Uphuhliso lwe-HOCD? (2012)

I-HOCD enxulumene noonomonde ingabiza iprotocol yayo yonyango

Iinkxalabo eziphazamisayo zokuba umntu uye waba yi-gay-nangona yena (yena) ethe tye iminyaka ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo-ufumene ilebula HOCD, ingxaki yobundlobongela. Ngokufanelekileyo ngakumbi amaxhala anjalo angabizwa i-sexual orientation obsessive-compulsive disorder kuba nabo babetha abantu abathandana nabo abavele bazibuze ukuba bathe tye na.

Iingcali zonyango eziphatha i-HOCD, ezifana USteve Seay PhD, bahlala becebisa unyango oluqhelekileyo lwe-OCD: Ukuvezwa kunye nokuThintelwa kweeMpendulo. “Ukuzichanaba” kubhekisela ekungeneni ngokuzithandela kwiimeko ezinokubangela ukunyanzelwa, yaye “ukuthintelwa kokusabela” kubhekisela ekuthinteleni ngenjongo izithethe zikabani zokuhlangabezana nazo. Umzekelo: ukuxhathisa umnqweno wokuhlamba izandla ngokunyanzelekileyo kwiimeko ezithile.

Nangona kunjalo isizathu senzululwazi sokuba unyango lokuvezwa luhlala lunceda ngalo ezinye Iifom ze-OCD sesona sizathu sokuba inokubuyisela umva kwimeko ye-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn.

Ezinye iingcali zicinga nge-OCD njenge ukwabelana ngezinto ezibalulekileyo zokukhotyokiswa kokuziphatha ngenxa ye indima leyo umvuzo kudlala. Umntu ophethwe yi-OCD uhlala esenza amasiko akhe athile kuba abangela iikhemikhali ze-neurochemical ezinxulumene nomvuzo. Uncedo luvakala kamnandi.

Xa umntu onesifo se-OCD ehlala ekhanyela lo mvuzo we-neurochemical ("uthintelo lokuphendula"), izinto ezibangela ukuba ziphulukane namandla azo. Ngoba? Azisekhokeli kwiimvakalelo ezinomvuzo. Akukho zandla zihlanjwayo. Akukho siqabu. Akukho mvuzo. Ekugqibeleni ingqondo ithi, “Meh...

Umgaqo ofanayo usebenza ekubuyiseleni umlutha. Yeka indlela yokuziphatha "enomvuzo" ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo, kwaye (emva kwexesha lokungakhululeki okukhulu) ingqondo ekugqibeleni iyayeka ukusebenzisa iisekethe zobuchopho ezinxulumene nempindezelo efanayo. Oku kuba lula njengoko lonke iqela lengqondo enxulumene nokulutha litshintsha umva.

Iintlobo ezimbini ze-HOCD

Ngokufutshane, umahluko phakathi kwe-HOCD kunye ne-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn yile:

  • Ukholo lwe-OCD + ngokwesini (okanye isiganeko) = HOCD
  • Iminyaka yokusetyenziswa koononophelo + uxinzelelo malunga nokunyuka kwezesini / ubushushu bobulili obushushu bobulili = i-HOCD enxulumene nezocwangco

Iziganeko ezingalindelekanga ebomini, njengengcamango engabonakaliyo ngabaontanga kwixesha elikhuselekileyo, kunokubangela ukuba abanye abantu baqale ukubuza imibuzo yabo yesondo ngokunyanzela (HOCD).

Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje umfutho ovelayo we-HOCD kukuvuselela okungapheliyo, okushiya ingqondo ingaphenduli kulonwabo lwemihla ngemihla kwaye ngaloo ndlela inqwenela ukuziva. Iphonografi enesantya esiphezulu yenza ukuba ukusetyenziswa okugqithisileyo okungapheliyo kube lula. Xa kuthelekiswa ne-erotica yexesha elidlulileyo ku khuthaza ukuba, kwabanye abasebenzisi, ivelisa inguqu enxulumene neziyobisi. Yiyo lonto. Ngaphandle kokuzibamba ngesondo ngokungapheliyo, i-intanethi yanamhlanje isebenzisa inkqubo yomvuzo wengqondo kuyo yonke into ekhulayo, yokwandisa imemori (i-wiring):

Ngaphezu koko, kunokwenzeka ukuba abo bahlakulela i-HOCD banokuba neengqondo ezibaluleke kakhulu kwiiplastiki ngesizathu esithile. Ngokwe- Ukufundiswa kweShayina, abo abanokuthambekela kwe-OCD ngaphambi kokuba bavelele kwi-intanethi babeneengozini yokuxhatshazwa.

Ngayiphi na imeko, ingqondo yomlutha we-porn inokukhula kunqwenela ukuzonwabisa okuqhelekileyo njengoko liba njalo unempembelelo echanekileyo yokukhetha iingongoma. Nantsi indoda ichaza ukuqhubela phambili okuqhelekileyo, okuhlala kuchazwa ngabo batyibilika kwi-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn:

I-29 y / o kunye ne-17 iminyaka ye-MO (ukuya kwi-softcore kunye neengcamango) kunye ne-12 iminyaka yokuhlaziya i-masturbating, ekhulayo ukuya kwi-pornography egqithisileyo. Ndaqala ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwisini sokwenene. Ukwakhiwa kunye nokukhululwa kwi-porno komelela kunokuba kwakunjalo ngesondo. Iphonografi ibonelela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ndingakhetha into endifuna ukuyibona ngalo mzuzu. Ukulibazisa kwam ukulibazisa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kwaba kubi kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha ndandingakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm kwaphela. Oku kubulale umnqweno wam wokugqibela wokulala ngesondo.

