Ukugqugquzela okungaphezu kwamandla e-intanethi kungaphazamisa impilo yezocansi yabesifazane
IsiSwidi esithandwayo esiku-inthanethi umagazini wezindaba osanda kubikwa ukuthi abesifazane babona inguqulo yabo "yokungabi namandla kwezocansi," (esivele ibikiwe ku- Amadoda aseSweden). Omunye wesifazane uthi,
“Ngike ngazibuza ngesizathu sokungabi nentshisekelo kwezocansi empilweni yangempela. … Ngiyayibona nakanjani iphethini: Eziningi ze-porn = ukwehla kwamandla nomlingani wakho. Ngifinyelele esiteji lapho ngikhetha ukuphuma khona ocansini nomlingani wami futhi ngixazulule izithombe ezingcolile. … Angikaze ngicabange ngalokhu maqondana nohlelo lwemiklomelo. Futhi ukushaya indlwabu kusobala kakhulu umvuzo! Ngicabanga ukuthi ngaphezu kokudla. ”
Wathi enye:
"Ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kukodwa kunganikeza amandla, kepha kungaba yisithiyo lapho umuntu ngokuzumayo efuna ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze."
Futhi elinye:
Ngiyintombazane eneminyaka engu-23 ubudala, ngibheke izithombe ezingcolile kusukela ngangineminyaka eyi-14/15, futhi ngangizishaya indlwabu kakhulu. Kufika lapho ngingakwazi ukulala khona ngempela uma ngingashayi indlwabu, ngoba ngishaye indlwabu njalo ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba ngilale, iminyaka eminingi. Futhi angikaze ngibe ne-orgasm evela komunye umuntu, ngingazenzela kuphela, lapho ngibuka i-porn (noma ngicabanga). Angikaze ngiyeke isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinsuku ze-4 noma kunjalo, kepha ngifuna ukuyeka. Futhi njalo lapho ngiqedile, ngizizwa ngikhathele ngempela futhi ngifuna ukulala / ukulala. Kumnandi. Ngizoqala kuphi? Anginakho ukuzithiba, ngicabanga ..
Futhi, akufani nokuthi ngiyibuka ngoba anginabo abalingani engiya nabo ocansini, nginempilo ejwayelekile yokuphola futhi ngibe nezikhathi ezanele zekinky, kepha azingigculisi ngendlela engizenza ngayo mina .. Ngifuna ukuzijabulela , futhi ngicabanga ukuthi angikwazi ngenxa yokulutha kocansi.
Sivame ukubuzwa ukuthi kungani i-blog engavamile ngezinkinga zezocansi zabesifazane. Impendulo: Abantu abathumela ku-inthanethi ngezimpawu zabo ezihlobene nocansi cishe bebengabesilisa kuphela. Kodwa-ke, sikhuthazwe isenzo yi-athikili yaseSweden engenhla, sanquma ukumba ngokujulile. Sikhethe I-Reddit / NoFap, ebonakala iyindawo enobungani besifazane kumasayithi lapho (iningi labantu abasha) bezama ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Intanethi kanye / noma ukushaya indlwabu. Amalungu ayo angaphezu kuka-700 kwangu-60,000 + aveza obala njengabesifazane, abizwa ngothando ngokuthi “ama-femstronauts.”
Kubasebenzisi bama-540 besifazane esibuhlolile, cishe ingxenye yesine ithunyelwe. Kulabo, i-93% yayizama ukuyeka ukuziphatha okungadingeki (ngokuvamile i-porn, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi nayo ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile ngokocansi-ukudlala/ ukushaya indlwabu). Kusimangazile ukuthi kuphela i-7% ebifuna izeluleko mayelana nokusetshenziswa kocansi kozakwethu. Yize babekhona bobabili abathandana nabobulili obufanayo phakathi kwesampula, iningi lamaphosta lalikhuluma ngezocansi namadoda.
Sihlabeke umxhwele ngokuthi ama-akhawunti we-femstronauts afanekisela kanjani ulwazi lwemibiko yamadoda yezimpawu ezihlobene ne-inthanethi yezocansi. Njengoba uzobona, abesifazane, nabo, bakhononda ngokulahlekelwa imizwa nokuvuka ngesikhathi socansi lwangempela, ukukhuphukela ezinhlotsheni zobulili ezingcolile ezingafuneki, ukucasuka, ukunganaki, ukulutha, ukuqwasha ngaphandle kokusebenzisa i-porn, njalonjalo. Abaningi baphinde babone izinzuzo eziphawulekayo lapho beyeka.
Njengoba lokhu kungukuqala kwethu ukubheka ngokujulile imibiko yabesifazane, sifuna ukufaka amazwi amaningi abesifazane. Siphule lokhu okuthunyelwe okude kwaba yizigaba ezilandelayo:
- Abesifazane ababhekana nezinkinga ezibangelwa i-porn bakhulume
- Ukuthuthukiswa ngemva kokuyeka
- Isimo se-Porn
Abesifazane ababhekana nezinkinga ezibangelwa i-porn bakhulume
Iqiniso lokuthi abesilisa nabesifazane babona izimpawu ezifanayo lisikisela ukuthi inkinga ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile zanamuhla ingaba sengozini yobuchopho bomuntu ebusweni bamavidiyo ezithombe zobulili ezingcolile zanamuhla asezingeni eliphakeme, aphezulu kakhulu kunokuqukethwe okweqile. Nasi isampula sezizathu zabesifazane zokuyeka.
Ukulahlekelwa ukuzwela ngokocansi / isifiso somlingani
Fiona: Ngesaba ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu njalo nokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyangifisa kakhulu (ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo) uma ngilali nesoka lami.
umlando: Ngingowesifazane ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Ngivame ukushaya indlwabu njalo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, futhi ngiqale ukusebenzisa i-porn ngoba ikwenza kube lula futhi kusheshe ukufinyelela ku-orgasm. Kodwa-ke, isikhathi ngasinye kuba nzima kakhulu ukufika kuvuthondaba, futhi eminyakeni edlule i-porn engiyibukelayo iye yaba ngokweqile / engavamile ukuthola inani elifanayo lenjabulo. Angikwazi futhi ukuvuthwa nesoka lami. Kuyiqiniso impela ukuthi i-porn iyakukhathaza, kepha uma nje ungasenayo i-orgasm ngaphandle kwayo, kunzima ukuyeka.
Sienna: Ngisanda kuqeda isoka lami ngoba angikaze ngizizwe nginamahlumela. Ngangitshela ukuthi kwakuyindoda engalungile, futhi lokho kungase kube yiqiniso, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu engapheli kwangenza ngingazizwa ngicabanga ukuthi ngingazizwa ngenye indlela. Kusukela ngisengumfana osemncane nginomuntu oshaya indlwabu noma ngingabukeli i-porn pretty nsuku zonke.
Kelly: Kithina mantombazane i-ED elinganiselayo kunzima ukuyibona,… kodwa ngizizwa ngendlela efanayo naleyo engifunda ngayo abafana bayayichaza. Kukhona isifiso kepha akukho ukuvuka. Akukho ukuthinteka, ukudonsa, ukuqina, ukuzwa okujabulisayo ku-clitoris nasesiswini esingezansi, kuphela uhlobo lokucindezela kwengqondo olubheke ocansini. Futhi i-BTW, mina do ube ne-PE, ngaphandle kokuthi ingachazwa ngokunembile njenge-PO: i-orgasming ngenkathi ukuxolisa kuphansi, nekhwalithi ye-orgasm ephakathi kakhulu. I-orgasm enjalo ivame ukungaziwa ngaphandle kohlobo lokukhathazeka okunjengezinkathazo, kodwa lwakhiwe ngezitho zangasese.
Surya: Ngingowesifazane we-23 y / o futhi ngishaya indlwabu njalo kusihlwa ukuze ngilale futhi kwesinye isikhathi emini. Ngibona isoka lami izikhathi ezimbalwa ngesonto. Ngimkhumbula kakhulu lapho esehambile, kepha lapho sindawonye, kufana nokuthi yonke imizwa yami yocansi iyanyamalala.
Ellen: Akuzange kunginake, kuze kube yilapho mina nesoka lami siqala ukuzama, ukuthi nginenkinga. Ngangikuthanda ukuzizwa kahle. Ngikwenzile lapho ngangizivuza ngokwami, ngenza ngizizwe ngincono, noma ngivele ngibe nesithukuthezi. Kepha manje sengiyabona ukuthi ngijwayele isidlidlizi nesandla sami uqobo ukuthi angikwazi ukwenza i-orgasm noma ngizizwe nginozwelo kakhulu lapho isoka lami lingijabulisa. F * ck. Lokho. Sh * t.
