Amazwana: Ukususela kwisifundo - “Ezona zizathu zibekiweyo zokuba abantu abatsha babelane ngesondo ezimpundwini yayikukuba amadoda ayefuna ukukopa oko akubonayo kwimifanekiso engamanyala, kwaye 'ayomelele'."
Ezinye izizathu ezichazwe kwiphononongo yokuba nomntu wesini esilumkileyo zavela ngokucacileyo ekubonweni koononophelo.
Agasti 13, 2014
Isifundo esitsha abantwana abaseBrithani abasebenzelana ngokwesondo babonisa iimpazamo eziphazamisayo malunga nokulala ngesondo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngumntu ongathandanga ukuthetha ngawo. Nangona kunjalo, njengezihloko ezininzi zeengxaki, ukungabikho kwengxoxo kufihlile ngokucacileyo iinyaniso ezinzima.
Uphando olutsha lwe-16-ku-18-ubudala ubudala e-England luchaza into ephazamisayo. Kufumanisa ukuba "amancinci amancinci okanye amabhinqa athetha ukufumana isondo esilumkileyo, kunye nesibini esilindelekileyo ngokwesini kuba ngabafazi."
Nangona kunjalo, lo mkhuba ubonakala ufumana ukuthandwa. Ucwaningo olusandul 'utsha lwaseBrithani luxelele ukuba, phakathi kwe-16- kwi-24 ubudala, i-19 ipesenti yamadoda kunye neepesenti ze-17 zabasetyhini abaye benza kulo nyaka odlulileyo.
Iziphumo zibonisa ukuba kukho "imfuneko engxamisekileyo" ukukhuthaza ingxoxo malunga nokuziphatha kunye nokuvuma, ukunciphisa ingozi kunye nobuchule obubuhlungu, kunye nemingeni yeengxaki eziqhelanisa ukunyanzeliswa, "ababhali-mbhali uCicely Marston noRuth Lewis weLondon School of Hygiene kunye noTyropian Medicine ubhale kwiphepha le-BMJ Open.
Kukho "isidingo esiphuthumayo" ukuba "khuthaze ingxoxo malunga nokuziphatha kunye nemvume, ukunciphisa ingozi kunye nobuchule obubuhlungu, kunye nemingeni yeengxaki eziqhelanise ukunyanzelisa."
UMarston noLee baqhuba uchungechunge lweengxoxo zeqela kunye nobunzulu-nzulu, abadibaniselwano ngabanye be-130 amadoda kunye nabafazi abaneminyaka eyi-16 ukuya kwi-18. Abathathi-nxaxheba bathabathele kwiindawo ezintathu ezahlukeneyo (iLondon, isixeko esisenyakatho soshishino, kunye noluntu lwasemaphandleni aseMzantsi-mpuma) kwaye limele iindawo ezahlukeneyo zentlalo yoluntu.
"Kwaye kwaphawulwa ukungafani kobulili ngendlela echazwe ngayo ngesondo," kuchaza abaphandi. "Izibonelelo zayo (ukuzonwabisa, uphawu lweentsebenzo zesini) kulindelwe kubayeni, kodwa kungekhona abafazi. Ubungozi balo-abaphandabuzwayo babhekiselele ingozi yezifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, ngokubhekiselele kwengozi yentlungu okanye idumela elonakalisiweyo-kulindeleke kubafazi kodwa kungekhona kubantu. "
Ngenxa yokuba oku kunqanyulwa, akumangalisi ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba baxela ngesondo esifanelekileyo ngokuqhelekileyo kuba ngumphumo wokunyaniseka, "ngokuphindaphindiweyo nokuvalelwa ngabantu abasecaleni."
Kodwa ukuba nabantu bafumanisa umkhwa wokukhangela ngakumbi kunokwenza izinto, kutheni baninzi kangaka?
Izizathu eziphambili ezinikwe abantu abatsha abalala ngesondo babesele ukuba amadoda ayefuna ukukopisha oko babone kwiimifanekiso engamanyala, "bathetha abaphandi. Kodwa uMarston noLebheka bacinga ukuba impendulo yayingeyona nto; Bachaza ukuba "isondo esilumkileyo senzeke kumxholo obhalwe ubuncinane ubuncinane bezinto ezinhlanu."
Okokuqala, ezinye iingxelo zamadoda ziphakamisa ukuba "balindele ukunyanzeliswa ukuba babe yingxenye yesondo lesandulela ngculazi." Okwesibini, kunye nokuxhamla, "abafazi abaxhatshazwa ngesondo sangasese kubonakala ngathi bacinga ukuba baqhelekile." Okwesithathu ingcinga yokuba abasetyhini abangayithandiyo " mhlawumbi ziphosakeleyo okanye zigcine imfihlo yazo. "
"Okwesine, isondo sokulala namhlanje sibonakala sisimakalo (hetero) ukuphumelela ngokwesini okanye amava, ngokukodwa kubantu," kubhala abaphandi. "Uluntu esibucelwa ngabaphandabuli bethu kubonakala luvuyisa amadoda ngamava ezesondo ngokoko, kwaye, ngandlela-thile, uvuza abafazi ngokuthotyelwa kwezenzo zokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo. Abasetyhini nabo bangaphantsi koxinzelelo ukuba babonakale benandipha okanye bakhethe izinto ezithile zesondo. "
"Okwesibini, amadoda amaninzi awakhathazeki ngeentlungu ezibangelwa ngabasetyhini, bebheka njengokungenakwenzeka. Ubuncwane obunzima, njengokuba ungena ngokukhawuleza, kwakungabonakali ukuba kuxoxwe. "
Ukufingqa: "Ubundlobongela obuncinci phakathi kwabantu abatsha kulolu cwaningo lubonakala luqhutyelwa kwimeko ekhuthaza intlungu, umngcipheko kunye nokunyanzelisa." Kodwa ke, abaphandi bathi, "imfundo yobundlobongela, apho ikhona khona, ayiqhelanga ngokukhawuleza izenzo zesondo," kwaye ngaloo ndlela ugweme le micimbi ebalulekileyo.
Konke kuphakamisa isidingo sokwandisa imfundo yesondo ngaphaya kweendlela zokuziphatha, kunye nenjongo yokufaka ingcamango yokuhlolisana, ukuzonwabisa kunye kunye nokuhlonipha.
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