Iimeko zesondo zesondo

Emva kokuba le nqanaba le-désensitization libekwe, isigaba sisetyenziselwa i-HOCD ehlobene nezocwangco. Ukungafanelani noonobumba obuphambene noonobumba bunqanda ukulindela, kukhupha i-dopamine kunye ne-norepinephrin kunezinye iintlobo zeentlobo zoononophelo zangaphambili, kwaye inike ukukhaba okukhawuleza okutshabalalisa i-circuit circuit (i-addicted). Umsebenzisi angaqala ukubuza ukuba kutheni angakwazi ukukhupha i-pornography kunye nesenzo somntu ongatshatanga ngesondo / ukungatshatanga kodwa angakhange athathwe ngamaqabane angokwenene awamvusa ngexesha elidlulileyo.

Ingqondo yakhe, ke, iqalisa ngokuzenzekelayo ukuchukumisa impendulo yalo yesondo kule ncwadana, ukukhuthaza uhlobo-kwimeko yeklasi yesimo sezesondo. Njengoko kuchaziwe kwi post yangaphambili, isini sinokuthi sinikwe nantoni na, nokuba livumba lokufa, ayothusi into yokuba uninzi lwabasebenzisi be-porn banamhlanje baxela ukuba I-porno iyakuthandayo kuyo yonke loo ndawo njengoko iimpendulo zabo ziyancipha.

Ngoku, umsebenzisi wethu unokufumana ukuba unakho kuphela uvuthondaba kudidi lwakhe lwamva nje (kwaye ke ngoko lukhuthaza kakhulu). Ukuba yenye ayijonga njengengangqinelaniyo nesiseko sakhe sokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo, ixabiso lokothuka likhulu…kwaye likhupha iikhemikhali ezivuselela imithambo-luvo ngakumbi/ezenza ixhala. Ukuvuswa kwakhe kuphakanyiswa, ngokuyinxenye, luxinzelelo lwakhe. Abafana abathathu bachaza amava abo:

Umfana wokuqala: Ndandicinga ukuba nditshintsha i-gay. I-HOCD yam yayinamandla kakhulu ngelo xesha, ndandicinga ngokuntywila kwindawo ephakamileyo ekufutshane. Ndaziva ndidandatheke kakhulu. Ndandizazi ukuba ndiyawathanda amantombazana kwaye andikwazi ukuthanda elinye idude, kodwa kutheni ndine-ED? Kwakutheni ukuze ndifune izinto ze-transsexual/gay ukuze zindivuse?Umtsalane ngokwesondo

Umntu wesibini: Into eyoyikisayo kukuba bendibona abantu basetyhini njengabanomdla ophambeneyo, kunye namadoda okanye umbono wamadoda angathandekiyo. Njengendoda enobungqingili obukhethekileyo kuphela enolwalamano namanye amadoda ukusukela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, olu luhlobo olungaqhelekanga. Naxa ndibona amanenekazi “amabi” ehamba esitalatweni, andikwazi ukuzibamba ndicinga ukuba kunganjani ukuba neentlobano zesini ngobuhlanya nabo kanye apho. Ngaba iza kuyeka? Ngaba inokubuyiselwa umva?

Umntu wesithathu: Kwiintsuku ezimbini zokuqala ndandinexhala elinzima, phantse ndifuna ukuzibulala ngenxa yokuba ndilahlekelwe kuko konke okukhangayo kuwo nawuphi na umfazi. Ezi ngcinga zindenza ndicinge ukuba ndithandana nabanye abantu, indenza ndibuze into endiyenzayo, into endiyithethayo, indenza ndigule. Andikwazi kutya. Ndicinga iingcinga eziphazamisayo… ezindenza ndizive ngathi ndingumlingani, xa ndisazi ukuba andinguye.

Ukufuna kwabasebenzisi ukuqonda ukuba ngaba ukuziqhelanisa nesondo kuye kwatshintsha ngesiquphe kunokukhokelela “kuvavanyo” oluqhubekayo, olunyanzelekileyo kunye nezinye izithethe zokuqinisekisa. Njengezinye iintlobo ze-OCD (kubandakanywa ne-HOCD enganxulumananga ne-porn), uvavanyo kunye nokukhangela ukuqinisekiswa kunika isiqabu sexeshana. “Uvavanyo” ngalunye lomeleza ukuvuseleleka okungafunwayo—mhlawumbi ngokukhululeka okuvuzayo, okanye ukomeleza unxunguphalo ukuba uvavanyo aluphumeleli. Ngale ndlela, bomeleza izinto ezibangela ingxaki.

Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngugqirha?

