Oko ubukeleyo kunokutshintsha izinto zakho zokuthanda
I-porn, ngakumbi enobundlobongela kunye ne-BDSM ye-porn, yenzelwe abantu abadala, hayi ulutsha. Ezi zixhobo zinobunkunkqele kwaye zibukhali, kwaye zifuna ukuvuthwa ukuze kuziqonde kwaye uzibandakanya. Ngelixa ndichasene nokuhlola, ndicinga ukuba kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ezi zinto ziboniswayo zinokudideka kwaye ziyabhidisa, xa zijongwa lulutsha olungafumenanga mgaqo wokufundisa ngezokwabelana ngesondo okwenyani. ~ UDavid Ley PhD (Unxibelelwano lwabucala-U-Ley u-pro-porn kunye no-anti-porn, kodwa elumkisa ngemiphumela ye-porn yanamhlanje kulutsha.)
Kubasebenzisi abaninzi bezononografi, bathanda ukutshintsha-ngokubanzi ngokunyuka ukuya kwizinto ezinzima. Ngaphezu koko, ukutshatyalaliswa koononophala umntu oqala ngawo, umngcipheko omkhulu wokuba uya kufuna enye into ibe iyatshisa kungekudala. Ubungqina bokuba u-Anecdotal bubonisa ukuba ngaphambili umntu uqala ukujonga izinto ezigabadeleyo, ukunyuka okunyukayo kunye nokuqina kokunyanzelwa. Olu hlobo lokugqibela luyaphazamisa, kuba abasebenzisi bekhompyuter abancinci banamhlanje baqala ngoononophelo olucace gca kunolo playboy amaphephancwadi. Njengoko bahlala kwi-porno abaqala ngayo, abanye abasebenzisi bafumana i-kinkier, ubudlova obuninzi, izinto ezininzi ezibangela ukubulela imeko ephathelene ne-dopamine.
Kwinqanaba elincinane, ukuhlala kude noononopopayi kunye nefantasy yefostile kuyabuyisa ngokukhawuleza le miba. Kodwa ukubuyiselwa kwakhona kwengqondo kuthatha ixesha kunye namandla okungaqheleki. Ukuphindaphinda ukukhawuleza ngokumema, kunye nokuqinisa ingqondo engafuniyo. Uninzi lwabasebenzisi benza kuphela i-heroic feat yokuvuselela xa beqonda ukuba baneengxaki ze-erectile kunye namaqabane oqobo, okanye xa bekhula bengakhathazeki ngokukhawuleza malunga nokufuna kwabo okungafunekiyo ukuvusa okuphakamileyo kuye kwafika. Ngelo xesha, ke, ukuxhalabisa kwabo kungabangela ukuba inkululeko ibe yinto enamandla. Umzekelo oqaqambileyo wale ngqungquthela yi-HOCD (ingxaki yobundlobongela): ngamadoda ukuguqulwa ngu-sexual sex or homosexual. (Kodwa kukho ezinye iindawo ezinokubandezeleka, ezinjengezononono zabantwana.)
Ibali elilandelayo, elibaliswa ngumdala oneminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala, enye yee-akhawunti ezifanayo eziye zafika kum nyaka odlulileyo (eli thunyelwe kunokuba lixesha):
Abahlobo bam bonke babethetha nge-intanethi ye-intanethi kunye nama-movie angabonakaliyo kwi-intanethi. Ngaloo mini ndafumana i-Intanethi ndaya kwiindawo ezingamanyala. Emva kwethutyana, iphonografi eqhelekileyo yayingavulekanga, ke ndaye ndaya kwimifanekiso engamanyala, eyayivusa ngokukhethekileyo. (Wow amabhinqa amabini abelana ngesondo nomnye nomnye?!)
Iminyaka idlulile, kwaye ngolunye usuku ndikhangela iphonografi ndabona intengiso ye-shemale porn. Andikwazi kuchaza okwenzekileyo. Andizange nditsaleleke ngaphambili ebomini bam, kodwa, ngequbuliso, umbono wokuba umfazi onepenisi wabonakala… unomdla? Andazi ukuba ligama elililo elo.
