Amagqabaza: Amadoda aseJapan ajamelene nentiyo eyandayo yesini namaqabane obomi bokwenene. Amanqaku angaphambili awakhange achaze oyena nobangela, kodwa eli lenza ngaphezu kokubonisa.
Ngu-ROGER PULVERS, ngeCawa, ngo-Epreli 29, 2012
“Ukuba abantu abaselula bayakuthiya isini ngokuqhubekayo, imeko yeJapan yokuzala nokukhula ngokukhawuleza iya kuba mandundu ngokukhawuleza. … Uqoqosho lwaseJapan luza kuphulukana namandla alo nangaphezulu kunangoku. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, esi sizwe sinokutshabalala ekugqibeleni.”
Esi siqikelelo esothusayo senziwe nguKunio Kitamura kwincwadi epapashwe kunyaka ophelileyo yiMedia Factory. UGqr. Kitamura, ugqirha wokubelekisa kunye nogqirha wesibeleko ophethe ikliniki yakhe yocwangciso-ntsapho e-Tokyo, ungumbhali weencwadi ezingaphezu kweshumi elinesibini ezingokuvelisa kunye nempilo yezesondo. Ngoku, kunye ne "Sekkusugirai na Wakamonotachi" ("Abantu Abaselula Abachasene Nesondo"), uye wabonisa ukuba abantu abatsha baseJapan bacima isondo kwaye oku kuya kuba nemiphumo emibi kwisizwe.
Masingene kanye phantsi kwiziseko zamanani.
Rhoqo kwiminyaka emibini kuqhutywa uphando, phantsi kwenkxaso yoMphathiswa wezeMpilo, uMsebenzi neNtlalontle, kubudlelwane bamadoda nabasetyhini eJapan. Nazi ezinye zeziphumo ezinxulumene nomdla kwisondo ngokusekwe kwiimpendulo ezivela kubantu abayi-1,500 abaphandwe kunyaka ngamnye ekubhekiswa kuwo.
Abesilisa abaneminyaka eyi-16-19 kwi-2008 "abangenamdla kwisini okanye banomdla kuyo": ipesenti ze-17.5 (xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ze-36.1 kwi-2010). Amadoda aneminyaka eyi-20-24 kwi-2008 "abangenamdla okanye abachasayo ngesondo": ipesenti ze-11.8 (xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ze-21.5 kwi-2010).
Enyanisweni, kuwo onke amaqela eminyaka yamadoda ngaphandle kwalawo aneminyaka engama-30-34 ubudala, izinga lenyuka kakhulu kwiminyaka emibini ukusuka kwi-2008.
Umkhwa ofanayo ubonwa kwabasetyhini.
Ngo-2008, ama-46.9 ekhulwini amabhinqa aneminyaka eyi-16-19 athi “awanamdla” okanye “awathandi ukuba neentlobano zesini” (xa kuthelekiswa nama-58.5 ekhulwini ngo-2010). Phakathi kwamabhinqa aneminyaka eyi-20-24 ngo-2008, i-25 pesenti yathi "ayinamdla" okanye "ayifuni ukwabelana ngesondo" (xa kuthelekiswa ne-35 pesenti ngo-2010).
Ukunyuka okuphawulweyo phakathi kuka-2008 kunye no-2010 kwafunyanwa kwiqela ngalinye leminyaka ukuya kuma-49, abasetyhini abadala babuzwa.
Ngamanye amazwi, ubuncinane omnye kwabathathu abaselula akanamdla kwisini.
UKitamura uya kuhlalutyo olucokisekileyo lokuba kutheni oku kunjalo. Incwadi yakhe ikwaquka neengxelo zodliwano-ndlebe oluninzi kunye nolutsha oluze kwikliniki yakhe.
Omnye umfana wathi unomnqweno wesini kodwa ukuba neentlobano zesini nomnye umntu “kuyingxaki kakhulu.” Abanye bathi bakhetha amantombazana njengabalinganiswa be-anime okanye njengoonodoli benyani kuneyona nto yokwenyani - ababizwa ngokuba ngabatshakazi bamacala amabini. “Ubuncinane abasayi kukulahla,” watsho njalo omnye umntu okwadliwan’ indlebe naye.
Ngeli xesha, uKitamura uthi abanye abafana beza kwikliniki yakhe bekhalazela ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile. Abanye bathi ukubukela isini kakhulu kwiiWebhsayithi ze-Intanethi kubashiye benencasa emilonyeni yabo yokuba neentlobano zesini nomntu. Abaninzi bayavuma ukuba baphulula amaphambili ngokugqithisileyo, ngaloo ndlela bezanelisa zonke iimfuno zabo zesini ngokwabo.
UKitamura uxelela abafana ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini akuyongozi; yaye, ngaphezu koko, “ukuziphulula amaphambili akukhokelela ekubeni uthiye ukuba neentlobano zesini nabanye.”
Kodwa uyayimangalela i-Intanethi, ebhala ukuba, ngokugcwala kwayo ulwazi olungeyonyani kunye nephonografi, kunye nesixa sonxibelelwano olwenziwa kwi-Intanethi kunokunxibelelana nomntu, “Uluntu lwanamhlanje olusebenzisa i-Intanethi luye lwaba nempembelelo embi ngokukhethekileyo kubantu abaselula kulo mbandela.”
Ukwalatha kwizinto ezikuluntu lwaseJapan ezandisa lo mkhwa. Nazi ezinye zezizathu zokungabelani ngesondo ezinikwe ngabaguli abangamadoda baseKitamura.
“Andilweli ngesondo kuba andikwazi kutshata ekugqibeleni” — ngenxa yokungabi namsebenzi usemgangathweni.