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba izilingo zokuziphatha kunye nokunyanzeliswa kuqhubeka ibuyiselo. Siyazi ngokusela kweziyobisi ukuba izilingo ziphuluke ngokulula njengoko loo mivuzo ayisekho ngenxa yokuziyeka. Kancinci, ingqondo iyanciphisa iindlela ezihambelanayo.

Ingcali ingakwazi ukukunceda ukuvavanya ngokuchanekileyo imbuyekezo emva kwe-HOCD yomthengi othile. Ukuba umvuzo wakhe okhuthazayo ikakhulu sisiqabu "kuvavanyo" okanye ukubhengeza ukuphindaphinda imeko yakhe itshintshile (ukufumana isiqabu sexeshana), emva koko ukubhengeza kunye nokuthintela ukuphendula (akusekho kuvavanyo okanye ukubhengezwa kukhuthazwe lixhala) kunokwenza iqhinga.

Kwimeko ye-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn, nangona kunjalo, umvuzo wokulutha ungabandakanya isabelo sengonyama somceli mngeni wabathengi. Kukho imivuzo emibini yokulutha kumxube: uloyiko kunye nokuvuka ngokwesondo.

Ukoyika njengomvuzo

Inkxalabo ayinakuvakala ingeniso kodwa uloyiko lusebenzela i-circuitry reward kwengqondo kwabanye abantu. Cinga ii-roller coasters kunye neefilimu ezoyikisayo. Kwingqondo enqwenela ukuva (ngenxa yotshintsho lwengqondo oluziswa kukugqithisa okungapheliyo / umlutha), ukuvuselela okubangelwa ukwesaba kunokubhalisa njengokunyanzeliswa ngokukodwa. Idibanisa i-dopamine kunye ne-norepinephrine (uhlobo lwe-adrenaline).

Kodwa kukho okungakumbi okuqhubekayo kwinqanaba lebhayiloji. Uxinzelelo lwe-cortisol ye-neurochemical nayo inokuphakamisa iziphumo ezinomvuzo ngokuthi kubangela ukukhululwa kwe-dopamine. Ekugqibeleni, utshintsho lweengqondo lunokwenza umntu aphendule ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezixinzelelekileyo. Uphando luqinisekisa ukuba uxinzelelo olubi kunye neziyobisi zokusetyenziswa kakubi zombini ukwandisa amandla okuxhatshazwayo (umlutha) endleleni yengqondo. Abaphandi bacinga ukuba i-cortisol idlala indima ephambili izifo zokuziphatha ezihlobene nomvuzo.

Imeko ifana ne-BDSM, apho intlungu yomzimba iphakamisa i-buzz yesondo somntu ngenxa yeempembelelo kwingqondo. Kwabaguli be-HOCD, ukuvuswa kunye nokoyika bafikelela kwisiphelo esifanayo. Umgca ophantsi: Ngaphandle kokukhathazeka okukhulu ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokomzimba, ukuvuswa okuphezulu kunokwenza ukuziphatha kube nzima kakhulu ukuyeka (umlutha).

Ingqondo yesifo se-HOCD ifunde ukufumana inxenye yomvuzo wayo kuxinzelelo lwayo. Okubi nangakumbi, xa umntu ogulayo ezama ukuyeka iphonografi, uxinzelelo lwakhe luya kukhula ngokwendalo ixesha elide. Ukurhoxa kuphakamisa uxinzelelo kwi zonke ukubuyisela abantu abakhotyokisiweyo, ukukhuthaza iminqweno enamandla yokuvuselela ngakumbi ngaphandle kweenkxalabo ze-HOCD.

Kubantu abanesifo se-HOCD oku kwanda kuqengqeleka koxinzelelo kuthanda ukucima i-spikes (panics malunga nokuziqhelanisa) kunye nokukrokra "ukujonga," kuhlala kubabuyisela kumlutha. Ewe kunjalo, abanye baxela ukuba uloyiko lwabo lwe-HOCD lwalungenamsebenzi bade bayeke iphonografi. Njengoko ingqondo ekhobokileyo ijolise kwezona “zilungiso” zinamandla anokucinga ngazo: ukothuka+ukukhangela+ukuvusa inkanuko yesini kwisivuseleli esinxulumene ne-HOCD, iimvakalelo ezithe tye zibonakala ngathi ziyaguquka.

Ukuvusa ngokwesondo njengomvuzo

Umlutha we-intanethi ye-intanethi ngumlutha we-orgasm-aid. Ukuvuselela inkanuko yesini ngowona mvuzo wendalo unamandla onokuthi uveliswe yingqondo. Nangona kunjalo ukuvuswa kwinto engaqhelekanga yoononophala (indawo nganye inikezela enye into ekhuthazayo ye-neurochemicals) inokuvelisa umvuzo omangalisayo. Ubundlobongela, okanye i-orgasm, inokuthi ibonakale ngamandla njengoko umlutha wezobisi uqhubeka kunye nokuphendula kwimihla ngemihla. Abanye abasebenzisi baphela babambeke kwi-buzz ye-neurochemical ukusuka ekuhleleni ukuya kwi-noveli ye-porn kangangeeyure, ukunikezela ngenjongo, okanye ukunqanda, uvuthondaba.