Into ethile yavele yanyuka entlokweni yam, ngokungathi yinto "ephezulu" entsha. I-porn ye-lesbian ngoku ibonakala iqhelekile. Ndiyakwazi ukuxela into eyayingalunganga, kuba njengoko ndandiphulula amalungu esini, ndaziva ndigula ngokwasemzimbeni. Ndicinga ukuba, "AKUKHO uzive ulungile, kodwa kuyandivusa. Ngoba?"
Ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiyeke. Emva kweveki yokungabikho kwe-masturbating (KAKHULU kunzima kule nkwenkwana eneminyaka eyi-15), ndabuyela kwi-porno yesiqhelo. Umtsalane wam wabasetyhini kunye ne-vaginas wawukhulu, kwaye uvusa kwakhona. Kodwa emva koko ndaqala ukujonga "iFutanari," ubugcisa babasetyhini abanesondo kunye nelungu lobufazi. Le yayiyenye "indumasi" kum. Emva koko ndabuyela kwi-pornography.
Le minyaka yokugqibela ye-4-5 ibibhidisa kakhulu. Ngokwentlalo, nditsalelekile kubafazi kwaye andinamtsalane emadodeni. Kuphantse ngokungathi ndoyike ngakumbi ukuba neentlobano zesini ezingamanyala ezindivusayo, kokukhona iyenzayo, ukuba iyavakala.
Ndacinga ukuba ndingaba nesini okwexeshana. Ndivavanye umbono ngelixa ebusuku. Ndaphela ukuthandana nentombazana ethile, kwaye ndijonge abanye abafazi ndicinga, "Le ntombazana indijonge nje, intle!" kwaye ukungahoyi ngokupheleleyo amadoda. Andiziva "ndithanda isini" entliziyweni yam. Ukuba bendinemvakalelo efanayo yothando endinayo kubafazi, emadodeni, bendiya kuba bi / gay kwentliziyo, kodwa uthando, "ngokwendalo," akukho nje kwaphela.
Nangona kunjalo, emva kokuhlambalaza i-pornography, ndiba nexhala lokuba ndinokuba li-gay / bisexual. Ndixakile. Isizathu nanini na xa ndiza kukhupha i-ejaculate, ngokukhawuleza ndicinga ngomfazi kunye nesini. Ndihlala ndiyenza le nto, nditsho nokujonga iphonografi. Ndihlala ndicinga ukuba ndilala nomfazi omhle. Ngaphakathi emazantsi ndiyazi ukuba ndingumntu othe tye. Kubomi bokwenyani andikwazi ukuthetha namantombazana. Nditsaleleke kubo.
Umlwelana wam wesilonda wanda ngakumbi, apho ndandidlala khona i-4-5 ngamaxesha onke ngosuku, ndingenamandla kwaye ndingaphumi. Ndahlala ekhaya ukuba ndihlaziye i-masturbate kunokuya kwikholeji. Emva koko, ndatshwenyeka xa ndifumana indoda ekhutshwe ifilimu ephosakeleyo yoonwabo. Le nto yayingumgubo wokugqibela kum, kwaye ndaqala ukuqonda ukuba ngokwenene ndinomlutha ogqithisayo.
Eli lelona nqanaba ndikulo ngoku, ndibhidekile kuba, emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zokungabinanto yokuphulula amalungu esini, ndavuswa yintombazana eyedwa, kunye ne-porn yamanyala. Kodwa ngoononophala obunobunqunu ndinokutya ixesha elide. Ndiyidlwengula njengamaxesha e-9-11 ngosuku olunye, nangona i-pornography ifumana "i-taboo" kunye ne "naughty," kum, ngakumbi xa ndihlaziya i-masturbate. Umzekelo oqhelekileyo uya kuba yi-1-3 iividiyo zichanekile, i-4-6 shemale, ixesha le-7-9th baya kuba ngama-gay / mna balawulwa. Iyadida ke leyo.
