Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, bendikhubeka kuphando oluthile kunye namanqaku malunga nephonografi kunye neziphumo ezibi ezinokubakho kumadoda nakubomi babo bezesondo. Ndiyifumene inomdla, kodwa ayizange khe icinge kakhulu emva koko. Ke ixesha elithile kulo nyaka uphelileyo ndakhubeka kulo le vidiyo.
Yabamba umdla wam kuba ayindim kuphela bendinengxaki yoxinzelelo lwezesondo kwaye ndinamathuba okungakwazi ukwenza umdlalo wexesha elidlulileyo, kodwa ekubeni ndingumqeqeshi wokuthandana, bendikhe ndathetha namadoda amaninzi aneengxaki ezizezinye, amadoda ngokufuthi kwi20 yawo 'S kunye nee30. Uvavanyo lwakutsha nje olwenziwe ngu-Esquire lubonise i-43% yamadoda axele ukuba kunzima ukufumana okanye ukugcina ulwakhiwo okungenani ngamanye amaxesha, nge24% inika ingxelo yokuba banobunzima "rhoqo kunokuba bendifuna ukuvuma."
Ngokutsho kwesayensi, i-porn iqeqesha ubuchopho bethu ukukhupha ii-endorphin ngaphezulu kunokuba kuyinto yendalo ekuphenduleni kwenkuthazo yesini. Emva komzuzwana, iingqondo zethu ziyaphelelwa ngumnqweno kwaye zikhulisa isidingo sokonyusa nangaphezulu ukuze sifikelele kwimvuselelo efanayo kunye nochulumanco. Ke ngoko uqala indawo ephindaphindiweyo ukuba ibe lukhuni nangakumbi lwe-porn kunye namanani aphezulu ayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, amadoda anokuhlakulela umlutha wengqondo kwimifanekiso engamanyala kwaye unokuqala ukuphazamisa ezesondo kunye nobomi babo ekuhlaleni. Kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kunokuba nzima ukwenza zombini.
Amathuba awunguye umlutha we-porn, kodwa ukuba uyindoda engaphantsi kweminyaka ye-35, ndicinga ukuba ukufikelela okuninzi kwi-porn kukuchaphazele ngaphezu kokuba ucinga. Cinga emva okwesihlandlo sokuqala ubukele iphonografi. Imifanekiso yomfazi ohamba ze onobuhle mhlawumbi yayanele ngawe. Kodwa okulusizi kukuba, uninzi lwethu, kule minyaka igqithileyo siye saya kwimikhwa emibi engcolileyo ye-porn.
Isiphumo kukuba ayipheleli ekupheliseni amandla akho okuvuswa konke konke, kodwa ikwamisa umda kwii-dopamine receptors zakho ngokubanzi, zikwenza ube nexhala ngakumbi, ungabi nantlalontle, kwaye mhlawumbi udandatheke. Ukungayichazanga ngokupheleleyo i-skews imbono yakho malunga nokuba yintoni ubuhle kwaye ikunika imigangatho engenangqondo yokulala ngesondo kunye nabasetyhini odibana nabo. Ukuba ukhe wafumana enye intombazana entle ebhedini yakho kwaye ayikwazanga ukutyeshela iziphazamiso ezincinci okanye i-asymmetries ukuya apho unengxaki yokufumana khona, ke uyazi ukuba ndithetha ukuthini.
Kwaye eyona nto imbi kunayo yonke, omncinci wawunjalo xa uqala ukubukela i-porn, ezona ziphumo ziqhelekileyo ziba njalo.