Ingqondo yavela yathatha ukuba umthombo wokuvuselela inkanuko yesini lithuba lokuchumisa elinokubakho. Ukuba umntu uvuka ngento ekhupha eyona dopamine kunye ne-norepinephrine, ingqondo iya kuyifaka ngokuzenzekelayo "njengexabisekileyo." Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ayihambelani nesini sakhe esingokwemvelo-kuba ingqondo ilinganisa ubuchule ngokwemigangatho yomvuzo wesiphaluka sokusebenza, hayi ukuqhelaniswa. (Kuyenzeka nje ukuba kwingqondo iphendule ngesiqhelo kulonwabo, inkuthazo efanelekileyo kuqhelaniso lomntu ngokubanzi ivelise lunelisayo iimvakalelo.)

Ayimangalisi into yokuba, iindlela zobuchopho ezivuselelweyo zeendlela ezibukhali zesondo zahlukile kwiimpawu ezingavuseleli kakhulu (kunye nezesondo). Sinokuyikhulula intambo yamva ngokulula, kodwa hayi eyokuqala. Oku kubonakaliswe kuphando, njengoko kubaliswa ngu UJames G. Pfaus okqhubekayo:

ULalumière noQuinsey (I-1998) yabika ukuvuswa komzimba ngokusemthethweni kwindoda engqingiliyo emfanekisweni wesifazane okhangayo, ongekho nto idibene nevidiyo ebonisa ukusebenzisana ngokuphangaleleyo kwezesondo. Iqela elilawulayo elifumana ukufikelela kwisithombe yedwa (ngaphandle kwevidiyo) ibonise ukuhlala [esikhundleni]. (ugxininiso olongeziweyo)

Njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, kubantu abanesifo se-HOCD abanesifo se-porn banomdla kakhulu kuba baphakanyisiwe yimiphumo ye-neurochemical of fear.

Unyango lwe-exposure backfire xa umlutha we-porn ukhona

Kwi-intanethi yeziyobisi ezingamanyala kusetyenziswa unyango oluqhelekileyo lwe-HOCD, ukubonakaliswa kwamadoda angama-gay okwenyani akujongani nomthombo weemeko zakhe ze-HOCD-ezingezizo ebantwini okanye ezokwabelana ngesondo nabantu, kodwa ziipixels. Ukanti ukuba uzama ukubhengeza unyango kunye ne-porn ye-gay, uzibandakanya ngendlela echanekileyo yokuziphatha kwakhe. Umntu ngekhe abangele ukuba likhoboka lokuhlala ngokubonelela ngezona zinto azithandayo!

Kungenxa yoko le nto unyango oluvezwayo lunokuba lungalunganga kubafana abazama ukutyhila i-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn. Kufana nokuba nesiselo esinxilisayo ngakumbi kwithiyori yokuba uya kuba nesithukuthezi ngokusela, okanye indawo yokungcakaza ubhejo ngakumbi ade abe uhlala. Kumntu okhotyokisiweyo, ukusetyenziswa okuqhubekayo kwenza nzulu kuphela ubukhoboka bengqondo. Unyango lokuvezwa lunokuthi ke luzise umyalezo oxubeneyo ongavelisi mveliso kumntu ophethwe ngamanyala we-HOCD endaweni yokukhuthaza imeko eluncedo (indawo yokuhlala).

Ngoko uqala phi? Ukuxhatshazwa koonobumba kufuneka kukhuphe ukusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana ze-intanethi ngaphezu kwazo zonke. Njengoko ubuchopho babo babuyela ekulinganiseni baninzi banokuqaphela ukuba ukudibanisa iziganeko zesini kuphelelwa ngamandla.

Ukuba amakhoboka angamanyala ane-HOCD azama ukusebenzisa iindlela eziyeleleneyo ngenjongo yonyango endaweni yokuzikhwebula kubo bomeleza iindlela zabo zokuziphatha. Le yiCatch 22. Umlutha (kwaye mhlawumbi umxhasi wakhe) unokugqiba ngokungalunganga ukuba impendulo yakhe eqhubekayo, enamandla kwiimpawu ezinengxaki ayikho i-HOCD, kodwa "ubungqina" bokuba isini sakhe sesitshintshile ngokumangalisayo.

NeuronsInqaku kukuba umlutha ubonakalisa umqobo kunyango oluqhelekileyo lwe-OCD kunye nonyango lokuthintela ukuphendula. Nokuba umlutha we-porn uyeka ukufuna umvuzo isiqabu (ukusuka kuvavanyo okanye kuhlalutyo), ukuboniswa kwi-porn "kusamvuza" ngokwenza kwakhe iindlela ezinomdla.

Intoni ntoni Nceda?

Asiyena abagqirha. Nangona kunjalo, sizifundele iingxelo ngokwazo ngabasebenzisi base-intanethi bangaphambili be-intanethi abazichaza ngokwabo njengobandezeleka / ukubuyiswa kwi-HOCD (isampula-ingxelo). Siza kushwankathela amava abo xa kunokwenzeka ukuba abonakale eluncedo.

