Ileta evulekileyo eya kuSimon Louis Lajeunesse
UProfesa othandekayo uLajeunesse,
Ndisandula ukufunda ngesigqibo sakho sokuba Iphonografi ayiyingozi. Ndiyazibuza ukuba kufanelekile na ukuyila kwakhona iphepha lemibuzo. Ndikhe ndangqina (ngesandla esisekho) ububi obuninzi obuvela kwi-porn, kunye nezinye izibonelelo ezimangalisayo zokuzishiya ngasemva. Into endiyifundayo iphakamisa ukuba kuya kufuneka ubuze imibuzo eyahlukileyo yezifundo zakho ukuba ufuna ukulinganisa ubungozi bokusetyenziswa kwe-Intanethi kwi-Intanethi.
Ayindothusi into yokuba umngcipheko okhawulezileyo kubantu besithathu abasebenzisa iphonografi awuncinci. Ndixhalabile ngakumbi ngomngcipheko kubasebenzisi ngokwabo.
Ndinombono oyingqayizivele ngenxa yokuba i-website yam iyakhanga ukutsala amadoda amaninzi afakwe kwi-pornography kwaye enqwenela ukuyeka. (Kuba kutheni, yabona Yintoni Abasisondezayo AbangifundisayoXa bekwazi ukuphuma kwi-unokok-ngokubanzi emva kovavanyo olunzima-baxela ukwehla koxinzelelo lwasentlalweni, ukuzithemba okwandileyo, umtsalane omkhulu kumaqabane okwenyani, kunye nolonwabo ngakumbi kubumnandi bobomi obufihlakeleyo. Uninzi lwamava abo luqokelelwe kwisahluko esibizwa Umendo ogqithiseleyo.
Ukucacisa nje ukuba ndivela phi, andicingi ukuba eyona ngozi iphambili kwi-porn inento yokwenza nesondo ngokuthe ngqo. Kuvela kwisiphumo sokhuthazo olunamandla kumjikelezo womvuzo wokujikeleza kwengqondo. Ukuba awuqhelani neli candelo lobuchopho, indima yalo ekuqhubeni isimilo sethu, inxenye yalo kumlutha, okanye indima ye-neurochemical dopamine kwezi nkqubo, ndingavuya ukucebisa ngezinto ezithile zokufunda. Nantsi nqaku elifutshane sisazinzulu esiza kukunika umbono wento endithetha ngayo.
Umngcipheko endifuna ukubona idilesi yeengcali nawo ukhona abasebenzisi bemidlalo yevidiyo. Inendalo kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi (okanye into) enokuthi inyanzeliswe ngenxa yeziphumo zedopamine kwingqokelela yomvuzo wokuqala wobuchopho. "Inoveli-on-demand" inomdla kakhulu kule ndawo yokuqala yengqondo, ukuba ukunyanzeliswa kuyingozi enkulu. Ngaba oku kunokuba yinxalenye yesizathu sokuba ungalifumani iqela elilawula iphonografi kwisifundo sakho? (Ngaphandle kweqela lolawulo, kunzima ukugqiba kwelokuba ukusetyenziswa kwamanyala akunaziphumo zibi.)
Ngelishwa, xa kufikwa ekuphulula amalungu esini kwinto ecacisa ngokwesini, uluntu lwethu luthanda ukulahleka kwiingxoxo malunga nokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo, umxholo, uxinzelelo ngokwesondo, kunye nokwenzakalisa abantu besithathu. Oku kugubungela umba obalulekileyo wokujikeleza komvuzo ekujikelezeni umvuzo. Eli candelo lobuchopho liguqukele ekuxabiseni kakhulu inoveli yokufuna, kodwa kunye ne-bonanza yemfuza yesondo kunye neqabane lenoveli. Ke ngoko, inkanuko yesini yanamhlanje, enikezela amaqabane amatsha ukugcuma kwi-ejaculate kunqakrazo ngalunye lwempuku, irejista njengeluncedo kangangokuba ingqondo iziphinda ngokulula ukuze ijonge ngakumbi nangakumbi kula mava "abalulekileyo".
