Iphonografi kudala iyinto eqhelekileyo kubafana abaselula, yaye iye yavela ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ihambile kwimiba efihliweyo yePlayboy phantsi kweebhedi ukuya kushishino olufikelelekayo, olunamacala amaninzi kwi-Intanethi.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba isiqingatha sabafundi abangamadoda ngoku sinenye ithebhu evulwe ngamanyala, kwaye yingxaki leyo.
Thina, ngokungeyonjongo, sisisizukulwana sokuzifica ngokugqithisileyo. Ngoba? Kuba phantse zonke iingxaki zethu ziye zasonjululwa zizizukulwana zangaphambili. Ayisekho malunga nokuba njani, kodwa kangakanani.
Iphonografi iyafana.
Ngaphambili, bekungenakwenzeka ukuba ufumane iimithi ezinoboya kwipere yamabele. Ngoku, ucofa ngaphandle kwemigudu enqwenelekayo yengqondo yakho emdaka.
Nantsi ke into: Amadoda, ngokwendalo, ngamasikizi anezothe.
Asinakukwazi ukuyinceda. Yiloo nto kanye esiyiyo.
Siyakudinga oko kukhululwa, kwaye siya kuhamba umgama omde sikufuna. Ngokufanelekileyo, amanenekazi ayasinceda ngenkqubo, kodwa amadoda ahlala efuna indlela yokwenza into ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye i-porn ikhawulezise kakhulu loo nkqubo.
Amadoda anokuzithathela ezandleni zawo izinto. Iphonografi kunye ne-masturbation zimbini ezigqibeleleyo. Bayi "Turner & Hooch" yokungcola; awunakuba nenye ngaphandle komnye.
Amadoda, kunye nabasetyhini nabo, banokudlala ngeegiblets zabo nangaliphi na ixesha. Kulula kwaye kumnandi, kwaye kunzima ukungakwenzi nanini na xa uzama ukubulala ixesha.
Kodwa kukho ukurhweba abaninzi, kubandakanywa nam, bafumanisa indlela enzima: Kukho iziphumo ezibi kakhulu zokusebenzisa iphonografi ngokuqhubekayo.
Isizukulwana-Y yeyona nto ihamba phambili kwi-cybersex, kwaye akukho mntu uthetha ngomonakalo kuba sisizukulwana sokuqala kwimbali yoluntu ukuba nale ngxaki. Olunye olu tshintsho luye lwabonwa kwabasetyhini, kodwa ingxaki ixhaphake kakhulu kumadoda.
Ibuyisela ingqondo yakho.
Ngoku ka uphononongo olwenziwe yiYunivesithi yaseCambridge, abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba “abasebenzisa iphonografi basabela ngendlela efanayo naleyo amakhoboka eziyobisi asabela ngayo kwiziyobisi.”
Indlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo inento ebizwa ngayo isiphaluka umvuzo, eyaphuhliswa ngexesha elilula labazingeli-abaqokeleli ukuvelisa i-dopamine kwizinto ezinomvuzo ngokwemvelo ezifana nokutya, isondo kunye noqhagamshelwano.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho iinguqulelo ezigqithisileyo zale mivuzo, njengokutya okunekhalori ephezulu okanye ibhombu yebhobho, ebonelela nge-dopamine eninzi kakhulu kwaye inokongamela iindlela zethu zendalo zokwanelisa.
Ukusabela okubangela ingqondo yakho kwi-porn ifana kakhulu nempendulo yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi.
Kwenzeka ntoni, ingqondo yakho inokutshintsha kwemolekyuli eyenza umjikelo wokuzinkcinkca, ukukhuthaza umnqweno wokuqhubeka ufumana loo mvuzo.
Lo mjikelo wokuzinkcinkca ngokugqithisileyo we-dopamine ofunyenwe ngamanyala uvelisa i iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezifanayo abanazo amakhoboka eziyobisi: impendulo yolonwabo olundindisiweyo, i-hyper-reactivity kunye nokukhukuliseka kwamandla entando, njengoko i-cortex yakho yangaphambili itshintsha.
Uphambene, huh?
Izimela kakubi zombini izini.
Guys, ayinguye wonke umntu obhinqileyo one knocker ezinkulu. Abasetyhini, ayinguye wonke umfana opakisha unyawo olude.
Madoda, ayinguye wonke umntu obhinqileyo othanda iindawo zakhe zenenekazi ukuba zibethelwe ngesando. Abasetyhini, ayingabo bonke abafana abangamakhwenkwe okuhambisa ipizza!
Kodwa ngokunzulu, kukho iingcamango ezininzi eziphosakeleyo ezidluliselwa kwi-porn kubabukeli bayo.