Abafana babika ukuba ukuyeka umvuzo we-intanethi kwaye ukunikezela okwethutyana umvuzo wesenzo sezesondo (ngaphandle kokukhululeka, isini esithandanayo sex) bobabini banceda ukusombulula i-HOCD yabo. Njengoko beyeka ukuqinisa umvuzo wabo wokuqala (ukusetyenziswa koononophelo), ubuchopho babo bujonga ngokukhawuleza, kunye nocingo, eminye imivuzo yesondo. Oku kungathatha iinyanga. Ngenxa yamava aba bafana, abanyangi banokufuna ukumema abathengi ukuba banqamle kwi-intanethi kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokungenisa unyango (ukuba ukhona).

Ekuqaleni, abafana abanakho ukuphendula ngokuqhelekileyo kumaqabane, nangona uthando lukhululekile ku khuthaza (mhlawumbi kuba ikhupha i-oxytocin). Kwakhona, de kube kudlula okona kubi kakhulu kokurhoxa, bahlala befumana i-HOCD spikes ezongezelelekileyo.

Ezo ngxelo zibuyisayo ukuba ukuba ziyazamkela iingcinga ze-HOCD ezingenantandabuzo ngaphandle koxinzelelo, bayayiphepha indlela yokuqinisa uloyiko. Ukongeza, bakufumanisa kuluncedo ukufunda ukuhlala nokungaqiniseki malunga nokuziphatha kwabo ngokwesondo kunye nokuphepha lonke uvavanyo kunye nemizamo "yokufumana inyaniso." Ngale ndlela bayayeka ukomeleza ukomeleza isiqabu esikhawulezileyo kunye "nokuqiniseka."

Ngamanye amagama, umguli we-HOCD kufuneka asebenze ekumisekeni Ntathu imivuzo evuzayo: Ukusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana ze-intanethi, ukufuna ukukhulula nokukhathazeka.

Ingxelo yendoda enye

Ingxelo yale ndoda inomdla kuba yaqala ngokwenza buthathaka umvuzo wamanyala, kodwa yafumanisa ukuba ayikhange ijongane noloyiko kunye nokufumana umvuzo.

Ngoku ndingaphezu kweenyanga ze-3 ngaphandle koononophala, kodwa ndaye ndatshona ekuhlaleni rhoqo iibhodi zemiyalezo ye-HOCD. Ndichitha iiyure yonke imihla kwezi sayithi, ngamanye amaxesha ndibajonga kangangezihlandlo ezininzi ngeyure: emsebenzini, ngelixa ndiqhuba, ndilele ebusuku, njl njl njl njl njl njl njl. Ingqondo yam yayivuzwa xa ndifunda into eyandiqinisekisayo, kwaye yayiza kuvutha kwaye ikhuphe xa ndifunda into eyayibangela ukuxhalaba kwam.

Ndikwandisile ukujonga kwam kwezinye iibhodi zemiyalezo, kubandakanya iibhodi zesini kunye nesini. Oku kuqhubela phambili ukujikeleza. Khange ndilale kakhulu ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwam lonke, kwaye bendingekho ebomini bam. Ndikunye kwezi bhodi okanye ndikhathazekile malunga noko ndikufundileyo kubo. Rhoqo. Ulwalamano lwam lwalusokola. Ngamanye amaxesha, ndedwa ebusuku, ndiza kuhamba nge-2-3 iyure yokujonga i-HOCD kwiibhodi zemiyalezo ye-intanethi, emva koko ndizive ndibuhlungu emva koko.

Ndagqiba ekubeni ndiyeke. Umlingane wam ufanelwe ngumntu okhoyo, angaphazamiseki ngokupheleleyo. Ukusukela ngoko, ndineseshoni enye yemizuzu eli-15, ndikhangela iimpendulo. Kuye kwafuneka ndizabalaze ukuxhathisa isilingo, kodwa iziphumo kukuba ndiziva ndibhetele kakhulu.

Kuyamangalisa ngokwenene. I-HOCD yam iye yancipha ngoku ngoku ndingasoloko ndibonisa ingqondo yam "LEZI ZI-HOCD ZIBALULEKILE" ngokuya kwiibhodi kunye nokuzibandakanya ekuhloleni nasekuqinisekiseni. Andizange ndiyifunde incwadi ngeenyanga, kodwa ngoku ndikwesibini okokoko ndayeka iibhodi. Ixesha lam lasimahla ebusuku ngoku ndilichithe kunye nentombi yam okanye ukufunda ngomlilo. Ndilele kamnandi kakhulu.

Ewe, ndisafumana i-spike ngamaxesha athile xa ndibona umntu onomtsalane. Kwaye emva kokujonga kunye neengcinga zakhe. Kodwa ifunyenwe incinci kakhulu, kwaye loo ngcinga iphela ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.

Ngoku ndicinga ukuba i-HOCD yam isenokuba ngenxa yokuba xa ndagqithisa i-PMO emva kweminyaka kunye neminyaka yayo, ndilahlekelwa yinto endibambeleyo kubafazi bonyani. Ngaphandle kwaloo mabhinqa namadoda aqala ukujonga okufanayo kum, kwaye i-BAM ixhala malunga nokutshatyalaliswa kwe-gay.

