NgoLwesihlanu, uMar. 07, 2008
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi, singamaFrentshi
Yintoni enokuba sisiFrentshi ngaphezu kwesondo? Ukwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi, njengoko kuvela-ngakumbi ukuba kwenzeka ukuba ube ngumfazi. Phantse iminyaka engama-40 emva kohlaselo lwaseFrance lwangoMeyi 1968 lwavelisa isiqubulo esithi “uyolo ngaphandle kokuthintelwa,” uphononongo olutsha lufumanise ukuba amaFrentshi abo bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini babandakanyeka kwisini esahluka-hlukeneyo nesihlala sihleli kunakuqala-kwaye ngaphambili nangasemva ebomini. Ukanti mhlawumbi eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufumaneni ingxelo yeyokuba abafazi baseFrance bebedlala ngokubambisa ngesondo kunye nabayeni babo ukusukela kuvavanyo lokugqibela lwesondo ngo-1992.
Ngokwamaphepha amatsha angama-600 athi “Study of Sexual in France,” agunyaziswe yi-Arhente yeSizwe yoPhando yase-France malunga noGawulayo, zombini inani lamaqabane kunye nokwahluka kwezesondo kuye kwanda kakhulu e-France kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo. Mhlawumbi ayimangalisi loo nto, xa ucinga ukuba kungakanani okhoyo kwezesondo kwezolonwabo, kwi-intanethi nakwingxoxo yoluntu. Ngaphantsi kulindelwe, nangona kunjalo, yindlela abafazi baseFrance abavale ngayo umsantsa kunye namadoda ngokwenani labathandi, ubudala bolwaluko, kunye nezenzo ezahlukeneyo ezenziweyo. Kwezinye iindlela, abantu basetyhini bawafumene amadoda okokuqala. Kuphela yi-3.5% yabasetyhini abaneminyaka eli-18 ukuya kwengama-35 ngoku abathi bayekelela ngokwesondo, umzekelo, xa kuthelekiswa ne-6.2% yamadoda akwiminyaka efanayo. Abafazi baseFransi balala ngesini ukusuka kumncinci kwaye baninzi rhoqo ngaphambili, ngelixa i-20% yamadoda aseFransi aneminyaka eyi-18-24 iminyaka athi ayinomdla kwimisebenzi yesondo okanye yothando.
Uphononongo olwenziwe ngaphezu kwe-12,000 amadoda namabhinqa phakathi kweminyaka eyi-18 kunye ne-69, ingxelo ingxelo yobudala bokuqala kwesondo ukuba ibe yiminyaka eyi-17.2 yamadoda aseFransi, kunye ne-17.6 yabasetyhini-phantsi kwe-20 iminyaka phakathi kwabesifazane kwi-1996. (IAmanani athelekiswayo e-US bonisa ubungakanani beminyaka yobudala bokuqala ngokobudlelwane bokuqala njengeminyaka eyi-17.3 yamadoda kunye ne-17.5 yabasetyhini.) Inani labalingani bezesondo zobudlobongela buya kuphakama: Abafazi baseFransi phakathi kweminyaka eyi-30 kunye ne-49 babika i-5.1 abathandi ebomini babo (xa kuthelekiswa no-4 ngo-1992 no-1.5 ngo-1970). Amadoda akwiminyaka yobudala efanayo anika amanani aphakamileyo kakhulu - amaqabane ayi-12.9 namhlanje-kodwa atshintshe kancinci kunaleyo yabhengezwa ngo-1992 (12.6) no-1970 (12.8). Okwangoku, ipesenteji yabantu abathi banomlingane omnye kuphela kubomi babo iwile ukusuka kwi-43% ngo-1992 kubafazi ukuya kwi-34% namhlanje, xa kuthelekiswa ne-16% phakathi kwamadoda (ezantsi ukusuka kwi-18% kunye ne-21% ngo-1970 no-1992. ngokulandelelana). Iipesenti ezingama-90 ngokupheleleyo amabhinqa ngaphezu kweminyaka eyi-50 bathi bahlala besondo, ukuxuma okukhulu kwi-50% kwi-1970.
Isizathu sokuphawula ukuthintela? Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba utshintsho ikakhulu lubangelwa kukwanda kokufikeleleka kwimixholo yesondo kunye nokukhululeka okukhulu apho amaqabane anezinto ezifanayo anokufumana khona. Ingxelo ifumanise ukuba abantwana abathathu eFrance bayibonile ifilimu ye-porno eneminyaka eyi-11; I-10% yabasetyhini kunye ne-13% yamadoda, okwangoku, bathi baya kusebenzisa iiwebhusayithi ukunxibelelana nabantu abaza kuba ngamaqabane abo. Kwiminyaka emncinci, ipesenti yabasetyhini abasebenzisa umnatha ukulungiselela imihla idlula eyamadoda.
Kodwa konke oko kukonyuka okwandayo akuthethi ukuba amaFrentshi onwabile kwaye ahlengahlengiswe ngcono engxoweni. Phantse i-36% yabasetyhini baseFrance bathi baye bafumana "ukungabikho rhoqo" okanye ukungonwabi ngesondo kunyaka ophelileyo wobomi babo, ngelixa ngaphezulu kwe-21% yamadoda aseFrance abhengeze okufanayo. Oko kungachaza ukuba kutheni abaguli abangama-500,000 eFrance betyelela abacebisi ngesondo. Kodwa olu phononongo lubonisa ukuba ezinye zeentsomi ezinyamezelwayo zesondo laseFrance enyanisweni azinasiseko, ngakumbi imbambano yesiko lamadoda amaFrentshi ukuba inkanuko yesini yabo emikhulu ibanika izizathu zokukhohlisa ngakumbi. Abafazi baseFrance, kuvela, banokwenza impikiswano efanayo.
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