Kungekudala, ndaphumile kunye nosapho kwimihla ye-3-4 kwaye ndandikude kunye nekhompyutha kunye ne-intanethi. Andizange ndihlale ndicinga malunga neentlobano zesini. Ndiyakhumbula ukuhamba ngaselunxwemeni ndicinga ukuba kwakuya kuthanda ukuba ndibe nentombazana kunye nam. Emva koko ndahleka, ndikhumbula indlela ndidideke ngayo nangona iingcinga zothando zentloko yam zihlala zibhekiselele kubafazi. Xa ndabuyela ekhaya ndenza i-masturbated kwi-porno eqondekileyo iintsuku ezimbalwa. Emva koko, ubuyele kwi-pornographic shemale.
Ndiyabheja ukuba ndazalwa kwiminyaka eli-10 ngaphambili, kwaye ndingazange ndayibona le ntengiso yokuqala ye-shemale, oku ngekhe kwenzeke, kodwa hey, ayinakukutshintsha okwadlulayo. Ndizakuzama ngenene ukutshintsha ikamva lam!
Ndicinga ukuba kungekudala le ngxaki izakufumana ingqalelo eyandayo njengoko isizukulwana esilandelayo-esizelwe ngokungena kwi-Intanethi kunye nayo yonke loo nto iphonografi ifumaneka ngokucofa imouse- iya kusokola kakhulu kunam. Ndicinga ukuba xa ndigqibile ukwenza oku, ndiza kunikela ngemali kumbutho olwa noononophala, oya kuthi, ndinyaniseke, ngaphambi kokuba ndicinge ukuba liqela lezinto ezibulala abantu.
Ngokusisiseko ndiyintombi enyulu ngenxa yesiyobisi sikhohlakeleyo. Ndine ntombazana encinci kwiiveki ezimbalwa. Ndabona ukuba ndandiphulula amalungu esini ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye ndicinga ngaye endaweni yoko. Isihogo, bendonwabe kakhulu ndade ndakwazi ukufumana ulwakhiwo ngokusebenzisa ijean eziqinileyo awandithengela zona (ubungakanani obungalunganga). Kwakungathi bazakwenza iibhola zam ziqhume. Ha ha! Ndifuna ukufumana intombi engummangaliso kwaye ndibenexesha elimnandi kakhulu naye. Andifuni ukuhlala egumbini lam lokulala ngokuphulula amalungu esini kubomi bam bonke.
Ndicinga ukuba kungekudala le ngxaki izakufumana ingqalelo eyandayo njengoko isizukulwana esilandelayo-esizelwe ngokungena kwi-Intanethi kunye nayo yonke loo nto iphonografi ifumaneka ngokucofa imouse- iya kusokola kakhulu kunam. Ndicinga ukuba xa ndigqibile ukwenza oku, ndiza kunikela ngemali kumbutho olwa noononophala, oya kuthi, ndinyaniseke, ngaphambi kokuba ndicinge ukuba liqela lezinto ezibulala abantu.Inxalenye yengqondo elawula isondo kunye nokutya yinto yokuqala ukuba ivavanye ixabiso lomsebenzi ngokobungakanani bayo i-dopamine. Xa umsebenzisi efumana into eyothusayo, ingqondo yakhe yakudala (limbic) ithatha ukuba kukho into exabisekileyo ejikeleze, kwaye uyambongoza baxhaphaze ngokupheleleyo.
Ngelishwa, inokukwenza oko okwethutyana ukuphendula impendulo yakhe yolonwabo ngoko ke iya kuphela kukuqhekeka okungaphezulu kokuqhelekileyo kwe-dopamine, oko kukuthi, ukothusa ngakumbi okanye inkuthazo yenoveli. Ngokungafaniyo nookhokho bethu, abasebenzisi be-porn banamhlanje banako rhoqo fumana into engakumbi engqondweni.
I-roulette ye-Porn iholele kwindawo engafunekiyo, kodwa umba awukho umxholo othile. Ingxaki ikhona kwi ubukhulu bokuqala kokugqithisa-Kwimeko yalo mfo, iphonografi ngqo. Kulapho iminqweno yento yomelele ngakumbi iqala khona. Qaphela ukuba ukuthanda kwakhe kuyatshintsha umva Nanini na xa eyeka ukusebenzisa iphonografi. Ukubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunokuthetha ukukhwabanisa kwangaphambili kwi-orgasm okwethutyana, kuba ingqondo yakhe isenokungakhathali ngokwaneleyo ekuqaleni kwi-orgasm ngaphandle kwe-porn okanye umbono wobugqwetha. Kuyothusa kwinkcubeko yanamhlanje.
