Hlela inkqubo yakho yeembilini zakho ukuze uqhubeke uthandana kwaye uhlale eluthandweni
"Konke esinokukuqikelela ngembali yemfuza yoluntu kuthethwa ngokuziphatha ngokukhululekileyo kwezesondo, apho izenzo zesondo kufuneka zithatyathwe njengezinto zokudibanisa kwaye okwesibini njengeendlela zokuzala." ~ EO Wilson
Silinde ikonsathi ukuba iqale kummandla wethu wobulali, mna nomyeni wam sajonga umboniso wesirhubuluzi obandakanya umqeqeshi wezilwanyana kunye ne-alligator ephilayo ezolile ethangeni lakhe. Njengoko sasiphulula i-gator, ndabuza umqeqeshi ukuba kutheni injalo. “Ndiyiphulula yonke imihla. Ukuba khange ndenze njalo, izakuphinda ibekho kwakhona, kwaye ayizukuyivumela le nto, ”ucacisile.
Ukuziphatha okubonayo
Ndothuka. Kwakusele iinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambili ukuba ndiqalise ukuqonda amandla okuziphatha ngokuzimanya (ukunxibelelana nolusu nolusu, ukubamba ngobunono njalo njalo) ukukhupha umnqweno wokuzibophelela ngaphandle kokuba senze enye into. Khange ndiqonde ukuba izirhubuluzi ziye zaphendula ngokufanayo.
Iziphathamandla zokuziphatha, okanye iinkcazo zokuncedisa, zi izibonakaliso ezingekho phantsi Oko kunokwenza ubudlelwane beemvakalelo kungabinamsebenzi, ngaphandle kokuba naluphi na ukhuselo lokuqala luchithakele. Ukuziphatha okuzibophelelayo kukwalonyango olulungileyo lokunciphisa ukuzikhusela. Nanku umzekelo omangalisayo: Abazali ababamkelayo babetsala nzima iminyaka kunye neenkedama zaseRomania ezinengxaki yokuncamathisela. Ngobundlobongela, wabeka imingxunya engaphezulu kwe-1000 kwiindonga zegumbi lakhe lokulala, wathi xa ekhula umama wakhe kwafuneka aqeshe unogada. Okokugqibela, kwishumi elivisayo, abazali bazama imihla ngemihla iindlela zokuncamathisela. Emva kweeveki ezintathu, ekugqibeleni wazimanya nabazali bakhe kwaye waqala nokwenza ubudlelwane obunempilo noontanga. Mamela eyakhe intetho 'enkosi' ngebhaso.
Ukuziphatha okubophelelayo kuyasebenza kuba yindlela abantwana abanyisayo abanamathela ngayo kubanakekeli babo. Ukuze zisinde, iintsana zifuna ukunxibelelana rhoqo nezilwanyana ezincancisayo zikaMama de zikulungele ukulunyulwa. Ukuziphatha okuzibophelelayo kusebenza ngokukhuthaza ukukhutshwa kwee-neurochemicals (kubandakanya i-oxytocin), eyehlisa ukuzikhusela kwangaphakathi, yenza ukuba ibhondi ibekhona.
Unesidima
Ngamafutshane, ezi ziphatha zibonisa indlela esiyithandayo ngayo abantu nabazali bethu nabantwana. Amanqaku omnakekeli-abantwana abandakanya ukuthinteka okuthandwayo, ukulungiswa, izandi ezakhayo, ukukhulisana, ukudibana kwamehlo, njalonjalo.
Kwizilwanyana ezinqabileyo ezinokubambisana ezinjengathi, izibophelelo kukhonza yesibini umsebenzi ngokunjalo (eyaziwa ngokuba kukuxhuzula). Bayinxalenye yesizathu sokuba sihlale sithandana (ngokomndilili) ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuba bobabini abazali banamathele kubo nabaphi na abantwana. I-Honeymoon neurochemistry nayo idlala indima, kodwa iyafana nefoto eyomeleleyo ephelayo. Ngokwahlukileyo, isimilo sokudibanisa sinokugcina iibhondi ngokungenasiphelo.
Iimpawu ezinamandla
Kwizithandani, ukuziphatha okubambisana kubonakala kuhlukile kunokuba benza phakathi komnakekeli kunye nosana, kodwa kubonakala ukufana. Ezi zimpawu ezinamandla ziquka:
- uncumile, ngokudibana ngamehlo
- Ukudibana kolusu
- ukubonelela ngenkonzo okanye ukuphatha ngaphandle kokucelwa
- ukunika imvume engacelwanga, ngoncumo okanye izincomo
- bajongana emehlweni
- Ukumamela ngenyameko, nokuphindaphinda into oyivayo
- Ukuxolelwa okanye ukungaqwalaseli impazamo okanye intetho engekho ngqiqweni, eyadlulayo okanye yangoku
- ukulungiselela iqabane lakho ukutya
- Ukuphefumla okuvumelanisiweyo
- ukwanga ngemilebe nangelwimi
- ukukhwela, okanye ukugungqa ngobumnene, intloko yeqabane lakho kunye ne-torso (isebenza kakuhle esofeni, okanye ngeendlela ezininzi)
- ukubamba, okanye ukonakalisa, omnye komnye ngokuthe cwaka
- Izandi ezingenamagama zokwanelisa kunye nolonwabo
- Ukubetha ngenjongo yokuthuthuzela
- ukwenza imithambo ngenjongo yokuthuthuzela, ngakumbi iinyawo, amagxa kunye nentloko
- ukugona ngenjongo yokuthuthuzela
- Ukulala nendlebe yakho phezu kwentliziyo yeqabane lakho nokumamela ukubetha kwentliziyo
- ukuchukumisa nokuncancisa iingono / amabele
- ukubeka ngobumnene isundu sakho phezu kwamalungu esini esithandwa sakho ngenjongo yokuthuthuzela kunokuba uvuse
- Ukwenza ixesha kunye ngexesha lokulala libe yinto ephambili
- ubulili
Kwenze yonke imihla
Kukho iinkalo ezinomdla wokubambisana nokuziphatha. Okokuqala, ukuze kugcinwe ubuqili phakathi kobudlelwane obu bamele bavele mihla le, okanye phantse yonke imihla — kanye njengokuba umqeqeshi we alligator waqaphela. Okwesibini, akufuneki zenzeke ixesha elide, okanye zibenamandla kakhulu, kodwa kufuneka zingazithembi ngokwenene. Nokuba ubambane omnye nomnye ethe cwaka ekupheleni kosuku olude, oluxakekileyo lunokwanela ukutshintshisa imiqondiso yokuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bunomvuzo. Okwesithathu, kukho ubungqina bokuba kokukhona usebenzisa isimilo sokuziphatha, i ngakumbi Ingqondo yakho iba kwiikhemikhali ze-neurochemicals ezikunceda uzive ukhululekile kwaye unothando. (Ngokuphambene noko, ukuvuselela okukhulu ngezinye izihlandlo kubangela unyamezelo ukwakha.)