Indlela yonyango yokungabonakali ye-Schwartz

Kukho inkqubo ekhoyo yokunyanga i-OCD engakhuthazi ukubonakaliswa. Ingcali yengqondo uJeffrey Schwartz wayiphuhlisa. (Funda inkcazo ithathwe kwiDoidge Ubungqina Obuguqula.)

Schwartz ufundisa izigulane zakhe indlela i-neuroplasticity isebenza ngayo ke bayaqonda ukuba ukunyanzelwa kwabo kuvela ngokungafunekiyo, ekusebenzeni kwengqondo okungaphaya (hayi ngokungafaniyo nokulutha). Emva koko ucacisa ukuba iintambo zobuchopho zinokutshintshwa ngomzamo wokuqonda.

Ngandlela thile, ichasene kakhulu nokunyanga. Endaweni yokuzama ukuziqhelanisa nokuvezwa, enye iinzame zokuphinda isebenze ngengqondo ngokutshintsha iigiya kwangoko kuphume ikheyisi ehambelana nayo. USchwartz ucebisa ukuba atshintshele kwinto eyakhelweyo ekhethiweyo.

Injongo ayikokunqanda ukungonwabi ngokufuna isiqabu, kodwa kukusebenzisa iindlela zobuchopho ezinganxulumananga endaweni yezo zinengxaki ukuze ingqondo iqhawule “kwimivuzo” yayo yangaphambili, kwaye mhlawumbi ide ize idibanise ixhala nomsebenzi onemveliso.

Njengengcambu, ingcali ye-HOCD uFred Penzel nayo idimaza unyango lwezonyango zokuxhatshazwa kwezesondo, Ngaphandle kwento yokuba ucebisa ngonyango kunye nokuthintela ukuphendula kumatyala akudala e-HOCD.

Ngethemba, abaphandi baya kutshintsha ukuba zeziphi iiprotokthi ezisebenza kakuhle kuzo zonke ii-HOCD abagulayo. Uninzi lwabachaphazelekayo banqwenela ukulungisa uxhalabo lwabo. Enyanisweni, kuwo onke ama-addicts abatyebileyo abavakatyelayo site yethu, abafana be-HOCD babandezeleka kakhulu kwaye baphinde baphinde baphinde baphindwe.

Okwangoku, abaninzi banqikaza ukufuna uncedo ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba intsholongwane iya kubaxelela ukuba bayingqingili (okanye iqonde) xa beyazi ukuba abayikho.

Abagulayo abanesifo se-HOCD ngokubanzi abanalo nofifi lokuba baphinde basebenzise njani kuba unyango olusemgangathweni alusebenzi, kwaye ezona zisombululo zithembisayo zivakala zinokuchasana (kufuneka bahambe kude ekukhululekeni, kuhlalutyo, nasekuvuseleleni ngokwesondo ixesha). Uninzi aluyi kuyifumana ngaphandle koncedo olunolwazi. Ukuqhubela phambili, banokufuna ukufumana ugqirha owazi kakuhle kuzo zombini iziyobisi kunye nendima yokuziyeka ekukhetheni ingqondo ukusuka "kwimivuzo" engafunekiyo.

Inkxaso yobungqina beli nqaku:

IZIMVO NGENQAKU

Sula umlutha kuqala, emva koko ufune unyango lokuba sesichengeni ukuba luyafuneka

Ndize kule ndawo kunye neYBOP malunga nonyaka odlulileyo ndikhangela iimpendulo. I-PMO yayiyinkqubo yemihla ngemihla iminyaka emininzi, iminyaka eyi-13 ndingathi. Mna, njengawe kule forum, ndiye ndaphelelwa ngamandla kwiintlobo eziqhelekileyo zephonografi. Ukukhangela inoveli okanye imathiriyeli eyothusayo yaba yinto eqhelekileyo ngokwenene ngaphandle kokuba ndiyazi kwinqanaba lokuqonda. Andizange ndibe nobomi obukhulu bezesondo kunye nabasetyhini ebomini bokwenene, ndihlupheke kwi-ED emnene, ndaya kwii-Urologists iimpendulo, ndafumana iipilisi ezincinci ezihlaza okwesibhakabhaka, njl njl. Ukuzithemba kwigumbi lokulala kwakuyingxaki. Ndihlala ndizama ukudibanisa umfanekiso entlokweni yam ye-porn scene ukuba ndiphume ngelixa ndisenza isondo sangempela. Emva koko kwafika ingxaki ye-HOCD.

Umahluko kwibali lam kukuba andizange ndingene kwihlabathi le-gay / transexual ye-porn kodwa ndiya kuthetha ukuba ukuthanda kwam ngokwesondo kwakutshintshile, ndandifuna umntu ongaziwayo kunye neengcinga ezothusayo zokuba ne-orgasm. I-HOCD yaqalisa ngelixa ndiseholideyini. Ngelixa ndiphulula amaphambili, iingcinga zesiqhelo zazingasebenzi kwaye kwavela ingcinga engaqhelekanga, eyi-gay entlokweni yam kwaye yaphela ndine-orgasm ebuthathaka. Andiqinisekanga nokuba umothuko wayo yonke le nto ibingunobangela kodwa ndiyakuxelela ukuba ibindoyikisa. Akuzange kubekho nantoni na endiyicinga ngayo nayiphi na into yokwaneliseka ngokwesondo, kwaye ndandineminyaka engama-33 ngelo xesha.