Valerie: Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ngiyeke ukuthembela kwi-porn ukuze ngiphume.
lilone_mg: Ngiyintombazane eneminyaka eyi-19. Isitshudeni saseKolishi, intombi, njll Ngokwethembeka, ekuqaleni ngangilandela le ngxenye njengehlaya. Angiqondanga ngempela ukuthi yayiyini inhloso, ikakhulukazi lapho i-pmo inkulu kangaka, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke, njengabaningi, ngaqala ukuzikhuza lapho ngisemncane. Nbd. Angikaze ngikwenze kaningi, angikaze ngibone noma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka okubi. Ngibe sengithola igumbi elilodwa ekolishi. Ngingahle ngibe ne-pmo ngoba nganginesithukuthezi. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngaqala ukuqaphela izinkinga empilweni yami yezocansi nesoka lami leminyaka eyi-4. Kwakungathi siphelelwe ukuvumelanisa. Akekho kithi owayejabule. Saxoxa, futhi thina
bobabili bavumile ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi besine-pmo ngaphambi kocansi, ukuze ngilunge futhi angahlala isikhathi eside. Ngaze ngathi angisaboni iphuzu kwezocansi. Akudabukisi lokho ?? Futhi ngokweqiniso, anginandaba nokuhlala isikhathi eside. Ngiyamthanda futhi ukuba naye nje kuphela engikufunayo. Ngakho-ke ukuqala ngalobo busuku, ngayeka i-pmo isonto lonke. Kusukela lapho, ngabona ukuthi ngangiphendula kakhulu, ngifisa, futhi nxazonke ngijabule futhi nginake. Sengibuyele emuva kusukela manje, kepha ngifuna ukuqhubeka ne-pmo. Lokhu kubuthinte ubudlelwano bami, ukugqugquzela, nokuziphatha kwami. Ngifuna ukuba intombi engcono, futhi ngibe ngcono. Ukuqala namhlanje kusihlwa, ngiyakhuluma ngakho.
Ukushayisana nokuzihlehlisa ”
Sophie: Ukushaya indlwabu kwabesifazane kungabukeka kungalawuleki. Asikho "isikhathi esingezansi." Ekhaya "lezinsuku ezigulayo" ngivela esikoleni ngangiya kuma-binges we-porn futhi ngihlale cishe izikhathi ezingama-30. Manje, ngifuna ukuyeka ukucabanga ngezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ngenkathi ngiya ocansini ukuze ngikwazi ukuhlala. Kungisusa impela ekusondeleni kwalesi simo.
Alana: Ngithole i-porn eneminyaka engu-10. Kodwa isithakazelo sami esithombeni socansi sasicindezelekile [kuze kuphele iminyaka engu-13]. Ngingasebenzisa iminyaka elandelayo ye-4 ukuhlela nokuhlekisa nsuku zonke, futhi ezinsukwini ezimbi, ngizokwenza izikhathi eziningana ngosuku. Ngemva kwalokho, ngizozizwa ngiyingozi; kwaba nomuzwa ofana nokushona ngemuva kokuphezulu. Ngangizizwa nginesizungu, ngidabukile futhi ngicindezeleke kakhulu yiwo wonke amafap. Umqondo omkhulu wokuzihawukela wawuzogeza phezu kwami. Ngangicabanga ngabazali bami, futhi ngizizwa nginamahloni kangangokuba indodakazi yabo yayiyozifihla ekamelweni layo, izikhalo ezithandwayo, ukushaya indlwabu kuze kube sekupheleni. Kuphela ubulili bobulili, nokujabula kwamanga ukugcwalisa ingqondo yami.
Liz: Ngenkathi ngingatholi lutho ngokwemvelo okungalungile ngokushaya indlwabu ngokulinganisela, kungcono ukugulisa ukuthembela entweni esongelwe kakhulu ngokomzwelo futhi eyingozi. Futhi uma usuqale, ungazikhawulela kanjani ekulinganiseni, empeleni? Futhi [izithombe ezingcolile] akukhona okwangempela. Ugh!
Tina: Muva nje, ngizithola ngehla mhlawumbe izikhathi eziyisithupha, ezi-6 ngosuku. Kuthatha isikhathi sami, kungenza ngishiye isikhathi. Angikwazi ukungazizwa ukuthi kuwukukhathazeka kohlobo oluthile, ngoba angikwazi. I-Porn iyanginyanyisa kodwa muva nje bengiyisebenzisa njengokulungisa okusheshayo, ngokumelene nesahlulelo sami esingcono. Noma kunjalo, ngingumuntu othanda ukushaya indlwabu kodwa ngibona sengathi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha i-gauntlet futhi ngikwenze le nto.
Ukulahlekelwa ukusondelana / ukubona abanye njengezinto zobulili
Elise: Nginomuzwa wokuthi lapho ngilala nomuntu engimthandayo, ngiphazamiseka ngoba ngibuke izithombe ezingcolile zobulili futhi empeleni ngicabanga ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi engizibukile. Kumane kwakha lesi sithiyo esikhulu empilweni yami yezocansi 🙁
Amanda: Ngisebudlelwaneni bebanga elide. Ngishaya indlwabu cishe zonke izinsuku. … Ngizithola sengiphikisa abangane bami besilisa ngengqondo; futhi ngilahlekelwa yisikhathi esiningi esibalulekile okufanele ngabe ngisisebenzisa emsebenzini. Ngangivame nokuba ngudlalani ngenkathi ngisemncane ngaphambi kokuthi ngithole ukuthi izintokazi zazingashaya indlwabu nazo (okwakungakaze kube maphakathi nekolishi), ngemuva kwalokho ngaphelelwa yisifiso sokuncinza noma ukusondelana nabantu besilisa.
Lilly: Ngishaya indlwabu amahlandla ama-4 kuye kwayisithupha ngesonto kuya ngokuthi ngithola isikhathi esingakanani ngedwa. Senza ucansi mhlawumbe kanye ngesonto futhi akukaze kube kuhle kakhulu. Akekho kithi ogcinela omunye amandla. Ngikhethe ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile nokubuka izithombe ukuze ngichithe isikhathi naye. Sengiyinto engiyizondayo.
Kat: Ngingungqingili. Ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho ngibona umngane omusha engiye ngashaya indlwabu kuye, okuthile okuhlukile. Noma ngabe ngicabanga ukuthi ngilingisa “ngendlela ejwayelekile” kanjani, angikwazi ukugudluza umuzwa wokuthi uyazi ukuthi kukhona okuvukile. Lesi yisibonelo esisodwa nje sokuthi kungani ngiqala inselelo ye-schlick [ukushaya indlwabu]. Ngikhathele ukungakwazi ukuqonda iqiniso ngoba ngigxile kakhulu kumcabango.
Ukukhula okungafuneki kuzithombe ezingcolile kakhulu
Nina: Sengiqale ukubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuze ngiziphazamise eqinisweni futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngishaya indlwabu ukuze ngihlehlise. Ingxenye ebi kunazo zonke ukuthi i-porn engiyibukayo isiphazamise kancane kancane.
Shona: Ngihlale ngibuka i-porn uma nje ngine-inthanethi. … Ngishaya indlwabu okungenani kanye ngosuku futhi izinto engizibukayo ziya ziba nzima futhi ziya ngokuya ziqine… Bengilokhu ngiya kodlwengula izithombe zobulili ezingcolile muva nje.
Chelsea: Sekuphele unyaka ngathola ubuhle be-orgasm. Kodwa sengivele ngibonile isabelo sami sezinye zezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezimbi kakhulu futhi ezingabonakali kakhulu lapho. Futhi ukucabanga ukuthi ngisemncane. Ngifuna ukuba yimi futhi. Kepha kunzima.
Ukuyeka ukulutha (ukungakwazi ukuyeka noma ngabe imiphumela emibi)
Jen: KUMELE ngishaye indlwabu nsuku zonke. Ngiyagula futhi ngikhathele yilokho. Ngibuhlungu phansi lapho ... kubuhlungu. Futhi ingqondo yami ayikwazi ukuyeka ukudlala izithombe zemicabango yocansi noma ngabe uvukile noma ulele. … Ngiyakhumbula ukuba ngijwayelekile futhi ngikhangwa amantombazane [isikhulumi singungqingili] futhi ngiyakwazi ukubabaza ubuhle babo. Konke sekuphelile. Ngizizwa sengathi ngingu-Asexual manje. Angikhangi kunoma yiluphi ucansi kusukela lapho umlutha wami wezocansi uqala.
U-Alicia: Lo mlutha wezocansi ushintshe impilo yami ngezindlela eziningi. Bengilokhu ngingenankinga yokuthola ukunakwa kubantu futhi nginempilo yomzimba futhi ngiyakhanga. Ngangivame ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kunamadoda amaningi engiwaziyo. Ngingathola isifiso, bese ngichitha noma yikuphi ukusuka emizuzwini emihlanu kuya ehoreni ngifuna ividiyo efanelekile engizoya kuyo ngoba ngizithole nginesithukuthezi ngezinto ezindala ezifanayo. Ngaqala ngezinto ezithambile ngiseminyakeni eyishumi nambili futhi yaphenduka izinto ezingathandeki kakhulu engingazithola. Bengine-gig yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwi-PC yami, ngifaka amafayela ocingweni lwami nesidlali se-mp3 / sevidiyo ukuze ngifinyelele kalula, futhi ngithole i-akhawunti yesilingo esizeni se-porn ngoba ngibone i-gif engiphendule kakhulu.