Ukuqonda okucacileyo kwisekethe yomvuzo kutyhila ukuba kutheni ukufanisa kwakho ukuba "iintengiso zeVodka zezotywala kukuziphatha kakubi iphonografi" isenokungabi yeyona nto ifanelekileyo. Abasebenzisi be-porn basebenzisa imifanekiso engamanyala ukuphulula amalungu esini, ngaloo ndlela kuqiniswa iintambo zobuchopho babo nge-neurochemical blast ye-orgasm. Iintengiso zeVodka azizukufumana nabani na ophakamileyo. Iphonografi is umlutha; imifanekiso yeVodka ayikho.
Le nkqubo yokuphinda ibuye ibuye ilungelelanise ngokukhawuleza izinto eziphambili zomsebenzisi.
Ukuba likhoboka lephonografi kwi-Intanethi akusiso isikweko. … [Abasebenzisi be-Porn bahendelwa kwiiseshoni zoqeqesho zoononografi ezihlangabezana [nazo] zonke iimeko ezifunekayo kutshintsho lweplastiki kwiimephu zengqondo… [oko kukuthi,] ingqalelo ethandwayo, [ukuqiniswa, kunye nokudityaniswa kwedopamine yokudityaniswa konxibelelwano olutsha lwe-neural]. iphe. 108-9 Ubungqina Obuguqula nguNorman Doidge (2007)
Abanye abasebenzisi baqala ukuthatha indawo yobunono bobudlelwane ngobudlelwane obunobungane, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukufunda izakhono zobomi, njalonjalo. Umvuzo wabo wesiphaluka awubonakali ukuba lo mva ufanele umzamo.
Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokunyanzelwa kuvakala ngathi kuyonwabisa, kodwa ndithembe ukuba ayisiyiyo. Njengawo nawuphi na umlutha, ukukhuthaza okukhulu kunokubangela ukuba kubekho dopamine. Iziphumo zibandakanya ukuba zi ngafuni kwizinto ezonwabisayo zobomi, ezinje ngamakhubalo amaqabane aqhelekileyo, kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, aba kakhulu i-hypersensitive nakweyiphi na imikhondo ingqondo iziphinde yabuya yanxulumana “nesiqabu.” Ingqondo yomsebenzisi ihlala iskena imeko-bume yalo naluphi na uphawu lwezinto ezinokwabelana ngesondo eziya kuthi zilungiselele, kule meko, ukuphulula amalungu esini kwi-orgasm. Ukunyamezelana kuyakha, kusenza ukufuna izinto ezikhuthazayo ngakumbi kunyanzelekile ukukhulula usizi lokurhoxa.
Le indibaniselwano yeziphumo inokwenza umhlaba ubonakale ungwevu. Kuqhelekile ukuba amadoda abanjwe kulo mjikelo azive enexhala ekuhlaleni nabanye, uxinzelelo, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukungakhathali, njalo njalo. Kude kube "baqalisa" ubuchopho babo, ubomi bubonakala bungenantsingiselo, kodwa kusukelo olunye-olusisigxina lwezinto ezishushu. Okumangalisayo kukuba, iphonografi ayikunciphisi ukukhathazeka ngokwesondo, ngaphandle nje kwexesha elifutshane kakhulu… ngamanye amaxesha. Akuqhelekanga kubasebenzisi ukuba bazidle kunye ne-orgasm emva kwe-orgasm kuba abanako ukukrwela i-itch yabo ngempumelelo. (Ukuphakama okunamandla kubangela ukujula okukhulu, kunye nomnqweno wokufumana ngaphezulu.)
Rhoqo abasebenzisi abaqondi ukuba banamakhwiniba okanye into abayigqithayo de bayokuyeka ukusebenzisa iphonografi kwaye banike iingqondo zabo ithuba lokuba babuyele kwi-equilibrium. Ukurhoxa okude ukufezekisa oku kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu (ukugungqa, ukungalali, ukuphelelwa lithemba, iminqweno) kangangokuba abaninzi baziva bebanjisiwe.
