Iseluleko sokuKhusela ngokufanelekileyo (2010)

Akukho netyala, akukho ngxaki?

Iingozi zobumluthaKutshanje kuye kwavela umfana kwiqonga lam lendawo ebuza imibuzo malunga nokuphulula amalungu esini. Kwangolo suku lunye, ndafunda ukuba ummandla waseSpain ukhuthaza esidlangalaleni ukuphulula amalungu esini kubantwana "Ukuzonwabisa kusemandleni akho”Iphulo. Kungekudala, i-National Health Service yase-Bhritane yeza nephulo elifanayo lisithi, “i-orgasm ngemini igcina ugqirha. ” Nangona zineenjongo ezintle, ngaba ezo nzame zivakala?

Inyani yile, ulonwabo lwe-orgasmic alukho ezandleni zethu. Ingakumbi kuthi ubuchopho-Iyiphumo le-neurochemical bursts. Ngaphandle kwabo, i-orgasm ayiyi kuphinda ikhunjulwe kune-burping. Oku kunemiphumo ebalulekileyo ekufikeleleni kwiluleko elifanelekileyo lokuphanga. Kwi sithuba esidlulileyo, Ndabalisa ngento abantu abaye babelana ngayo malunga nokunciphisa i-masturbation frequency inokuthi ikhulise ukuzithemba ngokungalindelekanga, izakhono zentlalo kunye neemvakalelo zothando. Kule posi, ndiza kuqwalasela ukuba kutheni ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokuphulukana neentloni kunokuba yinto yebhombu ekhathazayo njengokuphulula amalungu esini.

Ngenxa yendlela echaphazela ngayo ubuchopho bethu, i-masturbation ibandakanya iingozi ezimbini ezingabonwa lula.

1. Ukunyuka kwePitfall

Nangona ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokwendalo, kuyinto yendalo ukukhangela ukuba i-orgasm inyuke ngokulula. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba ukhuthazo olunxulunyaniswa nalo luqheleke kakhulu okanye lukhulu. Imizekelo yokuqina okungaqhelekanga isenokuba kukuphulula amaphambili sikunye nesoyikiso okanye inkolelo yokuba umntu "uya esihogweni," okanye ukuphulula amalungu esini kwi-Intanethi yanamhlanje. Ngokwahlukileyo, amandla aqhelekileyo iya kuba ngumntwana ofumanisa ukuphulula amalungu esini malunga nokufikisa ngaphandle kokuhlawuliswa ngokweemvakalelo. (Oku akuthethi ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini akunakuze kuzinyanzele ngokwakho-kodwa akunakulindeleka.)

I-Orgasm ayiyi kuvelisa nje ezinjengobungakanani beziyobisi, kodwa ne-neurochemical ixesha lokubuyisela njengoko ubuchopho buyabuyela ekhaya. Eyona nto inamandla ngakumbi ukuqhutyelwa kwe-neurochemical injabulo ngexesha le-orgasm, i-downside iyaluka njengoko ubuchopho buyifumana. Kweminye kuthi ukubuyisela kunokuthatha ifom izifiso ezinzulu ngenxa yempendulo enomdla kwingqondo, (emnene okanye enzima), ukuxinezeleka, ukuxhalaba okanye, ngokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, ukuzisola (ngenxa yokubandezeleka kwimiba enoburharha). Isiphumo sisoloko sinomnqweno wokuziphathela amayeza Kaninzi ukuphulula amalungu esini. Uninzi aluluboni utyekelo lokukhula de lukhululeke kwi-orgasm kangangexesha elithile lize libuyele kulo.

Namhlanje, "kokukhona uyenza ngakumbi le uyifunayo" ngokubanzi iphosakele nge-libido esempilweni. Nangona kunjalo kusenokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuthuthuzela ukutya. Ukuyibhala njengempilweni ngenxa yokuba kuyindalo ephanda uphando ngeziphumo zayo. Silumkisa abazali nabantwana ngemingcipheko yokutya ukutya okune-junk okanye okunyanzelekileyo kwimidlalo yevidiyo-kodwa asizimisele ukucebisa ukumodareyithwa kwe-masturbation, nangona inkqubo efanayo yobuchopho inyusa konke ukunyanzelwa.

