Ewe, kuyanceda ukujonga ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn njengokuziphatha kakubi?
Wathi umlutha ogqirhaxayo owonwabisayo owawuhlaziya rhoqo:
Ndade ndafunda kwaye ndafunda umsebenzi omkhulu wefilosofi nguPapa John Paul II onelungelo Uthando no xanduva. Ukuba ndihlala ndincoma incwadi komnye umntu, yile ncwadi. Ndifunde ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni iphonografi kunye nenkanuko ngaphambi kokuba uthando lungalunganga ngokuziphatha.
Ukubuyiswa kwe-Porn yindawo enye apho ukuziphatha okusemgangathweni kunokubuya, kubuyise ukubuyisela. Ujongene nenkqubo yeekhemikhali zobuchopho: i-dopamine dysregulation. Kuthatha ixesha kunye nokuhambelana ukubuyisela ingqondo yakho kubuntununtunu obuqhelekileyo. Le nkqubo yokuphilisa yendalo inokuphuculwa kakhulu ngokutshintsha iphonografi kunye nembuyekezo yokuba ingqondo yakho yavela yafuna. Izinto ezinjengokuzilolonga, ixesha kwindalo, kufutshane, ubuqabane obunokuthenjwa, ukudlala ngothando nabantu abanokuba ngamaqabane kunye nokuzola okunesondlo kunye nokunxibelelana nobuThixo. Ngokucacileyo, umthandazo unokuba yindlela yokuphumeza le yokugqibela. Kunjalo nokucamngca.
Ukuhlala kwizinto ezingalunganga
Intoni akwenzi Kubonakala ngathi ukunceda kukuhlala ekubeni kutheni ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn "kukuziphatha gwenxa." Isizathu kukuba ukwenza izinto "ezingalunganga" kuhlala kubonwa yingqondo yakho njengokonwabisayo, nobugorha kunye nobungozi. Ingqondo yakho yavela ukonwabela umngcipheko. (Kuyenze yanomvuzo ukuzingela i-mammoths.)
Xa ubuyela umva, okanye ucinga, imeko "engalunganga yokuziphatha" inokubangela uxinzelelo. Ukuba iphonografi ngumcimbi wokuziphatha, emva koko ubhengeza ukuba 'ungumntu oziphethe kakubi' ngalo lonke ixesha ubuyela umva. Okubi nangakumbi, yinxalenye yokuqala yengqondo yakho (engakwaziyo ukuqonda umxholo "wokuziphatha") iingcingo yonke into enxulumene nee-orgasms zakho ukuze "zivuse ngakumbi" kwixa elizayo.
Ke, eli candelo lengqondo yakho libambelela ngomsindo ekuvuseleleni kwakho ngokwesondo kunye ne-orgasms, hayi kwi-porn kuphela. Kukwacetywa ukuba uzive 'uxhalabile' kwaye 'uziphethe kakubi'. Ke, kwinqanaba lokuqala, "ukungaziphathi kakuhle, umngcipheko kunye noxinzelelo = isini esilungileyo." Kwaye okukhona uqinisa lomlinganiso, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuncothula kamva ebomini bakho. Uyabona ukuba kutheni uTed Haggard eqhubeka nokwandisa ukukhuthaza okuyingozi?
Ukongezwa okuqhutywa yi-dopamine
Inyani yile, unokuba ngumntu oziphethe kakuhle kakhulu… ngokuba likhoboka le-dopamine eveliswa ngoononophala, kunye notshintsho olunxulumene nengqondo. Ixesha. Olu tshintsho lubuyela umva, kwaye inkqubo yokubuyisa umva isebenza ngokuzimeleyo kokuziphatha kwakho.
Ngamafutshane, ukwenza iphonografi umba wokuziphatha kunokubangela ukuba ubukrelekrele. Ikwenza oku "ngokuvuza" (okanye ngokwenza kusebenze) ingqondo yakho kanye ngale ndlela uziphethe ngayo ofuna ukuyishiya ngasemva. Oku kunokwenza umsebenzi wakho ube nzima ngakumbi. Ukuba unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho, unokuqonda ukuba uyinyani ufuna Ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn kuhlala 'sisono,' kuba iyayisebenzisa zihlawulwe kwaye zivusa. Obu bubungqina bengxaki echazwe apha ngasentla. Ncuma nje ngamaqhinga obuchopho bakho bakudala obudlala kuwe. Yiyeke i-angle 'yesono' ehehayo, ngokwamkela ukuba lo ngumba nje onika ingqondo.
Unokwenza inkqubela phambili ngokunyanga i-porn ngaphandle kwento kodwa oopopayi ofuna ukuyeka ukuchitha ixesha lakho nabo. I-Erotica "yindlela yokuvelisa i-dopamine". Bayakuphazamisa kwimizamo ekufuneka uyenzile ukunxibelelana nabantu abanokubatshata ngokufanelekileyo. Akukho Okuninzi. Akukho kwahluka ngokukhukhumala icuba.
