"Chaser" ligama elisoloko lisetyenziselwa ukuchaza iinkanuko ezinzulu ezilandela i-orgasm, mhlawumbi kwangoko okanye mhlawumbi ngosuku olulandelayo. Banokuthi bavele kutshintsho lwe-neurochemical ngokwendalo olubangelwa luvuthondaba. Amadoda ahlala exela ukuba umgxothisi uyancipha ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko ingqondo ifumana ibhalansi entsha ngexesha lokuqalisa kwakhona.
Ngaphezulu, funda Ngaba Ufuna Uncedo Emva Kosondo? Ukuxubusha ngokucacileyo ngeziganeko ze-neurochemical ezihlobene ne-ejaculation bonayo Amadoda: Ngaba ukunyuka kwexesha eliqhelekileyo kubangelwa iHangover? Isiphumo "sokusukela" asikafundwa ngokusesikweni okwangoku, kodwa kuqhelekile.
Nazi iingxelo zakho ezizezakho ezinobungqina bokuba "usukele" (ngakumbi iingxelo zakho unokuzifumana Ngaba Ufuna Uncedo Emva Kosondo?):
Akukho fap kunye nolwalamano lunokubonakala lulula ukusuka ngaphandle njengoko abantu becinga ukuba unokwenza ukutshatyalaliswa ngesondo kwaye ngoxa ubulili bokwenyaniso bubangela "i-Chaser Effect" xa unxinxile kakhulu 1 kwiintsuku ze-3 emva kwesondo. Njalo xa ndibuya kwakhona kwixesha elidlulileyo kwakuneentsuku ezimbini zesini.
Ekugqibeleni kumhla wosuku lwe-7, ndingazichaza ngokucacileyo utshintsho olukhulu! Ukugxininiswa kwam kwakucacile, ukuzithemba kwam kwakuphezulu kakhulu, kwaye ukuvelisa kwam kuphuculwe kakhulu. Bendikwi "La La Land" ngandlela zonke. Ngapha koko, ndiyonwabele "i-buzz yengqondo" yeNoFap yonke into engaphezulu "kokonwaba" kwe-orgasm ngokudibanisa. Ngenxa yokufun 'ukwazi, ndikhetha ukubuyela umva ngokwam ndize ndibone ukuba la "magunya aphezulu" ohlobo aya kuncipha okanye hayi. Ndilayishe uluhlu lweewebhusayithi ezingamanyala kwaye ndawugcwalisa uxwebhu ngendlela yam yesiqhelo.
Emva kwemizuzwana emva kokuhamba, ukutshintshwa kwesigaba kwimeko engqondweni engayivakalelwa kukuba yayimangalisa. Kwakunjengokungathi umgca omtsha wefog wawukhishwe phezu kwengqondo yam. Ngokukhawuleza, ndandiziva ndiziva ndixhalabile, ndonwabile kwaye ndaneliseki. Emva kokubuya kwam, ndazama ukubuyela emsebenzini wam wesikolo kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba kwakunzima ukuhlala emsebenzini.
Ngokukhawuleza ndaziva ndifuna ukuphinda kwakhona, khangela i-Imgur, jonga kuFacebook, ucoce indawo endihlala kuyo, uhlambe izitya, kwaye zonke izinto ezenziwayo ngaphandle kokugqiba izifundo ezikhoyo. Ndaya kwikholeji yam kamva emini ukuze ndidibane nabahlobo bam. Ngeli xesha imeko yam yokuzithemba ibiye yehla kakhulu. Ke bendithandabuza ngakumbi ukuncokola namanye amantombazana. Ngapha koko, ukubonisa imeko yam yesiqhelo yokuziqinisa kufuna umzamo odibeneyo ondenze ndaziva ndingonwabanga kulusu lwam. ingxelo
Impembelelo yokutshutshisa ingaba yingozi kakhulu. Okwangoku nangona ndingenayo iminqweno. Ukutolika kwam kukuba kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kuka-M kunye ne-PMO. M kukhutshwa okushiya amandla amancinci okwexeshana. I-PMO nangona kunjalo, ingumtyholi, yi-heroin ethe nyani ngengqondo yakho kwaye ikwenze unqwenele okubi. Ke ngoko, isiphumo sokuxothana sihambelana ngakumbi ne-PMO kuno-M, kumava am. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzama ukubambelela kwi-M kwixa elidlulileyo kundikhokelele ekubeni ndiqale ukusebenzisa imifanekiso kunye neemovie kwakhona kunye noM, ke ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kuba ngononophelo ngakumbi.
