- Abantwana banako ukufikelela kwiimifanekiso engamanyala ngeendlela ezinobungozi ngokusebenzisa iifowuni
- I-polls ye-NSPCC ifunyenwe i-12 kwi-13-ubudala ubudala abanenkxalabo malunga nokutshaya
- Olunye uhlolisiso lubonakalise ukuba uThabhu ubengumntu ophezulu kumakhwenkwe aneminyaka eyi-11 eya kwi-16
- Enye inkwenkwe isebenzise i-wifi yommelwane ukufikelela kwi-porn xa abazali besusa i-iPad
Ngamakhwenkwe amathathu asetsheni endlini, uSally Shaw kunye nomyeni wakhe uSimon, igosa leMikhosi, bacinga ukuba bathathe yonke ingqalelo yokukhusela ngokukhuselekileyo kwi-intanethi.
Amakhwenkwe, amakhwenkwe kaSally, ayevinjelwe ekusebenziseni izixhobo kwigumbi labo emva kwentsimbi yeshumi ebusuku, kwaye i-wifi kwikhaya labo lokulala ezine eDerby yayicinyiwe ebusuku.
Babengazi ukuba omnye wabafana-uMateyu oneminyaka eyi-14-wayeyiguqula ngasese ukuze abukele iphonografi.
'Siqale ukuqaphela utshintsho kwindlela aziphethe ngayo xa ebefumana i-iPhone, utshilo uSally oneminyaka engama-41. Wayechitha ixesha elininzi phezulu, kodwa sasicinga ukuba uza kufumana intombi.
Ngobunye ubusuku, ndamfumana egumbini lakhe encokola nabahlobo ababini besikolo emnxebeni ngelixa bonke babebukele iphonografi efanayo kwii-iPads zabo.
Uye waxhuma wazama ukufihla into awayeyenza, kodwa into endayibonayo yayivukela. Khange ndikholelwe. '
Ethukuthele kwaye ecasulayo, uSally noSimon, 43, bamise unyana wabo ngeveki baza bathabatha ifowuni kunye ne-iPad.
Emva kweengxoxo ezininzi ezingenangqungquthela apho zibeka khona imigaqo eqinile malunga nokusetyenziswa kwe-intanethi, beyathemba ukuba ingxaki isisombululo. Enyanisweni, bekuphela nje kokuqala kobuhlungu babo.
U-Sally, umama osisigxina uthi, 'angazifumana iindlela zokusijikeleza. Uqhubeke nokunikezela ngokuxhoma ukuhlamba egadini kwaye bendicinga ukuba uluncedo.
Kwaba semva kwexesha apho ndafumanisa ukuba uhleli ezantsi kwegadi engena kwi-wifi yabamelwane.
Sizamile ukuthatha ifowuni kodwa uza kufumana i-iPad kudadewabo omncinci. Okanye angaboleka enye kumhlobo wesikolo. Wakwazi ukutshintsha ulawulo lwabazali kwi-wifi yethu ukuze ibe nguye kuphela owaziyo ikhowudi.
'Sifumanise ukuba kukho isiseko samakhwenkwe amahlanu abandakanyekayo; uhlobo 'lwesangqa esingamanyala' ngubani onokuzibukela ezi vidiyo ngokulandelelana ukuze babone indlela abasabela ngayo. Ndiyifumene iphazamisa ngokwenene.
'Besingafuni ukuthatha ifowuni yakhe kuye ngokusisigxina, kuba kukuhamba ngebhayisikile iimayile ezimbini ukuya esikolweni kwaye besifuna ukuba akhuseleke.'
Oku kuphazamiseka kukuba abazali abaninzi abanothando bafumana ukulwa namhlanje.
Amanqaku ambalwa abonisa ukuba i-81 pesenti ye-13 kuma-18 aneminyaka eyi-100 ubudala i-smartphone, ngelixa i-43 pesenti ye-12 kwi-XNUM-ubudala ubudala inesibhengezi njenge-iPad.
Ngama-58 pesenti yeefowuni zefowuni ngoku zifikelela kwi-intanethi, abantwana banako ukufikelela kwimifanekiso engamanyala ngokukhululeka okukhulu.
'Abantwana banokufumana izinto zesondo ngokulula kwi-intanethi, nokuba kungenxa yokufuna ukwazi okanye ngengozi,' utsho uCarolyn Bunting weInternet Matters, umbutho ofundisa abazali malunga nemingcipheko abantwana babo abanokudibana nayo kwi-intanethi.