Konke kwakufanele kube lukhuni kimi. Bengifuna ukubizwa ngonondindwa nesifebe. Ngacela ukushaywa ngempama futhi iningi labafana alikwazanga ukukwenza. Ubulili empeleni kwakuyikho konke kodwa kungithanda; konke okwakushoda empilweni yami yezocansi kwakuyikhamera nokukhokhelwa. Ngangizibheka njengabesilisa nabesifazane, kodwa ngangingeke ngizibone nginobudlelwano nowesifazane. Empeleni bengingazikhombisi nje kuphela, bengibhekisa abesifazane empilweni yami. Ukuhlangana ngokocansi nabanye kuzwakale kulungile, kepha akukaze kungenzele okuningi. Ngangiqamba amanga ngokuthi kwakumnandi kanjani futhi ngangifaka ama-orgasms enkohliso ukuze kuphele. Kwakungazizwa kahle, futhi ngangifuna ukushiywa ngedwa. Ngocansi? Ngingaba nama-orgasms aqine kakhulu futhi ngikwenze noma yikuphi ukusuka kwesinye kuya kwezihlanu ngosuku.
Umonakalo owenze kimi ngokwengqondo maqondana nobulili, ukuzethemba, nobudlelwano kubonakala kahle kakhulu. Futhi, kungenze ngafuna ukudlala ngothando nabantu besilisa kancane kakhulu. “Kungani ngidinga ukukhuluma naleya nsizwa enhle? Akasoze angenza ngithokoze ngokobulili ngendlela engizizwa ngayo ngedwa. ” Ngingaba nengxoxo nomfana oku-intanethi, bese ngivele ngisukume ngihambe ngisuke kwi-PC ngiyoshaya indlwabu. Ngizophuza ukuya ekilasini noma ngisebenze ngoba ngivele ngidinga ukungena kuleso sikhathi esisodwa se-porn esheshayo. Nganginosizi futhi ngangifuna ukukushintsha. (Bheka isibuyekezo sokubuyisa sika-Alicia ngezansi.)
Megan: Ngicabanga ukuthi umlutha osemthethweni. … Futhi nakanjani unomuzwa wokuthi ungalawuleki. Kungithathe isikhashana ukuzibandakanya ne-porn, kepha lapho sengikwenzile, ngizochitha izinsuku zonke ngibuka i-porn nokushaya indlwabu esikhundleni sokusebenza (ekhaya). Ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu ngokweqile, nami ngiyobe ngingaphephile futhi ngingenandaba empilweni yangempela, ngihlangana nabantu abangahleliwe ngenxa yesihogo salo. Angikwazi ukucabanga nganoma yini ngaphandle kocansi isikhathi esiningi. Nginomuzwa wokuthi amandla ami asephelile ngokuphelele futhi ingqondo yami nokugxila kwami kuhlukanisiwe. Ukugxila kunoma yini enkulu kube nzima, ikakhulukazi ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezitholakala ngesikhashana ku-intanethi. "Ukuhlehlisa izinto" kuphelile.
Ngokuqondene nenguqulo yabesifazane ye-ED, nakanjani nganginalo lolo daba ngokugqugquzela okuhlangene. Ukuze ngihambe nomfana ngidinga ukucabanga ngento ethile engqondweni yami ukuze isebenze. Ukuzwela kwakungekho nje ngokwakho, noma ngangijwayele kakhulu indlela eyayizizwa ngayo lapho ngikwenza kimi. Ngingazisusa ngomzuzu noma emibili, kepha kungathatha isikhathi eside, KAKHULU nomlingani wami, uma konke. [Imikhuba yami] yabuyela emuva lapho ngithandana nendoda enhle kakhulu eyayingenayo inkinga nge-porn noma ukushaya indlwabu. Njengoba ebengasuye umlutha noma ebhebhezelwa yimicabango yezithombe zocansi, benginenkinga yokuqonda le nguqulo yocansi ebhalwe phansi, ecashile, nefakwe ngothando. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu futhi kungaba yilokho abantu ababhekana nakho. Lapho umfana engaqhathanisi ukubukeka komzimba kuphela kepha futhi nokuziphatha embhedeni, futhi bebona ukuthi intokazi yabo ayiziphathi njengenkanyezi yezintandokazi zabo ezingamanyala, basondela kulo mehluko wokulindela.
Whitney: Bengilokhu "ngihlola" umzimba wami kusukela cishe ngineminyaka engu-8 ubudala. Ngaqala ukubuka i-porn ~ iminyaka engu-9. Ukufinyelela kwikhompyutha noma nini lapho ngifuna futhi ingqondo enelukuluku iholele ekuhloleni okungajwayelekile. Ngasheshe ngafunda inqubo kuphela engingayisebenzisa ukufinyelela i-orgasm. Ngibambelele kuyo iminyaka engu-9.
Ukushaya indlwabu kwakuhlala kungikhulula ekucindezelekeni kimi, okuthile kokuthatha isikhathi sami, okuthile ukunqanda ukucindezeleka, okuthile okungisiza ngilale ebusuku. Ngikwazi kahle ukuzenza ngizwe kahle, noma ngabe isikhashana kuphela. Ngikhumbula ekuseni ekuseni, ngishaya indlwabu amahora amaningi, ngibona kangaki ukuthi ngingakwazi kanjani ukwenza i-orgasm. Angizange ngiqaphele ukuthi kwakuwumlutha, angizange ngibone umphumela owawubangelwa ukuthi ngangizizwa kanjani ngijabule, ukuthi ngabhekana kanjani nokuphila, ngangisebenza kanjani.
Ebudlelwaneni bami bokuqala bangempela, angikwazi ukuhlangana nesoka lami ngokomzimba. Kwakungekho lutho ayengalwenza olwaluzozizwa luhle, ngokuthembeka kwakubuhlungu nje. Angikwazanga ukuchaza ukuthi ayikho indlela ayengaphindaphinda ngayo inqubo yami, ukuthi kwakungekhona ukuthi ngangingafuni ukumthokozela, Angikwazi. Ekugcineni kwafika ezingeni lapho ngangingeke ngisho ngizame; kwakulula ukumane ngimnikeze ikhanda futhi ngiyeke noma yikuphi ukujabula ekugcineni kwami. Kwakukuhle ngokwanele ukwazi ukuthi ngamjabulisa. Walimala isikhashana, ecasulwa ukuthi wayenganginiki injabulo. Wayengicasukele nami, futhi. Wayengeke nje aqonde, futhi angisho ukuthi ngazama kanzima ngokwanele ukumchazela. Lokho bekungishaye kakhulu ukuzethemba kwami. Angikwazanga ukwenza into umuntu engangimthanda ayefuna mina. Ekugcineni, wayeka ngisho nokuzama ukunginika injabulo nhlobo.
Nganamathela ebudlelwaneni be-inthanethi ngaphambi nangemva kwalokho. Ngangizula ngamagumbi okuxoxa, ngithola amadoda angabhala amagama azongivumela ukuthi ngenze lokho engingakwazi ukuzenzela mina kuphela. Kwakuyisikhathi esimnyama esihle kakhulu. Ngangicindezelekile (ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene), futhi ngangibuya njalo esikoleni futhi ngichitha ubusuku phambi kwe-laptop yami, ngithola ikink lapha noma laphaya ukubuka amahora, ngilandela isixhumanisi ngemuva kwesixhumanisi. Esikhathini esingangonyaka esedlule, ngahlangana nale ndoda yamaphupho ami, ngokuthembeka. Ngangesaba ukufakwa esimweni lapho kulindeleke ukuthi ngibe nomdlandla naye. Bengingafuni ukubona ukubukeka kokudumala engikubonile ngaphambili, bengingafuni ukubekwa kulokho. Ngingachaza kanjani ukuthi kunzima kakhulu kimi ukwenza i-orgasm ukuthi nami kwesinye isikhathi angikwazi ukukwenza kwenzeke? Ngingambheka kanjani emehlweni bese ngithi kuye, “Akusuwe, yimi”?
Ubekade evuleke kakhulu futhi emukela; bekumnandi. Udale indawo lapho ngikhuthazeka khona—hhayi ucindezelwe — ukujabulela yonke into, lapho angidingi ukugxila kuye kuphela nasebumnandini bakhe, lapho ngingaphumula khona. I-Orgasm akuyona inhloso yokugcina nathi; ukujabulela isikhathi sethu ndawonye kuyinto. Kusho umhlaba kimi. Futhi kusizile; Ngithole ama-hang-hang ami ambalwa. Kepha, anginabulungisa kuye, noma nakimi, uma ngingazami ukuzibeka esimeni sami, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso. Sekuyiminyaka eyi-9 kuthathwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye / noma izindaba kanye nenqubo ethile yokunginika i-orgasm .. Isikhathi sokuyeka lo mkhuba.