Okwesine, ezinye izinto eziluhlu olukhankanywe ngasentla zingangathi zibonwe ngaphambili, kodwa ngengqondo enye ebalulekileyo ayikho. I-Foreplay ijongene nokwakha isondo ingxaki kunye nesigxina-esisusa umjikelo ofihlakeleyo utshintsho lwe-neurochemical (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha alungamkeli ukujonga ukutshintshwa) ngaphambi kokuba ubuchopho bubuyele kumlinganiso. Ngokwahlukileyo, ukuziphatha ngokubambisana kuya kujongene nokuphumla. Basebenza ngokugqithiseleyo xa behlisa inxalenye endala yobuchopho obudala obubizwa ngokuba yi-amygdala.
Umsebenzi we-Amygdala
I-amygd
Umsebenzi ka-ala kukugcina unogada upNgaphandle kokuba kuqinisekiswe rhoqo ngezi miqondiso zisezantsi. Ukuze uqiniseke, ikwabuyela kwakhona okwethutyana ngexesha kwaye kwangoko emva kokudibana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuchumisa yeyona nto iphambili kwimfuza yethu. Nangona kunjalo, ukunxibelelana rhoqo, okungasukelwanga kwinjongo kubonakala kusebenza ngakumbi njengokuziphatha kokubopha. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba ukuthanda umdlalo wangaphambi kwe-orgasm kumnandi… kodwa kungathumela imiyalezo exubekileyo. Mhlawumbi le miqondiso iphikisanayo yokungazibali i-akhawunti ye "umtsalane-ukuphinda-phinda" abathandi bezinto eziqhelekileyo bahlala beqaphela emva kokutshata kwabo okokuqala emva komtshato.
Ukuhlakulela ukubamba
Kukho nawuphi na, ukukhupha i-touch akuyikudala kuphela indawo yokuthuthuzela nokukhusela. Kwakhona kuyamangalisa into emangalisayo, njengomhlobo okwabelwana ngawo:
“Nangona bekusemva kwentsimbi ye-11, siye sangana. Malunga neeyure ezimbini. Ukubamba kamnandi. Ndinamava phezolo ndingenawo amagama kwangoko. Isityebi, sinzulu, sigcwele. Ngobuqili. Unamandla. Ukuhamba. Unentsingiselo. Isalatha kunxibelelwano olukhulu ngakumbi nabo bonke ubomi. Besinxulumene. Kwalolu hlobo lunye, njengoko wayeyibeka, njengomhlambi weentaka ezijikeleza esibhakabhakeni ngokungathi zinengqondo enye. ”
Nokuba uziva ungonwabanga okanye akunjalo, isimilo sokuzibophelela ziyindlela ebonakalayo yokubuyisela kunye nokugcina ukuqaqamba okuhambisanayo kubudlelwane… nditsho neqabane elirhabaxa njenge-alligator. Zidibanise nokwenza uthando oluthambileyo kunye namaxesha amaninzi okuphumla (kunye ubuncinci bezandla zovavanyo zesondo ngokusebenzisa i-orgasm), kwaye unokufumanisa ukuba unokugcina ukuvisisana kobudlelwane bakho ngokukhululeka.
Mhlawumbi ezo "zinqabileyo" zinqabileyo (izibini ezihlala nzima zihlala kunye ngemvisiswano) zenziwe ikakhulu, azizalwanga. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngoku ndicamngca ngononophelo ngamabali eendaba afana neli isibini esitshatileyo sitshatileyo ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-80. Intatheli inike ingxelo yokuba, "esi sibini asizange silale ngaphandle kokuncamisana nokwangana."
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Umfana oye wazama ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha
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Ndicinga ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba andizami ukungena kwangoko kwiibhulukhwe zakhe njengabafana abaninzi. Ukuphuzana, ukubamba, ukuchukumisa izinto imini yonke kwakulungile kuthi sobabini.
Omnye umfana wathi:
Ngaba ukudibana kwamehlo nenenekazi osebenza nalo ngenye imini xa wayethetha nalo okanye xa amehlo ethu adibana ngokungakhathali. Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo kunokuba nzima. Ihlabathi liphela ngaphandle kwamagama. Ndidakiwe. Ngaba iphinde yakwenza esitratweni ngexesha lokubaleka ekuseni Abafazi bahle kakhulu.
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