'Oku kunokudideka kwaye kuphazamise kuba iphonografi ibonisa imifanekiso engeyiyo yokwabelana ngesondo kunye nobudlelwane.'
Ngokukhathazayo, ngamanye amaxesha abatsha baya kulungiswa ngoononophala.
I-poll malunga ne-700 nabantwana nge-NSPCC iveki eveze ukuba phantse omnye kwabayishumi kwi-12 kwi-13 ubudala abanenkxalabo yokuba ne-addiction ye-pornography, ngelixa ngaphezulu kweyodwa kwabayishumi eyenziwe okanye ibe yinxalenye yevidiyo ebonisa ngesondo.
Iziphumo eziphazamisayo zikwabonisa ukuba omnye kwabahlanu kwabo baphononongiweyo bathi babone imifanekiso engamanyala eyabothusayo okanye yabaphazamisa.
Le yile ngophando olutsha nje luchaphazela iingcali zentlalo yoluntu. Uphando lwe-BBC kunyaka odlulileyo lufumene ukuba i-60 ipesenti yabantu abancinci bebaneminyaka eyi-14 okanye encinane xa babona kuqala i-porn inthanethi.
Olunye umbiko wonyaka odlulileyo, ngo-ChildWise wothando, wachaza ukuba i-website ye-Pornhub ibizwa ngamagama aphezulu kwiindawo ezintandokazi ezihlanu ezenziwa ngabafana abaneminyaka eyi-11 ukuya kwi-16.
KuSally noSimon, izinto zihamba zimbi ziya phambili.
'UMateyu waya esiba mandundu,' utshilo uSally. Wayengafuni ukudibanisa kubomi bosapho. Wayengenakulinda ukuba kude netafile emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. Waye warhoxa kakhulu.
Ndizamile ukuthetha nabazali bamanye amakhwenkwe abandakanyekayo kodwa andafika ndawo. Ndadibana nezimvo ezininzi ezinje ngala: “Unyana wethu ngekhe ayenze loo nto…” '
Ephelelwe lithemba, uSally waya esikolweni wathetha nomphathi omkhulu, owabiza uMatthew nabahlobo bakhe. Kwavela ukuba 'iringi ye-porn' yayiqale xa omnye wabafana efikelele kwi-intanethi ekwabelwana ngayo ngewebhusayithi ekwabelwana ngayo ngevidiyo kwiYouTube.
Iiseshoni zacetywa ngokufanelekileyo ukuba amakhwenkwe kunye nomcebisi wesikolo, bobabini ngabanye kunye nabazali babo.
USally uthi: 'UMateyu akazange athethe nam kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva kokuba bendikhe ndaya esikolweni, kodwa ngokokwazi kwethu' iringi ye-porn 'yaphela apho. Kukuthandeka okungathandekiyo, kwaye into ephazamisayo kukuba isini esicacileyo, ngaphandle kothando olujikelezileyo. Inika abantwana umbono ogqwethekileyo ngobudlelwane.
Ingxaki kukuba ifikeleleka ngokulula, kwaye isilingo sikhona ngalo lonke ixesha. '
ULaura Kay ngomnye umama owothusayo kukufumanisa ukuba, eneminyaka elishumi nje kuphela, unyana wakhe uNathan wayefikelela kwi-porn. Kwaye oku bekukho ngaphandle kokuba abeke amacebo okucoca kuzo zonke izixhobo ekhaya.
Ndingu-tech-savvy kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndiza kwenza yonke into endinokuyenza ukuze ndiyeke uNathan angene kwi-porn. Ke ndathi ndakumfumana elele phezulu, evule i-iPad yakhe, ndabona ukuba ujonge izinto ezinzima, ndothuka kakhulu, utshilo uLaura, 43, umphathi weendaba kwezentlalo ohlala noNathan, ngoku oneminyaka eli-13, e-Exeter. .
Umhlobo osele emdala wayembonise indlela yokucoca izihluzi emva koko wamyalela kule ndawo. Yayibuhlungu intliziyo yam. Ubumsulwa benkwenkwana yam babuchithiwe.
Ngosuku olulandelayo, ndadibana noNathan kwaye zehla iinyembezi esithi akafuni kuzijonga kodwa ngumhlobo omenzileyo. Ndandinomsindo. '
Ukusukela ngesiganeko, uLaura uthi utshintshe ipassword kwaye wajonga ngamehlo okwenyani konyana wakhe okwenziwa kwi-Intanethi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha uye wothuswa yinto ayityhilileyo.
