Lungiselela abafundi ukuba bajongane ne-porn; bafundise ubuchopho babo
Umxholo wamva nje wase-UK: “Ootitshala kufuneka bafundise iphonografi kwaye baxelele abafundi ukuba 'ayilunganga kwaphela', iingcali zithi. ” Imfundo enceda abantwana ukuba bakwazi ukujamelana ne-intanethi ye-intanethi yinto efanelekileyo. Kodwa masingachithi ithuba elincomekayo lemfundo sizama ukuhlela iphonografi elungileyo kwi-porn engalunganga. Inzame enjalo iyakusasazeka kwiimfazwe zepolitiki ezingapheliyo ezinokuthi zibangele ubushushu obungaphezulu kokukhanya.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, izikolo ziya kuphulukana nethuba lokufundisa elinobutyebi. Imizekelo yokutya okungekho setyeni kunye ne-intanethi ye-porn ibonelela ngendawo efanelekileyo yokwazisa yabantwana ukuba bafunde malunga neendlela zokutya, ingqondo yabo, eyaziwa njenge umvuzo wesiphaluka. Eli nxalenye yobuchopho inelizwi eliphambili kwaye izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwazo zibekiwe ngokuzivelela: ukuqhubekeka kwethu ukusinda kunye nempumelelo yemfuzo. Ngaphandle kokuthetha, ukuguqula iinguqulelo zokutya kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngamandla.
Le yesekethe yamandulo ikwakhona iziko lekhampasi yethu yangaphakathi. Sithembele kuyo ukuba yenze zonke iintlobo zokukhetha ebomini bonke, kubandakanya nokuziphatha kunye nokhetho lomsebenzi. Ukuqonda ukuba isebenza njani kwaye kuyiphosa njani, kufuneka ulungiselele ubomi kwiPlanethi yoMhlaba.
Ingqondo yolutsha eyahlukileyo
Isihloko se Ukusetyenziselwa iphonografi kulutsha ikwabonelela ngesihlandlo esifanelekileyo sokufundisa abafundi malunga nokukhula kwengqondo yomntu kunye nengqondo yenkqubo yokuba yingqondo yolufikisa. Ukufikisa kuqala ukuqhuma kwee-neurons ezintsha. Oku kunceda ukufunda kokubini ngamava amatsha (kubandakanya nokwabelana ngesondo) kunye nokuzisongela ebudaleni. Nangona kunjalo, kwiminyaka yethu yamashumi amabini, ukujikeleza okungasetyenziswanga kwe-neural kuya kuthunyelwa umva kwaye i-neural ejikelezayo igcinwe ikhula ngokukuko (yenza indlela yokuziphatha efundwe ngexesha lokufikisa kube nzima ukutshintsha).
Abafundi banokufunda ukuba isebenza njani imeko yezokwabelana ngesondo, kwaye nokuba kulula kangakanani ukuba ichukunyiswe yimisebenzi evusa inkanuko. Yintoni intombazana a ngafuni yiba nomdla wokufunda ukuba izazinzulu zinokubangela ukuba amadundana angamadoda athande amaqabane esini esifanayo Ngokumisela ukuba neentlobano kwabo zesini kunye neziyobisi ezifanisa inkanuko yesini?
Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba ixesha lokufikisa kunye nemeko yesondo iyahamba kunye… um… incanca nekhondom. Ukulungele okanye akunjalo, bona ngeke thobele ubudlelwane babo bezokwabelana ngesondo kwindawo ebusoloko ikuyo. Ke, xa sele bekhulile, iingqondo zabo ngokupheleleyo ngeke Phinda ubuye umjikelezo ongasetyenziswanga, othintela ukuvela kweencasa zabo zesondo.
Ulwazi ngendlela esebenza ngayo le nkqubo lunokunika umlinganiso wobukrelekrele obunqwenelekayo kulutsha, olunendawo yayo yangaphambili (ikhaya lika "Masicinge ngale nto") iya kuhlala isakhiwa de kube ngamashumi amabini. Ukukhetha okubona kude kubaluleke kakhulu ngexesha le ifestile yolutsha yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo.