Kulula ukuxelela abantwana ukuba batye imifuno yabo kunokuba bachaze ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwezesondo kwikota yangoku-kodwa yenze ukuba mandundu ukukhathazeka ngokwesondo. Mhlawumbi ezinye iingxoxo zosapho kufuneka zijikeleze ubuchwephesha bemivuzo ejikelezayo kunye nendlela enokuphambuka ngayo uphawu olulahlekisayo "ewe". Khumbula ezo iilitsi ezacutshungulwayo ngoko banokuyicinezela i-lever ukuze kukhuthazwe isiphaluka somvuzo (nje nge-orgasm)? Bashaya i-lever baze bahla.

Umfundi kaFreud, uRudolf von Urban (Ukufezekiswa koSondo kunye noMtshato) icebisa ukuba ukuba abantwana benziwe bayiqonda le “inyuka yokunyuka” (kwaye bangaze bahlazeke malunga nesini), baya kusebenza umngeni wokuzifumanela isixa esifanelekileyo sokuphulula amaphambili. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, thina bantu sinezixhobo ezingaphezulu "kwesihlanu" kwaye "singathathi cala" xa kufikwa kwimicimbi yesondo. Abantwana banokutshintsha izihlunu zabo zokuziqeqesha ukuze beze nexesha lokuphulula amalungu esini elingahambeli ndawo, okanye bavumele amaphupha amanzi aqhube ikhosi yabo, okanye benze umthambo ngakumbi, okanye bafumane isithandwa. (Ukubamba izandla, ukuncoma umntu, kunye nokuxhoma kunye kakhulu ukuthungela ubuchopho bombini-bhondi njengathi, nokuba xa usabelana ngesondo ayisiyiyo inketho.)

Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kolwazi malunga nendlela ukuxhalabisa ngokwesini kunokunyuka xa umntu ezama ukulukhupha rhoqo xa kuvela, abantwana bangaphoswa kwi-scrollreader ngaphandle kokulawula. Ukuba baya kukhwela ekunyanzelweni, abazi ukuba kutheni kwenzeka, indlela yokubuyisela ibhalansi, okanye yintoni eyokubuyiselwa. Enyanisweni, banokungazi nokuziphatha kwabo is ukunyanzeliswa, ukuba ihlazo, ukuphonywa ngokuqhelekileyo kukuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabahlobo babo. Ukuba uyadla i-Twinkies kunye ne-chips yonke isidlo kuba ngabahlobo bakho baninzi, usenokungacingi ukuba ubuze isizathu sokuba ukuthanda kwakho ushukela kunye namafutha kunzima kakhulu.

Le ayisiyonto incinci. Abasebenzisi be-porn abanobunzima abakhetha ukusika umva bahlala befumana iimpawu zokurhoxa ezingathandekiyo. Abaqondi ukuba ezo mpawu zinjalo eqhelekileyo. Abazi nokuba kuthatha ixesha elininzi ukuba ingqondo iphinde iqalise (buyisela ulingano).

Okumangalisa kukuba, nangona bengakhange bakhuliswe emizini yokuzixhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwaye bangabi namahloni ngokuphanga, ezinye zigqiba ukuba iimpawu zokurhoxisa ezifana nokuxhalaba, ukungabikho nto, ukuphoxeka, inkohlakalo yengqondo, intloko yesisu, ukunqwenela okukhulu, njalonjalo ngenye indlela umvuzo wokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, kunokuba kubekho umphumo wokuqikelela ngokuchasene. Ukungazi kakuhle kwenza ukukhawuleza kubonakale kuyinkqubo eyingozi, ngoko ukunyuka kwezinto kubonakala kukuphela kwendlela.

2. Ukungafunwa

I-orgasmic blast yinto enamandla yokufunda ngenxa yokuba iinjenge zethu zifuna ukuba sikhumbule yonke into inxulumene nokwenza iintsana okanye ukuziqhelanisa nazo. Namhlanje, umntwana kwiwebhu unokuthatha inxaxheba ngokuzinzileyo kwizenzo zesondo ezikhuthaza kakhulu emva kwemini enye ngaphandle kokurhafisa eyakhe, (ngaphambili), kunye nengcinga. Ngokwahlukileyo, ingqondo yethu yokuzingela yaqokelela xa isondo elonwabisayo kunye neqabane lenoveli yayiyinto enqabileyo yemfuzo.