'Ndamnqanda ekuthetheni nabahlobo bakhe ababini kwi-intanethi kunyaka ophelileyo kuba andikholwa ukuba ndisebenzisa ulwimi lwezesondo ababelisebenzisa bonke.
Ayingobafana nje nabo. Aba bahlobo yayingamantombazana aneminyaka eli-11 neli-12 ubudala abasebenzisa igama elithi 'C' ngalo lonke ixesha bethetha izinto ezinje: 'Ngaba uyafuna ukundibhanxa?'
'Balifumana phi eli gama? Ndidibene nala mantombazana buqu kwaye lolona lolutsha luchubekileyo unqwenela ukudibana nalo. Awusoze uphuphe ukuba banokusebenzisa amagama namabinzana anje, kodwa bayayenza yonke loo nto. '
Iingxaki zikaLaura aziphelanga apho. Kunyaka ophelileyo wafumanisa ukuba uNathan - njengama-60 eepesenti yolutsha-wayeceliwe ukuba enze umfanekiso wesondo ngaye.
Ndabizwa kwisikolo sikaNathan ngenxa yokuba intombazana ethile yayenze isikhalazo malunga nayo ngokumcela ukuba ayithumele imifanekiso engenanto.
Ngapha koko, le ntombazana yayicele uNatan iifoto zepenisi yakhe kwaye wayekhuphela ezinye iifoto azifumene kwiwebhu wazithumela kuye.
'Wayemthumelele neefoto kodwa wakhalaza xa uNathan ethumela enye kumhlobo wakhe, owathi emva koko wamcela ukuba amthumele nayo.
'Ngokwenyani uRhulumente kufuneka athathe amanyathelo abukhali ayeke oku. Njengabazali, kufuneka siqale ukuthetha ngayo, kunye nezikolo. Indlela iphonografi echaphazela ngayo abantwana bethu kwixesha elide yinto engavumelaniyo neengcali, kodwa ugqirha wezengqondo uNjingalwazi uGeoffrey Beattie uthi abantu abancinci banokonakala ngakumbi kunokuba siqonda.
Uxhalabile kakhulu malunga nokwenzakala kwengqondo okubangelwa 'ziinkumbulo ze-flashbulb'. 'Amava ethu amaninzi kubomi bemihla ngemihla alibaleka ngokukhawuleza, utshilo,' kodwa zikhona izinto esingathanda ukuzilibala, kodwa zingenako, nokuba sizama kangakanani.
'Kukho imifanekiso kunye neziganeko ezinamathele ezingqondweni zethu kwaye zingaze zibonakale ngathi ziphelelwa lixesha: inqwelomoya eya kwiTwin Towers, umfanekiso webhasi nge-7/7, okanye ukusweleka kukaDiana.
Uyayikhumbula yonke imeko yentlalo, enjengokuba wawuphi, ubunabani, oko kwakuthethiwe kunye nembonakalo ebusweni babanye.
'Ezi ntlobo zeenkumbulo ezicacileyo zibizwa ngokuba ziinkumbulo ze-flashbulb kwaye ziyinxalenye ephambili yoxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo kuba azipheli ekuhambeni kwexesha. Kodwa olu luhlobo lwemifanekiso eyothusayo ebonwa ngabantwana bethu yonke imihla. '
Kukho enye inkxalabo yokuba uhlobo lwemifanekiso ulutsha oluyibonayo luya kuchaphazela ubudlelwane babo kwixa elizayo.
USuzie Hayman, umphathiswa wentando yesisa yoBomi boSapho kunye nombhali wendlela yokuKhulisa uMntwana ofikisayo, uthi: 'Iphonografi ejongwa lulutsha oluninzi kwi-intanethi ikhupha isini kunye nolwalamano lwayo nayiphi na imixholo yeemvakalelo.
'Ukwabelana ngesondo iba yinto nje, isenzo esingenalo uthando, intlonipho okanye ulonwabo.
'Ulutsha oluninzi esithetha ngalo ukuba iphonografi inokunyusa ukuxhaphaza ngokwesondo njengoko ukulindela ngokwesondo kunokuba kungenangqondo. Ulutsha luziva lunyanzelekile ukuba lwenze izinto ezithoba isidima eziphinda zibonise ezi bhanyabhanya.