Ngifuna ukwazi ukumbheka emehlweni akhe kanye ne-orgasm naye, ngaye, ngaphandle kokudinga i-porn. Ngifuna ukujabulela konke ukuxhumana naye. Ngifuna ukukhululeka kwengcindezi okungangishiyi ngizizwa sengathi ngidinga ukugeza ngaphambi kokuba ngibone noma ngubani. Ngifuna ukukwazi ukubhekana nempilo ngaphandle kokuphendukela kumlutha oyindlwabu kimi.
Ukuthuthukiswa ngemva kokuyeka
Amandla amaningi, isisusa
Ithemba: (Usuku lwama-36) Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kungisize kakhulu. Angikwazi nje ukuzivumela ngibuyele emuva endleleni engangiyiyo. Nginenjabulo namandla amakhulu nsuku zonke, futhi kukhona ukuzethemba kimi ebengingazi ukuthi kukhona. Angifuni ukulahlekelwa yilokho.
Nikki: Ngiphinde ngibuyele emuva izikhathi ezimbalwa kusukela ngiqala ngenyanga edlule kodwa ngibonile ngempela izinzuzo. Okokuqala amandla ami aphezulu kakhulu! Angikaze ngibe lokhuni ngaphambili nangisho noma ngine-spliff Ngilungele ukushona!
Kristen: Angizange ngibheke izithombe ezingcolile kuze kube yizinyanga eziyisithupha zokugcina ngaphambi kokuba ngiyeke. Angikaze ngishaye indlwabu isikhathi esingaphezu kwesisodwa ngosuku futhi angibukeli i-porn ngaphezu kokuphindwe kabili ngesonto. Kimi, umgqugquzeli omkhulu wokunciphisa ngempela ukuzwa ukuthi amandla, isisusa, nomusa womphakathi enganginawo lapho ngangingazange ngishaye indlwabu izinsuku ezimbalwa. Lapho ngizwa isifiso ngivele ngikhumbule ukuthi ngizizwa ngingcono kanjani uma ngingazishayi indlwabu engozini enganeliseki.
Ukuzijabulisa okuningi kobulili nokuphendula ngokomzwelo / ngokocansi
U-Olivia: Ngaqala ukushaya indlwabu lapho ngiyintombi nto futhi lapho ekugcineni ngiya ocansini, angizange ngikujabulele nhlobo. Ngangizizwa ngindikindiki futhi ngahlelelwa ukuthi ngehle kuphela ku-clit. Ngemuva kokwenza inyanga ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu ocansini, ngaqala ukujabulela ucansi okokuqala futhi angizange ngithembele ku-clit nhlobo.
Meg: Inkinga yami enkulu ukuthi ngangizilimaza kangangokuba ngangizwela kakhulu ukuthi i-SO yami inginikeze ngomlomo njll. Ngangivame ukushaya indlwabu nsuku zonke, okungenani kabili, ngaphambi kokuba ngilale, ngaphandle komkhuba kunokuthi empeleni wayefuna. … Sekuphele isikhathi esingaphezu kwesonto futhi bengivele ngingu… ahem, ngijabulela izinzuzo nge-SO yami!
UJulie: Izinzuzo ze-nofap akuzona ezamadoda kuphela. Angikaze ngicabange ukuthi ucansi lungaba ngcono kunalokho ebelukhona, kodwa benginephutha. Lapho bobabili abalingani besindisa sonke isifiso sabo ngomunye, izinto zingamangalisa.
Indlela yoku: Ngiqaphela nakanjani ukwanda kokuzwela ngemuva kwesikhathi sokungafaki noma ukwenza ucansi. Kungenza ngizizwe ngingcono kakhulu ukuthi kukhona abanye besifazane ababambe iqhaza. Uthando lwenza ubulili bube ngcono kakhulu. Kungokuhlangenwe nakho okuhluke ngokuphelele ukukhulula izidingo zakho eziyisisekelo nomuntu othile (noma wena uqobo) nokwenza uhlobo lothando oluncibilikisa umhlaba futhi luzwakale njengoludlulayo.
USheena: Ngobusuku obudlule sasilale ucansi, futhi akekho kithi owayesebenze noma wehlile noma ngabe yikuphi ngesonto eledlule futhi kwakumangalisa. Ngafika ngokukhululekile futhi kanzima, mhlawumbe omunye wabahle kakhulu (hhayi omakhelwane). Noma kunjalo Ngikhuthazwa ukuba ngiqhubeke! Ngithemba ukuthi naye uyenzile!
Beth: Ngenza lokhu ukuze ngibuye ngizwele. Kuyasebenza. Lapho ngenza amaviki amabili ngabuya futhi ngafika ngemizuzwana nje. Ngishiya ukuze kuthi lapho mina ne-SO yami sinocansi kuyajabulisa kakhulu. Uyabona umdlandla wami emva kwesikhathi sokungafaki.
Jessie: Ngiyeke lapho umyeni wami eyeka ukuwa okokugcina. Izolo, benginama- “O” amabili ngokuthinta umyeni wami kuphela. Lokhu bekungokokuqala eminyakeni yethu engu-8. Ungowokuqala futhi ukuphela komuntu owake wakwazi ukwenza lokhu. Kungenxa yokuthi ngayeka ukuba ngedwa ophethe inkinobho yami.
Samantha: Uma ngonga ukujabulela kwami imisebenzi nesoka lami, kubuye kube ngcono kakhulu futhi kube nomuzwa wothando kakhulu.
Kimberly: (Usuku 33) Ngibona injabulo eyengeziwe ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini ngoba ngithola amakhefu amade phakathi kwezikhathi zenjabulo.
Sarah: Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engu-19 ubudala ngenza i-nofap. Ngaphambi kokuba ngiqale ucansi lwe-nofap kwakuwumsebenzi ngoba angizwanga lutho, ngangilinda umlingani wami ukuba afike kuvuthondaba ukuze kuphele. Sibe ndawonye cishe unyaka manje futhi ngikwazi ukubala ngakolunye uhlangothi inani lezikhathi engibe ne-orgasm nabo, futhi akekho noyedwa wabo owayemuhle impela. Kodwa izolo ebusuku ubulili bezwakala bumangalisa futhi ngaba nobulili obuhle kakhulu engake ngaba nabo esikhathini eside. Angikaze ngiqhubeke nokuqalisa kabusha kwami kodwa ngijabule ukubona okulondoloziwe.
Isimo esihle, ukulinganisela okukhulu ngokomzwelo
Caitlyn: Ngingumuntu ongcono ngenkathi ngingashayi indlwabu ocansini. Ngijabule ngokwengeziwe, ngikhanya kamnandi futhi ngisebenza kangcono. I-Porn ihlobo lwe-crutch kimi - into engizobuyela kuyo. Mhlawumbe ithuluzi elikhulu lokuhlehlisa izinto.
Kerri: [Usuku 41] Wayenenhlonipho, emnene futhi eyiqiniso, futhi kungumuntu wokuqala engibe naye selokhu ngayeka. Njengoba ngihambe isikhathi eside kakhulu phakathi kwama-orgasms kusukela ngangineminyaka eyi-11, ngakuthola kulula kakhulu ukuthi angenelise. Ngizizwe ngaleli zinga lokuzihlonipha engingakaze ngilibone ngaphambili. Vele nginezinsuku zami zokungazizwa zikhulu kangako, kepha ngizwa ukucaciseleka nokuthula kaningi manje.
UKayla: Ngibe nenkinga ngokushaya indlwabu kusukela ngangineminyaka eyi-13 noma kunjalo. Akuzange kuhilele i-porn kuze kube yiminyaka embalwa edlule selokhu abazali bami babe nezihlungi kumakhompyutha ethu. Ekugcineni ngabona ukuthi nginomlutha omncane cishe ngonyaka owedlule. Bengilokhu ngizama futhi ngivale ukuma futhi muva nje ngikwazile ukuma isikhathi esingaphezu kwenyanga.
Ngangivame ukubheka wonke umuntu engangiyibona njengesoka elingenzeka. Kwakuyinkinga yangempela futhi yangigcina ngingene ebuhlotsheni obuhle nabasilisa abakhulu. Njengoba ngishiya, ngiyakwazi ukubheka abantu njengabangakwazi ubungane obuningi kunokuba babe nesoka noma umlingani wezocansi. Lezi zingani ezinempilo zenze ngazizwa ngikhululekile kakhulu kubafana ngakho sengineminyaka eminingi. Kuhle ukuhlala egumbini lamadoda futhi ucabange ukuhlala phansi futhi ube nekhofi nabo kunokuba ucabange ukuthi kungaba njani embhedeni.