Kwi-yam incwadi malunga nokutsala umdla wabasetyhini, Ndabelana ngento endiye ndayibiza ngokuba "kukutya kokuphulula amalungu esini" kwisahluko sam malunga nokhuthazo. Kubandakanya ukuphelisa i-porn kunye nokunciphisa umngcipheko ukuya kumaxesha e-1-2 ngeveki. Injongo yoku "kukutya" yayikukuvuselela nokukhuthaza abafana ababenengxaki yokushukunyiswa ngokwaneleyo ukuba balandele abafazi phambi koxinzelelo lwabo. Ndiyenzile kwaye ndiyikhuphe kwixesha elidlulileyo xa ndifuna ukukhatywa kweesile kwaye kusebenza kum. Rhoqo phakathi kweveki okanye ezimbini. Kodwa andikaze ndicinge ukuyigcina okanye ukuyenza umkhwa ongapheliyo ebomini bam.
Ngasekupheleni konyaka ophelileyo, izinto ezingasabonakaliyo ezibonisa amanyala ziye zabamba umlilo kwiforum apha, neqela lamadoda (ndazibandakanya mna), batsalela kwi-bandwagon kwi le ntambo kwaye wavuma ukujonga i-porn yeentsuku ze-60. Sonke sagcina iilog ngentambo kwaye kwavela ukuba yimpumelelo yomsindo. Uninzi lwethu lwenze ukuba lubekho kwiintsuku ze-60 ezingakhange zichaphazele kwaye ziyinyani. I-porn ibichaphazela kakubi ubomi bethu bezesondo.
Kwabanye yintshukumo enkulu kwaye inzima kakhulu. Kwabanye, utshintsho lwaluncinci kwaye lulula. Wonke umntu, kuvumelana kubonakala ngathi sonwabile siyenzile. Unokufunda amava abanye intambo. Ngokwam, bendiqala ukubukela i-porn ukusukela kwi-13, kwaye bendiyibukele phantse yonke imihla iminyaka ye-8-10 xa bendiqala lo mngeni.
- Ndineminqweno ethile yokubukela i-porn kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala. Iminqweno yayiza kuhamba ihambe, ihlala ihamba kunye ne-sex drive yam. Utshintsho oluthile lwemoya. Kwaye ubusuku obuncinci apho ndaphupha khona malunga nephonografi - hayi, hayi amaphupha malunga nokuba neentlobano zesini, amaphupha malunga ne-pornography. Ewe, utshutshisiwe.
- Xa bendiphulula amalungu esini, ndenze inqaku lokuba ndicinge malunga namantombazana endiwaziyo okanye endikhe ndadibana nawo. Ngamanye amaxesha andikhange ndibenombono kwaphela. Andikhange ndicinge malunga ne-porn endiyibonileyo.
- Isondo lam lokuqhuba ngesondo laliphutha kakhulu kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala. Ngeentsuku ezithile bendiza kuba ngonyamezelekiyo kwaye ndakuba ndonwabile ngokupheleleyo kwisini kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva koko. Andikhawulelanga ukuphulula amalungu esini (abanye abantu bakhethe ukwenza le), ke loo nto yayithetha ukuba ndiza kuhamba iintsuku ze-4-5 ngaphandle kokuphulula amalungu esini, kwaye emva koko uye amandongomane uyenze amaxesha e-3-4 kwithuba lexesha le-24. Ngamanye amaxesha bekuvakala ngathi ndineminyaka eyi-16-yonke kwakhona.
- Malunga neeveki ezintathu okanye ezine, idrive drive yam yayiphezulu kwaye ihlala injalo. Ubundlobongela bam kunye namantombazana banda, kunye nokuzithemba kwam ukuba ngesondo kubo. Ndiziva ndinentloni kancinci okanye ndinqikaza ukuqhubela phambili izinto kunye nazo, ngelixa bendikade ndikhona.
- Ndiye ndaqala ukufumana intombazana eqhelekileyo, yemihla ngemihla ukuba mihle ngakumbi. Iimposiso ezincinci kunye neziphoso ezazisoloko zindenza bug ngoku zazithandeka kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zinokuba zithandekayo. Ndaye ndaphawula ukuba izinto endizithandayo zitshintshe kancinci. Ndiye ndaqala ukufumana i-fake-titten, fake blake, take fake, tincinci, iklabhu yodidi lweklabhu engathandeki kwaye intle ngokwendalo amantombazana ukuba ayathandeka kum. Ndiqale ukuphawula izinto ezifana nolusu, imilebe, amehlo kunye neenwele ngakumbi. Kwaye nangona ndisamthanda ipere entle ye-tits kunye ne-esile, azisekho ezam iindlela.