Ngelishwa, abantu ababukela iphonografi kakhulu banokukufumanisa kunzima ukunxibelelana nabanye kwihlabathi lokwenyani kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. '
Ngoko yenziwa ntoni? URhulumente usandul 'uceba izicwangciso zabantwana abaneminyaka eyi-11 ukuya phezulu ukuba bafundiswe ngokudlwengulwa kunye nokuvuma ngokwesondo ezikolweni. Isibonakaliso esibandezelekileyo sexesha, mhlawumbi, kodwa oku kuya kubandakanya ingxoxo malunga nento abaye bafunda ekubukeni imifanekiso engamanyala.
Okwangoku, uNobhala wezobuChwepheshe uSajid Javid uvalele ukuzinikela ekuveliseni ubungqina beminyaka kwiiwebhsayithi ezivumela abantwana ukuba banqande ukufikelela kwiimifanekiso engamanyala.
Nangona iingcali zivuma ukuhamba, zaxwayisa ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukuphumeza ngokwenza, ngoko abazali bebeya kuba yindlela yokuqala yokukhusela.
'Abazali bangathatha amanyathelo aqinisekileyo okuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana babo babona kuphela umxholo olungele ubudala kwi-intanethi, utshilo uCarolyn Bunting wenhlangano yokhuseleko kwiwebhu ye-Intanethi. Oku kubandakanya ukuseta ulawulo lwabazali kwi-broadband kunye neinjini yokukhangela, ukugcina iliso kwimbali yabo yesikhangeli kunye neeapps abazikhuphele kwiifowuni zabo.
'Alikaze lilihle ixesha lokuba uthethe nomntwana wakho malunga nephonografi kwi-Intanethi.'
Ngapha koko, uninzi lweapps ziyafumaneka ezilanda umkhondo ujonge umntwana. Isoftware entsha ebizwa ngokuba yiMobile Force Field isandula ukwaziswa ecima naziphi na iiapps ezingafunwa ngabazali ukuba abantwana bazisebenzise kwaye ibayekise ukuthumela okanye ukufumana iiselfie ezingafanelekanga.
Abanye abazali, nangona kunjalo, sele kudlulile ukukhusela abantwana babo. UNatalie Bridger, umncedisi wokufundisa oneminyaka engama-35 waseNewcastle, wothuswa kukufumanisa ukuba unyana wakhe oneminyaka eli-12 ubudala uChristopher wayebukele iphonografi- kwaye wayibonisa udade wabo oneminyaka elithoba.
'Kwiiveki ezine okanye ezintlanu ezidlulileyo, njengokuba lonke usapho belubukele umabonakude, mna nomyeni wam uLee siqaphele ukuba intombi yethu u-Abigail yenze izimbo zomzimba kufutshane nomlomo wakhe ebecacisa ukuba belinganisa isondo lomlomo, utshilo uNatalie.
'Sayeka ukufa sobabini kwaye sambuza ukuba wenza ntoni. Uye wathi, 'Hayi akhonto', kodwa ndimbambe etshintshana ngokujonga konyana wethu.
Emva kokumcinezela, wavuma ukuba wayejonge iphonografi kwaye uAbhigali wayengenile kwaye wambonisa imifanekiso.
'Mna noLee sagodola. Akukho namnye kuthi owayesazi ukuba vimba njani iiwebhsayithi kude kube kutshanje kwaye nangoku senza njalo, kusafuneka sazi ukuba yeyiphi esiza kuyibhloka.
Ngalo lonke ixesha esetafileni yakhe ngoku, siyazibuza ukuba wenza ntoni. Simxelele ukuba siza kujonga imbali yakhe kwaye singathatha ithebhulethi yakhe kuye nangaliphi na ixesha ukujonga into ayenzayo. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, oko kubonakala kusebenza.
'Kodwa inyani ayijongileyo iyandoyikisa. Awungekhe unqande abantwana ekusebenziseni i-intanethi ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngokucofa nje iqhosha banokuvula umhlaba wemifanekiso ephazamisayo endifuna ukuba bangayiboni.
Kubonakala ngathi nokuba senza ntoni ukubakhusela, bahlala befumana indlela yokuyijikeleza. '
UNatalie unethemba lokuba imifanekiso ayibenzakalisanga. Kuba yinto nje yexesha ngaphambi kokuba sifumanise ukuba ungakanani umonakalo owenziwa kwi-intanethi kwesi sizukulwana.
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