Jillian: Ngiyintombi nto futhi anginaso isipiliyoni ebudlelwaneni. I-Porn ibumbe indlela engibheka ngayo abanye, ikakhulukazi abesilisa. Ngicabanga ukuthi umlutha wami wawumuhle ngaphambili. Isikhathi esithile angitholanga abantu abajwayelekile abakhangayo nhlobo futhi esikhundleni salokho ngangena yaoi futhi hentai. (Uma ngibheka emuva ngikuthola kuyinqaba kakhulu, kepha lokho bekuseminyakeni yami yobusha.) Empeleni, ucansi lwaluyinto yangaphandle futhi namanje luyinto engaphandle kakhulu futhi nginenkinga yokuzicabanga ngizibandakanya nalo. Ukuziphatha okwehlisayo okubonwa ku-porn kungenza ngishise, kepha ngemuva kwalokho kungenza ngingakhululeki neze. Ngafaka ngaphakathi okuningi "ukungabaluleki" okukhonjiswe izintokazi. Kusukela ngiyekile - futhi ngakhuthazwa ukuthi ngiyeke ngenxa yobuciko bempi - ngijabule kakhulu ukuthi ngicindezeleke kangakanani, ngigcina ingqondo yami ikude nezithombe zocansi. Futhi angcono kangakanani amaphupho ami, ubuhlakani bami. Ngiya ngiba ngcono lapho ngibona abantu njengabantu futhi ingqondo yami ayikho emgodini futhi ingibangela ukukhathazeka (okuningi). Futhi kunengcindezi encane kakhulu kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila iyasangana. Ngizizwa nginamandla angokwemvelo kepha ngithule ngaso sonke isikhathi ngasikhathi sinye, noma ngithola ukuthi ukuvivinya umzimba kubaluleke kakhulu njengendawo yokuphuma ngoba ukushaya indlwabu ocansini akusiyona indawo yokuphuma.
Ukwandisa ukuzilimaza, ukusebenza kahle
Mora: (Usuku 35) Bengingakhuthazi, ngikhungathekile futhi ngihlala ngingena ngiphuma ezikhathini zokudangala. Ngangishaya indlwabu ocansini nsuku zonke futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngangivele ngilale embhedeni futhi ngikwenze amahora. Ngangazi ukuthi kuningi ebengifuna ukukufeza kepha konke nje bekuzizwa kumile. Ngakho-ke ngikunikeze lokhu. Usuku lokuqala lwalusabeka. Ngihambe ngebhayisikili eliyi-11km, ngabhala uhlu lwezinto okufanele ngizenze futhi ngaphandle kokuzikhandla ngakhipha ngakunye. Izinto ezipholile ezenzekile ezinsukwini ezingama-35 ezedlule: - Banikeze imisebenzi emibili ngokususelwa ebuntwini bodwa - Akusekho ukuxhashazwa emsebenzini - Kukhuliswe ama-dollar ayi-4000 ngenzuzo engenzi nzuzo - Kuthathwe umthwalo omningi wenhlangano yomphakathi engibandakanyeka kuyo, ukuthola inhlonipho eyengeziwe - Umama obhekene nezinkinga zomndeni ezingaxazululeki, wagcina endizisa ubaba ezweni lonke ukuze umndeni wami ube ndawonye okokuqala eminyakeni emibili!
Okuthokozisayo ukuthi akusathathi okuningi ukungivulela manje. Ngithole isithombe somfana ogqoke isudi ngolunye usuku obekuvame ukuba nomthelela omkhulu kodwa empeleni ngazizwa ngiphambene ngokusibuka. Ngiyethemba ukuthi i-nofap izongisiza i-orgasm ibe lula kakhulu uma nginomfana olandelayo, lokhu kuvame ukuba ngumsebenzi omkhulu futhi mhlawumbe ngoba benginesimo sokuthi “Kulula nje uma ngikwenza ngedwa.”
Ukuthola isiyalo endaweni eyodwa kwenza kube lula ukuthola isiyalo kwezinye izingxenye zempilo. Futhi, ngukubalekela ukucindezeleka nobuhlungu engingasakwazi ukukusebenzisa, ngakho-ke kufanele ngenze enye into ngawo wonke lawo mandla. Ngangizizwa ngiba mubi ngokwengeziwe ngezigaba, kepha kwakungajwayelekile, sengathi nganginokucaca okuningi okuzungezile futhi ngangikwazi ukukhuluma futhi ngizwe ubuhlungu bami ngqo. Ngazibhalisa kuhafu wemarathon futhi senginamasonto ayisikhombisa ngiziqeqesha. Bengingeyena umgijimi ngaphambi kwalokhu! Ukhokhelwe ukuvakashela omunye wemiphakathi ekude kakhulu e-Australia (kufezeka iphupho). Angikaze ngiphuze utshwala cishe amasonto amane. Emasontweni ambalwa ngihlangana neqembu kwelinye idolobha, ngithola ukungena mahhala kumkhosi womculo, lapho-ke ngizobe ngihamba nabo ngiya kwelinye idolobha, lapho ngizohlala khona amasonto ambalwa ngidlala umculo.
Aisha: Ngibe nenkinga ngokuphoqa ukushaya indlwabu isikhashana emuva. Bengizithola ngikwenza ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ngikuthole kunzima ukuyeka. Ngisanda kwephula isithupha sami sesithathu sokuyeka. (Ngamunye ube cishe namasonto amathathu). Lesi sikhathi ngesokuqala engingazange ngilwe naso nhlobo umphumela we-chaser. Ngicabanga ukuthi mhlawumbe kufanele uhlale isikhashana kuze kube yilapho ubuchopho bakho buhlehliswa khona bese bukwazi ukushaya indlwabu ngendlela enempilo emva kwalokho. Ngicabanga ukuthi kimi ukuthi mhlawumbe amasonto amabili kungcono ukuhlukanisa okuncane. Kodwa lapho ngiqala ukuzama ukuyeka ngidinga isikhathi eside ukuze ngingahle ngibuyele emuva ekuphoqeni ukushaya indlwabu.
Karen: (Usuku lwe-24) Ngenza i-No Fap ukuze nginqobe izinkanuko, umzimba wami, nokuvuselela ubuchopho bami njengani nonke. Ngiphinde ngihlanganyele kukho eceleni komlingani wami. Le nqubo nemiphumela akuyona i-placebo kuphela. Kuyashintsha impela izinto. Nginikela amandla engqondo nawokomzwelo ezintweni ezikhiqiza kakhulu manje esikhundleni sokuhlala ngicabanga ngocansi. Umyeni wami uthi unesifiso esikhudlwana nokwazisa ngami. Ngizizwa ngizimele ngokwengeziwe futhi ngiyazethemba.
Nyra: Ukuthuthukiswa ngosuku 26:
- Anginawo amandla amakhulu, kodwa nginguMoya okhululekile
- Ngisadingeka ngiphinde ngihlale nginezinye izikhathi, kodwa nginamandla angaphezulu kunejwayelekile
- Angiyona i-supermodel, kodwa ngilahlekelwe isisindo esincane futhi nginezisusa eziningi zokuqhubeka nokusebenza
- Akuyona inguquko enkulu, kepha ucansi impela lukhulu kakhulu kunalolo lwalunjalo (yize lwaluluhle ngokwedlulele kwasekuqaleni) futhi ngixhumeke kakhulu ekucasukeni, imizwa yangempela yokuvuka
- Angikaze ngenze ushintsho olukhulu empilweni, kepha ngikhuthazeka kancane emsebenzini wami. Ngihlala ngiphazamisekile kancane, futhi ngihlala kancane emsebenzini.
Dee: Kube umzukuzuku isikhashana, kodwa ekugcineni ngiphumelele ukuma izinyanga ezimbalwa zilandelana. … Angisakwenzi lapho nginesithukuthezi, ngoba ngiyabona ukuthi kuyinto nje engenza ngizizwe ngincono ngokuba nesithukuthezi. Ngizama ukwenza okuthile okuhlala isikhathi eside, njengokusebenza kuphrojekthi. Ngisabheka isipiliyoni sami nocwaningo engilwenzile nalo njengolubaluleke kakhulu. Ngifunde okuningi ngohlobo lokulutha, futhi ngaqaphela kakhulu lapho ngenza okuthile ngokucindezela ukukwenza ngoba ngangikufuna ngempela. Kusewumzamo wokwenza leso sinqumo esiqondayo, kepha manje sengikulungele kakhulu. Ngaqala ukusebenzisa amakhono engqondo engiwafundile ezintweni ezinjengokulutha ushukela nezinye izinto ezinamandla. Manje, ngizizwa ngilawulwa kakhulu. Kuphilile ukwenza izinto ukuze uzizwe kamnandi, inqobo nje uma wazi ukuthi yilokho okwenzayo futhi awubambeki ku-loop, empeleni ukuxosha udrako
Ukuthuthukisa impilo, ukufaneleka
I-AshleighIzinsuku ezingama-20 zingahle zingabonakali njengokuningi, kepha kungenxa yami. Ngokwengeziwe, ngilahlekelwe ama-12kgs ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, futhi ngizizwa ngimuhle.