"Kubiza imali ukuba neentlobano zesini" - ukuthenga izinto zokuthintela, ukuba nendlu yakho okanye imoto, njl.
"Umphathi wam ngumfazi kwaye oku kundenze ndangabinasondo."
"Kukho izinto ezonwabileyo ozenzayo."
“Ndidinwe kakhulu xa ndiphuma emsebenzini yaye andikwazi ukuvuselela umnqweno wesini.”
Inkcazelo “yokungabi nazini” eyamiselwa ngowe-1994 nguMbutho waseJapan weNzululwazi ngokweSini, umbutho weengcali ojongene nazo zonke iinkalo zokuzala komntu, ithi le yimeko xa ubani “engakhange abe neentlobano zesini kangangenyanga okanye ngaphezulu. ” Iintlobano zesini ngokwazo ziquka intaphane yezinto, ezinjengokuncamisana, ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo, ukuphululana nokulala ndawonye ze.
Uphononongo malunga nokunxibelelana phakathi kweeyure zokusebenza ezinde kunye nokuziphatha okungekho sini kuye kwabonisa ukuba abantu abasebenza iiyure ezingama-49 okanye ngaphezulu ngeveki babonisa ukwehla okuphawulweyo kwimisebenzi yezesondo.
Ngokuphathelele ukuchaswa kwesini phakathi kwamabhinqa, ezi zilandelayo zezinye zezizathu ezinikelwa ngabaguli abangamabhinqa athi uKitamura acaphule kwincwadi ethi “Abantu Abaselula Bakuchasile Isini.”
“Ndikholelwa kuthando olunyulu,” latsho elinye ibhinqa eliselula, “yaye kungenxa yoko le nto ndingenzi isini.” Omnye umxelela ukuba uva iintlungu xa esabelana ngesondo yaye uyakuphepha oko. “Amadoda amdaka kwaye anemvukelo, ngoko ke andizukubabona,” watsho omnye. Walatha kwinani leempawu zabo ezimdaka nezivukelayo, “njengeenwele eziye zawa zahlala egxalabeni lakhe, nencindi yeliso ekoneni yamehlo akhe, namabhovu angakhuli ngokulinganayo kwaye akhangeleka njengokukhanya. blue … kwaye andikwazi ukumelana nayo xa bemana besosula umbilo, baze bahambe befaka itshefu emdaka epokothweni yabo !”
Ewe, mhlawumbi umyeni omacala mabini ngoyena liqabane lifanelekileyo kweli nenekazi liselula.
Kodwa abanye abafazi abancinci, njengabafana abancinci, bathi izinto abazithandayo banomdla kuzo ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na ngokwesondo - ngelixa abanye besithi abanalo ukuzithemba okwaneleyo kwinkangeleko yabo yokuphuma baye kuhlangana nabantu besini esahlukileyo.
UKitamura uyavuma ukuba ukufuduka kwindlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini kunokuba yinto engapheleliselwanga kwabaselula baseJapan kuphela. Ubhala athi: “Amaqela abanzi oluntu lwaseJapan kuyo yonke iminyaka ubudala asenokuba afumana kanye loo nto.
Ungena kwiinkcukacha ezicacileyo malunga nemfundo yakhe yezesondo kunye nokukhula kwakhe, kwaye unika iingcebiso malunga nendlela ukungabikho kwesondo kunokulungiswa ngayo kwixesha elizayo. Oku kuquka ukubonelela ngemfundo esengqiqweni ngakumbi yesini elungiselelwe iimfuno zolutsha lwanamhlanje, nokuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano zolutsha. Uthi: “Ngapha koko, isini yindlela yokunxibelelana phakathi kwabantu.”
Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nkcukacha kunye nedatha, ndaphuma ekufundeni incwadi kaKitamura ndinombono ongacacanga wokuba kutheni imeko enzima njengokuphazamiseka kokuchasa ngokwesondo ihlasele kanobom abantwana baseJapan.
Ehlabathini lonke abantu abaselula bathe ntsho kumabonwakude, ukanti amanani amazwe amaninzi achasene nesini aphantse abe mandundu njengaseJapan. Ukongezelela, abantu baseJapan kumaxesha angaphambili babesebenza nzima, ukuba kwakungekho nzima ngakumbi kunangoku; yaye bambalwa kubo ababeneenqwelo-mafutha okanye amagumbi okuhlala awabo. Nangona kunjalo bakwazile ukuvelisa iintsapho ezinkulu ngelixa, ukuba okuthethwa nguKitamura kuchanekile, besonwabela isondo rhoqo.
Ngaphandle kwemeko yomntu ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ukukhubazeka okunokuthi kuthobe iminqweno yakhe yesini, ingxaki, engqondweni yam, yenye yenkuthazo.
Esona sizathu kukunqongophala kwamandla okugquba kwibutho labantu baseJapan namhlanje. Iimpawu zokuziphatha eziye zaphawula isizukulwana sabantwana abakhula ngokukhawuleza abakha impumelelo yaseJapan emva kwemfazwe - vuka uhambe, umoya wokulwa, uvakalelo lwethemba ngekamva kubantwana bakabani - ngokuqinisekileyo zinqongophele apha ngoku.
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukungafuni ukwabelana ngesondo phakathi kolutsha lwaseJapan lwanamhlanje, kunye nezinga lokuzala elisezantsi esisisiphumo soko, sinokujikwa ukuba abantu baseJapan bayo yonke iminyaka banokuphinda bazenzele ithemba bona nenzala yabo, abazelwe kwaye bengekazalwa.
Kungathatha ezimbini kuphela ukuya kwi-tango, kodwa kuthatha isizwe siphela ukufumana indlela eya ekuzalweni kwakhona.
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