- Emva kwenyanga, kwakucacile ukuba ndibelana ngesondo olungcono. Ndenza okungcono kwaye ndiyonwabela ngakumbi kwaye ndiyifuna rhoqo.
- Kwinyanga yesibini, ndandingenaso isilingo kwaye izibonelelo zaqhubeka zisanda.
Kubonakala ngathi umlutha wam kunye "nokuqalisa ngokutsha" kwakububhetyebhetya kunokwabafana abaninzi. Unokufunda ngakumbi malunga neempawu zokurhoxiswa kwe-porn Apha kwaye ufunde malunga nezibonelelo ezininzi ezifunyanwa ngamadoda emva kokuyeka i-porn kwiintsuku ze-60 Apha.
INDLELA YOKUZONWABISA NOBUCHULE
Ndiyayihlekisa, ndiyibiza ngokuba "kukuphinda ubuye," kodwa kwangoko-kuFebruwari bendikhupha iiyure zomsebenzi we14 kwaye ndingaphumi kakhulu, ndiye ndayibhaqa i-YouPorn yakudala ukuba ndicofe ezinye… impazamo, umphunga. Ewe, kunjalo, vuthuza isitya.
Ukubuyela kwam okokuqala kwi-porn post-reboot, izinto ezimbalwa zazitshintshile:
- I-Porn bendidla ngokuyonwabela ngoku ndiziva ndigqibelele, ndinobuntu kwaye ndinyanisekile, ndingenamtsalane. Kukho iividiyo ezimbalwa endizibonileyo apho ndandingakholelwa ukuba bendihlala ndibukela izinto ezinje.
- Ndibuxabisile kwaye ndivulelwe kakhulu bubuhle bentombazana nganye kwaye incinci ngabo ukuba bathengwe okanye baxakeke yigogo enkulu okanye yintoni onayo. Isini esona ngokwaso sasibonakala sincipha kunokuba sinentombazana eshushu ehleka nje eskrinini sam.
- Andikwazanga kunceda kodwa uqaphele indlela ebengonwabanga kwaye ingeyiyo into yokuba amantombazana kwiividiyo zihlala kunjalo. Ukungatsho ukuba andikhange ndibone abanye abalinganiswa ekucacileyo bexakeka kwindlela eyadlulayo, kodwa oku bekubanzi. Njengokuxelela ukuba ayingobantu bonwabile kakhulu kwaye abanakho ukuzihlonipha kakhulu. Ndiyayazi le nto zombini a) kuvakala kuyinto engaqondakaliyo ukuba ucinga ngayo ngelixa ufumana fap yakho, kwaye b) ayimangalisi mntu. Kodwa eneneni yabonakala kangangokuba kwakunzima ukuba ndijike kwezinye iimeko.
Ndibukele i-porn izihlandlo ezimbalwa ngaphezulu kwesithuba mhlawumbi seeveki ezintathu kunye nokuphendula okungasentla. Ndiqaphele ukuba akukho tshintsho kubuhlakani bam, ukuqhuba ngesondo okanye intuthuzelo yam ejikeleze abafazi. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva koko, ndiye ndaqala ukuthandana nentombazana apha eBrazil kwaye ndandihlala okokuqala kwisithuba esingangonyaka, ndandinomntu endabelana naye ngesondo rhoqo.
Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndisebenzise eli thuba ukuvavanya into ngaphandle: bendifuna ukubona ukuba ingakanani i-porn kakhulu. Besendiyibukele izihlandlo ezimbalwa zodwa kwaye akukho nto itshintshileyo. Kodwa yimalini ekufuneka ndiyibukele ngaphambi kokuba iqale ukuyichaphazela impilo yam yesondo? Intombi yam entsha kaBrasileira inikezela ngokutshintsha okugqibeleleyo. Kuba besabelana ngesondo kunye naye qho ngeentsuku ezimbalwa, bendibona kwaye ndiziva naluphi na utshintsho kumdla wam wesondo okanye amandla okwenza naye ngokukhawuleza kwakwenzekile.
Kwathatha malunga neveki. Mhlawumbi ndenze indlwabu kwi-porn ye-4-5 amaxesha kuloo veki. Kodwa okokugqibela, bendibuyela kwimikhwa yam yakudala yokubukela i-hardcore ye-porn kunye nokubukela iividiyo ze-10-15 ngeseshoni, ihlala ibaleka ngqo kwi-shots yemali. Okwesibini intombi yam emva kokuba iqalile ukubalekela, kwabakho ukwehla okubonakalayo kumnqweno wam kunye nokusebenza kwam, ukuya kuthi ga apho ndacela uxolo kuye ngokungakwazi ukuphila ngemigangatho yam (akukho njongo yayilindelwe). Kwiveki elandelayo, ndayeka ukubukela iphonografi, kwaye kwiveki, inkanuko endala kunye nokusebenza kwakhona kubuya kwaye kusaya kuqina.
Ke oku kuthetha ntoni? Ngaba i-porn ngumtyholi? Ngaba awufanelanga uyibukele? Ngaba iyonakalisa impilo yakho yesondo njengoko sithetha?
Ndiyakwazi ukuziphendula. Kum, ewe, i-porn yayinefuthe elibonakalayo kubomi bam besondo kwaye ndibhetele kakhulu ukuba ndingayibukeli. Kwaye ndiyazi kukho iqela labafana kwiforum ababenezibonelelo ezibi kakhulu kunam. Andisokuze ndibuyele ukuyijonga rhoqo. Ndicinga ukuba ndiza kuyibukela ngamanye amaxesha, ubukhulu becala xa ndinxila ndigoduka emva kobusuku bokuphuma. Kodwa kuyacaca ukuba ukuba ndiyibukele nangaliphi na ixesha elingaguqukiyo kangangeentsuku ezimbalwa, ichaphazela kakubi ubomi bam bezesondo. Ndinqwenela ngokunyaniseka ukuba bendiyiyekile ukuyibukela kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, njengoko ibiya kundisindisa kumzabalazo omninzi wokukhuthaza kunye neentloni kwigumbi lokulala.
Ndiyakuncoma ukuba uvavanye ngokuyeka ngokupheleleyo. Intambo yethu "Engasayiyo iphonografi" kwiforum iyaqhubeka kwaye wonke umntu uyamenywa ukuba athathe inxaxheba. Sinabafana abaphakathi kwemingeni yabo yemini ye60 okwangoku abathumela malunga nenkqubela yabo. Ndiyakumema ukuba ujoyine kwaye ulandele. Ukuba kukho nantoni na, kufanelekile ukwenza umthambo ngoqeqesho. Kwimeko embi kakhulu, uya ngaphandle kwesixhobo se-fap kwiinyanga ezimbini. Okona kulungileyo, ufumana ukuzithemba okusha ngesondo ngeenxa zonke kwabasetyhini, kwaye ukonyusa ukusebenza kwakho ebhedini. Izandi ezixabisekileyo kum.
Kwakhona, ukuba uyakholelwa ekubeni unesiyobisi esirhabaxa- ubukela i-porn ixesha elingangeyure ngeseshoni nganye, unengxaki yokufumana indibano ngaphandle kokujonga imifanekiso engamanyala, okanye ubukele iphonografi engahambelani nokuthanda kwakho ngokwesini- ke ndiyakucebisa kakhulu ukuba uyenze. Qalisa ngokutsha kwaye ufunde www.yourbrainonporn.com. 
http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/pornography-can-ruin-your-sex-life/
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