Nantsi into omele uyikhumbule malunga ne-porn: Ayisiyonyani. Eyona njongo iphambili ye-porn kuku yonwabisa, singakubonisi ukuba yintoni na into yokwenza uthando.
Lulonwabo nje olothusayo oluyilelwe ukubamba ingqalelo yomthengi oneempondo. Abavelisi banokukhathalela kancinci malunga nokuba kuchaneka kangakanani na ekwenzeni umntwana wokwenyani; bafuna nje ukuba ubukele ividiyo yabo. Kukucofa-bait ukuphulula amaphambili.
Iingcamango zobuxoki ezenziwe ngephonografi zinempembelelo ebaluleke kakhulu kubasetyhini kunamadoda. Iphonografi iveza abasetyhini njengamaqhekeza enyama enyama ekuphela kwenjongo yawo kukufumana izinto ezingafanelekanga kwaye zikrwelwe.
Ngexesha elide kakhulu, ndandiqinisekile ukuba kuphela kwendlela abafazi ababelala ngayo ngesondo yayiyi-ball-gags emlonyeni wabo.
Ndiyaqhula, kodwa kukho imixholo emininzi enobundlobongela abafazi abayifumanayo kwiphonografi eqondwa kakubi njengeminqweno ngokwenyani.
Le mixholo iboniswe kwi-porn itshintsha isimo sengqondo kwisini ngasinye. Isimo sengqondo samadoda ngokukodwa sithande ukuba nobundlobongela kunye nobutshaba kubasetyhini emva kokubukela i-porn.
Eyona ndlela yokwazi ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ntoni ngokwesondo kukukhululeka kunye nalo kwaye uthethe ngalo.
Musa ukumbopha nje njengehagu eluau. Mbuze ukuba uyawathanda na ama-apile kuqala! Kulungile, ndiyafunga ukuba liqhula lokugqibela.
Wakha ukunyamezelana.
Njengayo nantoni na ebangela uyolo, iphonografi inokukhobokisa. Kwaye njengayo nayiphi na into ekhobokisayo, unokwakha ukunyamezela kuyo.
Ukusetyenziswa kakhulu kwephonografi kukukhobokisa okuvusa inkanuko, apho ufuna iindlela ezininzi okanye ezahlukeneyo zokugcina ufumana phezulu okufanayo kukukhutshwa kwe-dopamine.
Kwakhe Intetho yeTED, utitshala wefiziyoloji, uGay Wilson, uchaza ukuba xa sele ubonile izikhundla ezifanayo zokusika iicookies, ingqondo yakho ifuna into eyahlukileyo, nje into entsha, ukothuka okanye ukothuka.
Iqala ngendoda nomfazi, kwaye into elandelayo uyazi, kukho ii-dude ezisibhozo ezinxibe imaski, umfazi omnye kwaye, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, i-peliccan. Musa ukubuza.
Yaziwa ngokuba iColidlid effect, kunye namanqanaba e-dopamine anyuka kumfanekiso wenoveli nganye ayibonayo. Wonke umntwana omtsha kwisikrini ubonelela ngokuqhushumba okutsha kwe-dopamine.
Yile ndlela i-porn ye-Intanethi enesantya esiphezulu ehluka ngayo kwi-porn yexesha elidlulileyo: Unokufumana ukuqhuma kwe-dopamine entsha ngokucofa imouse, uhlala uzibonelela ngolonwabo ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Kwaye njengazo zonke iziyobisi, unokuba ngaphezulu kwentloko yakho ngaphambi kokuba uyazi.
Iphonografi ikuvumela ukuba uphonononge zonke izinto ozifunayo ukwazi, kubandakanywa nezo ungazange ucinge ukuba unomdla kuzo. Kwakhona, iphonografi ayisiso isondo sokwenyani; kukuzonwabisa okothusayo.
Ezi noveli okanye iividiyo ezingcolileyo zothusayo azibonakalisi ubunjani besini sokwenyani. Ingxaki yokulutha iphonografi akukho mntu uza kubona umonakalo, akukho mntu unokutsho ukuba into oyenzayo ilungile okanye ayilunganga.
Oku kungenxa yokuba abantu abayazi ncam into ohamba kuyo ngaphandle kokuba bajonge imbali yakho yesikhangeli.
Enye yokucima imbali yakho yokukhangela igubungela iingoma zakho, kwaye imfihlo yakho encinci emdaka ikhuselekile.
Inciphisa ubomi bakho bokwesondo bokwenyani.
Kwakhe Intetho yeTED, UWilson uchaza umahluko phakathi kwesondo sangempela kunye ne-porn. Ukuphulula amalungu esini kunye nephonografi kugxile ekuzihlukaniseni, "i-voyeurism, ukucofa, ukukhangela, iithebhu ezininzi ezithumela ngokukhawuleza" kunye "nento entsha eqhubekayo."