Joan: Nginomuzwa wokuthi ukukhula ngokweqile kunomthelela kulolu daba lwezinwele nakwabesifazane. Impilo yami yonke kusukela ebuntwaneni ngibe nalolu hlobo oluncane, olunamahloni, nezinwele. Wonke umuntu emndenini wami unezinwele ezinyene (ngaphandle kukamama, ngubani oqagela ukuthi yini, kungenzeka ukuthi unezimpoqo / ukuphoqeleka kwe-fap / umlutha) futhi ngivele ngacabanga ukuthi nginezakhi zofuzo zomama ezincanyana. Eminyakeni emibili edlule ngithole i-nofap futhi ngaqala ukuzama ukufinyelela ezinsukwini ezingama-90. Angikaze ngiyeke, ukubuyela emuva ngakunye kungenza ngifune ukusebenza kanzima kakhulu. Ngaqala ukuzinakekela kangcono futhi njengoba bengizikhohlisa ngithola izakhamzimba eziningi (uketshezi oluthinta abesifazane alunakuba ngamanzi nje) kule minyaka eyishumi edlule ngaphezu kokudla kahle bengiphuza i-multivitamin nsuku zonke kusukela lapho. Ngaphonsa novithamini D no-C. Umehluko uyamangalisa. Angikaze ngigule ngendlela engangijwayele ukuthola ngayo phakathi nezinguquko zesizini, isikhumba sami sibukeka singcono. Kodwa ingxenye enhle kunazo zonke (ngaphandle kokukhathazeka okuhlobene ne-fap ukuphela) yizinwele zami ezinzima. Abangane bami bakudala abakholelwa ukuthi ukumane uthathe izinwele zansuku zonke ze-multivitamin kungivumele leli khanda elihle lezinwele. Lokho abangaqapheli ukuthi angiseyi-P / MOing izikhathi ezingama-3-10 nsuku zonke. Okuningi kwalokhu kungashoselwa ku-bro-science kepha empeleni, izitho zethu zokuzala zithola kuqala kuhlu lokusatshalaliswa kwezakhi zemizimba yethu, konke okunye kuyinto yesibili.
Alicia: [Indaba engenhla] Ukuhoxa kwakunzima, futhi kusenzima ngezinye izikhathi. Kwesinye isikhathi ngiphupha ukuthi ngiphule umugqa wami noma ngizophupha ngeziqeshana zocansi engangizibuka. Ngezikhathi ezithile zenyanga, izikhuthazo ziba namandla ngezizathu ezisobala (ama-hormone!), Kepha ubuchopho bami bugxile kakhulu kokuthi angifuni ukwephula irekhodi lami ngakho ngiyalichilizela eceleni.
Ngokuphathelene nanoma yiziphi izinzuzo ezingeziwe, ngisalinde ukushaya usuku lwe-90 ukuze ngiqiniseke. Kuze kube manje, ngibonile ukuthi nginamandla ngokwengeziwe ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ngibuyele ekusebenzeni futhi ngiyena onamandla kunabo bonke engake ngaba khona empilweni yami. Futhi, ngiye ngaba wedwa futhi ngagxila kulokho. Ngikholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi ukumisa kungisizile ngakwazi ukumelana nomunye wami obalulekile wokuhlukumeza nokwenza ukhetho lokuhamba.
Terra: (Usuku 98) Impilo yami seyiphenduke yaba ngcono uma iqhathaniswa nalokho eyayikade iyikho, kepha angiqiniseki ukuthi ngingakhokha malini ngokuyeka. Nginemisebenzi emibili, ngizilolonga nsuku zonke futhi, nginamakhilogremu angu-115 ehla cishe angaba ngu-135, ngisesimweni esingcono kakhulu kunangesikhathi ngineminyaka.
Isimo se-Porn
Isimo sezocansi se-Porn asigcini ekuphenduleni okungakhubazeki ngesikhathi socansi langempela (kwabanye abasebenzisi). Kungadala nokuthi abesifazane bakholelwe ukuthi izimo zocansi zimele ucansi lwangempela, zibenze bacabange ukuthi bafuna ukuphathwa njengezinkanyezi ze-porn, noma okungenani kubangele babekezelele izinkolelo zomlingani ezimise okwezocansi.
Le ntokazi, isibonelo, ibika (ephepheni lase-UK) ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwesoka lakhe kuthonye isifiso sayo ukuvuselela izigcawu zokudlwengula ezinyembezi, okuyinto ayecabanga ukuthi yayingaphansi kokujwayelekile ngoba wayeseyilungise ngokubonisa izithombe zokudlwengula.
Whitney: Ukubona i-hardcore porn kwangithinta ngezindlela eziningi. Kungani ngangingafani nalabo besifazane? Kungani amabele ami emancane? Ngeke yini amadoda athande ukuthi ama-labia ami made? Kuthiwani ngami ngibe mhlophe, ngabe kungcono uma ngishuna? Kugundiwe, kugundiwe, isihlahla? Kungani ngingakhali kanjena, kungani ngingenakuma njengalawo mantombazane? Kwangithatha isikhashana lapho ngisemncane ukubona ukuthi i-porn engamanga futhi engenangqondo. Ukubheka emuva kungama-20/20 ngempela.
Lena: Isoka lami seliphulukiswe nge-ED yakhe ngokuyeka ukushaya indlwabu kumabhayisikobho, futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi siye sahlanganyela ocansini. Ngemva kokuqala i-nofap, ngilahlekelwa ikhono lami lokuphuma, ngesizathu esithile. Kodwa libuyile! futhi ngiyakwazi ukukutshela ukuthi kungani: Isoka lami liye langibukela sengathi lizozibona ezinye zezinwele zobulili ezingcolile futhi ziphonsa izinwele zakhe, futhi zangiphatha njengomuntu wangempela onesidingo sangempela. Wenza umzamo ukungacabangi ngami njengowesifazane, noma umuntu, kodwa njengami, onokuzikhethela kwakhe. Wayengazizwa ukuthi kufanele enze futhi enze zonke lezi zikhundla zobulili eziphambene. Sasingabantu ababili nje ngokujabulela ubulili. Ngesikhathi ngizama ukugxila kakhulu wagxila kimi futhi mina kuphela, futhi mina kuye lapho efinyelela ekugcineni. Futhi lokho kwenza konke umehluko.
Dana: Anginayo inkinga yokulutha umlutha wezocansi, kepha engikwenzile (engikwenzayo, kepha ngiyalulama kancane kancane) bekulomqondo wokuthi njengowesifazane, ngidinga ukwenza njenge-pornstar ukuze ngigcine indoda inentshisekelo. Ukububula okukhulu njalo, ukweqisa ngokweqile, ukushintsha izikhundla njalo, ukuba (kulungile, ukukhohlisa) ama-orgasms ayi-10, azimisele ukwenza noma yini, njll. Ukuba mbumbulu ngempela, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi kufanele kube njalo futhi yilokho okuthandwa ngabantu, okwenza kube nzima ukukujabulela ngokweqiniso okwenzekayo. Futhi nalokho futhi kuza: ngicabanga ukuthi kuyinto evamile impela ukuthi umfana abuke inqwaba yezithombe ezingcolile futhi akuphathe njengezinto zocansi.
Amadoda ayazi futhi:
"Abesifazane baphendulela," kusho u-Evan, futhi i-31. "Ngiyintandokazi. Ngisuka ekuvukeni kwesifazane. Kodwa ngiye ngaphawula ukuthi abesifazane bathola izwi elikhulu kakhulu manje. Noma ngabe ngenza okuthile engingazi, noma abesifazane baqala ukulingisa okwenzekayo ku-porn. Ngokwethembeka, kungokwemvelo. Angiqiniseki ukuthi ngiyayithanda yini. "
Ngokubambisana abesilisa nabesifazane bangakwazi ukunqoba inselelo ehlukanisayo yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi zanamuhla. Ukuzwelana kuyisinyathelo sokuqala. Njengoba i-femstronaut ikhombisile,
“Ubuchopho bethu busebenza ngokufanayo [njengowesilisa], awukho umehluko nohlelo lwemiklomelo. Akukho mehluko omkhulu ngezinqubo zengqondo eziholela ekubhinganeni. Ngaphandle kokwehluka okujwayelekile komuntu ngamunye. Imizwa yethu isebenza ngokufanayo. Ukungavikeleki kungahle kuhlobene nobulili, kepha, kukonke, kumane nje kungukungavikeleki okudala okusobala. Kufanele sifunde ukuthi singaziphatha kanjani ngenye indlela kunokunciphisa izingcindezi zethu zansuku zonke ngokugqugquzela ezocansi. Kuyafana nokwabantu besilisa. ”
Futhi njengoba umfana esho,
"Enye yezinto enginika ukushayela okuningi nesibindi sokuzama i-r / PornFree futhi manje i-r / NoFap ukuthi ngiyazi ukuthi kukhona abesifazane lapha abanenkinga efanayo. Ukwazi ukuthi angisona isimanga sokuhlanya nokuthi kunabantu abavela kubo bobubili ubulili nalolu daba kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukwenza lokhu. Sonke singabantu nje lapha. Abesilisa nabesifazane kumane nje kuyizinhlangothi ezehlukene zemali yesintu, ebambeke kuleli dwala ndawonye laze lashiswa yilanga. ”
Ezinye izindaba lapha futhi kusigaba sokuphawula ngezansi
- Funda i-akhawunti yokuqalisa kabusha yowesifazane: Owesifazane - Ubudala obungu-31, izinyanga eziyi-6 “Kuba ngcono kuphela”
- https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/female-benefits-nofap-women-theory
- (Owesifazane) Usuku 47 kuNoFap - LOKHU KUSEBENZA!