Ndichithe lonke ixesha leholide ndihlalutya zonke iindlela endisabela ngazo ebantwini, amadoda nabafazi. I obsessed what my groinal sensations feel like ndajonga ndajonga, ndajonga. Ndandicinga ukuba ndiguqukele kwi-gay kunye nenyaniso yokuba amava am kunye nabasetyhini ayexubene ngokufanelekileyo yabangela i-HOCD ngakumbi. Le nto yathatha iinyanga ezimbini ezilungileyo ndade ndafuna uncedo lobuchwephesha.

Ukubuyisela umva kancinci, ndifumene i-YBOP kwiinyanga emva kokuphanda kwam kuGoogle okunxulumene ne-HOCD, kunye neendawo ezijongana "nokwazi njani ukuba uthe tye okanye uyindoda." Izinto ezikwi-YBOP zazivakala kum kwaye zazinxibelelene kakhulu. Uninzi lwabantu abakwiiforam bathi i-HOCD yabo iye yanyangwa ngaphandle kwe-PMO. Ndizamile kunjalo. BTW- Ndandikunye kwaye ndisebudlelwaneni ngoko ngeli xesha, ndiza kuba neentlobano zesini kodwa akukho PMO. Into endiyifundileyo kukuba i-ED yam iye yahamba. Iintlobano zesini zazingaseyonto engqondweni yam kodwa yayisisisenzo sokwabelana nomntu ophambi kwam. I-HOCD ayizange ihambe kum nangona kunjalo. Umbuzo wawumbi njengakuqala.

Kulapho endifuna ukuthetha khona ngonyango lwam kuba inento yokwenza ne-HOCD yemveli vs i-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn. Ndiza kukushiya wenze izigwebo zakho ngokusekelwe kwiiakhawunti zam. Ndifumene umnyangi, oyingcali kwi-OCD, njengenyani amanqaku akhe ambalwa akhankanywe kwi-YBOP. Wangena kwimpendulo yothintelo kunye nonyango lokuvezwa kunye nam. Kwabo bangaziyo, olu nyango lubandakanya ukubeka isigulana kwizinto esizoyikayo ngokuthe ngcembe, ukuqala ngezinto ezikwenza woyike kancinane ukugqiba ngezinto ezikoyikisa ngokwenene. Ingcinga yokuba, ukuba ufuna ukucinga ngento encinci, cinga ngayo ngakumbi. Ukuxhathisa iingcinga ezingalunganga kubangela ukuba zibuyele emva kuwe zingqondweni. Ngokuvumelana neengcinga, kwaye uzibeke esichengeni kuzo, uye ungabikho uvakalelo kuzo. Ilingana nokubona imuvi eyoyikisayo okokuqala. Ekuqaleni uyothuka, kodwa ukuba uyibona izihlandlo ezili-10 ngakumbi, ayisayi kuphinda yoyike. Saqala ngokwenza uludwe lwezinto eziya kundikhathaza saza sazibeka kwisikali ukusuka kwisinye ukuya kwishumi, ishumi lelona loyikeka. Saqala ngokufunda amabali aphumayo, ukufunda izinto ezinokuthi zithathwe njengesitabane, ukumamela ukurekhodwa okucebisa ukuba ndingaba gay. Njengoko unyango lwaluqhubeka, kwafuneka ndivumelane nengcamango yokuba ndinokuba yi-gay. Yayisisiphakamiso esoyikeka kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, izinto eziphathekayo ziye zanda zaya kutsho kwinani lam le-10, kodwa ndathi ndakufika kwelo nqanaba, ndandizilungiselele ngcono. BTW- inombolo yam ye-10 yayibukele i-porn ye-gay, ngenxa yokoyika ukuba ndingaziva into. Andizange ndivunyelwe nangona kunjalo ukuba "ndijonge" ukusabela kwam. Kwafuneka ndivele "ndibe" kunye nezinto ezothusayo, ndizivumele ukuba ndibe nexhala de ndiqonde ukuba akukho nto ihamba ngayo. Okukhona ndisenza umsebenzi wam wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya, kokukhona umbandela wawusiya usiba namandla kum. Ekugqibeleni, ndinokuthi "ewe, ndinokuba yi-gay, kodwa ngubani okhathalayo." Uyabona ekugqibeleni, ngumbuzo kunye nesidingo sokufumana impendulo eqinisekileyo eyandicaphukisayo. Ngaba ngokwenene ndiyi gay? Andicingi njalo kodwa andiphindi ndizixakekise ngayo. Andisajongi kakhulu. Ndisafumana iingcinga eziphazamisayo ngamaxesha athile, kodwa ndiyavumelana nazo kwaye ikhawuleza itshintshe ingqwalasela yam. Ayisandichaphazeli ngendlela eyenze ngayo, nangona imibuzo inokuthi ivele entlokweni yam. Imibuzo iyancipha kakhulu njengoko ixesha lihamba.