Ndicinga ukuba umahluko ngeli xesha kunye ne "sicwangciso somdlalo" sam esitsha kukuba ndinenjongo entsha emva kokuba ukuqala kwakhona kugqityiwe. Emva kokuqalisa kwam kokugqibela ndicinga nje ukuba ndingakwazi uM nanini na ndifuna, kodwa ayisosicwangciso silungileyo somlutha we-pmo. Ukuba uqala ukuphulula amalungu esini nanini na ufuna, emva kwethutyana kuya kudika kwaye uya kufuna ngakumbi ukukhuthaza amava.
Inye into ebindibulala nangona 'sisiphumo sokuleqa'. Oko kukuthi, izibongozo ezinkulu ozifumanayo, kwimeko yam, iiyure ze-12-24 emva kwe-O. Ndizamile iindlela ezimbalwa kwi-PMO ngaphambili kwaye oku bekuhlala kukuwa kwam. Kodwa ndiyakholelwa ukuba indlela odlula ngayo kukuqonda imiqondiso. Ngoku ndiqinisekile ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha ndine-O, ndiyayilandela ngemini exakekileyo yokuba ngaphandle kwendlu kwaye ndikufutshane nabantu, ngokuchasene nokulala ebhedini yam hungover kwaye ndikhangela i-intanethi ngaphandle komnqophiso, kwaye ukuza kuthi ga ngoku usebenze unyango.
Namhlanje ndibona izibongozo ezisuka kwimayile enye. Ngoku ndiyabamkela. Ndiyayibona into ayenzayo ingqondo yam encinci. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba olu hambo beluya kuba lula ukuba bendihamba nge-PMO epheleleyo kwaye ndiphepha ukusebenza kwe-chaser, kodwa leyo yingcebiso yam eluncedo kwabanye abanjengam. Oko ndayeka, ndizijonga ndikude, kwaye ndingoyena mntu ndifuna ukuba nguye, umfo endakha ndaye ngamanye amaxesha ngaphambili. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/age-22-proactive-social-energetic-confident-all-my-friends-co-workers-have-noticed
Lumka: Umphumo weChaser ngabantu bokwenene. Bendinaye kwakhona izolo, ndifumene isenzo seRL, kodwa ngaphezulu kweentsuku ezi-3 ezidlulileyo iminqweno yam inyuke kalishumi. Okanye, ubukhulu becala, amandla am okuchasa anqabile itoni. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2rooc0/beware_the_chaser_effect/
Emva koko saya ebhedini. Ndiqala ukukrazula iimpahla kwaye NDIQINILE UKUQHUBA (woohoo!) Silala ngesondo malunga neeyure ezi-2 ezinesiqingatha, ekufuneka ibe irekhodi kum ngokudubula okude. Ukhululekile ngokwenene, kodwa uvulekile kwaye unyanisekile. Andiyenzi i-orgasm kude kube sekupheleni (kufuneka ndivume ukuba oko kungenxa yokungabuyiselwa kwakhona ngokupheleleyo). Nangona kunjalo ndinayo i-orgasm enamandla esekwe kwimvakalelo kunye nomzuzu. YAYINGAMAVA anjalo. Ngokukodwa kuba intombazana yokugqibela endiyizise ekhaya (pre nofap) yayicaphuka xa ndingakwazi ukuyifumana kwaye yashiya ngokukhawuleza. Akunamava amnandi! ingxelo
Ngapha koko, ndinamava esiphumo esoyikisayo sokuleqeka. Ndiyothuka kakhulu ngentsasa elandelayo xa ndihlamba. Kwakhona, ingqondo yam kufuneka ikhuphe i-dopamine kakhulu ngorhatya kangangokuba ndixinzelelo kakhulu ngosuku olulandelayo. Ndiyidlwengula ngokuphindaphindiweyo (akukho noononophala nangona ndilingwa kakhulu, kwaye ndicinga nje ngamava kunye novakalelo). Ndiyicwangcisile kwakhona ikhawuntari yam (konke malunga nemowudi enzima akunjalo?!) Kodwa ndiza kuzigcinela ikhawuntari eyahlukileyo. Kukufunda okuhle kwikamva. Ndizigcinile izandla zam kuyo namhlanje!