Ndiyangqinela ukuba ukusetyenziswa koononophelo okugqithiseleyo kuqhutyelwa ngakumbi kunokuba kuqatshelwa, kwaye kwanda. Ndicinga ukuba ukuqinisekiswa kwendibano yam iya kubonakala ukuba uyayilungisa uphando malunga nendlela esetyenziswe ngumlobi I-Porn Porn-Off . Fumana ukuba i-porn-usebenzisa abathathi-nxaxheba befundayo bangaya kwiiveki ezimbalwa ngaphandle ukubukela iphonografi. (Ngokuphantse kubasebenzisi be-porn be-100, i-70% ayinakuhamba ngaphandle kwayo iiveki ezimbini kwi-Great Porn-Off.) Kananjalo, landela imeko yabo ngexesha abangenalo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, i-intanethi ye-intanethi ibonakala ibeka ingozi ekhethekileyo. Nantsi into ebhalwe yindoda enye kwiforum yam namhlanje:
Ngamaphephancwadi ama-porn amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuyilawula. ICos yayingeyiyo 'ekhethekileyo'. Kodwa ndathi ndakungena kwilizwe elingaqondakaliyo lamanyala e-intanethi, ingqondo yam yayifumene into eyayifuna nje ngakumbi nangakumbi…. Bendingaphandle kolawulo kwiinyanga ezingaphantsi kwe-6. Iminyaka yemags, akukho ngxaki. Iinyanga ezimbalwa ze-intanethi ye-intanethi ...
Oko kwathiwa, enye indoda ibonisa ukuba i-masturbation yaba yinyanzeliso kuye nangona engazange ayithande iifostile (ngaphambi kwe-Intanethi) kwaye akazange azive eneenetyala nge-masturbating. Ngokucacileyo, umvuzo wesiphaluka wentshukumo uyahluka.
Nditshilo ngasentla ukuba ndixhalabile kakhulu ngomonakalo kubasebenzisi be-porn ngokwabo. Inyaniso kukuba ndinenkxalabo enzulu ngathi sonke. Ndicinga ukuba iplanethi apho amadoda afundileyo ekhompyutheni ebeka umngcipheko omkhulu wokusebenzisa i-porn ngokunyanzelekileyo kunokuba yiplanethi engonwabanga. Khawufane ucinge zonke ezo nkosana zibambeke kwisinxibo sexoxo, zililize ukuzama ukunciphisa iminqweno yazo yokuvuselela ngakumbi nangakumbi, ngaphandle kwexesha elincinci, ubuntununtunu okanye isisombululo esishiyekileyo kuyilo, izizathu ezilungileyo, ubudlelwane, okanye ulonwabo lwendalo.
Nazi izikhundla zakutshanje zamadoda amabini abuyela ekulinganisweni:
Ndiziva kwakhona. Ndiva iimvakalelo kwakhona. Emva kokuba ndibuyile kwindlela yokubukela iphonografi, ndiyabona ukuba ndiyifumanisa incipha rhoqo xa ndiyibona. Ndilele ngexesha lomdlalo bhanyabhanya wabantu abadala ngobunye ubusuku! Umdla wam kwabasetyhini uphakamile, ukuzithemba kwam kuphakamile kwaye kundinika inkuthazo kwakhona. Ndingu 28 ngoku kwaye kude kube yiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ndaziva ndikhulile ngonyaka we-15. Kodwa njengoko ndiphilisa kwaye ndifumana kwakhona kwesi siyobisi, ndiziva ndinemvakalelo endingazange ndijongane nayo ngaphambili. Indincede ndakhula.
Ndikhululekile ngakumbi kum kwaye ndinokujonga abantu emehlweni, ngobubele kunye nokuzithemba okungaphezulu komntu. Ndinabafazi ababini abazazisa kum izolo, bandibamba isandla kwaye BABAMBA. Wowu. Ndandikhululekile xa ndithetha naye wonke umntu- ingeyiyo eyam indebe yokulinda ukuze ndithethe okanye ndizame ukungxamisa umntu ngento abacinga ukuba yindoda epholileyo. Ndinesiqalo sesisombululo ngoku, kwaye i-groin yam iziva yomelele kwaye "inoxolo"? Ndabhala amaphepha amabini eskripthi esiya kwicala elinzulu nangaphezulu kunokuba bendizimisele. Ukuzilolonga kuphahla.