I-intanethi ye-porn njengoqeqesho kwengqondo
Izikolo zikwafundisa abafundi malunga neengozi ezifihlakeleyo ze-Intanethi. Oku kuhamba ngaphaya komxholo wegonzo. Namhlanje, zombini kweenkonzo kwaye ubunini ingozi. Ihambile imihla yokutyelelwa okunqabileyo kwamaxesha esitratweni, iindaba zasimahla ezingena ezinzulwini zobusuku kwisitayile se-satellite / intambo yabantu abadala, i-2 am VHS imiboniso bhanyabhanya kwi-porn kwigumbi lokuhlala, ilinde iiyure zokwenza ucoceko ukuze ubone indawo enesiqingatha seyure. Iiwebhusayithi ezingamanyala kunye namatyala abuhlungu etyala lekhadi.
Ngoku, kukho iividiyo zentsingiselo ephezulu zezenzo ebezingafakwanga ngaphambili iisayithi zebhubhu apho iintlobo ezingapheliyo zikhululekile. Ezi vidiyo ziyasasaza, ngoko ke umbukeli akufuneki ashiye umkhondo kwikhompyuter yakhe. Abasebenzisi banokuvula iithebhu ezininzi zeekliphu ezinzima, ngoko ke ukonwaba akufuneki uzibhansele ixesha elide ngexesha leseshoni yokuhambisa isondo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, kukho ii-smartphones (kwaye ngoku iiglasi zeGoogle) ukuze abasebenzisi banokubukela naphina, nangaliphi na ixesha, kubandakanya kakuhle ebhedini. Akusekho kulinda TV kakhulu ebusuku, ixesha lekhompyutha ekhaya, okanye emva kwesikolo.
Ukubakho rhoqo kwezinto ezifakwayo ezirejista njengezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka zivela nazo umngcipheko wokuba likhoboka leziyobisi, kwaye ingqondo yolutsha ichaphazeleka lula kukukhotyokiswa bubuchopho bengqondo yabantu abadala. I-hyper-response ekuphenduleni umvuzo, kwaye ilungiselelwe ukuba ifake amava anomdla-ngakumbi ukuvusa inkanuko yesini.
I-intanethi ye-intanethi ibaluleke kakhulu ekuqeqesheni ubuchopho ngenxa yeso sizathu sokuba i-cigarettes inomdla ngaphezu kwe-heroin. Nangona i-heroin ibonelela nge-punch enkulu ye-neurochemical, i-cigarettes (njengokucofa iividiyo ezingamanyala) inikezela ngokubetha rhoqo kwe-neurochemical hits (ngakumbi i-dopamine), ngokukhupha (okanye ucofe). Amandla okunyusa i-dopamine kwividiyo nganye yenoveli yonyusa umngcipheko wokulutha, kuba ukuphakanyiswa okungapheliyo kwe-dopamine ukukhaba kutshintsho olunxulumene nengqondo oluhlala luhleli kubasebenzisi abaninzi.
Umsebenzisi opholileyo we-porn uyachaza ukuba itshintshe njani iphonografi:
Imifanekiso engamanyala yanamhlanje ifana nesidlo sakusasa esineengqondo. Amanqanaba okumelana nexabiso lokuphindaphindeka kathathu kwisithuba seminyaka engaphantsi kwe-15 (1986-2000), ebonisa ukuba ukunyuka kwe-ubiquity kokutya okuncinci, okungekho mpilweni kunemiphumo emibi. Unokuba li-feta kwi-1950 kodwa kube nzima ukwenza njalo. Ngokufanayo, ubonelelo lwe-porn luvele ngokukhawuleza nangaphezulu kunolo lokutya okungenanto. Kanye njengokuba unokuba ngumlutha we-porn kwi-1990 kunzima kakhulu ukwenza njalo kunokuba kunjalo kwi-2013.
Isantya se-intanethi asonyuki kuphela kodwa ukunciphisa kwexabiso le-elektroniki kudityaniswa nokunyuka kwewebhu yefowuni kuthetha ukuba abancinci nabancinci bafumana ukufikelela kwe-24 / 7 kumandla okusebenza angenamkhawulo. Namhlanje umntwana ophakathi oneminyaka eli-13 unamandla okuqhubela phambili epokothweni kunasekhaya lonke elenza ii-90s emva kwexesha. (Kuya kuba lula ukwenza ubalo lwexabiso le-intanethi kwi-megabytes ezijongwe ngakwicala ngalinye kwi-1993 vs 2003 vs 2013.)