I-dopamine engaphezulu ikhutshwe malunga nokuvuselela ubuninzi obunokuba yingqondo ekwabeleni kwisiganeko, kwaye ngakumbi ingqondo iingcingo ngamava. Ngokucacileyo, ukubukela isondo neebhokhwe akuyomfuneko ukuba kurekhodwe njengamava axabisekileyo, kodwa zama ukuxelela ingqondo yakho yomzimba ukuba!

Umntwana ukutshayaLe nkqubo inye yokufunda / yokufaka iintambo inokuvelisa iziphumo ezibi ngakumbi kunokubuyela emva kwebhokhwe. Umzekelo, "owalelweyo" kunye "nesono" (Oko kukuthi, ubungozi) isondo shukumisa ingqondo kunye zombini i-dopamine ("uyifumane!") Kunye ne-adrenaline (uloyiko). Le yindlela uxinizelelo ngokwesondo olunokuthi lubangele enye indlela yokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo kunye ne-aura ekhumbulekayo yeziyobisi. Ukufumana ulwazi malunga nokuba "umngcipheko" unokuziva ulunge kangakanani, funda Kutheni kutheni isondo sokulala sishushu, apho umntu ekhala ngenxa yokuphuma ngaphandle kwekamelo ngoba uyalangazelela loo meko.

I-intanethi ye-intanethi yanamhlanje inokubuyisela ngokukhawuleza ingqondo. Imifanekiso engamanyala ngokugqithisileyo ivelisa udonga lwe-neurochemical wallop, ngakumbi kwiiplastiki ezincinci, ezincinci. Ngapha koko, ihlala iinoveli. Uphando luveza ukuba ubutsha-obufunekayo bunomtsalane ngokugqithisileyo-kunye nokwakha umkhwa. (Ikwalapha emva komtsalane koomatshini bokungcakaza kunye nazo zonke iziyobisi kwi-Intanethi. ukuvuselela-kunye nexesha lokubuyela kwimeko yesiqabu-eyayifudula igcinelwe abantu abavela kumakhaya oxinzelelo ngokwesondo.

Njengoko uTomas Paine waphawula,

Umkhwa omdala wokungacingi into ephosakeleyo kukunika ukubonakala okulungileyo, kwaye kuphakamisa okokuqala isikhalazo esiyingozi ekukhuseleni isiko.

I-masturbation ngokwayo ayiphutha, kodwa ngokungaqondi kakuhle ukuba ingachaphazela njani ingqondo ingabonakali. Le mpazamo yaqondakala xa sisazi kakuhle kakhulu indlela esichukumisa ngayo ubuchopho bethu, xa sikholelwa ihlazo yindlela yokuphela yokugcoba i-masturbation ukuzithiba, kwaye xa ukunyuswa kwezesondo okungapheliyo kwakungekho njengobunzima-kwaye ngenxa yoko-ke kunokukhuthaza (ngaphambi kwe-Intanethi).

Namhlanje, nangona kunjalo, "ukuphulula amalungu esini kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ke musa ukuba neentloni" isenokungabi lulwazi olwaneleyo kubantwana abafuna iimpendulo. Kufunyenwe ngokungenabungozi Imikhwa ingafikelela endleleni yokwakha ubudlelwane obuhle. Ingaba lixesha lokubeka eceleni iingcamango zethu kunye nokuvusa ingxoxo malunga nemfundo yokugcoba ngokugxininisa ukubaluleka kokulinganisela?


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PHAWULA: I-YBOP ayithethi ukuba i-masturbation imbi kuwe; nje ukwenza i ngongoma yokuba ininzi yezinto ezibizwa ngokuba yimpilo zifunyenwe ukudibaniswa ne-orgasm okanye i-masturbation eqinisweni inxulumene nobudlelwane obusondeleyo nomnye umntu, kungekhona isisu / ukuhlaziya umzimba. Ngokukodwa, ukubambisana phakathi kwezinto ezimbalwa zezempilo kunye ne-orgasm (ukuba yiyinyaniso) mhlawumbi ihambelana nemibutho ephilileyo enokuzibandakanya kwi-sex and more. Ayikho i causal. Iziphumo ezifanelekileyo:

Izibonelelo zezempilo ezihambelanayo neMisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yoSondo (2010) yafumanisa ukuba ukulala ngesondo kwakuxhomekeke kwimiphumo emihle, ngelixa i-masturbation ayikho. Kwezinye iziganeko ukuxhatshazwa kwezidlova kwakunxulumene kakubi neenzuzo zezempilo-oko kuthetha ukuba i-masturbation enye ihambelane neenkcukacha zezempilo ezihluphekileyo. Isiphelo sokuhlaziywa:

"Ngokusekelwe kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo, iisampuli kunye nemilinganiselo, ukufunyaniswa kuphando kuhambelana ngokugqithiseleyo ekuboniseni ukuba omnye umsebenzi wesondo (i-Penile-Vaginal Sex and response response to it) idibene kunye, kwaye kwezinye iimeko, kubangele iinkqubo ezinxulumene kunye nokusebenza okungcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba. "

Ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesini (kubandakanywa ne-Penile-Vaginal Sexual intercourse, njengokuba kukho ikhondom okanye ukuphazamiseka kude ne-peneni-zangaphakathi), okanye kwezinye iimeko (ezifana nokuhlambalaza kunye nokulala komzimba) kuhambelana nokusebenza okungcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba . "

Iyeza zonyango, imfundo yesondo, ulwabelana ngesondo, kunye nophando lwezesondo kufuneka kuhanjiswe iinkcukacha zeempilo zePenile-Vaginal Intercourse, kwaye zenzeke ngakumbi kwiindawo zabo zokuvavanya nokungenelela. "

Kwakhona ukujonga okufutshane ukuhlaziya i-masturbation kunye neempendulo zezempilo: Ukuphanga-mbola kuhambelana ne-Psychopathology kunye ne-Prostate Dysfunction: Comment on Quinsey (2012)

Kunzima ukudibanisa uluvo lokuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kuphucula imeko yeemvakalelo kunye nokufunyanwa kwezesini zombini ukuba ukuphindaphindwa kwamalungu okuphulula amalungu esini kunxulunyaniswa neempawu zokudakumba ngakumbi (UCyranowski et al., 2004; Frohlich & Meston, 2002; Husted & Edwards, 1976), ulonwabo oluncinci (Das , 2007), kunye nezinye izikhombisi zempilo ehlwempuzekileyo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni, ezibandakanya ukunamathela okuxhalabisayo (ICosta kunye neBrody, 2011), iindlela zokuzikhusela ezingakhulanga ngokwasemoyeni, ukuphinda uxinzelelo lwegazi ukuphinda uxinzelelo, kunye nokungoneliseki ngempilo yengqondo kunye nobomi ngokubanzi ( uphononongo, jonga u-Brody, 2010). Kunzima ngokulinganayo ukubona ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kukhula njani kwiminqweno yesini, xa ubukhulu becala ukuphulula amaphambili kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo emadodeni (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das, Parish, & Laumann, 2009; Gerressu, Mercer, Graham, Wellings, & UJohnson, 2008; Lau, Wang, Cheng, & Yang, 2005; Nutter & Condron, 1985) kunye nabafazi (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das et al., 2009; Gerressu et al., 2008; Lau, Cheng, Wang, & Yang, 2006; Shaeer, Shaeer, & Shaeer, 2012; Weiss kunye noBrody, 2009). Ukuhamba rhoqo kwe-masturbation kukwahambelana nokungoneliseki ngakumbi kubudlelwane kunye nothando oluncinci kumaqabane (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009). Ngokwahlukileyo, i-PVI ihambelana kakhulu nempilo engcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012), umsebenzi ongcono wesondo (Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Nutter & Condron, 1983, 1985; Weiss & Brody, 2009), kunye nolwalamano olusenyongweni olungcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011).