Ndiyathemba ukuba unokufumana indlela yokulinganisa izinto ezinjalo, ngenxa yokuba uyavuya, amadoda aphilileyo ancedo oluxabisekileyo. Nasiphi na isiganeko, ndinqwenela okulungileyo kakhulu ngophando lwakho.
EZIPHAKATHI:
- Ukuxilongwa ngokusemthethweni? Incwadi yokusetyenziswa kwezifo zonyango ngokubanzi, Ulwahlulo lwaMazwe ngamazwe (ICD-11), iqulethe uvavanyo olutsha ezifanele ukuxhatshazwa koonwabo: "Ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo ngokunyanisekileyo. "(2018)
- Umlingo woTywala / wesondo? Eli phepha liluhlu Izifundo ze-39 ze-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-FMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Banikela ngenkxaso enamandla kwimodeli yoxilongo njengoko iziphumo zabo zibonakalisa iziphumo zeengqondo ezichazwe kwizifundo zokuxhatshaliswa kweziyobisi.
- Iingcamango zangempela zeengcali zoononongo / isondo? Olu luhlu luqulethe 16 Ukuphononongwa koncwadi kwangoku kunye neenkcazo ngenye yezinzulu zenzululwazi kwihlabathi. Yonke inkxaso ngenkxaso yomzobo.
- Iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa kunye nokunyuka kwamanqaku angaphezulu? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokunika ingxelo ezifunyenweyo ezihambelana nokwanda kokusetyenziswa kwe-porn (ukunyamezelana), ukuhlala kwi-porn, kunye neempawu zokurhoxa (zonke iimpawu kunye neempawu ezinxulumene nomlutha).
- Ukuxubusha ingongoma engathethiweyo yokuthetha "inqweno yesini ephakamileyo" ichaza ukuxhatshazwa koonobumba okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini: Ubuncinci izifundo ze-25 zikhohlisa ibango lokuba isini kunye neziyobisi ezingamanyala "banomnqweno ophezulu wesondo"
- Iiduna kunye neengxaki zesondo? Olu luhlu luqukethe izifundo ze-26 ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koonwabo / ukuxhatshazwa koononophelo kwiingxaki zesini kunye nokwenyuka kokunciphisa isisombululo sezesondo. I fIzifundo ze-5 ziluhlu lubonisa bangela, njengabathathi-nxaxheba baqhelise ukusetyenziswa koononophelo kunye nokuphulukisa izifo ezingasinikiyo zesondo.
- Imiphumo yeSigxina kwimibutho? Izifundo eziphantse ze-60 zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo ukuya kwisini esincinci kunye nolwaneliseko lobuhlobo. (Ngokuba sifuna zonke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zaxela ukusetyenziswa koononophelo olunxulumene nalo zihlwempu zesini okanye ukwaneliseka kobudlelwane.)
- Ukusetyenziswa koonobumba kunokuchaphazela impilo yengqondo nengqondo? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-55 ezinxibelelanisa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn nakwimpilo yengqondo-yeemvakalelo kunye neziphumo ezibi zokuqonda.
- Ukusetyenziswa koonobumba kunokuchaphazela iinkolelo, iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha? Hlola uphando lomntu ngamnye Izifundo ze-25 zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo "kwiingcamango ezingafaniyo" malunga nabasetyhini kunye neengcamango zesondo - okanye isishwankathelo kule mvavanyo-meta ye-2016: Imidiya kunye nokuSondo: I-State of Research Empirical, 1995-2015. Ngcaciso:
Injongo yale ngongoma yayiwukuba kuhlanganiswe uphando lweempawu zokuhlola uphando lwezesondo zoxhatshazo. Ugxininiso lwaluphando olushicilelwe ekuhlaziyweni koontanga, iincwadi zeelwimi zesiNgesi phakathi kwe-1995 kunye ne-2015. Iimpapasho ze-109 eziqulethwe zifundo ze-135 zahlaziywa. Iziphumo zanikezela ubungqina obuqhubekayo bokuthi ukuboniswa kwebhubhoratri kunye nokuhlaliswa rhoqo kwimihla ngemihla kuhambelana ngqo nemiphumo eyahlukeneyo, kubandakanywa amanqanaba aphezulu ekunganeliseki komzimba, ukuzithemba okukhulu, ukuxhaswa okukhulu kweenkolelo zesini kunye neenkolelo zentlobano zesini, kwaye ukunyamezela okukhulu kobundlobongela ngesondo malunga nabasetyhini. Ngaphezu koko, ukuchazwa kokulinga kwesi siqulatho kubangela ukuba amabhinqa namadoda abe nombono oncitshiswe ngokubhekisele kwiinkalo zabasetyhini, ukuziphatha kunye noluntu.