Abasebenzisi bacinga nge-porn "eyona ilungileyo" njenge-porn ebasusa ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokukhawuleza, kodwa oko kunokuba yeyona porn iphambili. Ayizizo zonke iingqondo eziya kuchaphazeleka ngokulinganayo, kunjalo. Okwangoku i-superstimuli inokwenza ukuba kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba ukuthanda komsebenzisi kusebenze ngendlela engalindelekanga kunye nezikhokelo zokuvelisa uxinzelelo.
Ubuchopho obutsha buneplastiki kakhulu, kodwa nangona kunjalo, izithuba zalo mfana zibonisa ukuba uyasokola ngokwenene, hayi ngempumelelo ngokupheleleyo, ukuhlala kude ne-porn. Kwimeko yakhe, ukudideka ngenxa yokuthanda kwakhe kunxulunyaniswe ngamandla kwingqondo yakhe ekuvukeni, kubonakala ukuba lenza uxinzelelo kwinxalenye yesiko lokunyanzelwa. Ngesiqhelo, kukho kakhulu iforamu esebenzayo abantu abadandathekileyo abanjwe kule ndlela yokunyanzeliswa.
Okukwintsusa: Ingqondo exhwilwe ngexesha le-roulette ye-porn inokuhlala malunga naphina. Yeyiphi elungileyo… ukuba uyayithanda indawo oya kuyo.
Ngenkxaso yezobugcisa jonga- Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokunika ingxelo ezifunyenweyo ezihambelana nokwanda kokusetyenziswa kwe-porn (ukunyamezelana), ukuhlala kwi-porn, kunye neempawu zokurhoxa (zonke iimpawu kunye neempawu ezinxulumene nomlutha).
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- Unokumthemba uYohson wakho? - Ngaba i-intanethi yenza ukuba ubulili besilisa bube neplastiki?
- Ulwaphulo lwe-HOCD? I-HOCD enxulumene noonomonde ingabiza iprotocol yayo yonyango
- Ngaba ubulili beliphoyisa liphazamise ngonaphakade? (Salon.com)
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Ndandifuna ukukubulela ngecandelo lakho, Ukulahlekelwa kwi-Porn Roulette.
Phantse igama ngelizwi, ndihambile ndenza into efanayo njengabafana kwinqaku lakho, kwaye ukufunda amagama akho bekufana nokuphakamisa imaski yobuso bomnye umntu kum. Ndiqala nje kwangoko nge-Intanethi, andizange ndibenalo ithuba lokuzenzela ubuwena: endaweni yoko, ndanikwa enye yi-dopamine ezantsi ukuhla okudityaniswa nokufikelela okungapheliyo kwe-Intanethi.
Ndiyazi ukuba andinguye loo mntu, kwaye ndididekile ngokuba neempawu ezifanayo nezabafana kwinqaku lakho; Ndiye ndazibamba ekwenzeni ubudlelwane obunothando ngenxa yale nto. Kukho into enamandla kakhulu malunga nokubona ezona ngcinga zam, iimpawu kunye namaxhala, ngokwembono yomnye umntu.
Awazi ukuba undincede kangakanani. Enkosi kakhulu.
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Izinto ezinje zenzeke kum. Kwadlula ixesha ndacinga ukuba ndibe ngumlingo wesibini / bi okanye into ethile. Inentliziyo yam ndiyazi ukuba ndithandwa kakhulu kumantombazana. xa ndihamba ngaphandle koononophala, kufuneka kube nzima kakhulu, okanye ndifuna ngokwenene. Ukuba ndihamba iiveki ze-3 inyanga, ndinokululaza ngokukhawuleza kanye okanye kabini kwimifanekiso yabantombazana abambethe. emva koko ndibuyela kumabhayisikobho anzima, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ekugqibeleni ekugqibeleni ukuya kwiingcingo kunye ngamanye amaxesha.
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