Kuzo zonke, ndiyavuma ukuba ukuyeka i-porn yinto ebalulekileyo ngaphambi kokuba uqale naluphi na unyango olulolu hlobo. I-porn indifake kobu bugxwayiba kodwa unyango lwandikhupha kulo. Andazi ukuba olu unyango luya kusebenza ukuba ungumsebenzisi oye wahamba kwihlabathi le-porn ye-gay okanye i-porn transexual. Ndingatsho ukuba uyeke kuqala kwaye ubone ukuba ume phi ne-HOCD emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa. Into endiyifundileyo kumgqirha wam kukuba kukho abantu abaninzi abathandana nabo ababukela i-porn ngqo kwaye bacinge ukuba banokuthi tye, ngoko le ngxaki inokuhamba ngeendlela zombini. Ndizakuthi uhambo lwam lolomntu ngamnye kodwa olu nyango belutshintsha ubomi kum. Ukuba ufumana uncedo, yiya kwingcali ye-OCD ejongene nale nto, kungekhona umcebisi jikelele. Yiza, ukuba bayayazi into abayenzayo, abayi kukuxelela ukuba ugwebe indlela oziqhelanisa ngayo, kodwa banokukunceda uyeke ukuzixakekisa ngemibuzo. Ndiyathemba ukuba abanye banokunxulumana nebali lam kwaye bakuncede ubuyele kwindlela yobomi. Enkosi.

https://www.reuniting.info/content/one-year-later-porn-and-hocd

Ndine-OCD, kwaye bendiyifunda le ncwadi Ukutshixa kwengqondo, ndaye ndafumanisa

Emazantsi engqondo kukho isakhiwo esibizwa ngokuba yicaudate nucleus. Izazinzulu kwihlabathi jikelele zifunde esi sakhiwo kwaye zikholelwa ukuba, kubantu abane-OCD, i-caudate nucleus inokuthi ingasebenzi kakuhle. Cinga nge-nucleus ye-caudate njengeziko lokucubungula okanye isikhululo sokuhluza imiyalezo enzima kakhulu eveliswa yinxalenye engaphambili yengqondo, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba yinxalenye esetyenziswayo ekucingeni, ekucwangciseni nasekuqondeni. Kunye nesakhiwo sikadade wayo, iputamen, esecaleni kwayo, i-nucleus ye-caudate isebenza njengokuhanjiswa okuzenzekelayo emotweni. I-caudate nucleus kunye ne-putamen, ezibizwa ngokuba yi-striatum, zithatha imiyalezo evela kwiindawo ezinzima kakhulu zengqondo-ezo zilawula ukuhamba komzimba, iimvakalelo zomzimba, kunye nokucinga kunye nokucwangcisa okubandakanya ezo ntshukumo kunye neemvakalelo. Zisebenza ngokudibeneyo njengokuhanjiswa okuzenzekelayo, ziqinisekisa inguqu egudileyo ukusuka kwesinye isimilo ukuya kwenye.

Kwincwadi : http://www.worldcat.org/isbn/9780060987114

Ndaye ndacinga ukuba i-nucleus ye-caudate ichatshazelwa njani yi-porn kwaye ndayifumana

Umthamo wengqondo yesakhiwo

Bafumanisa ukuba inani eliphezulu leeyure ukubukela i-porn ehambelana nokunciphisa into engwevu kwindawo yengqondo ebizwa ngokuba yi-right caudate nucleus.. Olu manyano lwahlala emva kokuphelisa unxibelelwano lwesibini kunye nokulutha kwi-intanethi kunye nokulutha ngokwesondo. Umbutho ufunyenwe phakathi kokusetyenziswa kwe-porn ephezulu kwiminyaka emininzi kunye ne-grey encinci kule ndawo yengqondo. Abaphandi bachaza oku njengophawu lwemiphumo yokubonakaliswa kwexesha elide le-porn.

Umthombo: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/behindtheheadlines/news/2014-05-30-watching-porn-associated-with-male-brain-shrinkage/

Ke ukukhwebula kwi-porn, kunokunceda abantu abane-OCD.

I-PS : Emva kokufumanisa ikhonkco phakathi kwezi zibini, ndivakalelwa njengososayensi. 😛

http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2jritu/link_between_ocd_and_porn_…

Bendifuna ukongeza i-nuance kule ngxoxo. Unyango lokuvezwa lubonakalise ukuba lusebenza kakhulu kubantu abane-HOCD. Aba ngabantu abahlangabezana nenqobo yokuba ne-obsessions, eziziingcinga eziphazamisayo ezinxulumene noxinzelelo oluphawulweyo oluthi umntu azame ukulinciphisa. Oku akubandakanyi umntu oyisitabane ngenene kwaye ongakhululekanga nje ngesondo sakhe. Umzekelo womntu one-OCD yindoda enoloyiko lokuba ukucinga ngamanye amadoda ahamba ze kuya kumenza abe gay. Oku kufana nezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo ze-OCD, ezifana nokucinga ngokulimaza umntu kuya kukhokelela ekubeni umntu aphulukane nolawulo kwaye abulale umntu. Kwi-HOCD, ukujonga imifanekiso yabantu besini esinye esinqunu kunokuba yinxalenye yonyango kuphela, kwaye olona ngenelelo luphambili luhlala luphuhlisa intuthuzelo ngemifanekiso yengqondo de kubekho indawo yokuhlala.