- Kuthiwani ngoxhatshazo ngokwesondo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana? Olunye uhlalutyo lweemeta: I-Meta-Uhlalutyo lweeNzame zoTywala kunye nezoNyathelo zeZenzo zoLwabizo ngokwesondo kwi-Studies General Population (2015). Ngcaciso:
Izifundo ze-22 ezivela kumazwe ahlukeneyo akwa-7 zahlaziywa. Ukusetyenziswa kwakunxulumene nobudlova ngokwesondo kwi-United States nakumazwe ngamazwe, phakathi kwamadoda kunye nabesifazane, kunye nokufundiswa kwexesha kunye nexesha elide. Amanyano ayomelele ngokuthetha ngaphezu kwesondo, nangona bobabini bebalulekileyo. Umzekelo jikelele weziphumo uphakamise ukuba umxholo onobundlobongela unokuthi ube yinto enzima.
- Kuthiwani malunga nokusetyenziswa koonwabo kunye nentsha? Khangela olu uluhlu lwangaphezulu Ucwaningo lwe-200 olutsha, okanye olu xwebhu lwe-2012 yophando - Impembelelo ye-intanethi ye-Internet kwi-Adolescents: Ukuphononongwa koPhando (2012). Ukususela kwisiphelo:
Ukwandisa ukufikelela kwi-Intanethi ngabaselula baye badala amathuba angakaze afikelele kwimfundo yesondo, ukufunda nokukhula. Ngokwahlukileyo, umngcipheko wengozi obonakalayo kwincwadi iye yabangela abaphandi ukuba baphenye ukutshatyalaliswa kwentombazana engamanyala kwi-intanethi ngokuzama ukuluhluza ukulwa. Ngokuhlangeneyo, ezi zifundo zibonisa ukuba ulutsha oludla uonografi luya kuba neengcinga kunye neenkolelo zesini. Phakathi kwezinto ezifunyenweyo, amanqanaba aphezulu eengqondo zengqondo, ukukhathazeka ngokwesondo, kunye nokuhlola kwangaphambili kwezesondo kuhambelana nokusetyenziswa rhoqo kweentlekiso zoonografi .... Nangona kunjalo, ukufunyaniswa okuqhubekayo kuye kwavela ekusebenzisaneni kweentlobo zoononografi ezibonisa ulutsha olubonisa ubundlobongela ngamanqanaba okwanda okuziphatha ngokwesondo. Uncwadi lubonisa ukulungelelaniswa phakathi kokusetyenziswa kwentetho yeentlekele kunye neengcinga zobuqu. Amantombazana abika baziva bengaphantsi kwababhinqa ababujonga kwizinto eziphathekayo zobulili, ngelixa abafana bekwesaba ukuba bangabi njengobomi okanye abakwazi ukwenza njengabo bantu kule mijelo. Iintsholongwane zivakalisa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwabo kwezonografi kunciphile njengoko ukuzithemba kwabo nentlalo yoluntu kwanda. Ukongezelela, uphando lubonisa ukuba abatsha abasebenzisa imifanekiso engamanyala, ngokukodwa efumaneka kwi-Intanethi, banamazinga aphantsi ekuhlanganisweni koluntu, ukwanda kweengxaki zokuziphatha, amanqanaba aphezulu okuziphatha kakubi, iziganeko eziphezulu zeempawu ezixinzelelekileyo, kunye nokunciphisa ukunyaniseka kwengqondo kunye nabaxhasi.
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