Iintlobano zesini zokwenene zigxininisa “kubuhlobo, ukubambana, ukubanjwa, ukujoja, iipheromones, unxibelelwano olungokweemvakalelo nokunxibelelana nomntu wokwenene.”
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ubuchopho bakho buqhelana ne-porn kuba, ukuba ufana nam, ivezwa kuyo rhoqo ngakumbi kunesondo sokwenyani.
Ukuxhatshazwa okugqithisileyo akunakutshintsha kuphela ingqondo yakho, kodwa kunokutshintsha i-dick yakho. Akukho joke.
Kwangokunjalo Ucwaningo lweYunivesithi yaseCambridge ifumene "ngaphezulu kweepesenti ze-50 zezifundo (umyinge weminyaka: i-25) babenobunzima bokufikelela kwi-erections kunye namaqabane okwenene, kodwa banokufikelela kwi-erections nge-porn."
Ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-Erectile akuseyongxaki kayihlomkhulu; yeyakho. Ndithembe kule, bendikhe ndanobusuku obungaphithizeliyo apho kuye kwafuneka ndinike i-bullsh*t excuse yokuba kutheni ndingakwazi ukuqhubeka.
Ayinguwe, ndim!
Ngemikhwa yam, ndiye ndakwazi ukuqonda ukuba kwanemisebenzi ebonakala ngathi yesiqhelo ingaba nefuthe kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo.
Njengoko benditshilo, i-porn kulula ukufikelela kuyo kunangaphambili. Isizukulwana sethu sikwanokufikelela kwiifoto ezingenamkhawulo kunye nokuzonwabisa ngokusebenzisa imidiya yoluntu.
Xa ucinga ukuba kaninzi kangakanani ingqondo yomfana ihlaselwa yimifanekiso yabasetyhini abahle yonke imihla, abo bafazi bahle baqala ukulahlekelwa yinto entsha.
Isuka, “Thixo olungileyo, ndingancama unyana wam wamazibulo ubusuku bonke kunye naye,” ukuya, “Ewe, ulungile. Apha jonga le modeli ndiyilandelayo kwi-Instagram. "
Xa ndidibanisa ixesha endilichithe ndijonge iimodeli kwi-Instagram okanye kwi-Snapchat kunye nokusebenzisa kwam amanyala mihla le, bendichitha ngaphezulu kweyure yonke imihla ndisebenzisa imifanekiso ukukholisa intloko ezantsi.
No wonder kutheni ndinengxaki engxoweni.
Ungayilungisa njani?
Eyona nto ibuhlungu ngayo yonke le nto kuxa abaphandi baqale bazama ukwenza izifundo malunga nokusetyenziswa koonografi, ababanga nakufumana nayiphi na i-18- ukuya kwi-25-ubudala amadoda angazange asebenzise i-porn.
Ndingayingqina le nto. Ndikhe ndathanda i-porn connoisseur ishumi leminyaka ngoku, kwaye ndingaqinisekisa ukuba uninzi lwabafana abakwiminyaka yam banerekhodi efanayo.
Ekuphela kwento eqinisekisiweyo yokubuyisela umva umonakalo kukuya kwi-turkey ebandayo.
Akukhange kubekho bungqina obaneleyo obuqhutywe ngezifundo zenzululwazi zokwenyani ukuxhasa le datha Okwangoku, kodwa amaqela afana noWilson website kunye neReddit Akukho Fap yimizekelo esisiseko enika ubungqina bempumelelo yokuqala.
Uninzi lwabantu lubone iziphumo emva kwenyanga enye ukuya kwezimbini, kubandakanywa uvakalelo olwandisiweyo kumalungu abo esini kunye nokuguqulwa kokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile.
Esinye isiphumo esithembisayo sokuyeka i-porn kukuhla kwexhala. Njengoko ndikhankanyile ngasentla, iphonografi likhoboka elivuselelayo, kwaye iimpawu zokulutha ziphambuka ngokulula njenge-ADHD, ixhala lentlalontle, ukudakumba, ukuxhalaba kokusebenza kunye ne-OCD. Oku kuchaza isizathu sokuba yonke inkwenkwe esikolweni ine-ADHD.
Nantsi indlela eyahlukileyo yokucinga ngayo: Xa ubukele i-porn, nguwe, uhleli esitulweni, ubile kwaye uhamba ze, uzama ukuhenyuza kunye nawe kwisikrini esikhanyayo semifanekiso.
Leyo yimeko ephantsi kakhulu ukuba umntu aguqukele kuyo, kwaye ulunge kakhulu kunoko.
Sebenzisa ukucinga kwakho, okanye uphume endlwini kwaye ufumane umntu oya kwenza nantoni na enqwenelekayo ngokwesondo kunye nawe.
Ifashoni yakudala inokuba yeyakudala, kodwa ingcono kunokuzikruqula.
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