Indlela eluncedo yokuyeka
Ingcebiso: Ukuba ufuna ukuyeka iphonografi, yenza oko kuba ungazithandi iziphumo kunye nokuphazamiseka. Kodwa ungazami ukuyeka ngenxa yokuziphatha kakubi koononophala. Inokubuyisa ngokwenene.
Yintoni ongayenza ukudibanisa nabanye nabanye? (Ukunxibelelana nomdali wakho kunokuthuthuzela, nako, kodwa hayi ukuba kukwenza uzive ungafanelekanga, kuba oko kuyabangela uxinzelelo kwaye kunokukhuthaza ukubuyela umva.) Nika ingqondo yakho ngakumbi into eguqukileyo ukuyifuna, kwaye ayizukulambela imincili yokwenziwa.
Siva uvelwano oluninzi kubafana abakhuliswe ukuba banciphise isondo emtshatweni ngexesha apho i-cyber erotica "engenabungozi" ibikhona kuyo yonke indawo. Ngubani kuthi ngekhe acinge ukuba sisombulula ingxaki "ye-libido ephezulu, kodwa awukho umtshato / isondo ngaphambi kwexesha" ngokujikela kwi-porn? Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje Ukuqeqeshwa koonobumba kubungqina kwiindlela ezingalindelekanga.
Inyani yile, uya kuba ngcono ngakumbi xa unganxibelelani ngesondo nabantu onokuba nabo: Zama iklasi yomdaniso, ukunxulumana, ukusebenza kunye kwiiprojekthi, njl. Kwanokudlala ngothando kunokuba yinto ezolileyo kune-cyber erotica ekushiya ufuna okungakumbi. Kodwa ngubani owaziyo ???
Ingcebiso: Zixolele kwaye uphinde umise umzabalazo wakho njenge-chemistry engalinganiyo kunedabi lokuziphatha. Kulungile ukufuna uncedo lukaThixo. Kodwa cela ukuba ingqondo yakho iphinde ilungelelanise endaweni yokugxila 'kwizono' zakho. Mhlawumbi umdali wakho ukhetha ukuba usebenze ngamandla apheleleyo kunokuba ube yingcali "yesono."
Omnye ukufumana umlutha wathi:
Njengawe, bendilwela lo mkhwa iminyaka kunye neminyaka ndingasebenzisi nto ngaphandle kokuziphatha, kwaye bekungasebenzi. Akukho mali yokuzixelela ukuba 'le ayilunganga' iya kundenza ndiyeke. Ndandicinga ukuba ndingumntu owoyikekayo ongakwaziyo ukuyeka ukona.
Nangona kunjalo, ukucinga kwam kwakungaphelelanga. Njengoko uyazi, imfundiso yamaKatolika ithi isono sokufa sidinga iimeko ezintathu: 1) Kufuneka ibe ngumcimbi onobuzaza, 2) Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ayilunganga, kwaye 3) Kufuneka ukhethe ukuyenza. Ngezilingo, nangona kunjalo, akukho khetho olubandakanyekayo. Ke ngoko, ayinakuba sisono kwasekuqaleni! Awukhethi ukwenza i-PMO, ingqondo yakho engumlwelwe ikunyanzele ukuba uyenze ngokuchasene nentando yakho.
Ukungoni
Oku kwahluke kwaphela esonweni. Yiyo loo nto iCatechism ishiya "igatya elikhethekileyo" kumqolo wama-2352, icandelo eliphathelene nokuphulula amalungu esini: umkhwa, iimeko zoxinzelelo okanye ezinye izinto zengqondo okanye zentlalo ezinciphisa, ukuba zinganciphisi nakancinci, isimilo. ”
Ukufunda malunga noku kundenze ndaziva ndibhetele kakhulu ngam. Andinguye umntu ombi ngenxa yokuba ngempazamo ndanomlutha! Uya kuqala ukubona impumelelo engakumbi yokulwa nale nto njengesiyobisi kunokuba usisono nje.
Kubuhlungu; abagcini bethu abangamaKatolika bonke babengazi malunga namandla okulutha e-PMO. Ke bayifundisile kuthi ngokwendlela kuphela ababesazi- malunga nokuziphatha kunye nesono. (Ndixela kwangaphambili iihlelo zeCatechism ziya kuhlaziywa ukubonisa oko sikufundayo ngoku malunga nohlobo lweziyobisi kunye nefuthe lazo kwingqondo kunye nokukwazi ukukhetha.)
Ukuba ufumene le ngxoxo malunga nokuziphatha iluncedo, bona Ngaba i-porn iyinselele enkulu kunqulo lwabantu?
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