Nantsi enye indlela yokucinga ngayo: Kwimizuzwana eyi-10 ndiyabona phantse nayiphi indibaniselwano yazo naziphi na iintlobo zabantu abenza naluphi na uhlobo lwesenzo sesondo. Ngama-24/7 euphoria-on-demand. Kodwa luvuyo oluza nexabiso elikhulu-lokubandakanya ukonakalisa ubomi bam ngokwesondo, ubudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi we-erectile.
Uthe omnye umsebenzisi onovuyo:
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukufundisa amakhwenkwe amancinci malunga nokuba angabathintela njani ukuba babelane ngesondo lokwenyani kwaye oko kunokubangela ukuphazamiseka okungafaniyo ngenxa yotshintsho olunxulumene nomlutha ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo yeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yemfundo engazukugqitywa, ukusilela ekunciphiseni inkululeko 'njengemfazwe neziyobisi'.
Ukungathethi onke amakhwenkwe aya kuyeka ngokuzenzekelayo. Njengabantu abafundisiwe malunga nokusela, ukutshaya kunye neziyobisi, basenokuqhubeka nokuzonwabisa ngokwenza ezo zinto, kodwa ubuncinci baya kuyenza ngononophelo ngakumbi kwaye uninzi lwabo luya kuyenza. Ndiyagula ngazo zonke ezi 'ngcali' zithetha nge-porn xa wonke umntu ekhona nofap Unolwazi oluninzi malunga nokuba yeyantoni ebonisa amanyala kuwe kunokubhala ngabantu kumaphephandaba.
"Isiqhelo" xa kuthelekiswa "nesiqhelo"
Namhlanje, ukubukela iphonografi kwi-Intanethi kuqhelekile ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba ukubonwa rhoqo kubonakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Oku kushiya abantwana bekhetha kulo ngaphandle kokucinga nzulu. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba "Wonke umntu usebenzisa i-Intanethi ye-Intanethi" akuqinisekisi ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn akunabungozi. Cinga nje indlela elalithandwa ngayo ukutshaya ngaphambi kokuba kuqondwe iingozi zalo.
Abasebenzisi abangaqondiyo ukusetyenziswa kwe-intanethi kubandakanya umngcipheko bahlala bengaboni xa bekhulisa iimpawu ezinxulumene ne-porn, ezinje ngokungaqhelekanga uxhala loluntu, uxinzelelo kunye nenkuthazo iingxaki, ukulahleka kwekhangelo kumaqabane oqobo, Izinto ezingathandekiyo ezingamanyala ezingaqhelekanga, imiba yokusebenza ngokwesondo, njl. Ngaphandle kolwazi malunga nokuba ukubhengeza into engamanyala kwi-Intanethi ye-Intanethi kunokubangela iingxaki, abantwana abahlakulela iimpawu ngamanye amaxesha bacinge ukuba baphulwe ubomi. Kufuneka uve ngoontanga babo ngubani osuse i-porn kwi-equation, urhoxisiwe ukurhoxisa, kwaye wabona ukuphuculwa okukhawulezayo.
Enye yezona zinto zixabisekileyo ezingafumanekiyo ebantwaneni kukuba ukuyeka ukusebenzisa i-Intanethi kwi-Intanethi kunokubangela iiveki ezinzima kakhulu rhoxiswa iimpawuukungalali, ngengqondo Inkungu, unxunguphalo, ukudakumba, ukucaphuka msinya, ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo ngokukhawuleza, ukubila, iintlungu- nangaphezulu kwako konke ukulahleka kwexeshana (okwethutyana) kwayo yonke libido. Ukuba ulutsha alwazi malunga neempawu ezinjalo, ezo mpawu zinokuziqhubela zibuyele kwi-porn ngesothuso.
Ngolwazi oluluqilima abantwana banokuqonda ukubaluleka kokufunda ukulawula iminqweno yabo kunye nokwenza kwabo iimvavanyo. Zininzi iindlela zobugcisa ezikhuthaza ngokwemvelo ukulungelelanisa, njengokuzilolonga, ixesha kwindalo, ukunxibelelana nabantu bokwenyani, imihla ngemihla kubanda, kunye neendlela zokuphumla-zonke ezinokubandakanywa kuyo nayiphi na ikharityhulamu ngaphandle kokona nabani na. Abafundi banokufunda ukuba yeyiphi inkxaso esesikweni ekhoyo yokulungisa iimpawu zokugqithisa.