Ngenxa yokuba senze uthando olumnandi phezolo, unkosikazi wam uthathe isigqibo sokuncamathisela iholo, kwaye ndibone ukuba bendijonge ntoni ngale ntsasa. (Uyazi malunga nokusukela. Uye wajonga iifestile zam: Facebook, iintaka ezinomsindo / iReddit Akukho fap / umqeqeshi weGalufa kwintombi yam. Ke ndenze njengaye nawuphi na umkhosi weFap. Ndaye ndamleqa ndaya egumbini lokulala, Ndambonisa ukuba ndileqa ukuthanda kwakhe ngoku! YIYA MNA NDIYE NDIYE! Kwaye ngoku ndilibele ukuya emsebenzini… Kufanelekile!
Ngoku ndiyibiza ngokuba yi-Chase ~ yakhe impembelelo kuba wenza ukuba ndimfune emva kwayo. Ndimxoshe yonke imini, lol.
Izolo, bendinomhla # 2 nale redhead intle. Siye saya kumovie emva koko ndacebisa ukuba siye endaweni yam. Inye into ekhokelele kwenye, kwaye bekukho ii-orgasms kuthi sobabini. Kulungile, Namhlanje, nangona kunjalo, ndineminqweno enzulu ngesiquphe yokuba fap. Kwaye ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ndinayo yempembelelo ukusuka ekubeni ne-orgasm izolo. I-NoFap ibeka umzimba wam "kwimodi yokuphilisa". Amandla am aziva ekhungathekile kwaye i-libido yam ibonakala iyancipha-phantse njengemodi yokulala kwikhompyuter.
Ndiyakwazi phantse bazive Ingqondo yam i-dopamine receptors ibuyela esiqhelweni (ayihlali kakuhle btw). Kodwa i-orgasm izolo uhlobo ibangele ukuba iphinde ibuye kwakhona. Ukuya kwendalo kolu khululo bekusoloko kuyi-PMO. Ngokukhawuleza izibongozo zam zibuyile. Konke oku ukutsho, kulungile ukwazi ukuba isiphumo sokuleqa yinto eyinyani. Nokuchonga ukufika kwayo. Lumka iChaser-Ubungqina bokuqala besandla
Ndikhumbula ndifunda malunga ne "chaser effect" kwiintsuku ezingama-90 ezidlulileyo kwaye ndingacingi ukuba kuya kwenzeka kum. Hayi indlela endandiphazama ngayo! Isiphumo sokusukela yinto enamandla.
IINKCUKACHA ZOKUPHATHA
Ngelixa singazi ngalo naluphi na uphando malunga nokuzisukela, ubungqina besiphumo bunokubakho kwiziphumo zezi zifundo:
Ngaba i-Cyber Pornography Sebenzisa i-Inventory-izikolo ze-9 zibonakalisa ukunyanzeliswa okwenene kwi-Intanethi ye-Iphonyayili? Ukuqwalasela indima yokuzilahla (2017). Kumadoda azama ukuyeka ukubukela iphonografi kwiintsuku ze-14, kodwa avunyelwa ukuba enze enye "imisebenzi yesondo" (ukuphulula amalungu esini, ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nokubukela iphonografi), bekukho ulungelelwaniso oluphakamileyo ngokumangalisayo phakathi kokuzibandakanya kwesinye isondo umsebenzi kunye nokubukela iphonografi kwi-intanethi ("ukungaphumeleli ukuzikhwebula"). Ngamanye amagama, "eminye imisebenzi yesondo" ayenzanga lula ukuba uyeke ukubonwa kwi-intanethi. Kususela kwiphepha:
[Iingcebiso zokuqonda amanani kwitafile: i-zero ithetha ukuba akukho ukulungiswa phakathi kweenguqu ezimbini; I-1.00 ithetha ukulungelelaniswa okupheleleyo phakathi kweenguqu ezimbini. Inkulu kakhulu inani elomeleleyo ukulungelelanisa phakathi kweenguqu ze-2. Ukuba inani linalo nciphisa uphawu, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho unxibelelwano olubi phakathi kwezinto ezimbini. (Umzekelo, kukho unxibelelwano olubi phakathi kokuzilolonga kunye nesifo sentliziyo. Ke, kulwimi oluqhelekileyo, umthambo uyawanciphisa amathuba esifo sentliziyo. Kwelinye icala, ukutyeba kakhulu kunento unxulumano oluhle ngesifo senhliziyo.]
Ngcaciso:
Iziphumo zibonise ukuba umnqweno wesini mihla le ubangela umnqweno wesini ngosuku olulandelayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu emadodeni, nokuba indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo ibibandakanyekile na.
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