Ngaphezu koko, nangona umngcipheko omncinci we-prostate umdlavuza wahlanganiswa nenani elikhulu le-ejaculations (ngaphandle kokuchazwa kweendlela zesondo) (Giles et al., 2003) [Qaphela ubungqina obuphikisanayo, nangona kunjalo: "Umhlaza wesifo seprotate unokudibaniswa namahomoni wesondo: Amadoda asebenze ngezesondo kwi-20 kunye ne-30 ingaba nomngcipheko ophezulu wesifo somhlaza wesibeletho, uphando lubonisa. "], Yimvama ye-PVI enxulunyaniswa ngokuthe ngqo nomngcipheko omncinci, ngelixa ukuphulula amalungu esini kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nomngcipheko owandayo (ukuphononongwa kwisifundo, jonga uBrody, 2010). Kule meko, kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kukwanxulunyaniswa nezinye iingxaki zeprostate (amanqanaba aphezulu e-antigen kunye neprostate edumbileyo okanye ithenda) kwaye, xa kuthelekiswa ne-ejaculate efunyenwe kwi-PVI, i-ejaculate efunyenwe kwi-masturbation ineempawu Umsebenzi ocekeceke weprostatic kunye nokupheliswa okuncinci kweemveliso zenkunkuma (Brody, 2010). Ukuziphatha okukuphela kwesondo okuhambelana nokunxibelelana okungcono nempilo yengqondo kunye neyomzimba yiPVI. Ngokwahlukileyo, ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokufuthi kunxulunyaniswa neempawu zezempilo ezihlwempuzekileyo (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012). Zininzi iindlela ezinokubakho zengqondo nezomzimba, ezinokuthi zibe sisiphumo sokhetho lwendalo oluthanda iinkqubo zempilo njengesizathu kunye / okanye nefuthe lokukhuthaza ukukhangela, kunye namandla okufumana kunye nokonwabela, i-PVI. Ngokuchasene noko, ukhetho lweendlela zengqondo ze-psychobiological ezivuzayo ezikhuthazayo zokuphulula amalungu esini akunakulindeleka ngenxa yeendleko zokuqina komzimba ezinokuthi zenzeke xa kuthintela enye kwi-PVI ngokuyenza ingabalulekanga kwimpilo entle (Brody, 2010). Ngokucacileyo, ukuphulula amalungu esini kubonisa ukungaphumeleli kweendlela zokuqhuba ngokwesondo kunye nokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo, nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye nokuba ayiqhelekanga ihlala kunye nokufikelela kwi-PVI. Kule meko, kuyaphawuleka ukuba ukuphindaphindeka kwamalungu e-masturbation kunxulunyaniswa nokungoneliseki zizinto ezininzi zobomi ngaphandle kwe-PVI frequency (Brody & Costa, 2009) kwaye kubonakala ngathi kunciphisa ezinye izibonelelo zePVI (Brody, 2010).

Ekugqibeleni ubone le PDF - Ulwahlulo lweNtlalo, Umoya, kunye nolwalamano kwiipatheni zokuhlaziya i-Masturbation phakathi kwaBantu abadala (i-2014)

“Ke, bonwabile abo baphendulayo abaphulula amaphambili kutshanje xa kuthelekiswa nabo bangenzanga? Umzobo 5 utyhila ukuba phakathi kwabo baphendulayo abathi "abonwabanga kwaphela" ngobomi babo kule mihla, iipesenti ezingama-68 zabasetyhini kunye neepesenti ezingama-84 zamadoda bathi babephulula amalungu esini kwiveki ephelileyo. Ukudibana okuthobekileyo nokungonwabi kubonakala kumgca phakathi kwamadoda, kodwa hayi kubafazi. Inqaku lethu ayikokucebisa ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kwenza abantu bangonwabi. Inokwenzeka, kodwa imeko yecandelo ledatha ayisivumeli ukuba sikuvavanye oku. Nangona kunjalo, ichanekile ngokwasemthethweni into yokuba amadoda athi onwabile awanako kangako ukuxela ukuphulula amaphambili kunamadoda angonwabanga. ”

“Ukuphulula amaphambili kukwanxulunyaniswa nokuxela iimvakalelo zokungafaneleki okanye uloyiko kubudlelwane kunye nobunzima bokuhamba ngempumelelo kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Usuku lwangaphambili kunye neveki ephelileyo i-masturbator ibonisa amanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo kubudlelwane kunabaphenduli abangakhange baxele ukuphulula amalungu esini kumhla odlulileyo okanye kwiveki ephelileyo. Iintsuku ezidlulileyo kunye neveki ephelileyo zibonakalisa amanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo kubudlelwane kunabaphenduli abangakhange baxele ukuphulula amaphambili kusuku oludlulileyo okanye kwiveki ephelileyo. ”