- https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/female-things-have-really-changed-me
- Ubudala 25 - Owesifazane - imodi enzima yezinsuku ezingama-91
Ukubuyekeza - izindatshana nezifundo ezishicilelwe kusukela ngo-2013:
- 2019 - Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okufingqiwe kwabesifazane abakwa-Heterosexual with Partner
- 2019 - Igalelo lesifiso sobulili nezinhloso zokusetshenziswa okuphoqelekile kwe-cybersex
Umbhalo ocacile: Imiphumela yocwaningo ayidalulanga umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane kuma-CIUS [Compulsive Internet Use Scale] amaphuzu…. Ukuba khona kwamaqembu amancane abesifazane eqenjini elisengozini enkulu ku… kuhambisana nezinye izifundo ngokulutha kokuziphatha (Khazaal et al., 2017), okubonisa ukuthi amamodeli abantu besifazane angaba sengozini enkulu yokuluthwa kokuziphatha.
- 2019 - Insizwa, insikazi, nomlutha wezocansi
- 2019 - Owesilisa, yobudala 31 - I-Porn yangimisa kabi
- 2019 - Inani le-porn langempela: Amantombazane azonda imizimba yawo nezinsizwa ezingakwazi ukwenza ubudlelwano - nguGP obonile ukulimaza akwenzayo entsheni
- 2019 - Ukuzizwa Ngokweqile Ngesikhathi Sezocansi: Ukuthola Okuvela Esikhathini SaseMelika Sokulinganisa Kwabesifazane Namadoda Ages 14 kuya ku-60 ('Ubulili obesabekayo' buvame kakhulu futhi bunodlame oluningi kwabesifazane - ngabe imithombo yezocansi ecacile iyathinteka?)
- 2019 - Ihora Lomfazi (Umsakazo we-BBC - yeqa uye ku-8: 55-18: 40)
- 2018 - Ucwaningo lwamazwe omhlaba we-18-50 ubudala uthola ukuthi u-7% wabesifazane ubika indlela yokuziphatha ngocansi okuyimpoqo. "Kungenzeka ukwanda kobunzima bokulawula ukuziphatha kwabesifazane phakathi kwabesifazane."
- 2017 - Owesifazane osemusha uchaza ukuthi ukunikeza ubulili / ukushaya indlwabu ukuphumula ukuphucula ukuphendula kwakhe ngokocansi (ividiyo)
- 2017 - Abesifazane Abasha Abayisidakamizwa Sokuzijabulisa
- 2018 - Ngineminyaka engama-20 futhi nginomlutha we-hardcore porn
- 2018 - Izindlela ze-5 Zokungathandana Ziyohlupheka Uma Ubheka I-Porn Kanye
- 2017 - (Study) Ukwelashwa okufunayo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezinkinga zisebenzisa phakathi kwabesifazane
- 2018 - (VIDEO) I-NoFap Yabesifazane? - Iqiniso Ngokugcinwa Kwesidoda
- 2018 - I-PIED elingana nabesifazane (ukuxoxa nawe YOUTube)
- 2014 - Ukutadisha kokuqala kubasebenzisi besifazane abashaya ucansi kubonisa ukulangazelela nokuzwela kuhlotshaniswa nokulutha kwe-porn / i-cybersex.
- 2014 - Imibiko yomcwaningi ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwabesifazane kuhlotshaniswa nokungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi kwabesifazane kanye nokwehla kwenzalo yocansi oluhlukanisiwe.
- 2014 - Ubulili ebuchosheni: Ubudlelwane phakathi kobuchwepheshe obuhlobene nomcimbi kanye nokuvuthwa ngokocansi okuhlosene (ukusatshalaliswa okusekelwe ocwaningweni)
- I-2016 - Izithombe zocansi zabafazi zisebenzisa kabi umshado kunamadoda 'ngokocwaningo lwango-2016 olunesihloko esithi, "Ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuhlotshaniswa nokwanda kwamathuba okuhlukanisa. "
- 2016 - Hlola ngokubheka abasebenzisi be-porn lapho isigamu sezifundo zabesifazane (incazelo yokukhathalela). Okutholakele kuhambelaniswe nesibonelo sokulutha, futhi kubika ukuthi akukho ukungafani phakathi kwezifundo zesilisa nabesifazane.
- 2016 - Fundisisa abantu abanezinkinga zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi (I-PSB) ibike ukusilela okuningana kwe-neuro-cognitive ku- "porn / sex addicts". Lokhu okutholakele kukhombisa ukuthi umpofu ukusebenza okuphezulu (ukungalungi) okuyinto a isici esiyinhloko sobuchopho esivela ezilutha izidakamizwa
- 2017 - Ukufundela abafundi basekolishi kanye nokulutha kwe-inthanethi ngocansi. I-4% yabesifazane ne-19% yamadoda abathintekile.
- 2022 - Izibikezelo Zokuziphatha Kocansi Okuphoqelekile Phakathi Kwabesifazane Abafuna Ukwelashwa Ucwaningo lwenze inhlolovo kwabesifazane basePoland abangu-674 abaneminyaka engu-18–66 abafuna ukwelashwa Nge-Compulsive Sexual Behavior. Izingcaphuno:
Amaphesenti angamashumi amathathu nanye (31.8%) abesifazane kusampula esifundwe babike ukwelashwa befuna i-CSB esikhathini esidlule. Ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile okuyinkinga kwakuyisibikezelo esiqine kakhulu sezimpawu ze-CSB.
Isikrini Esifushane Sezithombe Zocansi (BPS). I-BPS yinto engu-5 ithuluzi lokuhlola elikala inkinga... IZIPHUMAKwabesifazane abangama-674, ama-57.4% (n= 387) uthole amaphuzu angu-6 noma phezulu ku-SAST-PL, inkomba ye-CSB, kanye 73.3%(n= 494) wesampula uthole amaphuzu angu-4 noma ngaphezulu ku-BPS ukulinganisa izimpawu zokusetshenziswa kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile
Abesifazane abahlangabezana nezinkinga zezindaba ezibalwe kulokhu okuthunyelwe bangathola lezi zinto ezithakazelisayo:
Abesifazane abathandana noJehova imiphumela emibi yokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunamadoda.
"Ngiqala ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile ze-hardcore, kuze kube yilapho kufanele ngiyeke isikhashana"
U-Siobhan Rosen, umlobi wezocansi we-American GQ, uthi kimi, "Ngibheka i-Pornhub futhi ngifana nomqondo ofanayo engicabanga ukuthi abantu bangena kuwo, lapho ekuqaleni ukubona abantu ababili bezocansi bevusa. Futhi-ke ngiyathanda, 'Ngidinga okuthile okunye.' Ngiqala ukubuka izithombe ezingaphezu kakhudlwana ze-porno, kuze kube yilapho kufanele ngizinqumele ukuyeka isikhashana. "
Ababukeli bezithombe ezingcolile zobulili bavame ukubika ukuthi bazizwa bevukile kancane ngesikhathi socansi - into uRosen ahlangabezane nayo, nayo. "Mina nomlingani wami senze isivumelwano sokuthi bobabili bangazibukeli izithombe ezingcolile ngenxa yalesi sizathu, futhi impilo yethu yezocansi ingcono kakhulu ngenxa yalokho."