Olo lwazi luya kubeka nabantwana ukuba benze umsebenzi onolwazi ngakumbi wokukhulisa nabaphi na abantwana kwixesha elizayo.
Kutheni le nto ukufundisa "iphonografi elungileyo" kunye "ne-porn engalunganga" kungasebenzi
Ulutsha alukho ubudala beminyaka ye-30. Iingqondo zabo zizenza ukuba zifuna indalo-kwaye zikhangeleke ngokungaqhelekanga kunye nokwabelana ngesondo. Oku kuthambekela kokungenxa yesizathu sokuba ookhokho bethu beshiye izizwe zabo zemveli ngexesha lokufikisa, ngaloo ndlela kuthintela ukuzala.
Abantwana abayi kubambelela kwiiwebhusayithi abacebisa ukuba "kuba zisempilweni kubo." Umgaqo-nkqubo ongenalwazi onjalo ungafana nokubabeka kwindawo yabo yokutyela abayithandayo kunye nengcebiso ethi, "Iminqathe iza kuba yinto elungileyo." Kunene.
Nokuba bebencamathele kwi-porn "ye-carrot-stick", baya kuhlala bebambe iingqondo zabo ezinobungozi kulutsha kwiipikseli, hayi amaqabane okwenyani. Oku kungakhokelela kwintlungu kamva njengoko le nto yamashumi amabini ananye yafundwayo:
(20-into) Xa ndihamba kunye nabasetyhini ebomini bokwenene, andiyiva nto. Andizange ndibambe. Andiyindoda engatshatanga ncinane (ngokwenene ndiyindoda enobungqingili), kodwa andinakulala ngesondo kunye naba bafazi. Ukuba ndingakhetha igama elinye ukuchaza ukuba kwakunjani xa ndizama ukulala nabo, ndingasebenzisa igama elithi 'umfokazi.' Yayiziva ingenabuntu kwaye ingekho kum. Okwangoku ndinokuhlala phantsi kunye neLaptop yam kwaye kwangoko ndiziva ndothusile nokuba khange ndilayishe nantoni na engamanyala. I-Porn ivakalelwa kukuba ikhululekile ngokupheleleyo kwaye yendalo kum. Igqithisile ngokupheleleyo into endifanele ukuziva ngayo nabasetyhini! Ndibona amantombazana kwaye ndicinga ukuba amanye awo akhangeleka emhle kakhulu. Ndingumfana othandana nentombazana entliziyweni, kodwa andinakwenza nto malunga nayo. Umtsalane ukhona, kodwa hayi umnqweno wesini.
Ngesiqhelo, ezinye iingcali zifundisa ukuba kufuneka sifundise ulutsha ukuba luyakonwaba ngokwesini. Oku kufana nokuxoxa ukuba kufuneka sifundise abantwana ukuthanda iswekile. Isibongozo sokuvuselela ngokwesondo, njengeswekile, siyinto engaphakathi. Akukho mfundiso ifunekayo.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ngexesha lokufikisa inxenye yengqondo ebhalisa ukuvuswa ikwi-overdrive-ngokuchanekileyo ulutsha aluyi kuphoswa ziimpawu ezibalulekileyo zokuphinda zivelise. Eyona nto inokusilela kukuchasana nolwazi olunokuqina kunye nabantu abadala abanengqondo epheleleyo. Ngamanye amagama, "Isikhuseli siyasebenza; zilungiseleleni iziqhoboshi! ”
Okokugqibela, kwi-Intanethi iingxaki ze-porn zingakumbi malunga nomdla we izinto ezintsha ngaphezu komxholo, okanye ixesha elichithwe ukubukela. Ngapha koko, abanye abantu baxela ukuphuhlisa ukulahleka komtsalane kumaqabane okwenyani kunye neengxaki zokusebenza ngokwesondo ngokujonga nje kumakhulu eemodeli zokuqubha kwiseshoni yokuphulula amalungu esini. Oku akumangalisi. Inxalenye yokuqala yengqondo iyatshisa abantu abatshatileyo, nokuba ingqondo enengqiqo ayizukuchaza imifanekiso njenge "porn." Ngamafutshane, ubuchopho obuziqhelanisa ngokukhawuleza bunokubekwa kwimeko, okanye "bucinywe" ukuya kuyo, nantoni na umsebenzisi omncinci ayidibanisayo nokuphinda aqinise ukuvusa inkanuko, nokuba "yeyamanyala amanyala" okanye "amanyala amabi."
