithandekayo ezibangelwa ngamagqabi ekwindla, okanye ngokubheka komntu ofanelekileyo, okanye ngesithembiso somvuzo ozayo emva komsebenzi omude, onzima nofanelekileyo. Esinye isiphumo kukuba, emva kwexesha elide, sitshintshele nakwezo zinto ezixhamlayo. . . . Inkxwaleko yethu kukuba sihlala silambile. Uninzi kwaye ukhawuleza kwaye unamandla.
Nangona uguquko lusibumbile kwizilwanyana ezanyisayo ezinqabileyo ukufumana ubudlelwane obunomvuzo, ubuqili babo, imivuzo esempilweni ayivelisi ukuvuseleleka okungaphaya kweeyure zemifanekiso ethandabuzekayo-ngakumbi hayi njengoko sithomalalisa iingqondo zethu ngobuninzi bazo. Kungenzeka ukuba sidinga ulingano lwangaphakathi ukuze sibenobomi obuncinci, kodwa nangakumbi zi nelisa ukubhalisa njengolonwabo.
Kule mihla, ulingano kunzima ukulugcina. Uyayithanda okanye awuyithandi, inkanuko yesini egqithileyo namhlanje asinanto into yokuba abazingeli bethu abazingelayo bazingela kwizigidi zeminyaka yokukhula kwengqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwakukho i-harem engaqhelekanga, kwaye amantombazana emqolombeni ngokuqinisekileyo ayemhle. Kodwa imifanekiso yabo ecekethekileyo ayikhange ibethwe ngumoya ukuba ifezeke, iprojeki kwiscreen ngasinye, kwaye bayalila ngokungagungqiyo kwiminikelo yesidoda.
NgokukaHoward Shaffer, isazi ngengqondo saseHarvard, “ukuba likhoboka lotywala kunokubangelwa ngamava. . . ukuphindaphinda, iimvakalelo eziphezulu, amava okuhamba rhoqo. ” Kwaye njengomphandi wexesha elide wasePrinceton UBart Hoebel uthe,
Ukunyanzelwa ngokwesondo okunamandla [kunye nokutya okunencasa kakhulu] kukuphela kwesikhuthazo esikwaziyo ukusebenza [kwengqondo] kwenkqubo yedopamine naphina kufutshane namandla emithi.
In Ubungqina Obuguqula, isifo sengqondo uNorman Doidge ubonisa ukuba,
Ukuba likhoboka lamanyala e-Intanethi akusiso isikweko. Zonke iziyobisi zibandakanya ixesha elide, ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bonke, utshintsho lwe-neuroplastic kwingqondo. … Ukunyuka okufanayo kwedopamine okusonwabisa kuthi kukwahlanganisa nonxibelelwano lwe-neuronal olunoxanduva lokuziphatha okusikhokelele ekufezekiseni iinjongo zethu. (iphepha 106-8)
Iindaba ezilungileyo kule ngxelo zinika ubungqina obuninzi bokuvuza umthwalo wesekethe bekunjalo umceli mngeni waba bafana. Njengoko ndandimamele ngovelwano, ndiziva ndingenakuzinceda, abanye babo ekugqibeleni basebenza ngendlela yokubuyisa ubuchopho babo ukuze balungelelanise. Ngokuthe chu, baphinda babuya. 
Izinto ezazitshintshile ngaphambili, zaziguqula ngokutsha ngaphandle kweziyobisi zokuphucula ngokwesondo. Baye balahlekelwa yintlungu yabo ngezinto ezimbi. Ukuxhalaba kwabo nokudakumba kwabo kwancipha. Iimvakalelo ezingenangqondo zokudimazeka nokuzisola. Iintlanzi kunye nethemba liqhame. Baqala ukudlala ngothando. Zaboi-elf-esteem iphuculwe. Enyanisweni, baqala ukuzonwabisa ngokuphandle ngokubanzi-nangona ukuba bahamba beza kubonwa ngoononophala njengentloni.
Umendo wabo wawungekho lula, kwaye abanye bebanzima. (Funda malunga namava abo Umendo ogqithiseleyo.) Abo baphunyukileyo babonakala befuna ukutshatyalaliswa kwemini engama-60 kwi-orgasm kunye nokuvuselela ngokwesini ukuvuselela umvuzo wabo wesiphaluka. Inkxaso yentlalo yandinceda ngokwenene, kuba ubuchopho bubona buhlungu kwaye buvuza. Uthi omnye (ngubani ophethe umnandi):
Ukurhoxa, njengoko kuvela, kwakunzima kune-cocaine, i-opiates, utywala, okanye i-nicotine. Ndichithe iveki eqinileyo ndilila qho busuku emva kokufundisa eyunivesithi. Andikwazi ukulala, kwaye ndandinomdla wokutya. Ukucinga ngokuhlala ndithandana kwandenza ndafuna ukugoba ibhola.
Kodwa ke ndilapha. ndiyeva khulula.
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