"Imibhangqwana eshadile ebuka izithombe zocansi icishe iyiphinde kabili ingozi yayo yesehlukaniso, kusho abacwaningi izolo. … Men abafazi babo ababuka izithombe ezingcolile bangakhuthazwa yizindaba zokuthi uma eyeka ukuzibuka, amathuba okuba ahlukanise ehle aya kumaphesenti ayisithupha phakathi kwemibhangqwana okukhulunywe ngayo. Kodwa uma ethatha isinqumo sokuqhubeka, ingozi yesehlukaniso isala kumaphesenti ayi-6. ”
Umbukiso wesilayidi ngesimo socansi
Isihloko mayelana nokuzijabulisa kocansi nokuzijabulisa ngokocansi
Kungani izithombe ezingcolile zingase zibe mnandi ngaphezu komlingani wakho
Iseluleko sabalingani bomuntu ozama ukuyeka
Amandla ezocansi kanye nowesifazane oyedwa
Umbono wamadoda ngabesifazane nezothando uguquka kanjani ngaphandle kokusebenzisa i-porn
Amazwana ngabesifazane abangaphansi lesi sihloko
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nokulutha ngokocansi: Hhayi nje inkinga yomuntu
Abesifazane Bakhuluma Izinkinga Ezihlobene Nezinkanyezi Njalo (umbukiso wesiteshi)
Ukukhula kobufakazi besayense yomjikelezo we-post-orgasm oqhubekayo (izifundo)
Izifundo ekuqhekekeni phakathi kobulili nezidakamizwa ebuchosheni
Ufuna ukwesekwa kwangempela, okuwusizo kwabesilisa nabesifazane ukuphulukisa ekuqotheni okukhulu kwe-porn inthanethi? Vakashela REDDIT.NoFap. Lokhu okuthunyelwe kugcizelela isimo sokwamukela, nokukhathalela sabesilisa abaningi lapho, futhi kukhona owesifazane ethimbeni labaphathi.
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Iziteshi ze-YouTube ze-3 ezenziwa ngabesifazane abazame i- "nofap":
► AAHANA: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCksU…
► KasumiKriss: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCp4_…
► Chel-lalaI-VeganMania: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyb-…
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Amaforamu abesifazane:
- http://www.hopeandhealinglds.
ama-com / for-female-umlutha / - http://www.attcnetwork.org/
funda / izihloko / abesifazane / ukutakula. i-asp - http://www.hopeandhealinglds.
com / forum-for-abafazi / - i-lighthousecoalition.
blogspot.com - http://www.loveshack.org/
izinkundla / umphefumulo womzimba / umlutha-ukutakula / - http://www.rehab-forum.com/
i-porn-umlutha / - http://theologica.ning.com/
amaphrofayela / amabhulogi / kanjani-abaningi-abesifazane- kukhona-umlutha-kuya-porn-izibalo ze-10- lokho-kwangethusa-wena
Owesifazane wesifazane
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1i4zgn/60_days_without_porn_today_and_i_found_this/cb118iv
Owesifazane uchaza izithombe ezingcolile komunye owesifazane
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1j020d/ok_no_fapchange_my_mind/cb9qopp
I-Wistronaut esithangamini
I-NoFap ingenza ngithuthukise ngokwengeziwe
Ingqungquthela iqalwe owesifazane akukhofapper
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1m8mjg/superpowers_from_nofap_for_women_possibly_nsfw/
Amazwana athunyelwe ku- "Psychology Today" ngaphansi kwenye indatshana
Amaforamu abesifazane
[Owesifazane osemncane olumale ezithombeni ezingcolile uthola usizo lwesoka lakhe]
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1o4uig/this_is_weird_things_that_have_changed_for_me/ccoueev
I-akhawunti yokuvuselela i-Female
Owesifazane - izinsuku ezingama-90: ukuzethemba okwandisiwe, konke kujabulisa kakhulu, ubudlelwane manje sebuhle
Umbono womunye wesifazane uma unentshisekelo.
Indaba kaFemstronaut oyedwa
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1ty6t0/tomorrow_i_am_1_year_sober/
Ukuzethemba kweNoPorn Kuchaziwe (I-Edition Yabesifazane)
I-Erotica yinselelo yabesifazane
[Thumela i-r / nofap] http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1yx6yz/from_a_girls_experience_why_do_women_need_to_be/
Owesifazane uchaza isipiliyoni sakhe ngemuva kwenyanga engenazo izithombe ezingcolile
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2gw52e/i_am_a_woman_yesterday_was_one_month_of_no/
Usizo!
Ngiye ngaqondiswa lapha kusukela esithangamini sesilisa ngoba yilapho kuphela engingayithola.
Ngingowesifazane we-21 futhi nginobudlelwano nowesifazane.
Izithombe zami ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile zenza inkinga ukuthi angikwazi ukugcoba nentombi yami.
i-1 i-orgasm nayo kuphela eyenzekayo futhi kwenzeka kuphela ngoba ngangicabanga nge-porn.
anginazo izingqinamba eziningi ezijwayelekile ngokwazi kwami, angikaze ngiye ezindaweni eziphakeme ngokushaya indlwabu ngosuku futhi akukaze kube nzima kakhulu ngokuqhubekayo. Ukungakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm nomlingani wami kuyinkinga yami enkulu.
ibuyiselwe kabusha kumaviki e-6.
Ngicabanga ukuthi nje ngizibuza ukuthi ubani oye waba nenkinga njengami futhi uma kunjalo, uke ubuyele emuva evamile?
Usizo!!
Sawubona - ubonile
impendulo yethu yangaphambilini lapha - yep, i-YBOP iyindoda ebuswa, futhi
Ngabe ubheke izixhumanisi eziya ezingxenyeni zabesifazane kulezo zinkundla? Akunakwenzeka ukuthi noma ngubani uzokuphendula kule webhusayithi.
Awuqinisekile ukuthi lokhu kuzofanele, kodwa
Ungase ufune ukubuka lezi zihloko futhi:
Ama-vibrator nezinye izijabuliso: Uma ukulungiswa kwehluleka
Owesifazane, oVibrator, noSesha Sex Research
Izinsuku ze-118 ezingcolile ezingcolile
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2ubj7o/a_new_day_a_new_target_365_days/co74ype
I-akhawunti yokuqalisa kabusha yabesifazane
Owesifazane - Ubudala 22 & oshadile: I-porn esemthethweni ayikhululekile isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka
Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Nayi indaba yami
Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Nayi indaba yami futhi ngethemba ukuqala kohambo oluyimpumelelo.
I-22F: isambulo nemibono yezintombi zokulahla izidakamizwa zesifazane
I-22F intombi, isambulo nemibono yezintombi zokulahla izicansi ezingcolile.
uma uyeka ukuyibuka, uyaqala ukuzizwa ungcono
Ngokuqondene nami, angikwazi ukuthi ngilwa nomlutha omkhulu wezithombe zocansi. Kodwa-ke, bengichayeka ngisemncane kakhulu (iminyaka eyi-9) ngokumane ngibhekabheka i-inthanethi. Ngangingaqiniseki ukuthi ubulili buyini ngempela ngaleso sikhathi. Kuze kube namuhla, ngisazibuza ukuthi ngabe umbono wami wezocansi uzohluka yini uma bengingakaze ngithole izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Nsuku zonke emva kwesikole ngizithola ngiphenya ngezikhathi ezizungezile kulezi zingosi ezingcolile (cishe iminyaka emibili). Ekugcineni ngimi iminyaka eminingi, iminyaka eminingi futhi lapho ngiseminyakeni yobudala, ngangiqala ukuyibuka futhi amasonto ambalwa.
Ngokwethembeka, uma uqala ukuyibuka uzizwa sengathi awukwazi ukuyeka. Futhi uzizwa unamathele kakhulu kuso. Kepha uma uyeka ukuyibuka, uqala ukuzizwa ungcono. Impilo yakho iba ngaphezulu kakhulu kokuhlala ubhekabheka amasayithi we-porn amahora aqondile. Ngithole ukuthi i-porn engangijabulela ukuyibuka… Ngisheshe ngayeka ukubuka futhi ngaqala ukufuna okwengeziwe okunzima.
Kuyahlekisa ngoba uma usuqedile, ubheka ividiyo bese ubona ukuthi la mavidiyo angamampunge kangakanani. Uzizwa uyimboni ehlambalaza ngokuphelele nokuthi wephule ikhodi yakho yokuziphatha.
Angizibukeli i-porno njalo, kepha ngiyazibamba ngiyibuka mhlawumbe cishe ngezikhathi ze-5 ngonyaka. Ngisebenza ekukushintsheni lokho, futhi ngizama ukukuqeda ekugcineni empilweni yami unomphela. Permalink
Owesifazane - izinyanga ezintathu phansi
Izinyanga ze-3 phansi
Ngiyintombazane eneminyaka eyishumi nesithupha ubudala, futhi ngiqedile ngeSuku 1 m /
Ngiyintombazane eneminyaka eyishumi nesithupha ubudala, futhi ngiqedile ngeSuku 1 m /
Yeka ukuthi i-hardcore porn yangithinta kanjani njengentombazane
Yeka ukuthi i-hardcore porn yangithinta kanjani njengentombazane
Umlutha wezocansi ngokombono wowesifazane ongumlutha
Umlutha wezocansi ngokombono wowesifazane ongumlutha
Owesifazane lapha! Okuthunyelwe kokuqala… Izama ukumisa le nkinga ngaphambi kokuba yenzeke futhi.
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