Eli nxalenye yefizoloji yofuzo yomntu yinto elolutsha ekufuneka ifundile ngobuchopho babo, endaweni yokugxila kukwahlula umxholo.
Ukushwankathela
Isantya esiphakamileyo sanamhlanje esona sihlandlo sesona sihlandlo sichaza ulutsha ngendlela inkqubo yokutya kwengqondo esebenza ngayo. Bafundise ii-ajenda zayo ezingaphakathi kunye nendlela ukutya kwanamhlanje ukutya okungenamsoco kunye ne-intanethi edlala ngayo kwezi zinto ziphambili zakudala.
Bafundise malunga neemeko zesondo. Abafikisayo bangena ngokulula kwiintambo zesini. Ukuba banamathele kwiiphikseli ngokukodwa, emva koko abanangcingo ekuziphatheni ngokwesini kunye neendlela ezibalungiselela isini sokwenyani. Ngabantu abadala, ingqondo iya kuphinda ibuyise imijikelezo engasetyenziswanga, ke ulutsha lukwifestile eyahlukileyo yamathuba okuhambisa umdla wabo, izakhono kunye nemikhwa yabo.
Bafundise ukuba kukhuthaza kakhulu kangakanani okunokubangela ukuba utshintsho kwengqondo luphungule ulonwabo olupheleleyo ukusuka kwimicimbi yemihla ngemihla (enokukhula idinise ngokuthelekisa), kwaye ufune ukukhangela kwimvakalelo-kunye nomlutha.
Bafundise indlela yokulawula iminqweno yabo ngokwemvelo, kunye neempawu zokugqithisa kakhulu, ukuba ukurhola kusebenza kanjani, kunye nalapho banokufumana khona uncedo ukuba luyimfuneko.
Ukuqonda okungcono kwendlela ukunganyamezeli okungapheliyo kokukhuthaza okungaphaya kokuchaphazeleka okuchaphazela ubuchopho kunokunceda abantwana bahlangabezane nemeko yanamhlanje yokutya okukhuthaza ukutya kunye nezixhobo zesondo.
Okokugqibela, njengawo nawuphi na umzamo wemfundo yesondo, impilo yezesondo yabantu abadala abafundisayo ibalulekile. Njengoko ilungu leqonga laseCanada lathi,
Ngenxa yokuba impilo yezesondo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo-ezinqabileyo kunqabile kwinkcubeko yethu, ndibona imfundo yezesondo njengethuba lokuxhatshazwa kunye nethuba lokuqhubela phambili. Umntu ongenampilo okanye umntu one-ajenda yezopolitiko egqwethekileyo ngokwesondo usenokungabi ngumthombo olungileyo wolwazi.
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IZIMVO ZOKUVUKA IREDDIT
Nantsi enye umzekelo http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jun/19/state-wont-protect-children-porn
Andizukubeka izimvo malunga nokuba kufanelekile ukuba sinciphise ukufikelela kwi-porn, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ndongeza kwi-equation ukufundisa amakhwenkwe amancinci malunga nokuba angabathintela njani ukuba babelane ngesondo lokwenyani kwaye oko kunokubangela izifo ezahlukeneyo zengqondo njenge Iziphumo zotshintsho lobuchopho ezinxulumene nokulutha ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo yeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokuyekisa ukujonga iphonografi endinokucinga ngayo ukuba ayizukugqibelela, inkululeko yokunciphisa ukusilela 'njengemfazwe yeziyobisi'.
Ukungathethi ukuba onke amakhwenkwe aya kuyeka ngokuzenzekelayo, abantu abafundisiwe malunga nokusela, ukutshaya kunye neziyobisi banokuqhubeka nokuzonwabisa ngokwenza ezo zinto, kodwa ubuncinci baya kuyenza ngononophelo ngakumbi kwaye uninzi lwabo luya kuyenza. Ndiyagula ngazo zonke ezi 'ngcali' zithetha nge-porn xa wonke umntu kwi-nofap enolwazi oluninzi malunga nento eyenziwa zi-porn kuwe kunabantu ababhala kumaphephandaba abanzi.
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